i can't deal with attractive people

you know what makes me so upset?? people basing luke’s entire worth on his looks or publicly shaming him for “getting ugly”. he’s not here to first be objectified and then harshly dissed when you feel like he no longer meets your physical standards. it’s fine if you’re not attracted to him anymore for whatever reason but please don’t make a huge deal about it and go around trash talking him solely based on his looks or screaming about how you’re “switching lanes” because luke “no longer does it for you”. you just look shallow and mean. so unnecessary.

  • Black people on social media: black people are beautiful!
  • Society: *holds white people, especially with blonde hair and blue eyes, mixed or racially ambiguous ppl as ultimate beauty standard*
  • Fashion: *includes only 5 models of color among (insert crazy disproportionate number) of white models in runways/magazines and campaign ads*
  • Books: *attractive white male or female main protagonists/hero/heroine*
  • Movies: *attractive white male or female main protagonists/hero/heroine*
  • Magazine companies: *whitewashes/lightens a person of color appearing on the cover drastically*
  • Cosmetic companies: *nearly no options of foundation for people with dark skin*
  • Hair companies: *make commercials and ads geared toward and modeled by people with silky/fine hair*
  • Television: *can count the amount of channels out of hundreds that cater to black people on my hand but still people complain about BET (which is now white owned) anyway*
  • People: "I mean if someone doesn't find black people attractive what's the big deal its just a preference get over it"
  • Black men: "Man I can't fuck with black bitches white girls are winning these days especially the ones who got a fat ass"
  • Blogs right here on tumblr: *has not one black person on their blog* *most popular indie/boho/pale/rosy/etc. blogs exclude black people* *most popular luxury/urban/street/sexy girl blogs never post people darker than a brown paper bag* *beauty tags consist of mainly white women* *makeup/beauty blogs cater to white women/those with fair skin*
why i love (all) the signs
  • (pisces sun/scorpio moon/aquarius rising/venus dom pov)
  • aries: as hot headed and impulsive as you guys are, you are really supportive and loyal friends. you will beat up anyone who decides to hurt someone you love or care for. you are super fun to hang out with too! i have never met a boring aries, and i don't think i ever will. aries make awesome friends. if you want someone to beat up that jerk that has been harassing since last week, go to an aries.
  • taurus: honestly just the coolest people ever. not only are you guys super attractive, but your also really and laid back and chill. you're also very dependable and i can't help but look up to you guys for that. not to mention that you're quite smart as well. you might not be the easiest person to deal with when it comes to arguments or making decisions (you can be quite stubborn, which is a good and bad thing!), but you guys are still awesome people and i love you guys.
  • gemini: idk why but there is something so charming and attractive about you guys that i just adore. you're creative and fun people, and your hearts are (most of the time) in the right place. your friendly and accepting and that's probably the reason why every single gemini sun or moon i have met is so popular! not to mention that every single gemini i have met has some kind of talent that they are really good at. whether it's filming or cooking or cheerleading, all of you guys have some kind of talent, and you are always good at it. i almost envy how lovable you twins are. keep it up gemini folks, you're one of my favorite signs.
  • cancer: not as innocent as you think, but they are still very huggable and nice people. cancers are either really shy and quiet or really optimistic and cheerful. some cancers that i have met are even snarky and sarcastic (kind of like a scorpio or aquarius) but are still affectionate and nice to be around. i love cancers because they are the kind of friends that will make you cookies for no real reason, or will give you hugs when you're feeling down (or just because they want to). cancers that i have met also have a very weird sense of humor that you can't help but love. these people are really cool. go hug a cancer.
  • leo: either loads of chill, or no chill. leo people will try their best to make everyone happy, but won't go all the way if they don't want to. they are generous and helpful people. surprisingly, i have not once met a leo that was popular and full of themselves. in fact, most leos i have met are pretty humble (MOST not all). they are also very funny and friendly as well. leos are the kind of people that will greet you with a bear hug every time you see them. in my opinion, leos would make awesome dads. they are really cool friends too. they've always got your back, too.
  • virgo: kind of like cancers, all virgos that i have met have a very weird and goofy sense of humor that you just love for some reason. they are also not as worrisome and uptight as predicted. i love virgos mainly because of their humor and sarcasm. they can be a little prickly at times, but they are one of those friends that will support you no matter what stupid bull crap you decide to do. they will get you out of a mess that you got yourself into, they will lend you a pen if you forgot yours at home or lost yours in science class. virgos might be a little reserved or shy at first but they slowly open up to you and begin to show affection. i personally find this part of them adorable.
  • libra: cheerful, friendly, and goofy. a libra is the kind of friend that will brighten your day when you are in a funk, and will take you out somewhere for whatever reason. they are without a doubt the best people to party with, but you might want to keep an eye one them...they can easily get carried away when drunk! most libras that i have met are also hopeless romantics, and will gush about some old couple they saw holding hands while walking down the street. they also got sass. libras are really fun and energetic people, and make super cool friends.
  • scorpio: my god you guys are awesome. your funny and sarcastic, but also supportive and kind. similar to an aries, scorpios will beat up some kid that has been bullying you or your ex partner that decided to break up with you over the phone. scorpios are really cool (and kind of reckless) friends that are lovable in every way. they can easily become the life of the party, but they can also be quite introverted as well. it just depends on the person really. scorpios are also passionate and loyal lovers, which is rare to find these days. scorpios are really amazing people, and deserve all the love in the world.
  • sagittarius: for a person who lives in a family where half of the people are born under the sign of sagittarius, i have met my fair share of sags. they are friendly and caring like a leo but also a bit reckless and impulsive like an aries. i love sags because of how lovable they are. idk why but there is something so attractive and lovable about sagittarius folks that makes me so happy when i meet one. like libras, sags have lots of sass and are really goofy. they are the kind of friends that will take you out on a car ride when you're feeling down or for no reason at all. sags are really just super fun people that you can't help but love.
  • capricorn: i have met all different kinds of caps. cheerful ones, shy ones, awkward ones, energetic ones. i have only met one introverted capricorn. capricorns are without a doubt the kind of person you want as a friend. they are not only smart cookies, but they will do special things for you like buy you a random present for no real occasion or help you study for that next math test. they do small things for you that i really appreciate...not to mention that is kind of cute. in fact, capricorns have their own little cute quirks and habits. i have met so many different kinds of caps, but the one thing they all have in common is how great friends they can be. if you want a friend for life, go to a capricorn.
  • aquarius: my favorite sign. they are friendly and goofy and just so lovable! they are hilarious and very cool people. they are quirky and fun in so many ways, and i have never met an aquarius that wasn't interesting! aquarius folks have such a fun personality! i can't enough of them. like geminis, almost every aquarius i have met has some special thing or talent about them that they are always good at. they are also good at dealing with people. they can also be a little rebellious, which for a pisces like myself, i find really cool and attractive. aquarius people are simply amazing, and are without a doubt my favorite sign.
  • pisces: and then there are these guys. very nice people, without a doubt. the thing i love most about them is their creativity and humor. i have yet to meet a pisces who didn't have a thing for one of the arts. they are also very nice people as well. some of the nicest people i have met are pisceans! they are also very accepting. it doesn't matter whether your a boy, girl, gay, trans, bi, preppy, emo, hipster...they can become friends with any people with any personality (unless those people are jerks to them). pisceans are also really funny! they are such great people with their hearts always in the right place. i have yet to meet a pisces i didn't like.

When I say the simple words, “I don’t want children”, people never take me seriously or they get straight up disgusted with me like I’m some kind of cold, soulless witch. I am constantly fighting for my validation, constantly interrogated, and constantly condescended. Women are not allowed to not want children. I’ve been telling my family and others that I don’t want kids since I was a teen and they have given me these lines that I’ve heard all my life:

1. Never say never
2. You’ll change your mind when you get older
3. I used to say that but then I had kids
4. You’ll miss out on one of life’s greatest miracles
5. Don’t you like children?
6. But you’d be such a great mom!
Etc, etc, etc

OK so here’s where I stand on all of that:

1. When I’m sure of something, I’m sure. Only I know myself and what I want to do with my body and my life.

2. I’m 28 and I STILL don’t have kids, still don’t want ‘em.

3. Your life, your decision.

4. For me, one of “life’s greatest miracles” is some goddamn peace and quiet and a wage I can retire on.

5. I like children just fine, I just don’t want my own.

6. I don’t care what you think.

I can’t tell you how FRUSTRATING it is to not be taken seriously as a person or as a woman because I do not want to breed. I don’t understand why it’s so hard for people to grasp and why they don’t understand that it’s aggravating when I am bombarded with the above lines. Not only that but I’ve experienced being suddenly less attractive to men because I don’t want their babies…. Like…. What?

Anyway, fuck I just have to rant because the past couple weeks I’ve been dealing with this and I’m about to fucking punch somebody.

I’m currently watching the 80s Voltron and I physically can’t deal.
Keith: “Vultures may not be very attractive, but they gave us a hand, and we should be grateful.”
Sven: “I’ll always think they’re beautiful.”

anonymous asked:

Heyo~ (idk if you're answering things right now but I'll ask anyway) I'm 14 and have been questioning for two or so years, and I've settled on ace for now, but whenever I tell anyone they'd respond with something like "well you can't be sure, you're a virgin" or "you're too young to know" or "you can't know until you're at least 18" and I don't know how to deal with any of that. They all support me but don't take me seriously when I say I'm ace. What should I do???

Experience doesn’t necessarily mean you become attracted to what the experience was or who it was with. If people can know that they’re straight without having sex, then you can know that you are asexual. The same goes with other orientations, like gay, bi, pan,etc. They don’t support you if they’re actively denying or belittling your experience of lack thereof. 

If you are asexual, then you are allowed to call yourself that. And you’re allowed use asexual if it fits right now, it’s okay if it changes in the future, but that’s unlikely. The people who really care will stop saying those things at some point when they realize that that is who you are. Some people will not. 

If you want to, you can retort with “How do you know you’re not gay/straight/bi unless you’ve not had sex/haven’t had it with different genders/had sex before you were x age.” This can show how silly it is for them to say such things, and it challenges heteronormativity. 

anonymous asked:

I can't stand it when lesbians who weren't raised in homophobic environments try to confuse girls who are dealing with internalised homophobia / compulsory heterosexuality. I see some advice blogs/youtubers tell girls who are clearly dealing with those two things that they're not lesbians because they still want attention from men or consciously ignore their attraction to women. I'm so grateful that I came across your blog because I'd still think I'm a confused bisexual if I didn't.

We are glad our blog has been helpful to us. Unfortunately, not all people who talk about lesbian issues, actually take compulsory heterosexuality into consideration. In fact, unfortunately, it’s a way-too-common belief that the only true lesbians are “gold star” lesbians. That is just not true. 

Way too often young girls are bombarded by peers and family and media about how they should be with men, and that men are the only possible partners they could have… It is bs, and we do not condone that. Although we do strive for the day when no lesbian ever has to deal with think she might be het or bi ever again 😍

I’m really happy for you, that you’ve been able to notice you’re dealing with comp het, and I hope you will keep working through it, until it is fully gone, and you can live your best lesbian life! 😘

/Mod A

i can't deal with y'all sometimes

sexuality has always referred to who you are attracted to, not how you’re attracted to them. asexual LGB* people existed before the term asexuality did, and they still called themselves ___sexual, because those terms do not and have never solely referred to sexual attraction. to say that gay, lesbian, homosexuality, bisexuality, etc. are inherently sexual terms is homophobic, as it suggests being gay is all about sex. i am not saying you have to use these terms if they make you uncomfortable–i’m just saying that you cannot universally redefine them to fit your discourse.

a straight person is someone who is exclusively attracted to the “opposite” binary gender, regardless of whether it’s romantically or sexually. this “heterosexual heteroromantic” definition is brand new, and if you want to subscribe to it, fine, but you need to stop acting like it has any sort of historical legitimacy to it, and you need to stop forcing it on other people, and you need to stop being surprised and affronted when you find people who subscribe to the traditional definition.

*i am using “LGB” here not to exclude the “T” but to refer specifically to sexuality and not gender identitiy.

yungbrat420  asked:

Dear Onision: thank you so much for your opinions and support. I'm an atheist, I used to be suicidal and I support gay people. I don't know if you will agree with this or not, but I hate how the LGBT community gets so much attention. I want gays to be equal, not over powering everyone else. So why is being gay such a big deal??? Can't you just be attracted to something and keep your mouth shut about it? Like why do people feel the need to flaunt their nom heterosexuality around like its a gift??

LGBT pride parades, LGBT movies, LGBT billboards etc —- we could use more more more.

I see straight commercials, straight couples, hear straight songs EVERYWHERE, we would benefit from a greater LGBT presence, not a reduced one.

There are way more LGBT out there than you know, it’s time for the door to be completely open, and for everyone to feel comfortable coming out, because it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

anonymous asked:

Hi Emily, how do you and Kumail deal with jealousy? I started seeing a girl recently and she is great, however, she is not shy about pointing out when she's attracted to guys, whether they're friends of mine or moviestars. I know I don't really have any right to get upset about that because i'm guilty of thinking people are hot too, but I can't help but get jealous whenever it happens. I know at the end of the day, i'm the one she chose, but how can I calm myself down whenever that happens? Thx!

There are Tumblrs in the universe devoted solely to having crushes on my husband, so it’s definitely something I have had to get comfortable with. Girls want to put their arms around him and have photos taken after shows, and sometimes I am the one who takes these photos. It’s weird.

If we’re to assume that your girlfriend isn’t actually doing anything nefarious or cheaty or inappropriate and that the jealousy you’re feeling is just a result of her finding other human beings attractive, then that little ping you’re feeling is part of what will keep your relationship exciting. I promise you, you want to continue to find other people attractive, and you want her to continue to find other people attractive too. Being able to recognize beauty in the world is not the same as cheating, and is a basic human privilege that we should never let go of. You’re not guilty of anything. It’s okay to fantasize about other people. It’s okay to look at porn. Appreciate all women, and be okay with her appreciating all men, and it’ll make both of you more in awe of the fact that you chose each other. 

She chose you. You chose her. That’s stronger than anyone else’s hot tits/ass/arms. Her feeling safe and comfortable enough with you to admit that she finds other people attractive is very sexy and wonderful. You will maybe always feel that ping (I still do) but let that ping be a reminder of how much you care about this woman and this relationship. Let it draw you together than push you apart.

Try to reframe it for yourself like this, and if it’s just not working, pull her aside and let her know that you’re having some insecurity and wonder if she would tone down mentioning all the guys she’s attracted to. (Then you can just wonder who she is silently attracted to….)

Good luck! Keep pinging, but don’t internalize it! 

anonymous asked:

Ricky be honest, are you gay? Everything about you indicates that you are, and if that is the case then that's awesome but seriously you can't possibly think that your viewers look at you as a heterosexual male..

there isn’t a set list of characteristics that determines what your sexuality is. that is so stupid tbh. it doesnt matter what i do or act or who i am lol none of that has anything to do with which gender I’m attracted to.

i dont understand why so many people are so obsessed with my sexuality lol its not a big deal and has nothing to do with my videos.

my sexuality is an extremely small part of who i am honestly i barely even focus on anything that has to do with that (dating, sex, etc) it isn’t even a big deal to me in this part of my life.

i dont want my viewers to label me as anything, i just want them to watch me for me being myself, which is what I’m doing 

and for the millionth time, I’m straight, that isn’t something i would hide or lie about. move onnnnnnnnn haha its not worth stressing over


anonymous asked:

Asexuality is a seriously dumb idea. If you have no sex drive, you NEED to see a doctor. I am so SICK of tumblr encouraging people to embrace unhealthy aspects of themselves. You CAN'T get to university and NOT have a sex drive. It's not healthy. I suggest you stop trying to force your problem into a new box with a pretty word and start actually dealing with it. Make an appointment with your doctor today, please. I promise things will get better! <3

Asexuality isn’t actually a lack of sex drive or libido, it’s a lack of sexual attraction. I think that’s an important distinction to make before we go on. Some asexuals enjoy sex, some do not. Some have sex often, some never have sex. Regardless of their sexual activity, they are still asexual. 

The problem I think we have here is that we live in a world which places a great deal of emphasis on sex and think that anyone who doesn’t constantly want to jump the closest person must be broken in some way. However, it is not a lack of sexual activity which makes one asexual. After all, a gay person who never acts on their feelings is still gay, you would agree?

Believe it or not, there are some people out there who have no sex drive and are perfectly content with this part of themselves. You’re talking to one right now. My lack of sexual attraction and sex drive does not negatively affect my health in any way. It doesn’t have a drastic impact on the way I live my life. It doesn’t interfere with my daily function. Therefore, I don’t feel compelled to seek medical treatment. 

I agree that tumblr is guilty of normalising things which should not be normalised, especially when it comes to mental health but asexuality is not the product of mental illness and suggesting otherwise can be quite harmful. 

Things don’t have to get better. Things are fine as they are. I am perfectly content with myself. For the first time, I have a word to describe myself and a community to which I belong. I appreciate your concern but I think it’s misguided. 

I hope you’re having a good day!

3693) To the people who think eating disorders are diets intended to make one more attractive: I am pretty enough (though I can't see it) that I am often approached by men and sometimes given a great deal of attention. I will admit, there is a small vain and needy part of my that enjoys the compliments and flirtation, but there's another side that wants to be grotesque, to display my hideous inner self on my outside, to show what a monster I truly am. My ED has NOTHING to do with being pretty.

anonymous asked:

Hi! I am female and bisexually I guess. But there is something I don't understand. Mostly when I see pretty women it's like "Yeah, she is pretty but that's not a big deal" but when I fall in love with one she is the prettiest girl I have ever seen and I can't think about some thing else. With men it's completly different. When I see pretty men it's like "OMG how HOT!" but when I fall in love with man I have never such deep feelings like I have it for women I love. Is this normal for bisexuals?

There isn’t really any “normal” for anybody because people feel attraction differently. If that’s how you feel attraction, then that’s your ‘normal’ and that’s absolutely fine.