i don't believe the things i say

american-oddysey  asked:

hh personally i think people should draw what they wanna draw without worry of people saying it's out of character. they're just having fun and as long as theyre not actually hurting anyone while doing so, it should be fine. usually people in fandoms are just kids and they're just doing what makes them happy :0

Hm, while personally I agree people should be able to draw things as long as they aren’t hurting others, I don’t believe things should be free of criticism where you must blindly accept things. If people can make practically what they want, people should also be able to freely criticize it as well. Fandom is a space for everyone. You’re going to come across people saying that what you’re doing is out of character, and while that sucks you’ll have to blacklist or block, or figure out another solution. If you can’t participate in fandom without letting other’s opinions of the content you make [and not who you are], then I don’t think fandom is for you.

anonymous asked:

Hi Alice, odd question but: Do you believe asexuals belong in the LGBT community? I have a friend who identifies this way, but as a trans girl, I'm struggling to understand how she has to go through the same things as an LGBT person by being asexual. And struggle aside, I don't even see how asexuality is THAT different from heterosexuality, just with more... hesitation!? Maybe this sounds rude, but I know you've written about asexual people etc, and I wondered what you thought. No shade intended

Hi there. I’m glad you reached out to me about this because you must have really upset your friend by saying stuff like this to them.

It’s easy to see why not only cishet people, but also LGBT+ people, think that asexuality is fake. The world is awash with sex and sexual attraction. It’s everywhere. And everyone is supposed to want it and feel it. It’s so extremely normalised that the idea that someone could be literally UNABLE to feel sexual attraction is, to many people, absolutely bizarre and a joke.

Even if you acknowledge that asexuality is real, it’s also easy to see why you would be so quick to reject and get angry at asexual people who call themselves LGBT+. Because asexual people are not like you, are they. Unless they are trans, asexuals don’t have gender troubles, and unless they experience same-gender romantic attraction, asexuals don’t experience same-gender attraction! Lesbian, bi, gay etc people can all be joined together in their experience of same gender attraction, and all trans folks, binary and non binary, can be joined together in their experience of feeing a disconnect from their assigned birth gender.

The result? No one wants asexuals near them. People can’t relate. No one else feels the way asexuals do and people don’t think they should be part of the group. They’re not the same as you.

But oh god, they are not allowed in the cishet club either.

The first thing you need to try and unlearn is that asexuality is in any way similar to heterosexuality. It’s not. It’s so, so fucking not. It’s painful how different it feels to be asexual compared to being heterosexual. Telling an ace person that asexuality isn’t ‘THAT different from heterosexuality’ is about as accurate as saying being gay isn’t ‘THAT different from heterosexuality’. Being asexual means you do not experience sexual attraction, ever. EVER. And while that might seem easy to you, it’s an extremely painful and terrifying thing to learn about yourself, in a world where everyone is expected to have an array of sexual experiences, fall in love, get married, and anyone who doesn’t do that is strange and a freak.

Learning you are asexual can be terrifying. When you realise you’ve never had a crush, when all your friends have had ten each, you are terrified. When you pass the age where people have started dating and having sex and you still feel nothing - NOTHING - you are terrified. When you think about ever falling in love and the idea disgusts you, or you think about falling in love and you crave it, god you CRAVE it, but you know you can’t ever feel that, you are terrified. When you realise you will never be able to enjoy a normal romantic/sexual relationship, the ones full of passion like you see in the movies, and people will reject you because you can’t fancy them in that way, and there’s a higher chance for you than anyone else that you will simply die alone, without love, without children - you are terrified.

You think being ace is the same as heterosexuality? You think it’s an easy thing to learn about yourself? Explain the terror, then. I’m all ears.

The fact you see asexuality as 'hesitation’ is really horrifying to me. Asexuals aren’t attracted to the opposite gender but 'hesitant’ to act on it. Asexuals DO NOT feel attraction. To anyone. It’s not a choice. It’s not a way of life. It’s not the same as celibacy out of choice, or being a 'prude’, or waiting till marriage. It is ingrained in you, just like being gay is, just like being trans is. It is a part of you that no matter how hard you try to will it away, no matter how hard you try to persuade yourself otherwise, you cannot help it. You DO NOT feel attracted to ANYONE.

And in saying all this, I fully acknowledge that asexuals do not experience the extent of oppression that other LGBT+ folks do. There are no laws regarding asexuality. Lesbian, gay, bi, trans, and other LGBT+ folks no doubt experience a higher level and intensity of systematic oppression to asexuals, more frequently go through hard experiences due to their orientation or gender. But since when did being LGBT+ become a competition for 'who’s the most oppressed’? Is that what LGBT+ is? You’re only allowed in the club if you’re 'oppressed enough’? If you’re 'gay enough’? If you’re 'trans enough’?

If you need persuading that asexuals do experience their own form of oppression, though, consider the number of asexuals who are coerced into sex in order to 'fix’ them. Consider the emotional pain that I have already discussed, of feeling that there is something fundamentally wrong and gross about you because you feel attracted to no one. Consider the number of asexuals who are hounded or emotionally abused by their families for failing to find partners. Consider the number of asexuals who force themselves to have sexual experiences, because it is the norm, because they don’t even know what asexuality is, because THEY think that they are just 'hesitant’, despite finding sex disgusting and feeling no desire to do it. Do you really think asexuals are just running around, free and happy and content in who they are? They aren’t. I’m not.

So go ahead. Cast aside asexuals if you want. Call them attention-seeking, call them special snowflakes. Ignore the pain they feel. Make them go through it alone, in pain, terrified of what they are. Why on earth would the LGBT+ community be a place to support people like that!?

Messages like the one you have just sent me gives me further reason to never talk about that part of myself. To just sit and cry about it at home day after day because I do not like myself. Because I feel that nobody will accept me or understand who I am. I could list the number of things people have said to me to discredit and laugh at this part of myself, but it’s people like you who make me embarrassed to talk about it, too scared to own a label and talk about it freely and openly.

I thought, going into this, that the LGBT+ community was one of total respect, understanding, and empathy. I learnt pretty quickly that it is not.

I send love to your asexual friend. I really, really do.

Disclaimer: I am very aware of the nuances of asexuality, of the differences between romantic/aesthetic/sexual attraction, but sadly it seems that many people can’t even grasp the basic concept of asexuality, so I don’t quite think they’re ready for that yet.

The hardest thing is when you don’t want to, but you have to. It’s like you have to break your own heart. Like you have to take away your own happiness. It’s doing the worst thing that could ever happen to yourself, because you have to. So believe me when I say, I never wanted to leave you.
—  P.G.G ; jxd

I am intelligent
I am funny
I am strong
I am kind
I am thoughtful
I am a hard worker
I am responsible
I am enough
I am enough
I am enough

one of the reasons mental illness sucks so fucking much is because people around you can literally tell you again and again that they love you, that they think you’re cool and funny, that they support you in every way, that you’re talented or intelligent, and no matter how many times they say it you’ll always cringe and shake your head and say “no, no i’m not, really” but the SECOND someone says one bad thing about you, even just once. You believe it completely. 

t06k  asked:

The problem isn't that you've offended people, it's that you refuse to stop. People have asked you to stop, and instead of stopping you say "It's just a joke, chill." Because you're famous now, you can't talk like you do at home or in public cause no one here knows you. So, even if you don't mean it, apologize and watch your words. People take things from famous people way too seriously for no reason, but it's a problem they need to deal with.

1- I aint famous fam. I’m just some kid with a cringe series going on on youtube.

2- I aint watching my words because I believe my dialect is fine. I only know a couple words you can use to call a person names and that sounded like my best choice

3- there are people like pewds, markiplier, jack that swear on a daily basis on their videos. And they swear like a sailor, which I find hilarious as freak. And no one is cruficying them for doing it so. And they ARE, indeed, famous.

4- with “u wont stop!!” What do you mean? I only used the word O N C E on tumblr and then refered to it as R word as I was answering people. If defending myself or try to sort out the issue is “not stoping” then… dude… you’re not understanding.

5- I got nothing to apologise for? I ised the word once under a justified circumstance that I don’t regret, for is being used in the right context under no harm. Also if you mean by the other answers people that follow me know I love sarcasm and answer some questions with bit of salt for the humor.

Yeh….


Time to reblog that clip again…

Is no one going to talk about the scene at the end of Beauty and The Beast (2017) where everyone is turning into “antiques”? It starts with Lumiere crying over Plumettes motionless body & I’M SHOOK! GARDEROBE & CADENZA REACH FOR EACH OTHER FOR THE FIRST TIME IN FOREVER & THEN THEY SLOWLY FADE AWAY. & Then Mrs. Potts is looking for Chip & then she freezes & Chip almost crashes to the ground?!?!?! MY SOUL LEFT MY DAMN BODY!! And then Cogsworth says to Lumiere “It’s been an honor serving with you my friend?” WHAT THE HELL?!?! THAT WAS TRAUMATIZING!! DISNEY WHY DO YOU DO THESE THINGS WITH MY HEART; I FELT MY CHILDHOOD DIE!!

Can we please just remember that literally the first thing Raphael did after he became a vampire was kill the vampire who had Turned him. He went looking for that vampire in order to protect his family and the fact that the vampire killed him still didn’t stop him.

He put himself through unimaginable agony in order to be able to say the word God, to hold a cross, to walk across consecrated ground, just so he could go home to his mother and not have her reject him.

He believed he was damned and never gave up on his faith.

He made extremely difficult decisions in order to stand by what he believed was right in both the books and the show.

Raphael is calculating and cold, but he’s also loyal and caring. He’s both. Let him be both.

Raphael Santiago is so strong.

WAIT

There was a post circulating a couple of days ago about Jared feeling guilty about the last words he says to Connor.

In the show, sincerely me reprise happens over skype. He says he’s going to hang out with his “real friends” but there’s an extreme lack of his friends being mentioned.

What if after Evan nixed the insanely cool Jared kleinman email, he finished it anyway and saved it. Not for them to use but so that he felt a little less guilty because this is him wanting to be friends with Connor. Wishing he were.

Not saying that the kid never did anything wrong, people do a lot of things to cope when their parents don’t believe them about their mental illnesses. They hide behind drugs or music…

Or mean words.

Just imagine Jared singing

“All that it takes is a little re-in-vention.

It’s easy to change cause I gave it my a-tten-tion.

What I wish I did, was make him believe he could be who he wanted to be.

Sincerely,

miss you dearly.

Sincerely Me.”

And closes the laptop and walks offstage.

  • Jaal: I'd like to meet your sister sometime.
  • Vetra: You're gonna regret it. She's a pain.
  • Jaal: Why do you say things like that? I don't think you believe them.
  • Vetra: I... I do say things like that don't I? I don't know why. It's almost like a reflex.
  • Jaal: Hmm. It's like you're embarrassed that you care. You feel vulnerable. Exposed.
  • Vetra: Hm. There might be some truth to that.
  • Jaal: Caring does not make you weak. I admire that you care for Sid.
  • Vetra: You're right. Thanks Jaal.

anonymous asked:

so i just learned that fun is apparently a noun and sometimes it can even by used as a verb????? For example: "Don't be sore- I was only funning"????? like it even has that red squiggly line under it but google says its a real thing?? I just don't know what to believe anymore.

wtf??

isaiahjonesfurryartist  asked:

So are all the kids non-binary? If so, why? I really don't understand the whole non-binary thing and i'd really like if you elaborated more on the subject. Cause I believe we are all either a girl or a boy, you can identify as either or, but in the end there's so escaping you were once male or female. But that's just my opinion, I am NOT trying to offend anyone, I'm just genuinely curious and would like to hear your viewpoint on this.

Not all the kids are nonbinary. Just some. It isn’t an uncommon thing for monsters in particular. I mean… can you honestly say that something like The Bleb ever had a biological sex? They’re literally made of jelly. They are a lump of jelly with a face. Regardless of how you feel, you have to at least admit that a jelly-person shouldn’t have to conform to the gender binary if they don’t want to.

The whole issue of gender and sex is complicated and I’ve spoken at length on it in the past. Long story short… Gender isn’t the same as sex. Sex is your crotch junk. Gender is your heart junk. And isn’t it more important what’s in your heart than what’s between your legs?

-TQ

Dear White People

yes, I’m talking to myself too

I had to block and report a neo-Nazi today. Multiple times. And my friend took it sarcastically because he’s gotten used to hearing stuff like that.

Let me say that again.

He’s gotten used to hearing racism, hatred, and microaggressions.

That is inot okay on any level, but I’m not naive enough to believe racism is “a thing of the past” in this country.

SO! To those of you who want to be Good Friends and Good Allies here’s some things I was reminding myself of:

1. Listen. LISTEN listen Listen to people when they say they’ve been hurt or treated poorly or are uncomfortable. Listen and then ask if there’s any way you can help.

2. Be a good friend: rejoice with each other’s victories and grieve with losses and get righteously angry when people say and do awful hurtful things to others.

3. Don’t talk over people’s experiences, but use what privilege you may have to amplify what needs to be heard, seen, recognized.

4. If you see someone being hateful, a bigot, then shut that crap down. Insults don’t usually work though, heads up. (Side note, every once in a while microaggressions can come from people who have not been taught better. See if you can help them become a better Ally!)

5. Culture is SO important, and when it’s shared it can be a beautiful thing. Keep in mind that every culture is different, there are different social rules. So far my rule of thumb is ask if something is okay and if it’s offensive you apologize and now you know better.

These aren’t rules or anything, it’s what I’m working through because I want to be a better Ally to my friends, neighbors, and the friends and family I haven’t met yet. If I missed anything or you have concerns about the way I worded something, please let me know!

anonymous asked:

My great grandpa said "dog used to be healthier when I was a kid my neighbors had a German Shepard I remember what he looked like but when I see the current Shepard I don't even recognize them they've changed so much and not for the better you know Nancy right nice lady walks her dog by every day poor things a mess says she's a German Shepard but I can't believe it It sure doesn't look like one at least not a healthy one Nancy's always running to the vet" has the breed changed since the 1920s?

This is a very famous German Shepherd from the 1920′s called Rin Tin Tin.

And this is a typical example of one of the many ‘champion’ german shepherds from a google image search.

(Source)

A picture is worth a thousand words, so these are presented without further comment.

This is in reference to THIS POST with more detail.

anonymous asked:

Is it just my impression or since all the BS surrounding Sam&Cait started, you've realised Sam is not so perfect and started appreciating Cait even more? I mean as if all this BS has made you see a side of Sam you don't like while confirming your positive thoughts about Cait. Again, maybe it's just my impression

They are both ad perfect as any human can be. I will always be a Sampologist because I feel like people are too hard on him when we don’t know the whole situation.

I am more vocal in my love for Cait now because I have seen and heard many negative things said about her. I have heard reports of fans saying things when she is right there. I feel bad that she may believe that she is held in lower regard than Sam. And, I feel like she is trying to put herself out there in the fandom a little more, and that can be scary, and I love her bravery.

Basically I want to always love and support them for the gorgeous, generous, talented, flawed human beings that they are.

anonymous asked:

I don't know why you you can't just enjoy your own ships and let others enjoy theirs in peace. I guess *most* ewruris just love being shit stirrers :).

Tea time for anon. Prompt: salty mother fucker


“Can you believe this?” Levi says. His feet are propped up on Erwin’s legs, a magazine opened in his lap.

Erwin does nothing else but hum. Levi tends to find a lot of things unbelievable, like houses with more than three bedrooms, life on other planets, and kale. Levi kicks his legs, demands him to answer him, and that’s when Erwin groans out, dropping his e-reader to rest on Levi’s knee. “What’s so unbelievable, darling?”

“This article is asking when I’ll be paired up with Eren in ‘Advancing Titans’.” Levi stares at him, face blank, dead eyes and quite, well, unbelieving.

“What?” Erwin offers him a side glance, and he’ll admit, he can’t believe it either.

“Yeah, listen to this,” he clears his throat, “'The relationship between Levi and Eren is so believable on screen, the fans have been waiting all season to see if the writers will be brave enough to take things a step further.’” His hand tightens around the magazine, glares up at Erwin, then continues reading. “'We ourselves enjoyed the scene where Levi gave Eren a bit of “tough love” in front of everybody in court.’“

“Oh my god.” Erwin mutters. He can’t feign the eye roll on his voice.

“Do these guys understand characterization at all?”

“I suppose not.”

“Oh my god… No! It goes on!”

“Levi.”

“'And we are looking forward to the scene next season when Levi offers Eren a handkerchief when he has a bloody–’”

“It doesn’t matter.”

“It’s gross…”

“It’s part of being a celebrity, darling.”

“Yeah but…”

Erwin smiles at him, squeezes Levi’s knee and leans over and places a soft kiss on Levi’s lips. “Everything is all right, because at least we’re canon.”

Levi presses his forehead to Erwin’s, nods shallowly as he returns a minute smile. “Yeah.”