i deserve nothing but bad things because of this

  • me: ugh, something really crappy has happened, I kind of want to talk to someone about i--
  • bpd: if you mention this to anyone you're being attention-seeking and manipulative by trying to act like you have problems when you DON'T. you are a horrible person, and anyway if you DID have problems, you would deserve them because you deserve nothing but bad things, so SUFFER IN SILENCE.
  • me: ....fuck you're right

A post about the show 13 reasons why and why I don’t like Hannah Baker.

By the end of the first episode I really didn’t like Hannah. This didn’t change, not even when I felt emphaty. I’m really sorry if I’m one of the bad guys, I’m really sorry if I end up offending someone. But, remember, I’m a flawed person too. A person who needs to write her thoughts now.

The tapes: for me, revenge. As I see it, the tapes were Hannah’s way to get revenge on everyone who hurt her. They were not about explaining, making people understand, showing how people change. No, they were about payback and haunting. And if you want to tell me otherwise, I’m all ears. People told me she wanted to leave an explanation. She didn’t. Because the ones who deserved the explanation more than anyone were her parents, yes, the ones who were broken in a million pieces after her death. In fact, I cannot forgive Hannah Baker for killing part of her parents when she died in that bathtub.

Justin: we learn how Justin started everything, everything that lead her to her death. Yeah. But we also see how messed up his life was. The reason for him to act like an idiot. I grew fond of Justin. I understood him in some ways. I cannot defend him, I cannot say it was OK, none of it was. He did terrible things but in the end… He was so troubled I don’t think he could distinguish between right and wrong at any point. I feel weird cause, after all he did to Hannah and Jess, I have the strange emphaty towards him. Maybe I’m like him in some way, maybe I’m the kind who allows things to happen.

Jess: Jess was wrecked by the tapes. She went through hell. And maybe she wasn’t a good friend. But neither was Hannah. Telling everyone how Jess got raped and couldn’t even remember it was not fair at all. Saying Jess destroyed the friendship by herself was low. And I’ll defend Jess, yeah, cause no one did, cause Hannah pointed her finger but, apparently, she didn’t fight too hard to keep the friendship. Also, friends come and go, I’m sorry to say. And you cannot, ever, blame someone for your suicide because this person grew apart and couldn’t be a real friend to you for too long.

Zach: shit with Zach was weird, I’m gonna defend him too. He had things of his own, and he really liked her, apparently, she didn’t give him a chance. And he wasn’t mean to her cause he “didn’t get what he wanted”, he was mean in response to her being an asshole, too. So, Hannah can be hurt and be an idiot, but if the others do the same, they are monsters?

Marcus: total asshole. Tipical teenager. He didn’t care much. But he didn’t deserve to be tormented either.

Sheri: wtf? She did one thing wrong and this is proof the world is fucked up and a reason to kill yourself? The girl was nothing but kind and was ate by guilt before and after the tapes, did she deserve to be haunted like this? I don’t think so.

Courtney: one more that was judged because she wasn’t a real friend and didn’t want to be so, either. Can you blame her? No. She wasn’t true to herself? Maybe. Who am I to judge? Who was Hannah? Courtney was an idiot but she didn’t deserve to be exposed.

Ryan: another idiot, yes. Bad behaviour, selfish and all. Does he deserve to live his life thinking he was a reason for someone to commit suicide? I don’t think so. He deserved to pay for his actions, he deserved to know he acted wrong. But in the end he was just an idiot who didn’t try to destroy her in any way.

Tyler: the one who really needed some therapy. He was always bullyed and laughed at, even by Hannah. He had some real problems and carrying responsibility for her suicide would lead to some things that are much bigger than what was already shown. So, this is just an example of the consequences of the tapes.

Bryce: didn’t get to listen to the tapes. We never learn why Bryce was like he was. We never see him being punished and Hannah punishes everyone but him. So Clay has to do it for her. She wanted someone to fight for her and that I understand, mainly because I cannot imagine how she felt. Do I blame Bryce? For many things, yes. For her suicide? No. Because she doesn’t put all the blame in him. He’s not the last drop so at some point she thought she could handle things in a different way, she didn’t.

Mr Porter: he was not more than a counselor, and he cannot carry responsibility for her suicide. Was he good as a counselor? Probably not. Was he useful? Not at all. Everyone is fighting their own battles day after day, he was too, and that’s why he wasn’t there for her. How could he know? Can he be guilty because he gave a crappy advice and didn’t go after her like she wanted? I don’t think so. She left. That’s on her.

Clay: she put Clay through hell, for what? FOR WHAT? he felt like crap, he felt guilty, he faced some shit he clearly didn’t deserve to. So, why? Listening to the tapes was pure torture to Clay. She affected him for good and that doesn’t seem fair at all. She put him in danger, a danger he didn’t deserve. Torturing Clay was low, and I cannot accept it, I cannot like Hannah Baker when I know she was totally aware of how bad the tapes would hit Clay.

Alex: the ultimate consequence… The list was a childish stupid shit to do, yes. Going to the boy’s locker room was too. Why did she do that? She wasn’t allowed there and it was obvious they would talk even more after that. Blaming him for destroying Hannah and Jesse’s friendship? Unfair and stupid. Alex was a thunderstorm, he had so much going on inside his head, he couldn’t even handle Hannah’s thunder, or anything else, to be honest. I would have liked to learn more about him… After all, Hannah’s suicide lead to his. So, are we to blame Hannah the way she blamed him? Alex couldn’t handle the pressure, the guilt and he gives all the signs, he silently walks to his death and noone sees it, no one cares. So what good did the tapes do? They didn’t prevent anything, on the contrary, they lead to destruction and more and more pain. Hannah wanted to be a ghost seeking revenge and she got it.

The parents: the ones who are fucked up without doing anything, without stupid tapes to explain shit. The main reason why I can’t stand Hannah is the fact that, when she killed herself, she was gone, the pain was gone, and exactly at this moment her parent’s worst nightmare began. She didn’t think of them. She didn’t leave a note for them. She dedicated her last week to torment all the kids at school but not a word for her parents. Her mother’s desperation crushed me. She killed herself but she broke them, in a million pieces, never to be put together again. Can you tell me that’s not selfish? Not even a little? I just cannot forgive something like that, because finding your kid dead in the tub is pretty much the worst thing a parent can face.

Edit: if you don’t agree and GET MAD at me, please don’t reply. If you agree or don’t and want to reply with your own non-aggressive opinion, please reply. Edit 2: in case you didn’t understand, I don’t judge the reasons for which she killed herself, I don’t dislike her because of that. I just don’t like the tapes themselves and the apparent reasons for which she left them.
Why girls choose the bad guys over the good guys. By: Me

I was in a serious relationship with a guy for over a year. And when it ended I didn’t know what to do with myself. I thought about what it would be like to have that again and it scared me. I am terrified of being in another serious relationship anytime soon. I have then only talked to the guys I know will break my heart. Anytime I start texting or snapchatting a guy that talks about dating and being committed. I immediately try to end things. It has nothing to do with the guy. I’ve actually lost a couple of good guys because of it. And until I grow out of this phase, I will continue to chose the bad guys over the good guys. But good guys keep doing your thing because you will soon find a girl that’s over her no serious relationship phase and will love you like you deserve. 

OK so I’ve been thinking a lot about the Wonder Woman movie, as one does, and I’ve got to say that I think part of the reason watching it was such a powerful experience as a Jewish woman was that I’ve been conditioned to expect rampant antisemitism from comics and superhero movies. Coming from being a fan of Mavel way more than DC I’m just so resigned to the fact that something that I love doesn’t give a shit about me. From nazi Captain America and Magneto in the comics to completely erasing Wanda and Pietro Maximoff’s heritage and then MAKING THEM PART OF A NAZI ORGANIZATION we have had to sit and be blatantly disrespected by Marvel for so goddamn long that we’ve come to expect nothing better from the genre as a whole. And not only were we disrespected, every single Jewish person who created iconic superheros and literally turned comics into one of the only uniquely American art forms has been desecrated by what Marvel has done to their creations. 

Then Gal Gadot, an openly Jewish woman, came on to my screen and embodied all of the Jewish teachings I hold dear in my own activism and I felt deeply, profoundly healed. Wonder Woman didn’t even need to be Jewish as a character because of how Jewish her actions were. That no man’s land scene was pure Tikkon Olam, repairing the world in large AND small ways. Sure saving that village had nothing to do with her mission to kill Ares or Steve’s mission to stop the poison gas, but those villagers’ lives were just as important as a notion of “greater good”. Her whole thing at the end about how it’s not whether good or bad people “deserve” her protection because all people are both knocked me back with how Jewish of a thought process it was. To sit there for 2 hours and watch this unfold was some serious reprogramming of what I have come to expect from superhero films.

Okay, so… my photo is somewhere under the tag already but it’s from a different blog and not from my personal. Anyway… 

Whoever is scared/doubting Ezra Miller might be a little brat after reading all the stuff that has been posted under this tag, let me tell you, you have nothing to be afraid or intimidated at all. From the very first moment I stepped into the bar, he introduced himself to me, my friend, and everyone else in the bar. He was so talkative and polite and nice I didn’t even think I was talking to my favourite actor. His smile is the best thing that can happen to the world. 

Later on, as I was actually talking to him after the show, it came up that I am Mexican (born & raised) and he had nothing but nice to say about diversity and people of all kinds. He also said beautiful things about acting and life in general, and called himself a work in progress, as we all are. I am NOT erasing what may or may not have happened in the past, I am just saying that everyone has bad days, everybody says things in the wrong time, using the wrong words. He’s human. So are all of you, so please, don’t bring shit on this human being, because he’s a humble beautiful person and doesn’t deserve all of your hate and ‘disappointment’ for an event that happened. Please make sure you check your sources. 

i don’t like doing this but i’m going to make that post because i want there to be a post that isn’t from someone w/ a raging hateboner for either

as a southeast asian woman, the thing gigi did hurt. “asian eyes” is a very loaded topic bc it ties in w/ stereotypes and yellowface and all that ugly stuff. it’s obviously wrong and the right thing for her to do would be to apologize and admit what she did was wrong.

the thing zayn did was not any better. yes zayn is asian like me. but besides the whole “a person gets a pass bc they’re dating someone of that race” (i don’t want to open tht can of worms rn), zayn has no place speaking in what gigi did.

the asian community is large and very diverse (and sad to say, still very divisive bc of the intra issues tht include colorism, classism, and discrimination within the whole community). the asian eyes issue does not really affect zayn because this is an issue that’s tied to southeast/east asians. it’s the same way desi issues would not affect me. so in turn, like i would have no place to speak about being called a terrorist, zayn has no place to speak about the thing w/ asian eyes. 

i still love them both but what they did was wrong and hurtful to a group of people and that does deserve some calling out and people in that group are allowed to feel what they feel. this doesn’t mean they are inherently bad people, it just means they did something messed up and it shouldn’t be defended. 

also discussing this topic, ppl needn’t bring up past mess ups because that has absolutely nothing to do with the actual topic at hand and it’s v obvious ppl who do so only do it to fuel the fire.

i wanted to make this post bc asian issues esp across different cultural and ethnic groups are v nuanced and many people don’t seem to understand that. also i wanted it coming from a genuine place, not just from someone who severely dislike either zayn or gigi or both.  

anonymous asked:

If you hate Sam and Cait so much and think they're bad people then just leave. Stop bitching

Do you think I’d be so frustrated and pissed off about this situation if I hated them? Everyone who has ever read my blog knows how much I adored them and how much they meant to me. I praised them and supported them as much as I could for almost three years. I can’t even tell you how much sleep I’ve lost due to staying up and updating my blog or how much time I’ve dedicated to making gifs, edits, videos, answering questions etc. Obviously it was my choice to do all of those things and I expected nothing in return but do you really think I’d do it if I felt as though they didn’t deserve it or that they were bad people underneath it all? I’ve said before that finding them pulled me out of a major depression. I’m extremely grateful because if it wasn’t for them I wouldn’t be here right now and I also wouldn’t know my best friends. I truly believed in them and while I had moments where I doubted their integrity, I was able to shake it off and focus on the bigger picture but like @queencaitriona said yesterday, everyone has a limit and I’ve reached mine.

If you can’t tell I’ve been hurt by this situation more than most people. There’s a handful of us who have been in the line of fire from day one and it’s taken it’s toll. It’s not easy to continue to brush off the constant hate, harassment and manipulation. It’s unfair for you to assume that because I’m venting my anger at what’s happened and because I’m disappointed in the actions of two people who I thought were better than all of this that I suddenly hate them. I don’t hate them but I hate what they’ve done. I hate what’s happened. I hate the way they’ve acted. I hate that they’ve let other people take control of the narrative. I hate that they’ve allowed their loyal fans to be abused. I hate that I can’t look at them without feeling upset. I hate that all of this has caused a divide among shippers. I hate that so many have given up and have walked away. I hate that antis are still taunting us because they think they’ve won something. I hate that I have an inbox filled with anons who have been so hurt and confused by all of this nonsense that they’re questioning their own sanity. I hate that I allowed myself to be sucked in and manipulated over and over again for years. So please, have a little compassion for those of us who are hurting right now and save your lectures. We don’t need to hear it.

villainwiki / inga-kun / bmchill callout

before i start i would like to mention that toby has had another callout here and he has also gotten a callout from @/farmworld thats been deleted. 

its important to note that im younger than toby so im not “ganging up” on him because im older and i have nothing better to do, he is seriously a threat to his victims and people deserve to know the situation with him.

warning for suicide baiting, attempted suicide, sexual abuse and a bunch of general bad things

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“Have I been manipulated into believing abuse was my fault?” game! Bold all the items that happened to you, if you’re not sure, italicize! Alternatively, just write down the score for every category. TW for explicit abuse mention.

Brainwashing; forced to take responsibility for abuser’s actions:

  • I was forced to apologize after being beaten/abused
  • I was beaten/abused while apologizing and in obvious pain
  • I was beaten/abused while crying
  • I was forced to thank them for beating/abusing me
  • I was forced to promise them I would change my behaviour in the future
  • I wasn’t allowed to cry or express pain after being beaten/abused
  • I was told the parent was the one with the right to cry/be upset after beating/abusing me
  • I was forced to comfort them after they beat/abused me
  • I was forced to take on pain/humiliation/guilt until I would agree that it was all my fault
  • I was forced to agree that I was forcing them to beat/abuse me, with my misbehaviour
  • I was forced to agree that I deserved the abuse
  • I was forced to make up to them after they would abuse me
  • I was forced to clean up the mess they made during abuse
  • I was forced into breaking down to tears if I tried to fight for myself
  • I was forced to hurt myself to prove my remorse for behaviour
  • I was forced to repeat that it was my fault
  • I was told the abuser didn’t enjoy doing it and was in fact forced to do it for my own good
  • I was called a monster/demon/sadistic/evil and accused of enjoying abuser’s pain
  • I was told abuse was done for my own good and that one day I will understand and be grateful for it
  • I was expected to have positive reactions to abuse and any negative reaction was blamed on me
  • I was punished for showing trauma symptoms and for showing in any way that I was abused, only acceptable way of behaviour was obedience and unconditional gratitude
  • I was told others were treated exactly like this, even if they weren’t showing it, and that the abuse was completely normal
  • I was told my reactions weren’t normal and made to focus on how I was reacting to the abuse, rather than damage and injustice done to me
  • I was told my reactions to abuse were the reason of the abuse, and that I was in the wrong for fighting/pushing back/provoking/not listening/not being obedient enough/angering the abuser
  • I was told the abuse was because “I wouldn’t have it the nice way”
  • I was forced to endure harsh punishments for even a small mistake or no mistake at all
  • I was told all I got was what I deserved, even if I couldn’t connect to how I deserved it, except that the abusers felt I did

Note: Doing any of these to a child after having them go through beating or intense episode of shock, pain and fear will leave them in a broken and vulnerable state of mind, and anything said to them or forced onto them while in that state will imprint deeply into their subconscious, and they will accept the message without being able to fight it. This is a method of brainwashing. Abuser will do this to crush child’s spirit and to destroy the child’s ability to hold abuser accountable or responsible for any abuse that occurs in the future, to transfer all the guilt and responsibility for their own actions onto the child, and depict themselves as too powerful for child to ever be able to stand against.

Dehumanization: implication you are below a human being and thus do not deserve humane treatment

  • I was called animal names/slurs/insults and degrading terms continually
  • I was told I should be beaten up and abused more often than I was
  • I was compared to beasts and monsters when the abusers were angry
  • Beating/abusing me was talked about as if it was a good thing they were proud of
  • I was publically beaten and/or humiliated
  • I was threatened with public humiliation
  • I had my physical injuries minimized and dismissed as unimportant
  • I had my psychological and emotional damage minimized and dismissed as unimportant
  • I had my illness minimized and dismissed as unimportant
  • I had my needs and desires minimized and dismissed as unimportant
  • I had my achievements and accomplishments minimized and dismissed as unimportant
  • I had my opinions and thoughts disregarded and ridiculed as stupid, unwanted and unimportant
  • I was blamed for struggling with mental or physical illness
  • I was called crazy, delusional and insane if I pointed out the unfair tratment
  • I was looked at with disgust and contempt most of the time
  • I was accused of wanting to be abused and asking for it
  • I was accused of “causing a scene” when the abuser would lash out at me
  • I was forced to “learn my place” if I assumed the same rights everyone else had
  • I was excluded from positive activities the rest of the family participated in
  • I was denied the rights, benefits, resources and attention the rest of the family got

Forced gratitude/implication of debt: idea that you “owe” your parents to endure their abuse

  • parent kept reminding me of what they’ve done for me, even the most basic parental tasks
  • parent often stated or implied I was ungrateful/not grateful enough for them
  • parent insisted they were sacrificing themselves for me, implying they expect the same in return
  • parent kept pointing out others lower living standards to remind me I was “lucky” in comparison
  • parent demanded I would have to “earn” basic respect and boundaries
  • parent would not allow me to complain, object or resist their treatment and if I tried, they would remind me I deserved even worse
  • parent insisted any abuse is perfectly acceptable and rational and that I am wrong and “taking advantage of them/denying their rights” if I resist or fight it
  • parent stated or implied that I’m supposed to return their effort to them with favours, obedience, endurance and compliance, or I was not worth raising and being kept alive at all
  • parent insisted that they have the right to do anything to me since they’re the only reason I’m alive at all (I was treated like their property) ((OH BOY THIS ONE))
  • parent made it clear it was forbidden to speak of past abuse or past events that show them in bad light, but they would keep bringing up events which paint them as good parent and keep them central to how they should be perceived by me
  • parent accused me of making things up/lying/being crazy or mentally ill/trying to manipulate or hurt them when I tried to talk about an event of abuse and point out they hurt me
  • parent kept me hyperaware of how much I owe them and how much I would risk losing if I dared to accuse them/confront them on being abusive
  • parent would remind me it could be much worse, and would use other people’s suffering to shut me up and make me feel guilty for even thinking I could talk about my own issues
  • parent kept me aware that accusing them of any abuse is hurtful and abusive towards them, and that I am cruel and ungrateful if I dare to make any statement like that
  • parent told me I was wrong/weird/stupid for getting traumatized by abuse because “others wouldn’t get traumatized by that much”
  • parent made me aware of all the issues they were dealing with, and treated my needs for attention and positive environment like an extra issue they do not want to deal with
  • parent kept me aware of how sick/mentally ill/troubled/desperate/tired they were and kept me feeling guilty over not doing enough for them, not being enough of a support and help, and having my own needs and wants was out of the question
  • parent made me aware they’re ready to abandon me if I prove to be “too much work” or “too inconvenient” or even just “not obedient enough”
  • parent made sure I know all their other issues and life problems were more important than me, and that it was not my place to complain, ask for anything, or object to how I’m treated
  • parent accused of “living in the past” and “failing to be a bigger person” if I didn’t show perfect adoration and acceptance for them
  • parents assured me i would turn into a spoiled, arrogant brat had they not abused me

Societal brainwashing; forcing the idea that no parents are abusive, and that all parental abuse has to be forgiven at any cost

  • parent/society taught me I was a bad/selfish/ungrateful person unless I forgive and forget all and any abuse
  • parent/society taught me I was an awful, ungrateful and selfish child if I didn’t demonstrate perfect love and gratitude for my parents
  • parent/society taught me it was my duty to understand and accept my parents, and that no matter what, they were doing their best and wished only the best things for me
  • parent/society taught me that I was responsible for teaching my parents how to be better people
  • parent/society taught me I should never judge or accuse my parents because “I couldn’t possibly understand how hard time they’re having”
  • parent/society taught me any animosity, hatred, anger or any negative thing I had to say about my parents proved me to be bad, ungrateful and unappreciative person
  • parent/society taught me that all parents only want the best for their children and there are no parents who hate or hurt their children on purpose
  • parent/society taught me that there was nothing that can be done about me getting hurt by my parents, and that it was up to my parents to decide what I deserve
  • my parents/society taught me that being bothered by abuse was my own fault and if I wasn’t weak and pathetic, it wouldn’t have affected me at all
  • my parents had other people affirm they were good people and thus I was wrong to accuse or judge them for anything they did to me
  • my parents had other people agree that I was not normal and there was something wrong with my judgment and perceptions, so my point of view shouldn’t be trusted or even taken into consideration
  • my parents had other people agree that I was a selfish, unappreciative, and hard to raise child
  • i had family members/cousins/friends/teachers/acquintaces/therapists side with my abusers and against me
  • I had family members/cousins/friends/teachers/therapists defend my abuser and take their side, assuring me I have to, once again, forget my point of view and consider abuser’s side
  • I had other people/society defend the abuser and assure me I’m wrong to accuse them
  • my parents insisted the abuse/parts of abuse/events i remembered didn’t even happen, and that there was something wrong with me for making up such a thing (gaslighting;guilt tripping, maybe i should write another category for this one)
  • my parents were a part of religion/cult that excused all and any of their actions because they were doing it for the sake of the third party that had to be worshiped/obeyed (maybe i should write a cult category as well there is much more to this one)

If you bolded even one of the items on the first two categories, or multiple ones in third and fourth, you have undergone psychological abuse that would force you to believe it was your fault, or that you deserved the abuse. This is wrong, as you neither deserved it, nor it was your fault. You were a child, and there was no way for you to commit any crime bad enough to deserve anything like this. These methods are used for brainwashing and breaking a person, and abusers do these on purpose.

I see an idea that keeps coming across my dash (mostly from the su crit sector, which I do my best to avoid but some things can’t be helped) and I feel like I have to say something, because it’s an exceptionally dangerous idea. 

The idea is that depicting “bad guys” as sympathetic is horrible and will lead to children rooting for people who oppress others, and will lead children to believe that since these tyrants are shown to have grief and motivations we can empathize with, their actions should be condoned or forgiven. 

I know that many people on this website need things to be clear cut in order to feel comfortable. The bad guys need to be ALL BAD and the good guys need to be COMPLETELY GOOD or else the story is a BAD EXAMPLE FOR CHILDREN/PEOPLE. 

Let me tell you what this kind of representation does to people. 

It tells people that if a person has redeeming qualities and has ever treated you with kindness, that they must be a good person, and that everything they do must be good. It makes them believe that the abuse that they suffer from that person who loves them and has treated them well, IS DESERVED. It tells them that if the person doing this to them is the good guy, THEY MUST BE THE BAD GUY. 

Let me tell you another thing that you already know: nothing is black and white. Nobody is completely good or completely bad. Everyone does good things, and everyone does bad things. Some people try harder to do good things than others, but they’ll still do bad things! Because everyone does sometimes! You do bad things and so do I, but what matters is that we’re trying.

Some of the people who want to do good things will do horrible, hideous things in the name of their good thing. They think they are the good guys. Are they the good guys? Honestly, it depends on whether you agree with them or not. They are certainly the good guys in their own story, that’s for sure. Everyone is the good guy of their own story. Everyone is just trying the best they can, even the shittiest, most irredeemable person you know. Even our abusers. Even fucking Hitler and Trump (and, I can’t believe I have to say this explicitly, I hate those fuckers and they should never be forgiven or excused.) And they can still be kind to people, and have compassion for others, and love dogs and cats and art and flowers. They do that shit every day. OF COURSE that doesn’t make their horrible actions excusable in any way. 

If you portray the bad guys in all media and caricatures of evil villains, of people who do bad things because it’s fun and they kick every puppy and punch every baby they come across and never do anything relatable, you’ve just written a person who doesn’t fucking exist and teaches people nothing of value. That’s not real. That’s not real life. Your enemies will NEVER, EVER BE LIKE THAT. Trying to make your enemies like that clouds up your argument for why these people are actually not to be trusted. When people see that these ‘evil people’ don’t purposely step on kitten’s tails they’ll say “Oh they’re not so bad, I’m going to listen to them to see what they have to say.” And that’s how people like Jon Tron Jafari are made. Because they didn’t immediately grow horns when they went on /pol/ like they were told they would, they felt like the people there couldn’t be that bad. And then it was hey these people are nice to me, surely these are good people and then new TERFs and Nazifurs are recruited– you get the picture. 

What needs to be taught, what needs to be shown, are how people who do bad things come to do those bad things. People who hurt others have been hurt themselves, full stop. Guess what, sorry, that’s going to be relatable. When you see their story, you’re going to feel bad for them and understand why they did the things they did. THAT IS NOT A BAD THING, IT MEANS YOU’RE HUMAN. You can understand where someone is coming from and still know that the actions they’ve done in response to it are unforgivable. Just because you understand and feel for them doesn’t mean you excuse their horrible behavior.

What needs to be shown and taught is that extremist ideological communities are going to have very strict behavior guidelines, and make you feel so so loved and cherished and valuable when you adhere to them, and rip you to fucking shreds, label you as evil and exile you when you don’t. That’s abuse, children! In case you didn’t know, that is high profile emotional abuse. These communities are also big on violence against the people who don’t adhere to these guidelines, and insist that their guidelines are the only way to be Good People. Their dedication to being a good person has turned them and their community into bad people. That’s what extremism does, and it’s not just the bad guys who let themselves go that far. I see it happen all the time in communities with objectively good goals. I see it all the time on this website. People are hard wired to get sucked into the extremism trap, especially young people who have been hurt. People who have been hurt are more likely to create those kinds of communities. WE NEED TO TEACH PEOPLE WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE.  WE NEED TO TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO AVOID IT.

We need to teach people how not to do bad things after they’ve been hurt. We need to teach people what good-intentioned bad things look like.

Humanizing the bad guys can do that. Showing the redemption of the bad guys can do that. 

Showing people that they can get better can do that. 

Redeem Jasper. Bring back Bismuth. Lapis was abused but also an abuser and she’s healing and learning how to live a happy, healthy life and forgive herself. 

Rebecca Sugar is a gift and I thank the universe for her every day goodnight.  

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thats a swan, your pun is invalid

Okay, listen, there is nothing more beautiful in life than a terribly bad pun. Because that is the only thing you can rely on in life: A bad pun is always a bad pun. And I will always provide bad puns. That is the only thing I am really good at. I am good being terrible. With puns. I am a bad pun pundit.

Lego Trash Rambles

listen, I really like the idea that lego joker and harley are platonic gay bffs. but I also headcanon that when they first met in this universe, joker had a mega huge super crush on her. he was all smitten and blown away by this cute smart af arkham psychiatrist, staying put longer than ever just so he could figure out how to get himself a session with her.

finally, he does.

they actually have a great meeting, full of their usual chemistry, and literally he just opens up to her without another thought. no tricks, no malice, no head games, just honesty. and she’s all like ‘whoa everyone always told me joker was like the bad guy, and maybe this is all a clever ruse, but…. something tells me…. it’s not??’ so they develop this deep patient-doctor relationship and keep bonding, but eventually he does break out again. 
of course, he gets into deep trouble, not even batman-related, and she hears word of it. not that she’s been keeping special tabs on him or anything, how unprofessional would that be? ahahaa ironically, she has been getting more and more interested in this idea of moonlighting as a super criminal to better understand her patients, so why not tonight? hasty decision made, she rushes to the joker’s aid as harley quinn for the first time, kicks some butt, and then helps an injured mr j back to his hideout where he’s just shook like ‘fuckin calm down heart, you can’t afford an attack right now’. once he’s healing, they hang out all night and talk some more, maybe play some video games, and suspend all their usual titles for the first time in a long time, really just connecting. j asks finally why she even came out tonight, all dolled up in crime, and she tells him her reasons, sort of embarrassed with how it all sounds out loud.

“it’s pretty stupid of me, huh? I mean, I could’ve easily died…”

“no no harl! not stupid…. risky, sure… but you said you did it…. //// for me?”

“uh well not… I mean… yes, I heard you were in trouble… and so that was to save you… or help you… or… uh….”

“no one’s…. ever come to my rescue before…”

she meets his honest confession with a pure sunshine smile and that’s when he knows, hoo boy, mr j you did actually die tonight. alert gotham, alert batman, the clown is finally slain.

he doesn’t return to arkham that time, but she continues to moonlight as harley quinn, usually with him, or to assist him, because he does know what he’s doing and can offer her the most guidance and protection as a novice. plus, friendship. after a while, it’s clear to her that her talents lie more in this world than a clinical one, and she finally converts full time to joker’s no. 2.  
not too long after making the switch, mr j, ecstatic and overwhelmed with her moving in, ramps up his flirtations full force. harley is at first amused, not sure whether he’s serious or it’s just him being him. eventually though, he legit makes a move, and she finds herself reciprocating. they become friends with benefits for a long time, and don’t necessarily deny the boyfriend/girlfriend title, but aren’t really set in it either.  
however, once harley’s interactions with ivy become much more intimate than just the occasional run in or gal pal hangout, it’s clear to her that she’s really better as bffs with joker than as lovers, and it tears her up for a long while trying to figure out how to tell him. she also knew he’s had it really bad for bats this whole time, and has never blamed him, but feels maybe that is worth pursuing more? eventually she sits him down and has a talk, the most terrified she’s ever been in her life. joker can see how freaked out she is about hurting him and that actually makes everything a lot easier to take, because they’re still so important to each other regardless of romance. he’s like “harl, no, don’t cry it’s ok monkey-face, we can just be platonic if you want? like I won’t lie, I’ll miss kissing that mug, but I don’t want you to feel bad about things for me. im still your boo-boo.”
and she just crumbles in his hug.
literally me too, we don’t deserve gay lego joker you guys

happily, the switch back was really easy for them to make, and sure, they lapse and will still share the occasional kiss or ass slap, because, come on. look at them. but really, it was such a good decision for them both that nothing was really ever awkward. to this day, they’re still the gayest of friends, and the best dynamic duo in crime.

and that’s the story of how my weak heart just wants joker to be really good and respectful to harley, his one and only psycho circus princess.

Review: 13 Reasons Why - 1x04 (Tape 2, Side B)

The ugly side of the human being.

Tape 2 - Side B is for Taylor, Taylor decided because he loves Hannah that he had the right to take pictures of her in her own room Invading her privacy, affecting her safety, making her paranoid. He can still be worse and he divulges the photos.

I need to control myself because this show makes me feel sad and make feel  all this negative feelings like hate.

Because I don’t know what else to feel when I had to listen to this:

“Nothing anyone did to her was any different than what happens to every girl at every high school”

“She just wanted attention”

Because even after all this, they can’t understand the effects of bullying and sexual harassment, so they don’t deserve a second chance.

I can’t handle it. If I comment on every single thing these idiots say or did I’ll just repeat bad words. Let’s change:

Clay has always been a passive person, but this is starting to change, he’s starting to confront people, I will not judge him for having released the photo, it was wrong, especially after everything he heard on the tapes, but Clay is a flaws person, and the fears, anger, sadness, but especially the powerless is become unbearable, he’s on a journey of self-knowledge, I only hope he knows what he is doing and whether he will be able to bear the consequences. After all, it’s a butterfly effect.

Kate Walsh is doing an expressional job as a mother trying to make sense of everything, and it’s hard to watch the people who are left behind, I know that Hannah was hurt and she just wish the pain was gone, but we don’t usually stop to think About the people who is left behind. Sherlock (BBC) have a super interesting quote about that:

“Taking you own life. Interesting expression — taking it from who? Once it’s over, it’s not you who’ll miss it. Your own death is something that happens to everybody else. Your life is not your own. Keep your hands off it.”

Committing suicide is something that affects not only the victim, but also those who keep living after the person’s died, Suicide will stop your pain, but, not everyone else; everyone else will stay here and mourn,

Only Way You Can

It started with Frank going out to do recon on a location. It left you and Micro alone where Frank naturally became the topic of conversation. That led to Micro speaking about Frank’s past and then at some point asking if you wanted to see videos.

“Videos? But how…?”

Micro looks a little sheepish, “When I first heard what happened, I…uh…I hacked into Maria’s Apple account to retrieve any pictures or videos she had stored. You know, uh, just in case Frank ever wanted to see them.”

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I’m kind of worried that something is going to happen to Elias on Fridays clip. We already knew that Yousef and Elias were close but I feel like the scene that I posted a pic of could be hinting at something?? Like maybe something happens to Elias on Fridays episode and Yousef stays in Norway because of that. And maybe Yousef is there when something happens to Elias. They kind of hinted earlier on in the season that something was going on with Elias so it makes sense imo. Nothing is coincidental in skam. It also could be the hard scene that Cengiz was talking about. I just hope if something happens to him it isn’t TOO bad because Elias is such a great character and deserves good things. Like I high key don’t want him to get hurt or anything but I think that’s the direction Julie is going

Idubbbz and Tana Mongeau - when you pick the wrong guy to fuck with

Oh boy, this drama is gunna be messy.

This is probably going to be less of a rant and more of a warning annnnd slightly educational.. lol

actually im just really angsty today, seen all this slander about one of the best youtubers to exist, so i gotta vent here we go

What happens when your channel is run-of-the-mill clickbait-y shit, can’t take a joke/dont know what satire is, and you call out the most savage person to ever internet whose entire platform is based on decimating YouTube careers without refute?

Dear god Tana, do you know what you’ve gotten yourself into? I would say she’s oblivious, but I don’t think that’s the case. Her first tweet to idubbbz before all this happened was back in December (I believe? Too lazy to find it rn) where she called him out on his use of “the N word” and “retard”. What I find ironic is that directly after that she told him to kill himself 😂(butthatsnunofmybusiness). Irony is a beautiful thing.

ANYWHO, to anyone who finds these offensive and racist and isn’t familiar with idubbbz, sit the fuck down a moment. (If ur offended and traumatized by “the n word” and other shit like that u may want to shield your eyes in the next part to avoid being traumatized. Wouldn’t want to end up like Tana, would we?) *ahem* now listen up buttercup

1. The term “n***er faggot” and “gay retard” pertain to people who have said it to idubbbz in the past in hate videos. He is parodying those people who tried to demean him by saying those things. it is a long running joke on his channel.

2. His channel content consists of this amazing concept called s a t i r e. If you don’t know what that means, look it up, remember it, don’t forget it, because that term will allow you to thrive on the internets and most likely survive in the real world. With its power you can have fun, and experience freedom in elevated proportions. Any slur he uses is never used in seriousness - like I said, it is a long running parody on his channel. He is not intentionally being racist or offensive or whatever other label you can pull out your ass.

3. Learn to laugh ffs? This dude legit has vids of eating shit out of sewers and dumpsters. Why. Why would you take anything he says seriously

Now to the rant part yey

The thing that pisses me off the most is the blatant. fucking. lie Tana told. She described in her video that Ian had put her in a “choke hold” of some sort, which i’d expect to be around the fucking neck right? And apparently, he was also talking really loudly goading her to say “the n word”

now here’s the reality:

(here’s the OG vid)

wow he’s just choking the life out of her makE IT STOP WHAT A TRAUMATIZING EXPERIENCE

Things i do see: A genius joke

Things i dont see: a choke hold, loud voice, or goading of any kind

For those still confused as to what the joke is, is goes back to her december tweet. he must have found it funny. her tweet is so ironic and priceless how could he not? its the most atypical idiotic white girl tweet from a youtuber, so he decided to show up at her expensive-ass meet and greet to continue the joke (which im hoping was intended for a future content cop in the first place). He’s standing there as if taking a picture with her, and here is the best part. Instead of “say cheese,” he says “say n***er”.



some people just arent worthy. the world doesnt deserve you, idubbbz. im sorry.

another thing; she said in her younow mental breakdown that it was idubbbz himself who sent his followers to bully her. bitch where? he didnt say a damn thing (yet). She’s kinda done this to herself entirely, and is now wondering why. First off she started this shit on twitter, then lied, then attacked him on twitter for something he didnt even do?? what. the fuck? he did absolutely nothing but try to make a joke. you know what in some ways i feel bad for her not only because she’s unwittingly screwed with the most immortal community on youtube right now, but because she cant see the problem is her and it’s only going to get worse if she keeps it up jfc. I dont necessarily think she’s the worst person on yt either (though i havent watched many of her vids). If she didn’t blow things out of proportion she might’ve been able to salvage what she had left of her yt career. I guess sometimes mediocre content isnt enough. Often times I hope idubbbz just let’s it go for her sake but…idk, he hasn’t done anything yet and who the hell knows. Honestly I don’t like people being sent hate. But when ur ignorant its gonna fucking happen. Especailly when you think you’re morally superior to someone when you are in no place. ESPECIALLY when you dont know the facts. Choose your battles wisely.

anyway I’m not even entirely pissed at the situation, but ooo the god awful fans of hers. They’re taking e v e r y thing in idubbbz videos out of context and making them ‘offensive’ to push their anti-dubbbz agenda. Like, did yall actually watch the videos?? satire ????? ironic humour ???? do any of you know what this is???? do you even fuckin meme bro ?? ? ? ? why would i expect any less from the fans of this type of melodramatic girl who makes shitty content??? and just slander and misinfo in general dear fucking god when will the sjw trend die

well i only have one last thing to say about this: Tana, say goodbye to your youtube career. you wanted to milk this, you couldnt just solve this in peace. instead of owning up to your mistakes you’re going to play the victim, like every other youtuber that gets destroyed. The rest of the sane internet can smell that content cop from here.

TL;DR: do not fuck with the god of youtube comedy. it will not end as planned. Just go with the joke next time, aight?

nuff said.

Let’s be strong together.

Disclaimer: I’m not 100% sure about everything that’s happening so I tried to talk about things I was quite sure with. If you have anything to say about what I wrote down please tell me. And then again please tell me everything I know either right under this post or as a message. (If you want to me anonym then please ask anonym because I might answer those messages publicly)

Drugs and Suicide are topics I talk about in this post. Please stop reading now if you’re not comfortable with those things. 


Okay so. I’m not really sure about all the things since I also don’t know which sources to trust. I’m not talking about his condition here (will come to that though because there’s other things to say) but I’m asking now if anyone who knows something can reblog this and tell me or send me a message and tell me there because I really want to know if the things I read are true or not.

So coming to the main topic. T.O.P, Tabi, 4D or Choi Seung-hyun however you want to call him personally. Yes he made a mistake, yes it is illegal in SK. And just to clarify I would react the same if I heard anything similar about a SK-citizen on TV for me it’s not about him being an Idol or someone I look up to. Does he deserve some type of punishment? Yes, of course because no matter what taking drugs (no matter how bad they are) is illegal. But (!) he does not deserve all the other things happening around him. He is an Idol yes but all the cameras the press is just too much at once. And almost everyone knew that he was dealing with his own problems (call it depression or anything mental whatever you want) and they should’ve given him at least some days under control of the police or idk who alone. No cameras, no phone calls. Nothing. Him, depending on his mental state a doctor and his mom maybe? Was that too much? I don’t think so. During that time they could’ve done literally everything from deciding his punishment to actually helping him. And then they could go to publicity with all those things. So they could’ve pervented everything that happened in the passed 24-hours. 

 And now you need to remember that he also asked for help. He ASKED for help and was denied. The irony. The fact that he feeled like he needed those tranquilizers to calm down and escape from the stress should also be something to think about right? So it either was a suicide attempt or “just” him not knowing how much pills his body could take. Also: Why wasn’t he shown to a doctor the first time he struggled with waking up? Why’d they lie about his condition? 

Let’s think about this. No matter what the culture is in korea. T.O.P had drinking issues and his relationship to wine might be special for some people, but everyone who looks at it closesly can see that he seems like someone who could smoke pot. To be honest I wasn’t even shocked at all. And that comes from someone who hates drugs (yes even alcohol and pot) but for me it just looked like something he would do. And now the thing that really pissed me off from the beginning. He didn’t hurt anybody but himself. I think he knows that. You don’t need to tell a 30-year old the difference from good and bad and the consquences right? No one but himself (and trust me he knows), his career was harmed. Guys, the excessive alcohol and cigarettes Yes even his life as an idol is more harmful for him that smoking weed. Literally.

I love how people tent to forget that they’re stressing people out with those things. And to everyone saying “He deservse sentences, it’s illegal to take drugs. It’s his own fault.” No one said the opposite. We’re all saying the same thing. Yes it is illegal but isn’t the mental state, the live of someone more important than the fact that he did it in first place? I really hope that’s not what you’re thinking. He deservse punishment of course just as I said before but let him rest first right? I don’t think that he’ll talk back once he feels better? Or do you?

Look, let’s talk about his current status. Everyone is saying something else. There’s almost no source you can trust because at one second they say he’s consious and just couple minutes later they say that he’s not responding to anything. Then other sites are saying that his mother talked to the press saying that he’s close to dying and everyone else spreading news that he’s awake is wrongful, which she’s right with but everyone’s there saying that she never talked to anyone. Guys aren’t you thinking that spreading so many news in such a short time is really really wrong?  We should wait until something official comes out right? Because doing this is only going to stress everyone out more. His friends, family? Ever thought about those people how they feel when they read totally different news within 10 minutes?  I mean the fans of course are also thinking about him reading news and all of that but come on. We’re used to unreliable sources but his friends and family. Guys, Friends and family (I can’t even think about how the rest of BigBang feels right now). Just think about how you would feel in their position? You wouldn’t like not knowing what your loved ones current state is right? So, in general I just want everyone to keep calm honestly, that’s the best thing we could do. Keep him in your prayers or thoughts.

He will wake up. Let’s not pick fights and accuse anyone for doing anything and spreading news. If you see something new, ask. Don’t spread the news lke you’re 100 % sure that’s what happened. Just ask if anyone thinks this is true.  And then again I’m asking you guys to tell me what you know.

So let’s be strong together.  

Originally posted by s-tttop

(Yall this place has been sad for way too long now. Just remember him like this now. And hope that he’ll come back with that smile in his face. Let it be real this time.) 

I’m always stuck in the middle when it comes to the Gotham fandom and opinions it seems ahh. 

I can really see both sides of this discussion. And I don’t want anyone to come and try to tell me that I’m “only watching for the ship” because anyone who ever talked to me for more than 5 mins knows how much I love DC and Batman. Have been a fan for many years now and my friends just wish I would shut up about it lol. I’ve been with Gotham since episode 1 and never missed a week.

Anyway my stand is: you have every right to be upset with some of the poor writing choices (I’m not even just talking about the ship). I certainly am upset over some of the writing and characterisation. But please don’t go yell at the actors. And DON’T BE RUDE to the writers either!! HOWEVER. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t let the writers know that some of the decisions upset you. Give them constructive criticism. Ask about the plotlines they never explained – question them if they ever will be explained. If you don’t mention that this stuff bothers you they won’t ever try to improve on their writing.

Also, I hate this mentality that if you don’t like something or criticise it you’re “not a real fan”. I just spent all of my savings to fly to London and attend HVFF last week. JUST TO SEE THE CAST AND SUPPORT THEM. Are you now going to claim that because I criticise some of the aspects I’m not a real fan?? I criticise poor writing because I care. I care a whole damn lot. All I want is for this show to be good and successful. I give it praise when it deserves it and I give it criticism when it gets bad. I’ve done nothing but support this show and create fan content for it. Blindly praising everything even if it’s bad is not a good thing for the show because then there’s just more lazy writing because the creators think we’re gonna be satisfied by whatever they throw at us.

(This is not directed at anyone personally btw, I’m just responding to the fandom mentality in general that I’ve been seeing.)

Anyway. I hope the finale is good and enjoyable even if it’s not good in terms of Nygmobblepot. I’m just as frustrated as other people (not because I expected them to become canon, or even become friends but because I wanted there to be more layers not just hate that the reviewers are implying … give me character depth please) but I’ll try to enjoy other aspects of it. Cheers.