I feel like many of the Spike fans understand his mentality and why he acted the way he did towards Buffy in season 5&6. Spike was a demon for hundreds of years. He didn’t know right from wrong. He was in love with Drusilla a sick, crazy, disgusting love. They tortured together, loved and hated together. So when he started to love Buffy he fell back into that routine thinking that behavior was fine and that’s how to show love. The attempted rape was his wake-up call. I often wonder if people realize that or just to choose to ignore it.