As an enfj in my early twenties, I can see my Se develop. I use it better by trying to realise my Ni visions. Also I can live more in the moment and go with the flow. Is this how Se develops? How can I tap into my inferior function now that my first three functions are well used? Ive read all ur guides. But I still can't figure out inf ti.
When Ni and Se are mature, Ti will start to click into place, so you are not there yet, and it’s not really reasonable to think you could be in your early twenties. You describe the very obvious ways Se develops as regurgitated straight from the guide, however, it is difficult to recognize the subtly negative aspects of the auxiliary and tertiary functions in yourself as an individual. Do you really understand all the ways that you can and do misuse Ni and Se? For instance, ENJs often don’t realize until too late how impatient or overeager they really are for results, unable to spot when they want too much, too fast, too soon, then getting disappointed (even your question is some evidence of this). In your early twenties, you are still somewhat naive in your hopes and dreams for the future, but reality will catch up with you later. I’m not saying this to be discouraging, I’m only saying that developing Ni and Se is not as easy as it seems at first glance, especially because Ni in particular requires a lot of learning and life experience to deepen and mature. The way you describe developing your functions is very superficial, just like following an instruction manual, do this this and that and then you’re golden, but that’s not how it works. You have to find your very own unique way of expressing functions with deeper and deeper levels of awareness, which will naturally lead you to Ti development,
not just imitating what you read in a guide. The fact that you rely on someone else to explain to you how to do it and have no idea about it even after reading the guide is evidence that you’ve still got a long road to travel. Ti is about independently producing sound judgment and good problem solving strategies, therefore, if you really want to develop Se and Ti, you have to face the most negative/problematic aspects of yourself, you have to observe and work on yourself during the darkest and lowest times in your life, you have to open yourself up completely to changing whatever is wrong or not working with your thinking/judgment as you go through every moment in life. You have to live by facts, not your unsubstantiated gut feelings or wavering emotions. Life is not only rainbows and low Ti makes people want to avoid darkness in life and their own inner darkness, to the point of rationalizing/lying to oneself to feel better, therefore, to develop Ti means you have to go where you most fear. I suggest you leave it for now and keep working on Ni and Se, do things in the right order.