Why I don’t like Ota/yuri
See my issue with Ota/yuri isn’t that it’s a ‘pedophilic’ ship with a strange power imbalance, apparently. Frankly I’m more annoyed at the fact that people call a 15 year old and an 18 year old possibly dating pedophilic, thereby devaluing the word. Pedophilia is by definition someone of 18+ years attracted to people that are prepubescent aka I’d say 0-13 tops. Therefor the relationship, however uncomfortable you might find the age difference, is not pedophilic. Stop using that argument, please.
Frankly I’m also the kind of person that is all for ship and let ship. I believe that fiction is supposed to be your gateway to explore certain things in a safe manner, sometimes things you don’t even desire in real life, but find interesting enough to write about. If every author actually stood behind the things they wrote, well I’d steer clear of Stephen King and R.R Martin, just to name a few. So really my issue with this ship isn’t about fiction vs. reality or how 'problematic’ such thing would be in the real world.
What really annoys me about Ota/yuri is the fact that we have a canon, healthy gay relationship within that anime! Like I’ve never seen such a well developed, realistic, not rushed and happy gay relationship on TV, let alone in anime and manga culture. But instead of being happy about that, focusing on that little flicker or positive representation, the fandom latches on to a fifteen year old that had to understand what Agape even means! And then connected it to his grandfather!
considered love an option. He’s the same fifteen year old who was too
focused on providing for his family, who is so driven by his passion
for skating he never looks left and right. He didn’t care for friends
or other connections, only to reach his goal of winning and he
freaking succeeded by working hard and having rock solid focus. I
love that about Yuri. I love that he’s mature for his age on one
hand, but also very childish on the other. He’s a realistic
representation of a 15 year old.
That’s when Otabek comes in and shit goes down the drain. Listen, when I was 15 all my friends were 18+. I remember acting extra dumb around them, because I felt I had to prove myself. So that whole scene with the club and shit? I can relate, but not in a romantic sense! I’m so tired that every platonic relationship these days has to be turned into a romantic one, especially when people have to reach for it. Otabek and Yuri literally had less than five minutes of screen time. Why Ota/yuri? Where?
Frankly I also think that Yuri would benefit from a
friend more than he would from a boyfriend. Especially someone older,
more mature and mellow like Otabek. I’d love the idea of them as
friends much more, had the fandom not completely fetishized their
relationship by now, effectively ruining it for non-shippers. It’s
like Johnlock all over again. People complain about tiring romantic
side plots and how we have to little platonic loves but then pull an
What I’m also not a big fan of is the idea that if one couple is gay, all the main couples have to be gay, something most commonly found in yaoi and fanfiction. Which in itself wouldn’t be as big a problem - although it just reminds me that yaoi and fanfiction aren’t for representation of LGBT but for the pleasure of their heterosexual, female consumers - if it wasn’t for the fact that everyone also dated within the same circle. It just seems to unrealistic for every relationship to be romantic, on screen and within the same friends group, but maybe that’s just me. I’m just so tired of these fanservice dilemmas and I fear Ota/yuri will become a prime example…