i don't care about the notes i really love this ship

im sorry im really salty right now but i have to go on a gd rant bc im????

  • this fandom is so violently against thinking outside the lovesquare it’s crazy. go through every ship you can think of, count the amount of content in the tags for each, and then come back to me if you don’t believe me
  • like first off let’s start with the f/f ships
    • by far the most popular two are julerose and chlolya, a.k.a. ships that don’t include mari and don’t mess with the lovesquare
    • and before you pull the whole “oh but their dynamic is better”
    • chlonette and chlolya are both rivals to lovers ships in their simplest form. so why is chlolya more popular?
    • alyanette and julerose are both friends to lovers ships in their simplest form. so why is julerose more popular?
    • it takes clawing through alyanette, chlonette, lilanette, etc. tags to find content, meanwhile chlolya and julerose are everywhere bc they’re “safe ships”
  • m/m ships! 
    • this one’s even funnier bc mlm ships in this fandom are practically nonexistent
    • the most “popular” ones are adrinino and adrinath, but guess why you barely see content for them?
    • the only reason they’re more popular than kim/max is bc they either involve the main characters, or they involve nath (the only background character that people seem to give a shit about for reasons unknown????)
  • oh and it gets better bc let’s talk about het ships that don’t get any love
    • i’ve seen marinath used so damn often as a means to an end for lovesquare shippers. like if i had a dollar for every time i saw marinath used as a way for adrien to be jealous/confess his feelings, i could buy a fucking condo
    • nino x marinette? alya x adrien? no?
    • yeah. figured. kinda makes the lovesquare impossible, right?
  • the best part about this is that when you check which pairings get useless comments tagged on about ‘oh are you guys serious?’ ‘yeah but they’re just friends?’ ‘this pairing would never work’ and ‘x person loves y so they can’t possibly like z,’ do you know which ones you’ll see more often than not?
    • pairings that include adrien or marinette

im tired of seeing people be dismissive of alyanette, adrinino, and ninette. i’m tired of having to literally claw through the tags for chlonette or lilanette. im tired of seeing artists and writers get tens of thousands of notes on their lovesquare art and struggle to get 200 notes on art with pairings that disrupt the lovesquare. 

it’s disheartening. it’s annoying. it’s isolating. and it feels like a lot of people don’t even care so i guess im done

Why I don't think this ship is wrong

I’m not interesed in fighting with antis, or trying to change other people’s opinion forcefully. However It may be usefull if I collect some things I and others have said

TL;DR: This ship *can* be handled so badly that it makes our beloved conman into a pedophile, but I think the grand mayority of the people being bullied on this site don’t even ship it like that. Don’t put everyone on the same bag. People don’t deserve to be bullied for what they like in fiction and there are clear differences between reality and fiction.

I don’t think this ship is pedophilia simply because I dont ship it that way. Pedophilia implies fetichistic sexual atraction to kids under 13, and a horrible abusive element of “I don’t care about you, I just wanna fuck u cuz ur young”. Now, if you see this pairing as reigen sexualy taking advantage of a very young mob or simply not really caring about his well being and preying on him, that would count (and also be horribly ooc and a sad way of doing it).

However if, by example, you ship them romantically as having mutual care for each other and mob in full understanding and control of the situation, even if the relationship gets sexual while mob’s still 14, I wouldn’t call it pedo. Questionable or innapropiate? Yes. But not pedophilia. And then you have many, many, other scenarios that get really away from all that.

An important distinction should be mentioned here: While I’m ok with a romantic relationship between this two characters despite their age gaps, If I saw a similar age gap in real life and the younger party is still a minor, I would probably call the cops. For me that is the difference between fiction and real life for this issue. Minors in real life should be discouraged from dating people much older because they could easily be taken advantage of. However in fiction, you have control over these characters and you can make sure their relationship is healthy, especially if you keep them in character as much as you can.

You can have them being romantically involved but not turning sexual until mob is older. You can have them being platonic for a long time before they develop romantic feelings. You can have mob being assertive. You can have reigen feeling conflicted. You can adress the age gap issue. You can have it not mattering at all and them just slowly getting closer witouth noticing. You can have them being only platonic, in a very strong friendship.

There is many many ways to make this ship beautifull and I don’t think it’s just to put everyone on the same bag as the worst content and condem them all using a really severe accusation of condoning child abuse or being abusers themselves.

It’s just not alright to make call out blogs and tag whoever ships it, regardless of how they ship it, as “pedophiles”. I remember one of these some months ago tagging a user who only had like two barely shippy posts with grown up Mob as “condones pedophilia”. Neither is ok to send mean messages to users with death threats or fill their asks with insults. Or flood the main tag with complains about which, I have to be honest and say that to have so much nsfw noncon underage content popping on your dash as some people complain, at least on this site you literally would need to follow the 2-3 blogs with such content and have them on notifications. I know what Im talking about, I check the main ship tag nearly daily, follow most shippers and have stumbled onto that only like twice on my dash.

Continuing with the list of shit people have been puting on with, it’s even less fair to ramp up the generalizations and make really rude comics portraying all the shippers as disgusting creatures. Or say you get disgusted if a shipper reblogs your content, even if they respected your tagging preferences and/or the content has nothing to do with the ship at all. Or to claim “x has great art but they ship reimob, nevermind, their art is trash”. What’s the necessity of doing all that? I frankly doubt people who do that have the best interests of minors at heart. At best I have seen questionable beliefs about content on a site as tumblr being influencial enough such that a fanart with less than 50 notes of a niche fandom can “normalize pedophilia” in american society (because you know, we are all americans and america is the world). At worst it just seems to be used as excuse for harassment.

Speaking of that, regarding the users who make really wrong content: While I won’t defend that, I feel another distinction should be made. Do I think certain content is gross? Yes. Some of that content nearly made me throw up? Yes. Do I think the autor of that content is gross/deserves to die/etc? No. Do I harass them? No. Some of them have turned out to be csa survivors. I try to abide to the notion that nobody should be bullied for their likings in fictional settings, even if I don’t like it. What I do to deal with that is simply not follow the blogs with such content and so far it works.

As I said, I’m not interesed in discussing with antis, I just wanted to put some things together. Maybe it will help confused bystanders understand the shippers aren’t defending pedophilia. We are just defending a ship we like and love. Let’s try to respect each other.

anonymous asked:

This is not a prompt and I know you usually don't do asks... but! just in case: the finale is really messing up with my mind. The idea that she talks to him every day and he probably doesn't know she is alive is too much for me. What worries me the most is the idea of Bellamy getting romantic with somebody in the ark, given where the storyline is going do you think it's a possibility? How do you see things panning out?

In general, you’re right, I don’t do much speculation of this type, and I’m afraid I’m not going to start now. But here are some things that I consider to be important and good:

  • That was not a finale you write unless you care very, very deeply, about the relationship between Bellamy and Clarke. 
  • Clarke doesn’t really have a non-Bellamy love interest other than Niylah, and Niylah hasn’t ever really been treated like a love interest so much as a FWB. Obviously it’s possible they could leave her single or give her a new love interest from a number of places, but I think the lack of an extant obvious person is probably a good thing, in terms of Bellarke.
  • I also think their being separated makes it much more likely that the show is, if nothing else, considering making Bellarke canon. If they were together, they’d have to deal with their relationship in the Ark, with the following possible outcomes:
    • They get together during the time jump (unsatisfying)
    • They do not get together during the time jump and their relationship is at its current level for six years, and then they get together once they get back to Earth (bizarre and probably also unsatisfying)
    • They do not get together over the time jump because they are not interested in a romantic relationship and enter S5 as Firmly Just Friends (ugh)
    • They do not get together over the time jump because they have a Huge Falling Out and have to learn to be friends again on Earth (probably the most interesting of these but also like wtf why)
  • So being separated basically allows the writers to delay making a decision about whether or not they will be canon, whereas I think that leaving them together would have necessitated making that choice, and necessitated it in ways that would not be promising for the ship. I like the time jump, and as much as the sadness both of them are doubtless feeling during their separation hurts me, I much prefer it to the alternative, from both a story and shipping perspective.
  • Our cliffhanger was literally Clarke calling Bellamy EVERY DAY because she misses him so much and Bellamy being in actual mourning, so there is every reason to believe we are getting a fucking EPIC reunion.

On a broader note, I come from the old way of fandom, and from the old way of slash fandom, especially, where we never really expected our ships to become canon, and just sort of assumed every important conversation involving our OTP would end with some variation on “no homo,” so I get that my perspective on this is probably different from some people’s. Will I be frustrated if Bellamy and Clarke don’t mash their mouths together at some point? Yes, I totally will. I desperately want them to mash their mouths together, and I do think it’s pretty possible that they will. But my shipping of things has never really taken becoming canon as a very important factor in how much I enjoy them, so I am much more likely to think of all the reasons it might not happen to keep my expectations low than try to reassure myself that canonization is coming. So I’m not a good resource for that kind of reassurance.

But that also means what I mostly think about is all the things that will make me happy aside from actual face-mashing, and that finale was basically non-stop Bellamy and Clarke love each other so much, holy shit, with every indication that S5 will continue with that. And that is 900% what I’m about.

i’m still not done lol

regarding lauren’s latest post, what irritates me most is their attitude, how they act like they’re doing us a favor with the way they wrote lapis and peridot’s “relationship”.

“I wanted to create the experience of a growing queer relationship”

yes i admit i am/was an amedot shipper. but this isn’t about me being upset that my ship won’t be canon. i can deal with that. what i can’t deal with is amethyst yet again being used as prop for a white/white-coded character’s development (pearl, steven, and now peridot).

it also bothers me that some white fans/lapidot shippers are gonna eat this right up as great gay representation (you can already see people doing that in the notes of their post). as if there’s anything revolutionary about using characters of color as tools for another character’s development and then tossing them aside when there’s no more “use” for them.

“I don’t want to have people have to sit down and put together puzzle pieces to see if they were represented. Not in this day and age. That game is so tiring.” 

wow it’s so funny that you say that lauren, because that’s exactly what you put me and other fans of color through. i was so excited about amedot possibly being developed, that a character like amethyst who i relate so strongly to, could be shown love when people like her (mentally ill, fat, woc) usually don’t on tv. 

but nope! no love for fat woc huh! as long as your skinny white faves are happy who cares right??

i tried to give lapidot a chance, i really did. if it was actually written properly i wouldn’t have any problems with it. i’m just so frustrated not just because of it’s shitty development, but because amethyst had to be sidelined AGAIN just to further the ship. 

this is why so many f/f ships on tv right now don’t do it for me, because they’re mostly catered towards white lesbians. i shouldn’t have to choose between both aspects of my identity (being black and gay). i know media representation isn’t even the biggest problem in our community right now but damn, it would be nice to see a character like me actually being treated respectfully by the narrative just once!

anonymous asked:

So Bakugou and Todoroki's hero names didn't get decided early on I think because they're each gonna get their own little mini arcs that get em to decide them, but I kinda wanted to know your opinion on what they might end up being? 'Course they'll probably be derived from future plot that we don't know right now, but I wanted to ask anyway!

!!!! I’ve never really thought about Todoroki’s, tbh? So I have no clue, honest, but as far as Bakugou goes I’ll keep on holding onto Ground Zero until Horikoshi officially and unequivocally tells me he 100% definitely scrapped it, my friend - it’s such a cool name??? I read it and I nearly cried when I realized that probably it’s not gonna be his actual hero name rip

Anon said: You need to draw Bok.uro more (i love them so much,(you to of course)

I’m sure you didn’t mean anything bad by this ask anon, but as I’ve said more than once I really, really don’t like the word need. I don’t need to do anything, no one’s paying me for this. When I’ll want to draw more bokro it’ll for sure happen, so don’t worry about that~

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what your sonic ship says about you
  • i have a theory that who you ship sonic with is reflected in your personality:
  • sonicxamy: you can be over excitable and occasionally annoy others. you look adorable in a bow, whoever you are.
  • sonicxsally: you didn't choose to be the leader of this project but everyone else is incompetent so you just do it so it doesn't suck.
  • sonicxshadow: either very sad or very gay. scratch that, even if you're straight, you're very gay. probably cries to live and learn. sa2 trash.
  • sonicxtails: you are smart and loyal and it'S NOT CREEPY IF THEY'RE AGED UP SHUT UP AND LEAVE ME ALONE.
  • sonicxblaze: you tend to be reserved, can come off as aggressive. you have tried to burn something with your eyes at least once.
  • sonicxelise: you are probably a really nice person but a lot of people might hate you.
  • sonicxknuckles: you find arguments cute. you have a massive sweet tooth. probably have a good sense of humour.
  • sonicxrouge: you are really sexy and angry. also slightly broke. but mostly sexy.
  • sonicxsilver: you probably apologise when you walk into doors.
  • sonicxchris: what, really? shucks, i'm sorry, you probably get more bashing than sonelise. i'm so sorry this befell you.
  • sonicxcream: you are adorable but you also could get away with murder. not saying you should, you just could.
  • sonicxeggman: you are dr. eggman trash. you would do anything for the good doctor. a n y t h i n g.
  • sonicxsonic: you probably wish they hadn't introduced so many characters. you came over sonic generations.
  • sonicxsomeoneelse: you are probably one person holding up your little fort but you don't care, you don't need anyone else, you're a badass, please stop crying.
  • sonicxONLYTHISVERSIONOFTHEMEVERYOTHERVERSIONISAWFUL: you just love to be special. probably overanalyses sonic like it's their job. i'm completely you.
  • sonicxeveryoneandanyone: cries a lot. massive slut but might be a virgin. me.
  • ace/aro sonic: traditionalist. there's a possibility that you don't want to hit me with a brick. maybe.
Dating J-Hope would include
  • •back hugs Galore
  • •constantly reassuring Hi there he is amazing
  • •having to force him to rest when all he wants to do is practice
  • •when he is finally in bed after hours of trying to force him to sleep he hold you tight
  • •you caressing his arms, chest, head, face and back, putting him to sleep immediately
  • •waking up late to find him gone but he left sticky notes everywhere that list different things we loves about you
  • •BEACH DATES
  • •SOO MANY BEACH DATES
  • • Skin ship everywhere because he doesn't care that people know you are his
  • •He loves taking pictures of you when you stare off into space or when you at focused because he loves the faces you make
  • •the boys complaining that you guys are too happy all the time
  • •When he is away on tour he tends to forget to contact you
  • •you feeling insecure that he will lose interest because you think you aren't as pretty as the other girls he sees everyday
  • •Him holding you in his arms tightly
  • •"No girl I have ever met or ever laid eyes on were nearly as beautiful or as perfect for me as you"
  • •Disney marathons
  • •SCREAMING SCREAMING ALL THE TIME
  • •BOTH of you are loud and clap loudly and point at random things that make you laugh
  • •He love playing with your hair
  • •"why do you always play with my hair?"
  • •"Hush, I love your hair, it's pretty and soft "
  • •He loves playing and dancing in the rain with you
  • •him forcing you to go with him and the boys to Kota kinabalu
  • •Him forcing you to pack sundresses and cute bathing suits
  • •him looking like a deer in the head lights when he sees how sexy you look in the biking he made you take
  • •"Dang Hobi hyung how did you get such a beautiful girlfriend" "Yah! Stop looking Jungkook!" Hobi yells and throws his towel over your body
  • •At night he waits in bed for you to get out of the shower cause he can't sleep without you
  • •You come out in his over sized shirt and panties and he can only stare at you as you crawl into bed
  • •sweet love making all the time
  • •love bites
  • •Passionate kisses and soft moans
  • •BUT HE CAN ALSO BE DADDY AF WITH THAT KINKY SHIZ
  • •Spanking
  • •Harder biting
  • •dark hickey almost on every inch of you neck and thighs
  • •loves being called oppa in and outside of the bedroom because your voice is like music to his ears
  • •whenever you are out together he always makes sure that you are comfortable and asks of your feet hurt
  • •if your feet ever hurt he will pick you up and carry you on his back
  • •You hardly fight but when you do it's over something really bad because you both hate confrontation and are usually good at talking
  • •Fights usually don't last long because when he raises his voice at all when he is upset it makes you cry
  • •And he HATES seeing you cry
  • •so he would hold you tight and you both whisper apologies and say how much you love each other
  • •MOVING IN TOGETHER
  • •Repainting the house together
  • •taking a break to sit and drink water but you sit on a box and fall into the empty box
  • •both of you laughing like idoits but he helps you out of the box
  • •loving gazes shared between you two showing you love each other without even needing to speak
  • •having a long future ahead of you knowing you two could last through any storm as long as you where together
  • Hpe you guys liked this I thought it would be cute. I saw a few if these and thought I should give it a try 😊 -Julie

anonymous asked:

I feel you on the whole drarry being hard to read lately because of everything happening politically and socially. Like a few years ago, I realized that if I knew Draco in real life I would seriously hate him because of his blood purity shit and everything but I adore him as a fictional character??? I know fantasy doesn't equal reality but that stuff is just way too similar to what's going on lmao every time I read something that glosses over Draco's racism now I can't do it

Yeah, same p much. I would find him really hard to forgive.

On one hand, that’s so much of what can make drarry fic interesting. How on earth can you come back from that? What can one do to earn forgiveness? What would even inspire someone to seek it?  The ethical questions underpinning H/D fic can be extraordinary and rich and amazing. Which in turn can make for amazing, moving, compelling stories.

It’s just that a lot of people ignore them? I think (and some other v wise folks have suggested to me) that that’s worse on tumblr, and I think there’s something to that. The prevelance of aesthetics and fan art and the popularity of fluffy headcanons make it seem at times like everyone’s forgotten where they came from and what their history is about, and how deep and really really justified and well-founded their mutual antipathy was.

Like:

  • Draco tried to kill Harry’s teammate
  • Draco almost accidentally killed Harry’s best friend while trying to intentionally kill Harry’s mentor
  • Draco didn’t intervene in the torture of Harry’s other best friend
  • Draco was a bully and a jerk, and was protected and motivated by his privilege in doing that
  • Draco genuinely believed that Harry and his best friends were inferior on account of their blood status and/or class status
  • Draco faked an injury that almost resulted in the death of one of Harry’s mentors’ pets
  • Draco’s father did something that led to deep psychological trauma for Harry’s best friend’s sister/Harry’s girlfriend
  • Draco’s aunt killed Harry’s godfather
  • Harry put Draco’s father in jail 
  • Harry tried to upset the larger sociopolitical order that assured Draco’s privilege (y’all know how privileged people panic and lash out about that)
  • Draco and Harry were on opposite sides of a war

Those are not things you can gloss over. I know they were children at the time, but still. Those are not things you forget. Those are not things you ignore. Those are not things that two people could fall in love with without addressing. They aren’t.

And yet.

So when people do - which is a lot of the time - I have a lot of trouble reading it too, and it’s become so common that I’m pretty much taking a wholesale break from it. 

(and I don’t know that I can even begin to verbalize how it feels to run across a great larry fictional war AU which, in the notes, lists among its influences “a certain feeling of nostalgia for old school HP fics,” and to realize that, as hard as I’d looked in HP, I can’t find anything new like that there - that other fandoms, with other source material, are doing a better job of this than we are.)

It’s not that I don’t want to read drarry. I do; part of why I’m taking a break is so that it doesn’t start to feel like homework, and I can pick back up, probably with draco tops, with a bit of space and perspective and less frustration.

But for Merlin’s sake, y’all.

Don’t forget who these characters are.

anonymous asked:

I figure most fans can agree that the game tells us rather than shows us that Noct & Luna are [Supposed To Be] in love (unless you don't, that's cool too) & it makes that 2nd end-credit scene sit really odd for me since all of the emotional weight is really with the bros not with Noct & Luna's relationship & I feel they didn't earn it, you know? & tbh sometimes I'm just kinda bummed Noct wasn't fishing or doing something fun, they're just /sitting/ & Luna doesn't even get a chair. Thoughts?

Yeah, I’m a fan that agrees that Luna and Noctis are a little bit odd, considering that they’re such an odd dynamic compared to the natural relationship of some of the others characters (particularly Noctis and the boys). It’s understandable in that sense too, considering that Noctis and Luna only were able to communicate through a book for 12 years, I think? It’s a little bit of an odd thing, since these two should honestly have a genuinely beautiful relationship – and they most certainly could. But the way the game handled these two was kind of a bummer, to be honest. There could have been alot of potential with it if they handled it a bit better.

But I can also see how Noctis and Luna remain canon, too. Like, they managed to keep in contact through a book for twelve years, and it seems kinda like ‘Eeeh. It’s a book.’ But think of it this way too: the book is kinda like a letter from a friend – correspondence of lovers and allies over years upon years. It’s almost like being able to talk to someone every day or when you can, see their messages pop up in your inbox or mailbox, and realizing that just because you don’t see this person, you know they exist. Their voice can be imagined through the letters sent to you. Their recollection, their thoughts, their experiences. These two would send letters and notes to each other in books for twelve years until the fateful day where they would one day be married – lovers finally having the moment to potentially reunite after a twelve year friendship that perhaps blossomed into something more.

Just because you don’t see a face in person doesn’t mean that you’ve lost the ability to love them or care about them, you know? In older days, soldiers and lovers would exchange letters to one another, poets and muses share stories and tales – in a way, Noctis and Luna are similar. The thought of waiting eagerly for a letter or note from someone you care for, the little exchanges that feel restricted and forgotten, it’s almost enlightening and heartwarming to receive a message from someone you were so close to and still want to be close to.

In a way, it’s like the cyber conversations people have with each other on the internet. You wait eagerly for a message for someone you may or may not have met before or in a long time, but you still want to talk to them, to see them, because despite not seeing their face unless through pictures or drawings, you still don’t really lose your friendship with them. It’s just as if you were talking to them in person, just not face-to-face unfortunately.

Perhaps not as fast as being able to send a message or post a note with the utmost of speed, but they still managed to keep in touch through the book. Like, there’s the whole ‘Why not just call?’ And the justification is that Lucis is far more technically advanced than Tenebrae was, restricting technological communication. But it’s also the fact that these two were probably so young before they could use phones or other means of communication too. The notebook worked, so why not stick with it? But I digress on that. Despite it not being fast, they still managed to talk, tell each other their stories, and acted as if it were just like writing to a friend and love, a message you eagerly wait for that, when it arrives, it immediately brightens your day and brings a smile to your face.

The unfortunate thing about all of these thoughts is that we never really got to see the moments where Lunafreya would send Noctis notes and maybe little doodles about how her training as Oracle is going or the messages and pictures Noctis would send to Lunafreya about how he’s been handling school and about the new friend he made in high school. The little messages and interactions that mean the whole world to the two until one day, when Niflheim’s occupation would end, the two can finally meet in person and tell each other all that they talked about in person finally.

So yeah, I’m a little bummed out about the whole Noctis/Luna dynamic never really was handled that well, but I still don’t write out the potential that the relationship has either. I may have other ships I prefer, but I still like Noctis and Luna as a ship too. There’s a charm about the ‘letters from a lover’ trope that I really like~

I don't usually...

I mainly just “like” stuff and reblog, but I have to say something. I’ve seen some horrible things, but this is just plain stupidity. I’m not naming any names though 🙃
(Insert sarcastic tone) “I can’t believe everyone was effected by Iris’ death. You mean to tell me no one is happy in he future because Iris died?”
First off, you big mad or nah? 😂 Anyway, let’s get to it. You have to know that when it’s said “everyone” they mean all of the main characters we see in most episodes.
Certain people are upset because Team Flash has disbanded. Side note- team Flash expanded beyond Caitlin, Cisco, and Barry a long time ago. If it hadn’t, at some point one of y'alls faves would’ve died already. Be grateful.
Let’s go ahead and breakdown “everyone” and see if we can find out why you really mad.

Wally West: HER BROTHER!!! Wally has been trying to be a hero before he even got speed. He has been training to save people and trying to be the champion that Iris needed in saving her from death. Of course he is sad and out of pocket.

Joe West: HER FATHER!!!! This is his “baby girl”. You think he isn’t supposed to be sad or upset? He has taken on so much in this Metahuman world just to save his little girl. Why wouldn’t he be out of pocket?

Barry MF Allen: HER FUTURE HUSBAND, FUTURE FATHER OF THE TORNADO TWINS AND GRANDFATHER OF BART ALLEN, CURRENT FIANCÉ, SUPPORT SYSTEM, LOVE OF HER LIFE, HOT CUP OF COFFEE IN THE MORNING, SUN/MOON, BEST FRIEND, PARTNER IN CRIME, THE GUY WHO IS EXTRA IN HIS AFFECTIONS TOWARD HER, THE GUY (and I quote) LOVED YOU BEFORE I KNEW WHAT THE WORD LOVE WAS, SEX MACHINE 👏🏾THAT 👏🏾DON’T 👏🏾GET 👏🏾TIRED, HER BABE, HONEY, HER SUPERHERO, CONFIDANT, THE FASTEST MAN ALIVE WHO APPARENTLY WASN’T FAST ENOUGH TO SAVE HER…you wonder why HE is out of pocket.
What good is it being able to save random people if you can’t use your speed to save the people you care about the most. (Insert mom, dad, and Iris)…y'all getting crazy.

*Cisco: is a good friend to Iris, but let’s be real…their friendship wasn’t carved in stone. However, if Barry is done, Wally is done, Joe is done, Caitlin is Killer Frost…what do you expect him to do? Also lets not forget, they are going to battle Savitar. That has to leave lasting effects on all of them. Cisco has lost so much, including Caitlin.
By the way, lets talk about that. Now that’s a ship!!! Cisco loves Caitlin. Now maybe they are better as friends, but you cannot ignore their connection. One they’ve had long before Barry came on the scene (same with Barry and Iris 😉) anyway, people keep wanting Barry to be Cisco. He is not Cisco. Barry may care for her, she is not Iris. He is not in love with her and never will be. Cisco actually loves Caitlin and could fall in love with her. People make up these scenes between Barry and Caitlin that never happen. What they actually mean to say is that CISCO is so supportive, CISCO knows her better than anyone (with the exception of Ronnie), CISCO is always by her side, CISCO is always talking her down, CISCO was genuinely afraid of losing her…but Barry.

So the reason y'all really mad is that that Barry (the main character) has a love interest that isn’t your fave. Iris (the main FEMALE lead) should be in every episode, frame, scene that she can be in because this show is about Barry’s life. And Barry already told you Iris is his life. So why you mad that she on the screen? Why you mad that he can’t function properly without Iris? That’s his love. As a married woman (married to my high school sweetheart, celebrating 10 years) I GET IT. Could he eventually move on, yes, but not right now. And NOT with your fave.
So BE HUMBLE AND BE QUIET 🤐

Also…I love Caitlin Snow, but I do prefer Killer Frost. She was petty as hell!! I hope she has a redemption arc where she can still be a bit crazy and petty, but a good villain? 🤔

anonymous asked:

Why are people in this fandom so rude? I'm in a lot of fandoms and literally no one goes out to attack people more than this one, you don't deserve it and neither does Chris tbh

They are just not nice people, and thats putting it lightly. they take pride in who can get the most notes for bashing someone who is pretty fucking great.

let’s not forget a while back these people are the same people who were saying “i hate mon-*l but I don’t hate chris he’s a good guy” (and also a while ago they were all “he’s a great actor” and now they’re making posts about how he can’t act, but that’s a whole different matter), and now they’re all like “yes drag him!!” whenever another one of them makes a post about him or hijacks a supportive post about him with their comments.

All I want to know is, drag him for what? drag him for being an advocate for mental health awareness, for trying to break the stigma around mental illness, talking about it openly, about losing his father to it, doing Q&A’s on twitter about it. I know from people that he has helped them remarkably, and that’s so important. Or do they want to “drag him” because he supports black lives matter? Or is it because he’s a feminist? Or maybe it’s because he is so lovely and appreciative to his fans and the people who support him? he even took the time to talk to and take pictures with the same people who trash him on twitter all day

I’m sure I’ve not mentioned a lot of things about why he’s an amazing person but you get the idea, he’s an all round good guy who is so undeserving of the hate it’s unreal

I want an anti to come at me with with they hate chris, and not use his characters name, or mention the ship he’s a part of, because honestly, that’s the reason they hate him, that’s the reason they think it’s ok to bash him personally, when it’s really, really not.

They also sort of justify it by saying he won’t see it or he doesn’t care about the hate, i mean, yeah, he might not care what a bunch of people (cowards actually, considering the same people who trash him actually met him and took photos with him lol) who sit behind a computer screen and bash someone who is so undeserving of it, but it doesn’t matter if he lets it get to him or not, he doesn’t deserve to have to shrug it off? it shouldn’t be happened to begin with

I don’t care about hate for me, I care about people mocking chris and hating on chris because he’s so pure and too good for this world

here I am going on and on again I’m sorry!!

anonymous asked:

I'm asking this out of curiosity, how can you just let go of a ship like captain swan? you were a hardcore captain swan shipper and you were part of their journey from the very beginning and now you barely care about them if at all. it's just I don't know i thought you were staying till the end & would even have a hard time saying goodbye to them after the show ends. sorry if this came off as rude I'm totally just curious just cuz you were so invested for years now you don't care anymore

Well, honestly, I have discussed this subject before, and tried to be straight about it, and I’m sure you didn’t mean to be rude and are genuinely curious. Still, though, it’s a bit discouraging?

I’m still here. I’m still active on tumblr, I still reblog CS gifs fairly regularly, and I know what’s going on in the show, and I’m looking forward to the wedding. I’ve made several long posts on my process of stepping back from the show and why that happened. It’s certainly not that I just “let go” overnight. It’s been going on for almost a year, and it has not in the least been easy for me. CS got me back into fandom after a long time away. I don’t need to prove my bona fides as a shipper to anyone; I’ve shipped them since 2012, been on tumblr for them and an incredibly active and prolific fandom member since 2013, written multiple novel-length fics and countless drabbles for them (and am still working on TDH, which is my second-longest project EVER behind The North Remembers), answered thousands of questions, written just as many specs and metas and spoiler and roundup posts, went to my first ever con (way out of my comfort zone!) to meet Colin, and still have many dear friends who have changed my life. I don’t ever regret any of the time I did spend on them. I have loved them for a long time and I still care. I just am engaging with it differently, and I have had to do that for several reasons.

As noted, I was super invested during season 5. SUPER. It got to the place where I was thinking about it almost every waking moment, even as I was trying to adjust to a new city and country and degree study and the ups and downs that came with that. My mood was totally dictated by spoilers or theories or how people were reacting to them or how I was going to have to hold things together during an angsty time with all the people I had to comfort/talk through the pain of the Dark Ones/Underworld arc. It took a lot out of me, to be honest. I couldn’t even enjoy the show quite the same way because I was so dependent on it all working out and the effect this had on my ability to deal with things. I’ve always been honest about my years and years of anxiety and depression and what I’ve had to do with that, and the show was something for me to focus on and to try to get me out of my head (again, during an otherwise stressful year). Honestly, that level of addiction/dependence isn’t healthy for anything, especially what is, at the end of the day, just a TV show. The s5 finale burned me the hell out after all that pain with pretty much nothing to show for it, and I struggled over the summer with the thought that I was finally having to withdraw from it in bits and pieces. I watched 6x01, but… nope. That pretty much put the lid on it that I wasn’t prepared to go back at the same level again, and probably wouldn’t be.

As noted, and as anyone who has read my fics can attest, I have no problem with angst. I love angst, even long-term and complex angst. I love serious and dark and morally challenging stories, they are some of my favorites. But as I have also said, I do have a problem when that angst results, to my view, in no measurable story progress and the endless repetition of long-played-out character arcs. I just watched CS struggle to be together for all of season 5. I don’t want to watch more of Emma Has Walls or Killian Keeps Secrets Because He’s Guilty or Oh Look, They’re Separated and Will Die. It’s just… not interesting to me. So I still love them as a ship, but I’ve almost completely disengaged from wanting or expecting canon to provide any kind of satisfying or well-thought-through fulfillment for them. I’ve written tons and tons of fics (and novels). I write all the time. I analyze things for a living. I am an English tutor and a history teacher. I’m a storyteller. I have spent a long time with these characters and coming up with and thinking through what I want to see for them. That doesn’t mean I’m Better ™ than the writers, but it also means that any effort I put in feels like way more than they are, and that’s not a fun or stimulating way to engage with a fandom.

I don’t do hate-watching, and I certainly am not about to rain on the parade of people who do still love it as much as ever (which as I have said many times, I am happy for them). So it’s just better to focus on things that I DO actively enjoy and which I find rewarding and engaging. This year has been incredibly tough for me since about last November and the Orange Nazi’s election (and before that, really). I don’t need to put my limited and valuable free time into things that are just going to drain me or make me annoyed more than I already am. Fandom, once again and though it sometimes can be anything but, is supposed to be fun. And I am trying to space out my interests and have several different places to turn to for inspiration, rather than putting all my eggs in one basket. As noted, it’s just not healthy, and I have to take care with that.

As also noted, I was truly happy about the CS engagement and I will watch their wedding and probably reblog a lot of gifs from it. But I can look at said gifs and enjoy their cute moments and feel as if I’m getting what I need to, rather than having to slog through all of season 6. And honestly, if OUAT is losing people like me – a super, SUPER dedicated fan with years of investment and high-level commitment and fandom participation and creation – it doesn’t take too much guesswork to see that it’s probably losing regular viewers like crazy as well, and that’s why the ratings have taken a nosedive. I know I’m not alone, because I know a lot of fellow fandom people who just can’t muster up the same level of investment, and we’ve all paid our dues. We don’t have to “prove” anything or get caught in the inevitable “Who’s a Real/Better Fan” drama that just makes the whole cycle even more draining. We’re just engaging how we choose to, over a fictional narrative that has meant a ton to us, but has also changed, and we have as well.

So yeah. I still care. I am still a fan. But I think it’s important to remember, as always, that fandom is a FICTIONAL space, and that the people who engage in it are real, with all the hangups and changes of interest and needs and triggers and emotional reasons that go along with that, and we only interact with each other on a very limited basis through tumblr, which is obviously not face to face and where we curate the content we want to post/focus/present. It’s not objective, and it’s fun and amazing and collaborative, but it can also provide a somewhat limited perspective of who people are, what they’re doing, and why they decide to move on from something. So yeah, that’s where I am.

:)

I really cannot relate

To people who hate characters over their ships, who hold ships on a higher pedestal than the shows they came from,who hunger for representation in shows (I’m pretty happy being an unknown in a lot of stuff, I’ve already been accused of being in a cult before, I’d rather not drag that kind of discourse to light). Just guessed I might drop why most fandom arguments are really damn stupid to me.

I’m two things. First and foremost, I lack the ability to twist characters that don’t belong to me properly, which is why I mostly write oc stories usually in the first person because I would rather not try to get meta about a character I am not really intimate with. As a result I can only see canon, meaning I can only see what is present in canon. If someone has a new interesting perspective in fanfics, that’s cool! But I personally cannot form such. Why am I saying this? I usually tend to ship things that have canon evidence of romantic development. Stuff like naruhina(naruto ), atsukyou(bungou stray dogs ), kyoren(skip beat), daiyui(haikyuu ), etc. Two, I am a multi shipper. Even though I was a pretty huge Alimor (magi) shipper, when Hakuryu showed up and showed interest in Morgiana, rather than hate him, I also turned to a Hakmor. Heck I turned into an Alikou shipper soon after, so I was pretty fine with any of the ships happening (didn’t stop me from being disgusted with Hakmor shippers that Alimor’s canon development rushed. The boy proposed to her shortly after his crush was even showed, don’t give me bs). And as I final side note, I don’t shop /, for m or f.

So yeah, I have an affinity with ships with that tend to become canon, not to say I haven’t shipped doomed ships before. I was a Ichiruki shipper when I was pretty into Bleach, hearing the ship sunk upset me, but barely. I also ship Izanamie(DRRR!!), but that has more to do with my desire to see Namie make good on her desire to poison Izaya than anything. As for stuff I don’t ship, I simply don’t acknowledge them. Depending how much I like the characters, I will check out their fan work (e.g I follow a bunch of kacchako centric blogs and I like the fanart a lot, but I only really ship Izuocha in bnha). But if I dislike one or both characters I will not talk to people who like it about it, and I will not stalk the fan work. I will simply accept it’s liked and move on (I was pretty much forced to adopt this mindset when I realised / gets more fandom content than any of my ships). The only ship I actually do hate is shizaya, and that has more to do with the fandom spitting on both characters personalities to accommodate seme-uke dynamics more often than not (I also sense this annoying trope in klance from the voltron fandom, but I don’t care about the characters to be as offended ).

If I hate a character that happens to be in a love triangle, it will because the characters personality actually angers me and not because their a potential love interest. Case in point, Sakura from Naruto. I hate her less as the years go by, but her false declaration of love to Naruto is a sore spot for me, simply because she was leading him on and lying to him, not because I shipped naruhina. And as for the ships I like, I do like hearing why people dislike it, simply to aid me put down my shipping lens once in a while and see the flaws in the relationship.

This whole toxic shipper mentality is what makes me laugh whenever a member of the haikyuu fandom call itself nice, because I still haven’t forgotten the Michimiya Yui incident, and it will annoy me whenever I remember it. It’s also the reason I hope little witch academia has a no romance end and no 2nd season, I’m tired of seeing Andrew hate in his dash when he actually has a nice personality and it annoys me so much I want an oban star racers ending out of spite despite actually being ok with Diana (she’s on the spectrum of characters I don’t really care about, neither do I dislike).

I’ve never really gotten the big deal of ships in non -romancentric shows like voltron, because I’m more interested in finding out how and why two characters gotten a cow than which characters have the most romantic chemistry (though I do ship peith and plance, but that is @k-lion heart ’s fault more than anything ). I’ve also never gotten why people are so obsessed with things they hate. I can understand forming meta on your issues with it, but if you 1. Create a whole blog just for it. 2. Refuse to take constructive criticism against your point, I’ll find you impressively pathetic (this is especially for the anti-kacchako shipper I got into an argument with who insulted me when I tried to explain why I think people ship it and spat on all my points.)

And in not even going to get started on the disgusting social justice arguments made against ships or whole series by people who don’t remember that not every country is America, and not everyone thinks the way you do. It’s good to call out actual flaws with the story telling, but stuff like the killing stalking and voltron age discourse has aroused many a facepalm within me.

So yeah, I don’t understand fandoms at all. I don’t get the ship obsessed ones, the ones that feel that one character is entitled to something despite the feelings of the other party involved, the ones who give characters with dumpster personalities the draco in leather pants treatment, all of that stuff. I’m just going to sit back, drink a Coke and watch the while thing burn

don't ask dumb questions if you are not ready for the response

whoever talked over lana after not being pleased by her opinion is a fool, whenever that woman speaks (I don’t care what you ship) you shut up and listen. People at cons sometimes need to realize what appropriate questions are. I heard 90% of her panel was about ships…ewww? Like come on…is that all the show really is now? Lana has the BEST character on all of the show…and you guys sit here and speak of ships her character isn’t even connected to? Just asking Lana shit about C$ knowing that puts her in an uncomfortable position? That’s fucked up. Lana has done a lot for swen. Remember she’s given us a microphone when no one heard our voices and she’s spoken to us when no one else did. Don’t forget that. Also to take note she deadass explained what happened with Leanne because she SAW all of the tweets towards her and she made sure she clarified what Leanne misquoted. Be fucking grateful because at the end of the day she’s given a list of things she can and cannot say. And she’s said A LOT.

why I ship theon/robb

or: a sadomasochist exercise in sunday morning meta for the anon who left me some asoiaf questions here, sorry if it’s taking me ages to reply.

so, one of those questions was why theon/robb. beware for the wordvomit.

general premises first out of the way: they fit a good number of my tropes of choice (as in, I tend to ship best friends with very close relationships/character a who has a fairly unhealthy life and his only healthy-ish rship is with b a lot of the time, and I apparently like age gaps as well sooo, or at least half of the stuff I ship has an age gap I don’t do that consciously though) so like, it’s also fitting in some of the patterns I notoriously like.

but other than personal preferences (also sorry if I end up linking some meta I previously wrote but if I rehash everything it becomes extra long) there’s the part where this two doomed idiots have the most fucking beautiful and tragic relationship ever and it’s built in such an exquisitely cruel way I can’t even with them and they’re so important to each other even if they should have never been and guys listen I just - okay let’s just do the list.

  • instance one: these two idiots were best friends and they should have never been. by all logic theon should have hated robb just on account of being related to the person who is holding him hostage and the reason he’s been pretty much eradicated from his homeland. and robb should have disliked theon just on account of his heritage never mind that robb was probably discouraged from befriending him throughout his life and people didn’t understand why he actually hung out with theon. also in canon they have an age gap that might have been an issue, because I mean, four years are nothing when you’re both in your twenties but in between kids/teenagers they’re not a small gap, especially teenagers. instead they weren’t just friends, they were close enough that robb was more of a brother to theon than his real ones let’s just have that sink in for a moment. that’s also because robb was a westeros saint for the standards and didn’t look at surnames when judging people (and there goes my other theory, as in, he liked theon that much because theon was genuine just with him and theon at his genuine is the person who ends up saving jeyne poole when he has to take that decision, but I’m gonna shut up before I word-vomit for the next two years while I drown in my tears).
  • instance two: their storylines are a complete masterpiece of literary crafting, because not only they’re intertwined in the best and worst ways and everything is connected in the most tragic way, but they’re actually very well-placed foils. as, in if you look at it it’s just - we have theon who goes back home genuinely wanting his plan to succeed so that both robb and his family get what they want and they’re peers. at the same time he’s still riled up over robb being angry at him when he saved bran’s life, but that is one of the reasons robb brought up to cat to justify his decision - as in, theon can be trusted because he saved bran LIKE. then theon, in order to get the love/respect of his family (and no one except  his sister deserves his efforts tbh because his dad had already written him off the moment he was taken hostage) ends up betraying the only person who ever gave that to him without him needing to prove anything. but at the same time when he conquered winterfell he was like ‘well robb can be king in the trident who am I to take that from him’ (SERIOUSLY THEON DO YOU THINK YOU’D HAVE EXCHANGED FRUIT BASKETS) while robb didn’t go back home at once because even with the betrayal he thought theon could never harm his brothers. and theon faked it, technically, but that was what pushed robb to sleep with jeyne and therefore served tywin & co a pretext for the red wedding on a silver platter. this when no one else would have risked a war for the likes of a jeyne westerling… same as no one would have risked their life for the likes of a jeyne poole *cough*. meanwhile that entire stint ends up with theon getting tortured and robb dying and what does theon realize before doing the Right Thing and saving jeyne poole? yeah, that he should have been with robb. who died because of a jeyne no one cared about, while theon is currently living also because he saved a jeyne no one cared about. I honestly can’t handle that okay I mean it’s just so well put together and thought-out I can’t even. I just love it on both technical and feels-inducing plane.
  • instance three: even after all the betrayal they still cared about each other in frankly ridiculously tear-inducing ways - as in, there’s a part in asos where roose bolton gives robb news of what happened at winterfell (long before the piece of prince thing) and robb is completely distressed when asking what happened to theon (and roose noted that he looked upset, but not in the angry way), and later when roose gives him the piece of skin from theon’s finger robb is basically wanting to vomit in his face and tells him he doesn’t want theon tortured. meanwhile if you take care to notice, in the reek povs in adwd as I think @capitaineblackbird once noted, robb’s name shows up more than theon’s actual name and even when he’s supposed to be reek he thinks about robb more often than he thinks about his life pre-ramsay. 
  • instance four: the way acok theon pre-meeting his dad is just so fucking gone re robb makes me cry because I mean, first he goes like ‘well yeah I have a certain affection for him but I shouldn’t mention it’ and then proceeds to mention how much they’re friends and how awesome robb is to just about anyone. including his uncle and father. like he honestly can’t keep himself from doing it and if you compare it with the way robb defends his decision to send him to cat I just cry again and curse balon for being an unreasonable idiot who could have just made everyone happy by going with theon’s plan. yeaah.
  • instance five: guys robb is about the longest lasting healthy relationship that theon ever had with anyone because they knew each other ten year straight and it was the longest theon ever stayed in one place, and not counting his mom and partially his sister he didn’t have a healthy relationship with any of his relatives I honestly can’t with the knowledge that he had to throw it away for people who couldn’t give a damn, mostly.
  • every other instance: theon was on robb’s war council when most probably no one else in it thought it was a good idea (and they laughed about roose bolton together christ guys), theon was the one robb was with after knowing ned had died (GUYS MY FEELS), grey wind pretty much wanted to at least attempt to rip the throat out of everyone who was later involved in the red wedding but he never had that reaction to theon guess why, theon not only wishes he was with robb, he wishes he had… died with robb, and let’s just remember that robb died in the worst possible way anyone could. I mean, he doesn’t just want to talk things out, he wishes he had died in that massacre. robb spent pretty much two thirds of his life since he was five being friends with him because he liked him that much when everyone else didn’t understand what he saw in the guy and wouldn’t go back to take his castle even after the first betrayal because that was how much he was sure it was supposed to be a misundestanding.
  • then I have to live with the knowledge that robb never actually knew that theon never technically harmed his brothers or destroyed his home. grrm is fucking cruel guys. and theon has to live with the knowledge that they can never straighten things out, which isn’t that much better at this point.

the above reasons are enough to send me into throbb hell but honestly I’m complete trash for this kind of relationship and I’m complete trash for how much they cared for each other whichever way you want to look at it and again, robb was probably the one person who really knew theon beyond his coping methods/the image he fronted to everyone else and guys, I just really love this ship okay.

also it’s about the one thing about both characters they got right in the show, except for the entire part where they didn’t understand their storylines were foils and so they completely missed that train, but that’s another story altogether I guess. DDD:

anonymous asked:

Deamuussssss "Okay, am I drunk or did you really just say that?"

137. “Okay, am I drunk or did you really just say that?”

“Okay, next round’s on me.”

“Nonsense. We’re celebrating your and Harry’s engagement. The bride-to-be does not pay for drinks.”

“Fine, then everyone give me their money. I’m at least still fetching them.”

There was shuffling around the booth as everyone reached into their pockets for money, and after collecting the coins and everyones drink orders, Ginny went up to the bar.

“She’s a good blade, our Ginny,” Seamus said, draining the last of his pint.

“Yeah, she’s the best,” Harry replied dreamily, resting his chin on his arms as he looked over to where Ginny was trying to get the attention of the bartender.

“Yeh know, it’s a real good thing yeh called dibs on her,” Seamus continued, his words slurring slightly. “Otherwise I might be tryin’ teh marry her.”

At this, Dean snorted. “Okay, am I drunk or did you really just say that?”

“What?” replied Seamus, turning to his boyfriend and looking offended.

“You realize Ginny is a girl right?” Dean said, his voice amused. “And you’re bent as–”

“–a nine bob note, yeah yeah,” Seamus finished. “Listen, love can overcome all sorts of obstacles.”

“Is that right?”

“Just because yeh missed yehr shot with Ginny doesn’t mean there’s no hope for me.”

“You better consider yourself lucky I missed my shot with Ginny. Otherwise I wouldn’t have settled for your arse.”

Seamus grinned. “Yeah, that’s true.” He leaned over and gave Dean a kiss on the lips.

“Are you two done talking about stealing away my girlfriend?” Harry interjected. Dean broke away from Seamus.

“She’s your fiancée, mate. You better get used to saying it.”

“Hey, he’s got time,” Ron chimed in. Then, raising his voice so he could be heard across the room. “Oi, Gin! You gonna come back with those drinks before we have beards like Dumbledore?”

Ginny weaved her way through the crowd, levitating the drinks in front of her with her wand. “Careful, Ronald. Or these are going on your head.”

Despite her threat, Ginny simply lowered the drinks down on the table and everyone grabbed their orders.

“Speaking of beards,” said Neville casually, taking a sip of his Firewhisky, “would you like to hear about how Seamus wants you to be his?”

PUBLICLY SHIPPING TWO ACTORS WHO ARE NOT DATING IS NOT OKAY.

Let me repeat. Publicly shipping two actors who are not dating is not okay.

I’ve made posts about this before, but I’m seeing it now in the Skam fandom between Tarjei and Henrik, and so I feel the need to talk about this again. You have opinions. You have feelings. You have ships you don’t always mean to have. I get it, and so I cannot tell you not to think Tarjei and Henrik are cute (but also remember Tarjei is 17 so please rethink that one just a little…)

But if you ship any two actors, the respectful and right thing to do is to KEEP IT TO YOURSELF. You can ship them privately, in your head, but as soon as you start sharing those opinions online, it becomes a problem. It may seem innocent to post edits or fics or whatever about to actors on your blog, but it’s bigger than that. Maybe the individual post doesn’t get more than a few notes, but your followers now start thinking about those two actors as more than friends. Maybe one of them starts sharing that ship on their blog too. It spreads. And eventually, it will spread to the actors. Guess what? They don’t want to be shipped with their co-workers.

Because I am in many mlm fandoms, I know this is a huge problem between male actors playing same sex couples. However, this applies to all actors, regardless of gender or sexuality. It is disrespectful to publicly ship actors. You love them so much? Love them by giving them the decent respect a human being deserves. Don’t make them uncomfortable.

“I have the right to do what I want and say what I want.”

You’re absolutely right. You do. Are you saying you choose to hurt others with your freedom? Just because you can ship two actors doesn’t mean you have to.

“Actors know what they sign up for when they get the role.”

Unfortunately, I’m sure a lot of actors do recognize that this bullshit comes with the territory. That doesn’t mean they are okay with it, and that certainly doesn’t mean that they have to put up with it. Just because they know it happens doesn’t mean it has to happen. Actors understanding it occurs doesn’t give you a free pass to make them uncomfortable. Besides, no one can truly prepare themselves for that kind of behavior from fans, no matter how much they try. Anticipating it and experiencing it are two very different things. Also, actors in other countries, like Norway, do not expect this sort of behavior, because there are laws in those countries about privacy for the actors. Not to mention that the people of those countries understand what respecting these actors means and do what they can to not to make them uncomfortable. 

“The actors don’t care. Until they tell us to stop, we don’t have to.”

Unless it gets absolutely unacceptable, actors aren’t going to stand up and tell their fans that they are being bad fans. Why? Because they don’t want to hurt you. And they don’t want to lose you. Just because they aren’t make big, loud, and public statements telling fans to quit their shit doesn’t mean they don’t want you to quit your shit. Actors have asked fans to stop shipping them, and that both didn’t stop fans and sometimes made fans act out angrily. Not every actor should have to go through that for you to understand that actors as a whole want more respect. But do you actually need someone to beg you to stop before you will quit your bad behavior? Seriously?

“You’re just being homophobic.”

(More specific to same sex couples here) Don’t use the LGBT community as a safety blanket for your wrongdoings. If say, hypothetically, Henrik and Tarjei did start dating (and just to stress again that this is hypothetic), I’d support them until the day I die. But they are not dating, and they have not shown any sort of hint at wanting to date. Therefore, urging them to date is not okay. LGBT or not, forcing that relationship, or even the idea of that relationship, is selfish. Don’t. Do. It. And also, when two actors have stated that they are not attracted to their same gender or when they are in a relationship with anyone of any gender, it is not okay to disregard that. I have talked about them before in regards to this issue before, but Matthew Daddario has a long-time girlfriend and Harry Shum Jr. has a wife. They will not date each other, and not being able to mentally separate Magnus and Alec from Matt and Harry is a problem you should fix, not feed into.

I know that it all seems innocent. I know that it all seems private on your blog. I know that it all seems insignificant in the grand scheme of things. But if you can do this one small thing for the actors you claim to love and support, why won’t you do it? You’re probably feeling defensive right now. You want to go into the tags and reblog all about these ships you have because someone on the internet is telling you that you’re wrong. You’re angry. But please, I am begging you, because I too love these actors, think about it from their perspective. Think about how it would feel to have someone make edits and write fics about you with someone you are not attracted to, someone you work with, and someone you respect. Actors are friends. They should be able to hang out together, not just work together, without fans reading too far into it and making them uncomfortable. 

You’re not a bad person, but you are doing something bad. The bright side? You can stop. You don’t have to keep publicly shipping those actors again. You don’t have to keep posting edits and fics on your blog. You don’t have to keep commenting on their social medias about them dating. There are so many wonderful, acceptable ships out there between fictional characters, or even actors who are dating (but again be careful and respectful, because they are still real people). 

Please respect these wonderful people who are working so hard to entertain you. They love you. Now it’s your turn to love them.


Also note: while I referred to actors in this post, this refers to anyone in the spotlight (or really anyone in general). Actors, singers, and more. Respect everyone, please.

lifeisinthegrays  asked:

Ok can you explain where the whole "bencutio" ship comes from? Because I don't see it maybe just cause I am not looking in the right areas. Idk but I would genuinely like to understand it.

this took me half an hour i am so sory

so the way i see it, the concept of benvolio x mercutio is one of the more difficult ships to defend in R&J. still love it to bits, but it’s not as obvious as romercutio, or even tycutio if you wanted to go that route. when i’ve seen productions of R&J where i’ve strongly picked up on bencutio, it’s usually down to actors’/directors’ choices on how to play the two characters.

benvolio and mercutio are foils to each other; both care deeply about romeo, but while benvolio is the peacekeeper and tries to come up with rational solutions for problems, mercutio is in the background waxing poetic about his dreams or making dick jokes. (i’m simplifying here, but you get my point.) mercutio is a character that’s often interpreted as queer, and is a character known for his banter about sex and sexuality, as well as flirting with nearly everyone that walks onstage. he is constantly talking about sex, and how he had a dream about sex, and how romeo’s not having any sex, and wants to be having sex, and should be having sex, or talking about how sexually attractive/not sexually attractive other characters are. the man has zero chill, tbh.

so to get back to bencutio: in many productions i’ve seen, in scenes where mercutio has a lot of sexually-driven dialogue, while he’s joking around with romeo, it’s half-directed at benvolio. i’ve seen it range from benvolio rolling his (or in one case, her) eyes every time mercutio makes an innuendo toward him, to the two men making out in the woods in 2.1 after romeo scales the wall to go find juliet. also, in 3.1 when mercutio is killed, benvolio’s reaction can range as well, i’ve seen it done from what you’d typically expect from a grieving friend to benvolio sobbing, him holding mercutio’s body as he dies (as opposed to romeo). really, it’s an artistic choice to play them up as a couple, but it adds to their character dynamics, and it’s fun to include a queer couple, because why not??

other folks, please feel free to throw in your own ideas/opinions!!

(extra note about mercutio, queerness, and dick jokes: in 2.4, when the nurse says, “i am none of [mercutio’s] flirt-gills; i am none of his skains-mates,” “flirt-gills” is slang for “loose/easy” women. “skains-mates,” which has literally never been used outside of shakespeare, is typically interpreted as meaning rascals/troublemakers. however, skains also meant daggers, which is directly related to pricks. pricks. mercutio’s prick-mates?? this is just me, the amateur shakespeare fan, doing some hardcore analysis of the text, but you tell me what mercutio’s “prick-mates” sounds like to you.)

anonymous asked:

Why do you ship Cress and Thorne in a sexual relationship? Cress is literally 16 and Thorne is 20 years old. That is an inappropriate relationship right there and making it sexual makes it worse. I'm not hating on you and saying you have to stop shipping cresswell, but you shipping two people with a big age difference (one being a minor) in a sexual relationship pretty much says you're ok with statutory rape (and don't even SAY their age doesn't matter to you bc it's still gross)

Okay. First of all, I don’t ship Cress and Thorne in a “sexual relationship.” I ship Cress and Thorne. That’s it. If you’re referring to this post, then you will see that while I do ship them and I do think sex is inevitable and nothing to be scared or ashamed of, I headcanon that it is important to Thorne that Cress is at least 18 (not a minor) because it is important to me

Secondly, I really don’t have a problem with a four year age gap as stated in this post. Because when Cress is 18 and Thorne is 22, I do not care. Reminder, Scarlet is 18 and Wolf is 23 and I don’t have a single problem with that. (And please don’t try to throw the whole but Scarlet isn’t a minor thing at me because Wolf was basically raised with no life skills and also professed his undying love to the first person of the opposite sex who spoke to him. No judgement, because I also love Wolflet).

In the year 2017 in the United States of America, is it technically statutory rape if Cress and Thorne were dating? Yes. Do they live in the year 2017 in the United States of America? No. So why don’t I have a problem with it? Because they aren’t real people. They are fictional characters in a fictional story about a crazy lady on the moon. 

I honestly think the argument of Thorne being four years older than Cress while she is still a minor is an old and tired argument for the mere fact that while I know something like that is supposed to be frown upon, again, they aren’t real people

Why do I ship Cresswell? Because Cress makes Thorne want to be a better person. She makes him see that he’s capable of great things and shows him that he is actually a kind and compassionate person. Thorne is a better person because of Cress. In return, Thorne shows Cress that she is actually really brave and strong – that she’s capable beyond her small frame and physical limitations. He has always looked out for her and made her feel safe and never has he taken advantage of her. I honestly don’t think that Cress being in a relationship with another 16 year old automatically means that that relationship would be more “healthy” than Cresswell. 

One of my favorite lines of the series is at the end of Winter when Cinder is speaking to the Earthen leaders and they are trying to talk down to her about Lunar immigration. She replies with, “So while I’m not going to tell you that I am the smartest or, by any means, the most experienced person in this room, I would suggest that no one use my youth to believe that I am also ignorant.” 

I think more aptly, no one should look at these basic facts and make conclusions about anyone’s character. One of the themes of the series is that people are more than their labels or what society thinks of them. While Cress is inexperienced, she is not naive. While Thorne has been shown to take anything and everything he wants, he’s only ever shown as giving to Cress. 

Furthermore, I’m sorry, but you’re not going to change my mind about Cresswell. I love them for the reasons stated above and many, may more. You’re not going to change my mind. And you, anon, obviously don’t like Cresswell for your reasons and I’m not going to change your mind. So why don’t we just agree to ship who we ship and let other people ship who they ship. I honestly don’t think me shipping Cresswell hurts you in any way. 


***Note: If it’s unclear to anyone else, I’m not up for further discussion on this because you’re not going to change my mind. I honestly think people should let others ship who they ship. 

My life so far:
  • Pre-Yugioh Era: what is this dumb card game show with the stupid hair. smh pokemon is better.
  • Abridged Era: sCREW THE RULES I have LEAHTR PANTS my voice gives me suPER BROOKLYN RAGE!! CARD GAMES ON MOTORCYCLES!!!
  • Yugioh Era: This show is actually very deep and has amazing characters and storylines. The Abridged Series did so much to generate interest and introduce people to the anime, but the heart of Yugioh really is in the characters and their development. But I don't actually care enough about the dueling to watch the show in full so I'm going to rewatch the same few episodes with my favorite characters, bury myself in fanfiction, and cry about Thiefshipping every night. RIP me.
  • Post-Yugioh Era: yknow I would actually love to be into something that DOESN'T have a dub that makes me want to claw my ears out or a fanbase that barely takes it seriously. maybe something nice and live action. this anime stuff is getting a little old.
  • Pre-Pre-Neo-Yugioh Era: yknow actually i was wrong, this anime stuff is my life. i'm never leaving you again, my sweet weeb trash.
  • Pre-Neo-Yugioh Era: wow i sure did like that yugioh anime, didn't i. hahaa. it sure would be funny if.....my friend roped me in again....
  • Neo-Yugioh Era (Present): IT'S TIME TO D-D-D-D-D-DROWN IN MY OWN TEARS. I'M HOME. EVERY NOTE OF KAWAITA SAKEBI BRINGS ME BACK TO YEARS OF FANDOM NOSTALGIA. I'M FINALLY WATCHING AND READING DUEL MONSTERS IN FULL. I LOVE EVERY CHARACTER SO MUCH WHY DID I EVER LEAVE YOU. I SHIP EVERYTHING AND I WILL TELL U EXACTLY WHY. THIS STORY IS AMAZING I'M STILL NOTICING INTRICACIES IN THE INTERACTIONS AND HOLY CRAP DID YOU SEE THAT PLOT TWIST?? I MEAN I'M BEEN IN THIS FANDOM FOR YEARS AND I NEVER SAW SEASON 5'S TWIST COMNIG THIS SHOW IS EVEN BETTER THAN I REMEMBER I STILL LOVE THE ABRIDGED AND I WILL QUOTE MY FAVORITE VIDEOS WITH TASTEFUL DISCRETION. I'M RESEARCHING YAMI WIGS AS I SPEAK. I AM COMMUTING TO WORK IN MY BLUE EYES WHITE DRAGON JET. I AM