i don't care if this movie is bad

dating advice: the “captain america” rule

Context: I grew up in a family of nerds, and superheroes were always a really big part of my childhood. Captain America was a favorite, and he kind of became my family’s standard for good behavior and just generally being a Nice Person. (If one of the kids started a fight they’d get hit with, “What would Captain America think of how you’re acting?”, stuff like that.)

So when I got to high school and started dating, my mom told me something that sounds funny but in retrospect actually turned out to be really good advice:

“Date someone who treats you the way Captain America would. Never settle for less.” 

And this has actually helped me so much in my dating life, through high school and into my adult years, because even if it’s a little silly, it’s been really helpful to have that standard in the back of my mind when I’m first going into a relationship. 

Would Captain America ignore my calls? Would Captain America forget my birthday? Would Captain America get mad at me for cancelling a date because a family emergency came up? If the answer is no, then I know that the person I’m currently dating does not meet my standards, and that I need to break things off before they get too serious.

And your standard absolutely does not have to be Captain America, specifically. It can be any person, male or female, real or fictional, who is known for being respectful and considerate. It can even be an imaginary “soulmate” that you make up yourself. The point is to have a specific idea of how you expect to be treated by your romantic partners, and to refuse to compromise or settle for less. (Just make sure you’re holding yourself to the same standards – you can’t expect to date superheroes if you’re going to treat your partners the way a supervillain would.) This is a really good way to keep yourself from falling into bad relationships where you aren’t treated with the respect and care you deserve.

TL;DR: You deserve to date people who are respectful and considerate of you. You deserve a Captain America. Don’t settle for less. 

Things The Signs Have Said That Break My Heart
  • Aries: Was I ever anything more than a sad kid? I thought the drugs would help, but they just make you sadder and a little deader. I really tried my best, but I don't think there's much use anymore. Nobody cared then, and nobody cares now.
  • Taurus: I'm sorry, but I fell in love with you. I watch you move and I'm captivated. The world slows down just a little bit when I look at you. I wanna kiss your long neck, and run my fingers through your curly hair. I wanna listen to you talk for hours about old movies and bad music. I wanna hear every word that you have to say. But I can't, because you're in love with someone else
  • Gemini: I dreamed so much as a little kid. All those dreams are dead know. The world has a lot of fun killing little girls dreams.
  • Cancer: Please don't go! Stay! Stay! I need you to stay! No one ever stays.
  • Leo: I used to be special. Everyone thought I was going to be this amazing person. They thought I would do great things, but look at me. I'm nothing. If I was anything, it would be a failure.
  • Virgo: She just left. She didn't say anything. In one simple second, all the love and laughter that we had, was ripped from both of us. She just decided she did't feel like loving me anymore.
  • Libra: It's all gone. Any hope that I had is gone.
  • Scorpio: Do you think that if I get prettier, he might look at me like he used to? Maybe he'll love me again.
  • Sagittarius: The whole world is at my fingertips, they say, but I can't seem to ever grab it.
  • Capricorn: I could tell she didn't love me anymore. She would smile, but in her eyes I could see the pity and slight disgust she had for me. I tried to stop loving her, but I couldn't. I felt pathetic, like I was stood up. But this time I couldn't just go home and forget about it the next day. She was, and still is, my everything.
  • Aquarius: I don't want to feel this anymore. I don't want to be trapped in my mind. I want to live again. I just want to see the light one more time.
  • Pisces: Could you just tell me you love me? You don't have to mean it. I just want, for a second, to feel loved.
a masterlist of prompts and sentence starters
  • [ SEND A SYMBOL FOR A DRABBLE ABOUT OUR MUSES ]
  • ☂: our muses get caught in the rain outside without an umbrella
  • ★: our muses stargaze together
  • ✈: your muse is going away for a time and says goodbye to my muse or vice versa
  • ❤: one of our muses says the first "i love you" to the other
  • ✿: your muse asks my muse to dance with them or vice versa
  • ☤: my muse visits your muse at the hospital
  • ☢: your muse tells my muse that they need to break up
  • ☯: our muses have their first kiss
  • ❅: our muses have a snowball fight
  • ☠: my muse visits your muse's grave
  • ▲: how our muses first met
  • ➳: how one of our muses asked the other on a first date
  • ✌: our muses' wedding
  • ⌚: my muse proposes to your muse or vice versa
  • [ SEND ONE OF THE FOLLOWING SENTENCES FOR MY MUSE'S RESPONSE ]
  • "Please don't leave me."
  • "I don't want to lose you, okay?"
  • "Because I love you!"
  • "And I thought I could trust you."
  • "I can't believe you forgot."
  • "What did you do this time?"
  • "We're going to get caught!"
  • "Kiss me."
  • "I'm sorry, I screwed up."
  • "I might be drunk."
  • "You look beautiful."
  • "That smirk is annoyingly hard to ignore."
  • "Stop staring at me!"
  • "Please go away, you can't see me like this."
  • "Come on, dance with me."
  • "I need you. I need us."
  • "You can't just lead me on like that!"
  • "I can't do this anymore."
  • "Oh, I'm nothing special."
  • "Just don't forget me, okay?"
  • "You have to let me go."
  • "We'll get through this together."
  • "You're not alone, you know."
  • "Shut up! I hate you!"
  • "I wish this could last forever."
  • "Maybe I was right in thinking that I should never have even fallen in love with you."
  • "What would the world be like without you?"
  • "Why do you like me so much?"
  • "Are you okay?"
  • "Shit, what did I do?"
  • [ SEND A TEXT FOR MY MUSE'S RESPONSE ]
  • [text]: Fuck you.
  • [text]: Where are you?
  • [text]: I'm sick.
  • [text]: I love you.
  • [text]: I wish I could be with you right now.
  • [text]: I'm at your door.
  • [text]: Is that all you care about?
  • [text]: Please stop talking about her/him.
  • [text]: Just come over, watch a movie, and cuddle with me.
  • [text]: Don't even start.
  • [text]: Is that all I am to you?
  • [text]: Help me.
  • [text]: Wait, what happened?
  • [text]: I can't go to sleep because you're on my mind.
  • [text]: I miss you.
  • [text]: Good night.
  • [text]: Stop leaving me voicemails, I'm not going to forgive you.
  • [text]: Tell me you didn't forget.
  • [text]: I've had such a bad day.
  • [text]: Don't talk to me ever again.
  • [text]: I have nothing if I don't have you.
  • [text]: After all we've been through, you can't leave me... please.
  • [text]: Breaking up over a text? You've stooped that low?
  • [text]: Can you stop ignoring me for a second?
  • [text]: Sometimes I worry that you won't know how much I love you.

anonymous asked:

Why is whitewashing in movies a bad thing? Seriously. I don't care what actors play who as long as the movie is entertaining. Why do liberals see everyone by their color. You are the real racists.

Like… That’s not how racism works brah? Like, you can enjoy whatever movie you want, so why are you here whining about people who DO care about representation?

Like, if you don’t give a shit then ALL you have to do is sit down, shut up and eat your popcorn, but you can’t even do that.

Cute Starters
  • "I'm glad your home."
  • "How was work?"
  • "Did you have fun tonight?"
  • "Get back in bed."
  • "Hey, I have a cold sore! Don't kiss me!"
  • "My favorite character died..."
  • "What's your favorite flower?"
  • "I'm baking a cake for us!"
  • "Happy Anniversary, ___"
  • "Aren't you going to give me a kiss?"
  • "Will you cuddle with me?"
  • "I had a bad day."
  • "Can't we just stay in bed today?"
  • "Please?"
  • "Don't make me use puppy-dog eyes!"
  • "Don't use the puppy-dog eyes!"
  • "Let's watch a Disney movie together..."
  • "Do you love me?"
  • "Will you marry me?"
  • "May I have this dance?"
  • "My back still hurts. Will you rub it?"
  • "Get up! It's morning!"
  • "Are you sure you're okay?"
  • "You look a bit tired, why don't you just stay home today?"
  • "I'll take care of you."

anonymous asked:

May I ask why you hate white fans so much? If black fans can hold up Finn as a role model and Latinos hold up Poe, why can't white fans enjoy Hux? He is interesting. He had a tragic past and is set up as the likely big bad in this trilogy. I don't dislike Finn or Poe, I just don't really care much about them in the grand scheme because they are coded as heroes and likely will survive the movie. It has nothing to do with race. I was equally meh on Luke and Obi-Wan in their respective trilogies.

I don’t hate white fans qua them being white - I’m white myself - I hate the racism and Anti Blackness they perpetuate actively and passively, and can’t be arsed to do anything about. That they can’t even admit to perpetuating but will come up with a million and one excuses for why it’s not about race this time.


Hux has a tragic past? You know what, so does Finn. They sure a hell don’t come any much more tragic than his, but somehow Hux is the interesting one?. And Hux is not the big bad, that one goes to Kylo Ren and Snoke. Hux is if anything the Tarkin/Dooku of this trilogy, the irrelevant villain that’s only there to promote the plot.

Yet fandom will gush over him in a way that they never, ever gush over a background character of color. Simply because they can’t be arsed with any of them, but random white villain #23223 who has literally committed genocide and have not a single redeeming quality - because he doesn’t have one goddamn quality to him - oh yes, him we need to concern ourselves with.


Also you say that Finn and Poe qua being heroes a destined to survive the trilogy. You obviously have no a single freaking clue (and have never cared to observe) how mainstream media treats all characters of color. Poe is not a lead character and Finn is played by a Black man, there is nothing self-evident about their survival. White fandom needs to stop pretending media treats characters of color the same way it does white ones.

So no, Finn and Poe are unfortunately not pre-destined to survive. In fact, Poe died in an earlier version of the movie script, only Oscar’s intervention prevented it. And I’m still worried about both of them, because their fates are not self-evident. And fandom’s hatred, especially of Finn, leaves me even more worried.

Because with the way fandom behaves there’s every chance that TPTB would chose to kill of Finn for Hux. Because TPTB observes fandom and when it keeps on seeing that random white villain #372468 is popular, and that the Black lead isn’t, then that Black lead character’s life is in even greater danger than before.

So I really want white fandom to take a long, hard look at itself and ask itself how it would feel if the only (non stereotyped) Black lead a major scifi franchise have had in years, if not ever, is killed off? Because if Finn is killed then I am 1000% blaming white fandom for it. It will be on you, your aggressive indifference and your hate for anyone who isn’t white. If you’re okay with that, then please carry on as you are, but if not maybe start doing something?


This is another reason why I hate white fandom so much, it literally cannot see how differently characters of color are treated by media and then complain when non-white people get one or two characters and immediately starts to stan for the background white guys because “omg, where are the white people? Why can’t deal with all this lack of whiteness. We need to be central. We can’t connect with anyone who doesn’t look exactly like us.”

White people are so goddamn used to being center that most obviously can’t handle being sidelined in media, not even once. And can’t relate to anyone who doesn’t look exactly like them.

And then it can and will go and ignore the consequences of its actions. Because if Finn is killed white fandom will never, ever admit that it is completely and utterly responsible for it.


I would link you to a meta from a Black fan that explains in excruciating detail why it is always about race, but quite frankly she’s had to deal with fucktrumpets like you that’ll tell her how it’s not far too many times already. I don’t have the heart to have her have to deal with you as well.


If you can literally say that it is never about race for you, how many characters of color with a tragic past have you squeed over? How many characters of color who’s modeled after real life horrible villains have you humanized?

Because if you haven’t ever done that, then it is 1000% about race for you and that you can’t be arsed about anyone who isn’t white. If you can’t see why that is a bloody problem that you should do something about, then you’re beyond my ability to help.


P.S. Obi-Wan never had a trilogy. Anakin had one, Obi-Wan was always a side character.

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Dear Sora, I’m sorry about what happened. I haven’t felt this bad since the time I accidentally threw up in your hat and didn’t tell you about it before you put it on. I know our relationship has been a little stormy lately. You say you love thundershowers, so what’s a few raindrops between friends? Love, Tai. Love? I mean from!

Lego Batjokes Prompt #111

“Doc, give it to me straight. What’s wrong with me?” Joker sighed dramatically to his friend.

"Well, first of all, I can’t give it to you in any sort of straight way because neither of us are,” Harley said with a smirk. “And second, I don’t have to be straight to see that you’re head over heels for Batman. Like, boy, you got it bad.”

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Submitted by Anonymous

An oldie nobody cared about but I still like it.

I wanted to draw a classic old-school action movie scene where the hero and villain have their final showdown, but with women only.

It makes me think of something I heard somewhere “Showing women bloody and wounded because they’re in a fight is not the same as showing violence against women”

anonymous asked:

From one Asian-American to another: Do you ever feel like our opinions don't matter to other people and nobody really cares about us except us, and that not even other POC like or sympathize with us because we're more privileged(at least compared to other POC in this country)?

Hey sib.

Sometimes I feel that way. Everytime we have whitewashed, white savior, etc. movies, there are some fellow People of Color who will say, “It’s not whitewashed!” or “Get over it!” or “It’s not as bad as such-and-such’s situation!”

  • A whitewashed or white savior movie is what it is, there’s NO refuting it regardless as to who says so. Even if you have your token Asian American friend say said movie isn’t whitewashed or white saviored, that doesn’t matter either. In fact, let me meet that friend so I can smack some sense into them.
  • And no, we will not “get over” something that has been happening for over 100 years.
  • And sure, whitewashing can’t be compared to fellow People of Color’s forms of oppression but we aren’t the ones who are making that comparison. It’s a silencing tactic that is often used against us. However, those Asian Americans who do provoke a situation by making a comparison deserved to be dragged. I won’t argue with that.

Voices that speak out against any kind of injustice deserved to be heard, whether they be big or small. And you can’t just tell someone to speak up then try to silence them when they actually do speak up.

Angry Asian Guy

anonymous asked:

📝 + Batman

Send me “📝 + (fandom)” and I’ll reply with a character I would RP from that fandom!

Hm.  It depends on which part of the Batman franchise you’re looking at.

If you’re going Nolanverse, then probably Rachel Dawes or Lucius Fox.  Maybe both because my natural pull is Rachel, but really, Lucius is Morgan Freeman.  And invents the inventions.  Like, c’mon.  That’d be cool.  (Which means I’d end up Rachel.  -shrugs-) 

If you’re going with the original four movies, it’d either be Pfeiffer’s Catwoman (which I won’t do, but if we’re going Burton Batman, then that’d be who) or Schwarzenegger’s Mr. Freeze (WHO I LOVED ONCE THE ANIMATED SERIES GAVE HIM MORE INFORMATION BUT HONESTLY MR. FREEZE).

If we’re going comics, it’d be Poison Ivy.  Hands down.  However, I don’t think I’ve read near enough of the Batman comics to apply that.  (I was more of a New Teen Titans and Impulse person, to be honest.  And then the Teen Titans cartoon happened.  And then I got into the comics at that time and they were okay, but that’s an entire other topic.)

If we’re going with the DC Cinematic Universe Batman, then I have no clue.  Because I honestly haven’t watched Superman vs. Batman, which I suppose is more of a Superman movie, but it’s the only appearance of the new Bats that we have yet?  So.  That one I can’t answer.

last night i rewatched the force awakens & it was the best decision i have made in ages!!! i spent the whole time either smiling stupidly or crying

anonymous asked:

about the "its not so bad if you don't look up" line and all the jyn hate. i dont care if you hate the character/actress do whatever but surely you can comprehend that her attitude at the beginning of the movie was just her having given up hope and her dads hologram revived that hope etc etc i'm sure complex character motivations aren't beyond you and you're just being stubborn because hating jyn is the hip and now thing. like,, get over your self righteous salt about the character it's boring

uh yeah and my problem wit the character is that she only gets “hope” when it affects her. having her dad revive that just shows that she never takes steps to realize the galaxy is bigger than her own family drama (which also- isnt explained very well).
jyn at the beginning of the movie: I’m apathetic toward the empire cuz everyone has abandoned me :( who cares what others are feeling
jyn at the end: oh my dad didn’t abandon me! now i give a shit. did you guys know its all about Me, my father must be so proud

she aint fighting for anyone except her own damn self when her development should have involved her getting her head outta her ass along with some empathy

I watched Atlantis for the first time since I was little last night and I’m not the type to rewatch movies ? I don’t rlly like it I haven’t figured out why yet… my sister mentioned the other day how she feels a huge disconnect w non-immigrant kids who watchd movies when they were younger BC when we were little we didn’t know english. And I know the same goes for me but I just hadn’t gotten to that conscious realization yet … (the topic was the never-ending catching up we have to do w American pop culture bc we were not born here) but I’ll tell u a secret… Lizzie McGuire ? Never watch it never got the hype, even Stevens ? Nope, the one w the Cory guy n topanga gorl? I never watched it ! They’re not secrets they’re just things I don’t acknowledge ? Hmm I’ll tell u an actual secret about me tho - i wanted to be white more than my sister did bc in my eyes she lucked out coming here younger. She has all /alternative/ knowledge of American culture esp black culture n latino that I do not and it’s bc I stuck to the “whiter” side of it all just for the sake of seeming more “American” which is funny bc we live in Miami ? The white culture “standard” here is not the same as the rest of the country ….

I have all these memories of when I was younger and I always cry retelling them bc I’m reliving them as I speak n my childhood is sad but not for the reasons you’d think ?? I was a lonely kid I was quiet n had hard times making friends n I’ve always felt like I am hard to love or accept ? Maybe that’s why I cry bc how does a 8 yr old know they have to conform to all these things in order to Belong? I had the opportunity to talk about being undocumented for this storytelling video series my internship organized and they had this filming crew n it was the first time I had told ANYONE about my inner thoughts as a little immigrant girl - my first day at school in a diff country - the scent of our first apartment - the warmth of hugging my mom for the first time in two yrs …. there was so much I Let out and I’m crying just as much now as I did when I was telling these two girls from New York who didn’t know of my pain didn’t know Me but were filming me and asking me questions ! I think I’m more like my mom than I realize sometimes- “I need to raise strong daughters bc the world is a tough place” she says whenever we get sad about certain things, and I think of how she doesn’t cry at anything rlly and doesn’t speak of past memories often and if I ask her she says things nonchalantly n fast almost like she doesn’t want to visit that memory for too long… maybe she Knows it’ll make her emotional to talk about things Maybe she has unresolved issues too but knows she has no time to relive and rehurt again… I don’t think I Neglect my past emotions but I just don’t go Looking for them bc I know what I’ll find … I guess it’s part of being self-aware ?