i don't even find him that attractive

anonymous asked:

So hey, there are some times when I'm worried that I'm a horrible boyfriend because I'm so attracted to certain people that aren't my 'partner' (this list of people includes you by the way) So am I really being a crap boyfriend if I'm 99% sure nothing will go down? For example, I've always had a crush on Johnny Depp, but I'll probably never even meet him. I'm just sorta worried my partner will get jealous and I don't want to hurt them.

(( OOC: Attraction doesn’t go away once you decide to become monogamous/committed. We’re humans with hormones and finding other humans physically appealing is part of life. 

“Looking” will happen… because we have eyes… but being a good, committed partner entails not acting on those fleeting attractions… 

If you have chosen to commit yourself to being with someone, and only being with them, then you need to openly discuss what you want from the other person and understand what they want/expect from you

Be considerate… everyone has different levels of comfort. Some people won’t want to hear that you find someone else attractive because it causes feelings of insecurity or discomfort, some won’t care… it all depends on the person. 

Also, keep this in mind… you’ve chosen your partner because you care about them on a number of different levels, not simply base, instinctual “attraction”… and if you are happy/healthy in your relationship, then you will consider their comfort and happiness as a top priority. ))  

anonymous asked:

Am I the only one around here who doesn't find Sam attractive? Don't care about brawny guys in general but even without those sculpted muscles, he just does nothing for me. Okay, kill me now...lol

Maybe around here (😉😉😉) Muscly is not my cup of tea either but there are definite scenes and photos where I find Sam Vera fine, beyond attractive. The Paris battle of wills scene with Stanley Webber for instance. He also seems to have a great personality beyond the physical.

He has nothing to worry about tho clearly, he’s definitely causing many women to drool, he will survive without us lusting incessantly after him.

3

I actually feel guilty for finding Sangwoo the slightest bit good-looking even if it’s just in a physical sense. I mean who can ignore the fact that he’s a cold-blooded manipulative killer?NOT ME.
I hate him so much and I shouldn’t find him attractive but damn that bod is to die for. (pun unintended)

Undertale - Starter Sentences
  • SPOILER WARNINGS AHEAD! Please proceed with caution. As always, feel free to change any pronouns/words to your liking.
  • "You're new here, aren'tcha?"
  • "Golly, you must be so confused."
  • "Hey buddy, you missed some."
  • "Is this a joke? Are you braindead?"
  • "You just wanted to see me suffer."
  • "Ah, do not be afraid, my child."
  • "Welcome to your new home."
  • "Here, take my hand for a moment."
  • "I should not have left you alone for so long."
  • "Surprise! It is a butterscotch-cinnamon pie."
  • "I want you to have a nice time living here."
  • "I have seen it time and time again. They come. They leave. They die."
  • "I am only protecting you, do you understand?"
  • "Hmph. You are just like the others."
  • "Attack or run away!"
  • "I know you want to go home, but..."
  • "I promise I will take good care of you here. I know we do not have much, but... We can have a good life here."
  • "My expectations... My loneliness... My fear... For you, I will put them aside."
  • "Do not worry about me. Someone has to take care of these flowers."
  • "Quick, behind that conveniently-shaped lamp."
  • "I will bathe in a shower of kisses every morning."
  • "Hmm... Maybe this lamp will help you."
  • "He's playing poker by himself. He appears to be losing."
  • "I can't be your friend!"
  • "I guess this means I have to go out on a date with you?"
  • "All that pressure to succeed... Really got to her..."
  • "You know what would be more valuable to everyone? If you were dead."
  • "You think I'm gonna be friends with you, huh?"
  • "We're gonna be best friends!!"
  • "Envision these vegetables as your greatest enemy! Now!! Pound them to dust with your fists!!"
  • "Uh, you know, like a robotic TV star or something."
  • "Now he's an unstoppable killing machine with a thirst for human blood?"
  • "Yes, she scrawls her name in the margins of the notes. She names programming variables after her. She even writes stories of them together, sharing a domestic life. Probability of crush -- 101%."
  • "Yeah, you gotta save your money for college and spiders."
  • "D-Dude... I can't... I can't take this anymore! Not like this!! Like, [NAME]! I like... I like, LIKE you, bro!"
  • "I found a gun in the dumpster!"
  • "He's like, my robot husband. He just doesn't know it yet."
  • "You've still got time. Don't live like me. I'm 19-years old, and I've already wasted my entire life."
  • "Never interact with attractive people."
  • "Why do people find him so attractive? He's literally just a freaking rectangle."
  • "Future? What future? I'll probably be trapped at this stupid job forever."
  • "This was all just a big show. An act. [NAME] has been playing you for the fool the whole time."
  • "All so you would think she's the great person that she's not."
  • "Nice day today, huh? Birds are singing, flowers are blooming..."
  • "We could be like... Like a family..."
  • "You really are an idiot."
  • "Killing me is the only way to end this."
  • "If you let me live... I'll come back. I'll kill you. I'll kill everyone you love."
  • "Don't you realize that being nice... just makes you get hurt?"
  • "Let's go to the garbage dump!!"
  • "She's so confident... And strong... And funny..."
  • "I'm just a nobody. A fraud. All I've ever done is hurt people. I've told her so many lies, she thinks I'm... She thinks I'm a lot cooler than I actually am."
  • "If she gets close to me, she'll... She'll find out the truth about me. ... What should I do?"
  • "Let's roleplay it."
  • "I kiss her back... S...softly... I... l-look gently into her eyes... I START HOLLERING!! [NAME]!!! I LOVE YOU!!! [NAME]!!! KISS ME AGAIN, [NAME]!!!"
  • "...WHAT did you just say?"
  • "You don't have to lie to me. I don't want you to have to lie to anyone anymore."
  • "[NAME]... I want to help you become happy with who you are."
  • "Anime is real, RIGHT?!"
  • "[NAME] and I finished our training early. Very early. So I sent her home. Very home."
  • "Is that your ex? Gee, that's rough, buddy."
  • "OH MY GOD. Will you two just smooch already?!"
  • "It's all your fault. It's all because you made them love you."
  • "Your life will end here, where no one remembers you..."
  • "No! I don't need anyone!"
  • "[NAME]... Do you know why I keep doing this? Why I keep fighting to have you around?"
  • "I'm doing this... because you're special. You're the only one that understands me."
  • "I care about you, [NAME]. I care about you more than anyone else in the world."
  • "I'm not ready for this to end. I'm not ready to say goodbye to someone like you again."
  • "I'm so alone... I'm so afraid... [NAME], I... I... I'm so sorry."
  • "I always was a crybaby, wasn't I?"
  • "I wish I could tell you how everyone feels about you."
  • "I understand if you can't forgive me. I understand if you hate me. I acted so horrible. I hurt you. I hurt so many people. There's no excuse for what I've done."
  • "Maybe... The truth is... [NAME] wasn't really the greatest person."
  • "You're the type of friend I wish I always had."
  • "Take a deep breath. There's nothing left to worry about."

you guys can ship whoever you want but when someone ventures into hell with their worst enemy to find you and they’re the first person you run to when you think everyone probably dropped dead that’s otp

anonymous asked:

do u think that nevra's a virgin?

not even a little. It’s canon that he’s a womanizer–not that I believe he sleeps with every woman who crosses his path but if there’s a mutual attraction with someone he meets and they offer he’s not going to say no. he doesn’t give off the vibe that one night stands or casual sex are taboo for him, if anything he probably prefers it until he finds someone he wants forever.

anonymous asked:

Ok so im not the only one attracted to men who like and know the wine 🍷 and cheese 🧀

Personally, I don’t find his knowledge and love for wine and cheese to be any of the reasons why I like him. But then again, I don’t like wine and know next to nothing about it. And I’m slightly more educated about cheese and I even eat a few types, but overall - I’m not very interested in that either.

It’s other aspects of him that made me really like him. But I’ve seen other people commenting on how much they like that Hugo knows wine and cheese so you’re definitely not alone, Anon. 💛 

ushiromiya-lion  asked:

so if you see someone with a beard, a flat chest, a deep voice, etc, but you learn that he's dfab, you're capable of being attracted to him? like... how does that even work with being attracted to women exclusively? i honestly don't understand this as someone who's increasingly realizing that attraction to men for me was comp het - i have no desire to date any dude, cis or trans?

Hello !

To me it is important to talk a little about terminology; dfab, afab, dmab, amab : all these terms are used to talk about intersex conditions. I find especially unpalatable the abusive use of said terms and the appropriation of them by non-intersex people.

Since you used “him” to talk about a female person, i will take it as if you’re speaking of a transman, even tho i don’t condone the fact that you are using them as a token.

I want you to keep in mind that sexuality is innate. It is not something you chose, or something you can influence. Therefore, a female human being only and solely attracted to other female human beings, aka a lesbian, will only ever be attracted to other women (i’m talking biological, here). Gender has nothing to do with it. Gender doesn’t change you sex. Being a lesbian is not an aesthetic nor a moving thing ; it has a set definition which is female homosexual. If I come back to your example, I, as a lesbian, might be attracted to a transman, because they are female human beings. Plus, a woman who has a “a beard, a flat chest, a deep voice “ (I suppose you used all the masculine attributes you could find ?) would still be a woman. Women don’t all have a big chest (? where the fuck would you get this idea ?), they don’t all have a teeny tiny voice (? Again, where ?) and some women have hyperpilosity. I find your description quite misogynistic, to be honest, because it implies that a woman who has any of the three is not really a woman.

You say you have no desire to date “any dude, cis or trans” but i suppose you are attracted to transwomen, as you describe the antithesis of your attraction with masculine attributes. Congrats, you’re bisexual ! Your attraction to “gender” or more so, to people who present “feminine” is nothing but a preference for feminine presenting people. If you are fine dating a male or a female, you are bisexuel. You do not suffer from compulsory heterosexuality, which is a concept that can only apply to lesbians, or gay men.

I suggest you work on your internalized misogyny and try to understand your hatred of gnc women. Transmen are not a strawman you can use to try to win your arguments, and gnc women deserve better than your disdain.

Mod C.

The Maze Runner Characters, and their sexualities, according to me.
  • <p> <b><p></b> <b><p></b> <b><p></b> <b>Thomas:</b> Bisexual, a bit more to the gay side (he was totally smitten with Newt (or Minho, whatever floats your boat).) but I think we can all agree that he had really huge dorky crushes on both Teresa and Brenda<p/><b>Newt:</b> Gayyy (he is very aware of it.) (He was the only guy who was properly, full out gay, I think.)<p/><b>Minho:</b> Pansexual. (But you have to be extremely attractive to catch his attention.)<p/><b>Gally:</b> Demisexual. (Unpopular opinion but, I think he had a thing for Ben and then moved on to Minho...)<p/><b>Alby:</b> Asexual. (I don't even know why, he's the type of guy that would find sexual connections repulsive, I think.)<p/><b>Ben:</b> closeted gay. (No one really was sure about his sexuality)<p/><b>Winston:</b> Straight?? Idk. I think straight (he maybe had a sorta aesthetic attraction to boys? Like he liked admiring them? Overall I think he was too busy slaughtering animals to really give this a thought)<p/><b>Frypan:</b> Straight (had a biiig crush on Teresa)<p/><b>Chuck:</b> the world may never know<p/><b>Jeff:</b> straight. (Let me tell you, it was really hard for him to examine Teresa without blushing, I mean god, she was beautiful.)<p/><b>Teresa:</b> gay, but she never had time to realize it. (She felt a connection to Thomas, yes, but what she had mistaken for love was actually just really deep care and protectiveness. She totes didn't have a crush on Brenda, shut uuuup.)<p/><b>Brenda:</b> Pansexual (she did have a humongous crush on Thomas, but damn, that girl Teresa was hot...((and maybe Minho, though she'd never admit it.))<p/><b>Jorge:</b> Asexual?? Straight, maybe. I think he lost someone he really loved to the Flare so we may never know<p/><b>Sonya + Harriet:</b> they never actually figured it out, but they were happy enough with being called gay, because they really didn't want anyone but each other<p/><b>Aris:</b> mostly straight, but he had a weird crush on Thomas??<p/></p><p/></p><p/></p><p/></p>

Like he’s lovely and I appreciate his friendship a lot but I wish he would just not tell me about how pretty he finds various women

I’m not in love with him because I’m in love with someone even more hopeless, but I do like him a lot and am hideously, hideously attracted to him and really wish he would not say things like that when I’m trying to deal with wanting him so much and feeling so pathetic about it

disoui  asked:

I know it's different for everyone, and everyone's time is different but I really want to have a big family (4 children or more) and I want to start early and I also want to do medicine! while the med part is going alright, I'm 20 and don't even have a boyfriend :/ any tips on the romance side for someone who's always studying for exams (bio major, undergrad). thanks!!

Hey medblr! 

Unfortunately, I don’t have a lot of advice for this. I met my husband during undergrad (we met online actually!). I was never good at the dating thing or finding decent men– it seemed like I only attracted jerks, hence the online idea. So I don’t have a lot of advice regarding trying to find a significant other while being so busy because for me it was total luck with finding him through a dating website. 

Note: I used to be totally embarrassed to tell people we met online… and I still am at times. But it’s becoming more and more common these days. And hey, it worked out! We’ve been together 9 years, married for 2, with 1 little kiddo at home (and many more babies to come!).

Any other medblrs out there have dating advice for when you’re swamped with studying like we all are?! Please chime in! (And try to avoid the whole “focus on your studies/career” advice, not everyone wants that.)

anonymous asked:

I figured this would make you laugh, just got this message from my boyfriend "Alright, I've been made aware of something that gives your JulIak fandom more credence. In one episode, O'Brien discovers that arguing is considered a form of courtship by Cardassians. Which puts Garak and Bashir's constant debates into perspective." This is from someone that does not involve themselves in fandom at all. Just out of the blue, messaged me this. I don't think we've even talked about DS9 in months...

anonymous asked:

I like the Stiles going off to college and becoming more confident and finding people who find him attractive and gaining experience trope, but sometimes I wish someone would write Stiles only being with Derek, and gaining confidence in himself in different ways, with less outside influence. I dunno, Stiles was pretty dedicated to Lydia. I don't think he'd begrudge Derek being his one and only. Not everyone needs to experience everything, and Stiles doesn't need other people to make him grow up.

dude i totally love that idea.

i really dig Derek and Stiles trying to resist ALL SUMMER before Stiles goes to college. because even though they both know it’s there, they want to, Stiles is going away, and everyone knows what happens with long distance relationships. so there’s all these heated gazes at carnivals, and lewd comments and innuendos and falling asleep together and looks of longing, but nothing actually happens. until the night Stiles is supposed to go to college, and it starts raining and he snickers to himself because he wonders if Derek left his washing out again AND BOOM, holy crap, like Stiles is super ass over elbows in love with Derek. he HAS TO TELL HIM. he can’t wait. he could get in a car accident on the way to college and Derek might not be allowed to visit him in hospital because NO ONE KNOWS DEREK IS STILES’ TRUE LOVE SLASH PARTNER SLASH CHOICE TO SPEND HIS DAYS WITH. and he’d have to lurk outside like the old days and Stiles can’t stand the idea of Derek ever being left outside alone again. so he has to go off running through the rain and turn up at Derek’s new place (furnished from a cheap warehouse store they all ran around for the whole day, and Stiles and Derek tried out fifty different mattresses together under the pretence of having a second opinion but mostly it was this unspoken DO WE BOTH FIT. WHICH OF US IS GOING TO BE WHICH SPOON— oh okay, we both like being the little spoon, good to know for this unspoken THING that will be happening in the future) except Stiles is hammering on Derek’s door and Derek’s leaning out of the window like the fuck, i was sleeping, and Stiles is laughing because SLEEP NERD, it’s only nine thirty. Derek threatens not to let him in, so Stiles is like “fine, i’ll stand out here, it’s okay, i just thought i’d tell you that i love you and i want to be with you now, not in some distant future that you think we should wait for. i know i’m young and you think i might meet better people at college, but guess what, i can still love you best, i will still love you best, even if i meet Drake at college! i will love you the most. you’re a pain in the ass, and you have ridiculous bed hair right now but i—” and Derek vanishes from the window and Stiles is suddenly standing in the rain looking like a dumbass, and he turns to skulk away BUT THEN DEREK OPENS THE DOOR and mad kissing and frantic undressing and slow boning with the window still open so they can hear the rain. MUCH DELCARATION OF FEELING. MANY LOVE MADE. 

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  • Sherlock: *picking Molly's lock*
  • Molly: *sweetly* You can come in, you know. I only lock it at night and when I'm at work.
  • Sherlock: *annoyed* I could have been a burglar.
  • Molly: *chuckles* With the amount of noise you make? It's your way of letting me know it's you. You even drag the hairpin down the handle first. Now shut up and come in, I'm tired of talking to a door.
  • Sherlock: *half-impressed, half-irritated* Hairpin? It's actually a scientific- *steps into Molly's flat to find her on the sofa, cradling a Dalmatian puppy* -lock picking device.
  • Molly: *scratching the puppy's ears; teasing* Make it yourself, did you? Is that why it's scientific?
  • Sherlock: *narrows his eyes* Why aren't you at work?
  • Molly: *raises her eyebrow* Miss me?
  • Sherlock: *through gritted teeth* Answer the question.
  • Molly: *sighs; stroking the puppy* Well, the weirdest thing happened. I woke up and found this little girl outside in a box wrapped in a blanket...I've spent all day trying to find her owner. Nobody in my building is claiming responsibility. Can you believe someone just abandoned her outside my flat?
  • Sherlock: *blinks* Aban- she was a present.
  • Molly: ...
  • Sherlock: I assume.
  • Molly: *mumbles* I did buy a few things. Food and bedding...toys... *shakes her head* If she is a present, why would someone buy me something this gorgeous? *tickles the excited pup*
  • Sherlock: *joins her on the sofa* You receive a nice gift from a generous, possibly attractive, stranger and you complain and try to give her away? *smirks*
  • Molly: *blushes; gently moves the puppy from her lap* I don't even know who to thank.
  • Sherlock: Mmm.
  • Molly: *wringing her hands* I'll just have to keep an eye for attractive strangers hanging around my flat, won't I?
  • Sherlock: ...
  • Sherlock: *cups Molly's neck, pulling her in for a heated kiss*
  • Molly: *grins against his mouth* Thank you.
  • Sherlock: *shrugs* What for?
  • Molly: *playfully slaps him; snogs him again*