I'm 16 and am interested in a guy and we have talked about it and have decided with our busy lives that we would wait until junior/senior year to date bc we want to grow more with God plus sports and grades. Problem: my parents do not approve bc he is black even though he's adopted to a white family. My parents aren't Christian and they don't really care about what I say about Jesus or the bible. The guy and I are both seeking God in our friendship and his family is also Christian. Thank you!!
Trigger warning: Unpopular opinion
I’m a big fan of honoring and respecting your parents, even if they don’t do things that deserve honor or respect. I think unconditional love needs to be coupled with unconditional respect.
My opinion is that you obey your parents while you’re under their authority, which is usually as long as you’re under their roof and still a youth. Even if what they’re asking you to abstain from is totally fine for you to do under other circumstances.
Will this be hard? Absolutely. Will you be made fun of? Possibly. Could you possibly lose this potential relationship if this guy isn’t on board? Yup.
But what is better testimony to your parents of your changed life through Jesus Christ than you choosing to respect your parents out of your respect for God?
Wouldn’t it be amazing if you humbly said to your parents, “I disagree with your opinion, but because the Word of God says to obey and honor my parents, I’m going to submit to your authority and not date this person right now.”
With no sass. No arrogance. No rebellion.
You know how big a seed that would plant in their hearts? That maybe this Jesus person can change lives?
A respectful and honoring teenager is one of the biggest miracles God does. And when it happens, parents are changed day by day.