So hey, there are some times when I'm worried that I'm a horrible boyfriend because I'm so attracted to certain people that aren't my 'partner' (this list of people includes you by the way) So am I really being a crap boyfriend if I'm 99% sure nothing will go down? For example, I've always had a crush on Johnny Depp, but I'll probably never even meet him. I'm just sorta worried my partner will get jealous and I don't want to hurt them.
(( OOC: Attraction doesn’t go away once you decide to become monogamous/committed. We’re humans with hormones and finding other humans physically appealing is part of life.
“Looking” will happen… because we have eyes… but being a good, committed partner entails not acting on those fleeting attractions…
If you have chosen to commit yourself to being with someone, and only being with them, then you need to openly discuss what you want from the other person and understand what they want/expect from you.
Be considerate… everyone has different levels of comfort. Some people won’t want to hear that you find someone else attractive because it causes feelings of insecurity or discomfort, some won’t care… it all depends on the person.
Also, keep this in mind… you’ve chosen your partner because you care about them on a number of different levels, not simply base, instinctual “attraction”… and if you are happy/healthy in your relationship, then you will consider their comfort and happiness as a top priority. ))