I think Sansa and Arya's relationship with children is very interesting. Sansa wants to have kids and Arya's stereotyped as the type who doesn't, yet it's Arya who names the babies and plays with the children of Winterfell. Also, I think the contrast between Arya's relationship with Weasel vs. Sansa's with Sweetrobin is interesting.
definitely. the first point is something i never really compared before. but yeah. its arya who plays with the babies in winterfell and invents names for them. which is something you’d see a little girl playing mommy to do. but theres no mention of sansa doing anything like that before the vale where shes forced into the role. i guess she didnt want to associate with lowborn babies lol.
the weasel and sweetrobin contrast i have thought about before. because theres a lot there imo. arya take this surrogate mother role on a lot earlier than sansa. but i think both relationships start off very similar. arya and sansa are both dealing with their own shit and they dont want to be responsible for these kids with a lot of respective issues. but when arya saves weasel from the battle (when *all the men left them behind) her opinion really changes. weasel is no longer a nuisance she becomes someone arya genuinely cares about. she truly empathizes with this toddler imo. theres no ulterior motive. arya chooses weasel as her first alias and even remembers her in the hob&w. thats some really significant stuff.
sansa’s relationship with sweetrobin is not as simple. she feels sympathy for him but she’s not against using and manipulating him. sweetrobin is a pawn for sansa tbh. her survival is her main priority. which isn’t necessarily condemnable. but its not really commendable either lol. and she is going to be complicit, to a degree, in his murder. this subverts the gentle mother theme. sweetrobin views sansa as his mother but she will make no moves to protect him. which is not motherly at all
it comes down to their personalities. the fandom expects sansa to have babies and for arya to shun motherhood bc of stereotypes and first impressions. but honestly? i think arya has more characteristics i associate with motherhood than sansa. arya is fiercely protective, extremely loyal, and deeply loving. she values her pack, her family, above all else. she’s also associated with a lot of things connected to motherhood/life like wolves and the moon and water. none of which is to say sansa wont have babies or would be a bad mother. but i do think she cares more about the idealized version of her happily ever after than anything else. and i think that grrm is going to flip the script with what one would expect with the two of them here.