i can deal with this life

anonymous asked:

What do you do for a living? Are you a superhero?

lollol I monitor a social media website for kids. basically making sure no predators or stuff like that get in and try to mess with the kids.  I’m also a full time student. one year away from a degree in social work.  Hopefully i can work with child protective services or something in that area. and I volunteer a lot. special olympics, day camps, I read to kids at an elementary school library sometimes.  basically anything dealing with helping and protecting kids I’m a part of lol. it’s my life.

lunamoonstone-demigoddess  asked:

What do you think is bringing all the skin eaters out for you lately? My guess is everyone's getting sick of the thin-skinned man baby that is our President. After years of being able to dream about Obama's wonderful dark skin, now they're forced to watch a Cheeto-skinned man whine about horrible his life is every day, except I think Cheeto's hold up better under pressure than Trump. Then they see you and your thick skin, which seals in all the juice and flavor... or so I've heard... thoughts?

I can say with a great deal of confidence that this is the most anyone has ever thought about my skin, including my dermatologist.

A Tangent about Tags;

Everyone is different. People have come from all walks of life; different backgrounds, upbringings, trials and tribulations they have gone through, things others can’t possibly comprehend happening to them. Because of that, certain materials may be triggering to others.

Now I know that Tumblr makes fun of the word “triggers”, but it’s a really big deal. They can cause flashbacks to events in the past that caused someone trauma, panic attacks, or worse. To avoid this as much as possible, it is important to tag your content if it contains any material that may cause discomfort or trigger others.

Creators: This doesn’t mean police yourself or restrict what content you put out there. All it means is to label it so that if someone has blacklisted a particular tag (nsfw, tw, tw: [insert trigger here], etc.), , it doesn’t show up on their dash. This helps keep it out of the main tag, and away from younger viewers (This is a video game, so there is a large possibility that minors follow the game and its content)

Fans: Every fandom needs fans, right? Even people who don’t create things are a vital part of the community. Think that game/show/series is the heart and brain, the creators form the skeleton, and the fans are the other organs. They all need each other to exist. If content disturbs you, there are steps you can take to reduce the chances of you coming into contact with that content:

1) Download xkit or other Tumblr add-ons that allow you to blacklist certain tags. This prevents anything with that tag from appearing on your dash.

2) POLITELY AND RESPECTFULLY ask content creators to tag their work if some parts of it disturbs you. Like a creator and their work, but some of their pieces are NSFW and they all have it on one blog? Be nice, and ask if they can tag it for you so those pieces in particular will be hidden, or request a disclaimer on their blog that their work contains certain themes if they do not have one already. The key here is to be nice and polite - it goes a long way. Take every measure to handle it in private; messages are far more welcome than a public post, and creators appreciate the chance to resolve any potential problems in private!

3) Don’t like what an artist or writer puts out there at all, and it is extremely triggering to you? Unfollow and block them. Contrary to popular belief, this is not rude! No creator wants you to be uncomfortable and upset by their work, and there is no shame in unfollowing them and blocking them. This is not personally against them, nor does it need to be. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO TELL THEM YOU ARE DOING SO. No nasty ask, no callout post, nothing. Just leave - do your thing and move on. You are in charge of your happiness and well-being, and if that helps, make the parting painless on both sides and move on.

Doing these, both content creators and fans alike can enjoy this fandom and it can be a safe, fun place for everyone!!

TL;DR:

Creators, please tag your work and be open to requests from fans to tag your works. Fans, download xkit or other programs, politely ask creators to tag their work, and unfollow and block creators without a fuss if their work bothers you.

Above all, be polite, be respectful, and this fandom will be an amazing place. 

Thank you all for reading!

miraculouslover21  asked:

How do you think Chloe's redemption arc will go?

I hope she gets humbled hard, but not by Marinette, and perhaps not even by Adrien. I think it would be nice to come from someone else, a mother perhaps though we dont know who she is (the father certainty doesnt seem like he will). I want her to be held accountable completely for her actions and feel the consequences, and it is through her being forced to actually shoulder her own consequences that she starts to reevaluate what she does and why. Because as she deals directly with what happens when she behaves a certain way without anyone to filter it or fix it for her she realizes that even though she ‘has everything’ she has a few, very few, things that she can and will lose if she continues to treat everyone around her like they are two dimensional people. I want her redemption to come from empathy and her seeing someone as a complex human being with their own things and fears and life. Perhaps this is alot to ask of her, but over time maybe. 

I have a story in my head about a particular circumstance where Nino and Chloe become friends, and it is because of this exactly. He holds her accountable, he treats her bad if she deserves it, and if she pulls back and gives in, he gives back too. He actively shows her that she gets what she gives, until eventually they develop a friendship. It sort of ends with someone writing off Nino, saying hes a jerk or he seems lazy or something one way or another, and it prompts Chloe to say “Well you just dont know him”, which implies that she has managed to understand someone outside of a two dimensional perspective 

anonymous asked:

Can I ask why you don't like M Gann?

It’s a mix of things tbh. Initially with her whole thing of trying to make her life into the sitcom she was a fan of I found it mildly annoying, but no big deal.

Where I started to really feel off about her was her relationship with Kon. She was 45 when he had been awake and aware for only a few months, and considering the fact that he was created by Cadmus to be a tool I highly doubt they would have implanted the concept of consent or that he could say ‘no.’ (And since we don’t see him taken aside in season 1 to assess what his possible gaps in knowledge are, then we have no way of safely assuming that Kon knew exactly what he was getting into.)

Worst of all (as far as her relationship with Kon went) she made the incredibly abusive decision between seasons 1 & 2 to go into Kon’s mind and try to make him forget that he was upset with her. Which (if you re-watch the first episode or two of season 2) is the reason why Kon broke up with her in the first place.

I know a lot of people think La’gaan broke up Kon and M’gann, but the fact is that he didn’t. Kon broke it off with M’gann because she completely denied him his right to say no when he confronted her with the fact that he thought she was crossing the line by frying people’s minds. He tried to let her know that was a problem and that he felt she needed to own up to what she’d been doing, and her answer was to go into his mind– directly into his very being– and try to erase his knowledge of it or the fact that he’d been upset with her in the first place.

From my perspective that is abusive in the extreme.

I lay it out more fully, point by point, [here]. My apologies if some of that post is a bit snarly (abuse being treated as no big deal pushes a lot of buttons for me).

However

I will further clarify a few things.

  • If her abusive actions were acknowledged as abusive and visibly addressed in the series– such as if she got help to try to get over her abusive tendencies (because that kind of behavior can’t stop altogether overnight like turning off a switch, even though with what she did to Kaldur she realized she screwed up)– then my tolerance for her would increase dramatically. I would even find her admirable for realizing she’s abusive and making a serious effort to not be that person anymore.
  • With AUs where she didn’t behave abusively I’m perfectly fine with her. Yeah, because of her canon actions in YJ I might be a little wary of her character at first, but if I see that an author (or mun) makes it clear those abusive actions didn’t happen– or if they acknowledge it as having happened but make it clear that her social butterfly personality doesn’t excuse her actions– then I’m perfectly fine with it and have no complaints.
  • In regards to my RP blog (which yes, is for La’gaan if you’re curious) I am completely willing to rp with people who have M’gann as a muse just so long as we’re clear about 1) if the abusive behaviors happened, and 2) if they did happen it’s acknowledged and she’s working on getting better.

I don’t think people who like M’gann are in the wrong in the slightest. People are entitled to like the characters they like and they don’t have to explain why they like those characters to anyone.

The main thing that really grates on me is how abusive behavior gets brushed off as ‘no big deal’ when it’s subtle, when it comes from ‘sweet social butterflies’ who are portrayed as ‘innocent’ (as if a person or character’s disposition excuses them for treating others like crap), or when a woman or girl is inflicting it on a man or boy.

Abuse is abuse is abuse, so my dislike for M’gann can be boiled down to two things:

  1. She was abusive. (She abused Kon and there’s evidence that she may have also abused La’gaan.)
  2. Because of her sweet and social demeanor people act like the fact that she was abusive ‘doesn’t matter’ or (and this I would argue is even more gross because of how sexist it is by infantilizing her) she’s seen as ‘too innocent’ to have understood the severity of what she did.

Sorry if this got on the long side, but there it is.

anonymous asked:

El wants us to love and feel bad for her so bad it's so funny. You know I feel bad for ? Louis . For having to deal with these sorry people and have them narrate his damn life for him

The day I feel sorry for someone like elk y'all can shot me right in the face 

anonymous asked:

If you could tell us 3 flaws thaf you have, which one would yoi share?

What is a flaw? How can we define a flaw? Some would say, “My flaws are my acne, my crooked teeth, my stretch marks.” but what makes these things flaws? What kind of perfection are we striving for that categorizes things like these as “flaws”?

I’d be more inclined to say my “flaws” are things like the fact I’ve had to deal with getting migraines my entire life, or my poor eyesight and needing to wear glasses/contacts 24/7. But even then, how could something like migraines be a “flaw” of my human form? They’re merely a way for the body to communicate when something is wrong with it. Pains and sensations are simply the language of the body.

I could say certain personality traits I dislike are “flaws”, but given that everything needs balance and it’s required I must always have things about myself I like and dislike to continue pushing myself to change and grow, how can the things I dislike be considered flaws if I appreciate them as they are and they’re a wonderful example of the balance of life?

The word “flaw” implies that it is a fluke, a mistake, something man-made that contains an imperfection. Every aspect of myself has purpose and reason for being the way it is whether I see it negatively or positively.

Even if you dislike things about yourself, it’s still possible and important to hold appreciation for them because you are just a continuation of the universe itself and the rules of the game within it. Change is a constant and every aspect has its opposite. We must have things we dislike so that we can continue to grow - and to cherish this fact does not mean to give in to that which we don’t like, it’s just a paradigm that can brighten your perspective and give you more power to change.

Ugh I’m so fucking disgusted with the rock/metal community right now. I need to rant and make a long ass post so im sorry

But people are so fucking gross and awful.

Some one DIED. He fucking died and all you disgusting basement dwelling trolls can do is call him selfish and say that he took the easy way out.

No. Abso fucking lutely not. Depression is a serious mental disease that can’t be ‘cured’ with a few trips to your therapist and a bottle of feel good pills. Its a constant endless struggle that you have to deal with for months or years of your life.

I have been battling depression for the last four years or so, and I had one close scare myself. There are many times I think back on that incident and wonder what would have happened had I gone through with it. Would people have cared? I used to think that no one would. But I was wrong.

Suicide is not at all an option, but when you’re struggling to understand the demons inside your own head there is no black and white filter. Only the grey bleakness of your own self doubt that clouds your judgement.

He was more than an artist who didn’t fit to your selfish elitist ways. He was more than the 'coward’ you think him to be. He was a father, a best friend, a PERSON who had suffered years of abuse and trauma. His mind was so clouded that he believed this to be the best option.

You may fight tons of battles, but it only takes a single loss to ruin everything.

Normally I would never wish depression on another person as it is a terrible and awful thing to suffer from. But when you think you have it all figured out in your perfect elitist minds then maybe you should be forced into a similar situation and maybe then you will see the error of your toxic ways.

There are plenty of reasons I wanted to leave the metal community but this is the last fucking straw. Whatever happened to celebrating diversity?

Have fun with your idealistic keyboard warrior days and leave me the fuck out of it.

I can understand people being annoyed at all the self-indulgent ‘Tony was right and Steves life falls apart because hes wrong’ fics… but like…
After years of all the Stony fics if seen from the hype of the original Avengers movie where Tony was a train wreck(and often a cheater) that Long Suffering Perfect Boyfriend ™ Steve Rogers had to deal with…

LIKE…

MY STONY HATING ASS READING ‘NOT TEAM CAP FRIENDLY‘ FICS WHERE TONY IS IN PEACE AND LIVING LIFE HEALTHY AND HAPPY. SOMETIMES WITH PEPPER SOMETIMES WITH RHODEY SOMETIMES WITH TCHALLA, STRANGE, OR QUILL. SOMETIMES WITH BUCKY IF THE AUTHOR(and myself) IS FEELING PARTICULARLY EXTRA BUT ALL THE SAME– MFW:

**But I really wish authors would stop tagging Team Cap members in those fics.

anonymous asked:

Just now I realized that ociel has a thing with survivors. We all know he saved finny, bard (as shown in season 1) was the sole survivor of his trope, perhaps meyrin too. In addition were snake, sieglinde and wolfram. Like he somehow relates and want to grant them a second chance.

Yeah, he may indeed see himself in them, especially if the survivors were dragged into this not by their own choice (like Finny or Sieglinde). But I also think it’s part of dealing with his guilt. Because in some cases he’s the reason why that person is the sole survivor (with Snake, for example). So it’s like he wants to make up for destroying the survivor’s former life and therefore offers them a new one.

And on top of that Ciel, all these people Ciel is helping have some special talents that can be used for his own benefit. That may play a role, too. Or at least it’s his justification towards Sebastian or anyone so he doesn’t have to admit what’s really behind his wish of wanting to help them.

A message to Kurapika

Look Kurapika, I love you and you are being very smart in the way you deal with the princes. I am sure that if anyone can handle this tricky situation, it is you. But I have just one request: CLOSE THAT GOD DAMN EMPEROR TIME FOR FUCKS SAKE. WE ARE LITERALLY WATCHING YOU SLOWLY KILL YOURSELF. YOU ARE WASTING YOUR OWN LIFE WITH EVERY SECOND YOU ARE SPENDING IN THAT FORM. I AM LITERALLY HOPING WITH EACH PANEL THAT YOU WILL DEACTIVATE IT, BUT YOU ARE NOT DOING IT. VALUE YOUR OWN LIFE FOR FUCKS SAKE KURAPIKA.

i would like to take a moment out of my day to genuinely thank all of my friends and anybody who has ever taken time out of their life to talk to me and support me ,, i know i can be flighty and difficult to deal with but the fact that ive had so many people stick around and continue to support me just , means the world to me and i cant believe how lucky i am to have such amazing people in my life ,,, i hope that i am half a good a friend to you as you all are to me

Gentle reminder that not everything has to be a ship

And a gentle reminder that it’s okay if you try out a ship and the characters don’t click, and wind up just friends, or even enemies.

Y'all ships are awesome, and I ship many many things, but I don’t want anyone to feel obligated! My characters are riddled with issues and not always easy to deal with. It’s realistic that attempts at romance don’t work out. That people who think they’ll grow close wind up bitter or stop talking. This happens in real life all the time, and it can happen in roleplays too.

Don’t feel like you have to bend over backwards to make your character mesh with mine. It’s okay. I won’t be mad and if things are difficult between them, chances are I agree that they aren’t right for each other.

So don’t be afraid to refuse a ship or even to wind up with your muse hating another! It has no bearing on the muns themselves!

chester bennington killed himself and a few years back he said in a interview that he had suffered child abuse when he was 7 and that he’d already considered suicide bc of this, I’m so sad and disappointed at life… i mean, child abuse is still happening and this is the most horrifying thing ever and i know it happened yesterday but it tiggered a panic attack on me and all you just know how badly I keep saying here how we should protect kids, they can’t take care of themselves, they cant save themselves and child abuse takes the whole life of the person
I feel terribly bad and i know he had depression and drug and alcohol issues, but it always starts on smth and i know how hard it is, and i hope he rests in peace, and everyone who ever took away their lives bc they couldn’d deal with this
I keep saying that but i think it’s never enough and my old followers already know this story… protect your kids, child abuse takes their lives and they just keep going… i just needed to put those words out im sorry

anonymous asked:

THAT TMTTS FANART JUST KILLED ME?? IT WAS SO PERFECTLY EXACTLY HOW I IMAGINED ISAK AND EVEN, CEE CEE PLSPLS CAN U PULL A JULIE ANDEM AND HAVE A SCENE WHERE U BRING THE FANART TO LIFE IN THE FIC?? IDC HOW, LIKE MAYBE THE BOYS WALK IN ON THEM PASSED OUT LIKE THAT IN ONE OF THE LATER CHAPTERS OR SOMETHING, IDK IM DYING THAT FANART IS SO PERFECT IM ACTUALLY EMOTIONAL?? AND I AINT EVEN THE AUTHOR IDK HOW UR DEALING W THIS RN

ISN’T IT JUST I WOKE UP THIS MORNING AND I HAVE IT AS MY LOCK SCREEN AND I CRIED A LITTLE WHEN I SAW IT AFTER I GOT RID OF ALL THE NOTIFICATIONS JUST WOW

honestly though it’s bound to happen now it’s so beautiful and i need it and i love it and i’m still reeling

anonymous asked:

I can't stop cackling over that picture! Normal people standing in the face of the DD/GA dynamic is endlessly amusing to me. Also, that TV Guide picture has been ridiculous for like 25 years.

That TV Guide shoot was AMAZINGGGGGG (and ridiculous). I think I bought like 10 copies of it. 

But yes, it’s always weird for me (but amusing as hell) when Outsiders observe D&G. I feel sort of like WAIT YOU CAN SEE IT TOO? Heehee. (This is just a photoshoot, not like, life, but still.)

Edit: I’m also just cracking up now remembering what a HUGE DEAL TV Guide used to be. I mean, when X-Files was going to be IN TV GUIDE (which happened a few times), it was a major thing! Of course much of the anticipation was that they did their own interviews and photoshoots and it wasn’t like someone would just call them up for 2 minutes and then use preexisting publicity photos. But still, they had the budget to do that (maybe they still do, I don’t know) and they had the status to get the network to use David and Gillian’s precious time doing these elaborate photoshoots. “On the cover of TV Guide” was a major thing. And yet the name of the publication was TV GUIDE! That is funny! And it was a thing that tells you what is on TV every minute of the day in a grid! We don’t need that anymore! Poor TV Guide. Their glory days are behind them. No wonder they had a midlife crisis and bought that boat.

;;ooc

okay so, everyone who knows/follows me pretty much gets that I come as a package deal with @miimesis, and I just wanted to take a moment to gUSH ABOUT HER BECAUSE IT’S HER FUCKIN 19TH BIRTHDAY TODAY AND SHE DESERVES ALL THE LOVE AND BIRTHDAY CAKE BECAUSE SHE’S AMAZEBALLS. 

GO AND GIVE HER LOVE

seriously I can’t scream about this crabcake enough – we’ve known each other just over a year now, and already I can’t imagine my life without her. she’s my soul friend, my sistah from another mistah, and in… 7 days time I actually get to meet her in person and OMG it’s going to be the most glorious weekend.

I freakin love you, Keira! Have an amazing day, eat our combined weight in cake, and I’ll see you next week!!!!!!

anonymous asked:

Hi, i need your advice. I'm trying to be confident and comfortable in my own skin and it's really difficult and everytime I'm on ig or tumblr or anything & my mom is next to me and a picture of a pretty girl pops up my mom says, "this is why you don't feel pretty bc you're looking at pics of pretty girls" and man. This really messes me up. I don't compare myself to anyone but when she says stuff like that it's as if she's telling me I should feel ugly. How can I deal with this?

I don’t think that your mom meant it this way. Like believe me when I say, noone looks that perfected and filtered in real life, but on social media, so she probably wants you to stop indirectly comparing yourself to these kind of pics.