i approve of his fandom choices

anonymous asked:

I had been so impressed with the roll out of Harry's single, so this focus back on his private life is extremely disappointing. I had been hoping that for once the focus would stay on his music. This was clearly approved, so I wonder if Harry approved this for whatever reason or if he had no choice due to the label.

I think Harry and his team purprosefully chose to go this way. And behind the momentarily disappointment, I hope it was easy to see it’s a good and also normal choice. 

Thing is, Harry is not about to come out (and the fandom would crucify him if he did?) and personal life questions ARE a must. Like it or not, it’s not true that you can avoid them. I keep seeing people mention Ed Sheeran and how he doesn’t rely on his privacy for promo. Ok, true, but have you ever listened to Ed’s interviews? He constantly mentions his gf. Does that help him to sell? Hell, no, but he’s asked or he chooses to provide personal comments because it’s part of the game. Like it or not, it’s how it works. When we were complaining and horrified about Louis’ situation, it wasn’t because they were making radom questions about his son (of course they were, but that’s another whole and different situation there, not comparable with anyone in the world), but because they went embarrassingly hard about it? making it obviously extra? I mean, the problem there was that they brought a bloody cake in the studio for a 1yo toddler?

Harry is not coming out. He is not. So he’s not hinting at his male fiancé. If allowing questions on his dating life- especially given his kind of replies- is all they go with, I’ll call it a success. Because I’m braced for worse, but not for better than this. Of course everyone is more than free to not only feel, but express their disappointment- and this is a very important point to me, you won’t hear me scream SHUT UP at anyone-, but this is where I am.

anonymous asked:

What do you think of Kaneki massacring the oggai children? While I don't like Hajime, I think it's quite disgusting how many of touken shippers approved of this just because their precious Kaneki is killing for Touka's sake. This fandom is disturbing sometimes.

The thing is, we’ve seen Kaneki do this before, at the very beginning. When Nishiki was about to kill Hide, he made a choice. And that choice was to slaughter Nishiki like an animal. 

Tokyo Ghoul - Chapter 9

Because, in his mind, Nishiki was an enemy, a Ghoul who was going to kill someone he deeply cared for, and therefore was deserving of death. Despite everything, this is one decision that Kaneki is completely capable of making only when he can find a means to completely condemn the person he’s fighting.

Kaneki wouldn’t kill Hajime before, despite knowing that he was a spy for the CCG, and that he could very well pose a danger towards Goat and everyone under Goat’s protection. And that’s because that wasn’t a good enough reason for Kaneki to play judge, jury, and executioner. He hadn’t suffered any personal tragedy because of Hajime at that point. And though I can sit here and say Kaneki has poor decision making skills (which he does), I know I couldn’t sentence a child to death. But when he assumed the mantle of the king, forced or not, he chose to be responsible for any such decisions.

Which makes me think about the choice between the mother and child in Jason’s torture chamber and how truly devastating that was for Kaneki on top of the physical and psychological trauma that Jason put him through. Neither of them deserved death in Kaneki’s eyes, and it was easier for him to choose death for himself, because he couldn’t bare to make someone innocent die. That would be the same as letting Hide or Touka or anyone he deeply cares for hang.

Now that Hajime and the Oggai has caused him painful grief, he’d made his choice. And it really combines the choice he couldn’t make in Jason’s torture chamber, and also reflects the choice he was able to make that enabled him to save Hide’s life.

But this is the worst case scenario, because Kaneki’s backed himself too far into a corner. His only choices are: kill or die.

And he chose to kill. He’s choosing his loved one, one of the people he wants to protect, even if it means killing the Oggai, Hajime, children who have suffered horrifically because of Furuta, who are victims themselves. Because even though they’ve suffered, that doesn’t vindicate their how they’ve slaughtered so many people and so many people of Goat. Same for Kaneki. He’s suffered greatly, beyond what anyone could survive, but that doesn’t mean that this situation isn’t his fault.

Nothing about any of these situations are good or happy moments. They’re desperate and despairing. Especially with 145 out.

The only reason that extreme shippers (ES) are perceived negatively in the fandom is because many of them have behaved badly. If they ever decided to change those behaviors, perceptions of them would change accordingly.

A fellow blogger @adhara112​ got an anon about Amanda’s claims that there is a false negative perception about “shippers” in the fandom that has been fostered by “antis” (i.e., nonshippers/ truthers or NSTs). Adhara112 wrote a great POST showing what hypocrites certain ES are. I didn’t want my response to be lost in the sauce so I am responding to what adhara112′s anon was referring to, Amanda’s original comment. Someone shared this screencap with me about it

First, we NSTs are not the ones harassing Mac. We’ve identified a number of the Mac haters on IG as being ES. Most noteable we have identified Outlanderlover2013 as being the flutist (see POST). Most of her followers are ES. Many of the people who follow the Mac hate IG accounts or “like” or comment on their posts are known ES.  I’ve written about this before in detail (see POST). So please Amanda stop spreading your lies that NSTs are harassing Mac and blaming it on ES. That is simply not true.

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anonymous asked:

Why are people saying SS is problematic and that the source of it all is Sasuke. I'm not sure Sasuke has never been abusive to Sakura in fact he is the only character besides Ino that understands Sakura the best. Sasuke never was abusive I read it in a SS blog unfollowed him/or /her because it was awful how they depicted Sasuke as being abbusive and an absent father. I wanna know your opinion your not bias and you talk so eloquently.

Ah, the same old “SS is problematic” rigmarole. 

Yes you’re right, Sasuke is very attentive of Sakura and sees through her well. Sasuke is the source of most of SS’es problems, but that does NOT make SasuSaku problematic. Even someone as troubled as Sasuke found his happy ending, with the only girl he grew close to. And no, Sasuke has never been abusive. From the little we see of Sasuke in 700, he’s most likely NOT an absent father. Let’s get this last point out of the way first:

What is the basis of the absent father claims? He’s not in the village at that very moment? Do a few after-school instants characterize an entire relationship? 700 is the preamble to part III and the fact that he’s away is relevant to the plot. Sarada isn’t shown to long for her father, in fact, she’s noticing a similarity between her rivalry with Boruto and her dad’s with Naruto. If Sasuke were an absent father she wouldn’t speak of him so comfortably. And then, Sasuke is so connected to his daughter that he senses her exclamation. The only noises are his, the forest is static, the scene shifts toward him as his daughter is still talking, with the “…” it’s clear there’s nothing in the forest. Come onnnn. He’s clearly reacting to her. The lengths people will go to justify what they wish they saw… smh fandom. 

Part of SS’s struggles is also how Sakura thinks Sasuke sees her. I’m mentioning them, but this does NOT make them problematic. How can people call SS problematic if we haven’t even seen their dynamic as a mature couple? Almost no bond is ever the same before and after a relationship has been established. Is it okay to drop someone while they’re at their worst? How do the nuptial vows go again? “Through thick and thin (similar vows apply in Japan and other non-JudeoChristian traditions). Before getting into a relationship, Sakura reaffirms the earnest quality of her unconditional love, all this while never compromising her values. So from Sakura’s side, the love is admirable. 

The manga extends over Sasuke’s darkest years, it is not representative of stable Sasuke. Like we’ve been saying forever. Problematic/abusive relationships can be identified because the victim is unable to refuse the partner’s manipulative demands. Sasuke’s problem is the opposite, he tries so hard to escape those bonds. Never has he been controlling, never has he forced them to do something against their wishes, he never played the victim in order to gain something from Sakura or any one of his friends. Was Sakura hurting? A lot, but it was second-hand suffering because she’s very empathetic, and Sasuke’s pain is massive.

Does Sasuke have the right to be so broken? After all, Karin, Kimimaro and others lost their clan too. Hasn’t Kakashi seen his father die before his eyes? Some readers can’t forgive Sasuke for having been a thorn in the side of many, but I feel empathy for him. He was betrayed and brainwashed by the one person he loved the most. It isn’t just the tragedy of what he had to endure, but how he found the strength to survive one shocking revelation after the other. His thoughts were manipulated too many times. He could trust no one. No bond with a person so broken can be easy. Yet, this girl and team slowly gained ground into his heart, “I don’t ever want to watch those dear to me die before my eyes again” he thought could grow emotionless, he tried to rationalize feelings, but failed. That’s not how feelings work. Sakura is Sasuke’s special girl, the proof is scattered all over the manga. Even him, shattered as he was, mistaken as he was, recovered the unconditional love he had lost with his brother. Can you imagine how comforting Sakura’s love must be, for someone this hurt?

At this point we’re going in circles. Us SasuSaku shippers see an inspirational story in which a guy, who believes to have lost his right to be happy ever again, finds the truest love in someone who knows him well, who both saw him shine, and at his lowest. Despite having seen it all, and despite not approving of his choices, she still believes there’s good left in him, she wants him happy.

By rhetoric and the blindness of a bias, those who want to see evil will find it anywhere. If someone sees abuse in SS, they’re free to taint their glasses of whatever shade they choose, let them be my guest to steer clear of our fandom. Because nobody can guilt-trip us into loving this ship. In fact, guess what? THEIR persecution falls under abuse.

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You sipped your beer, casting Jim a sidelong grin. “You actually watched it?” you asked, unable to keep the amusement out of your tone.

Jim shook his head, lips curled upwards in a smile, “‘Greatest show on earth,’ you always told me. Course I watched it.”

You leaned back, taking another mouthful from your bottle, a laugh escaping you.

Gordon raised an eyebrow, “What?”

“I’m trying to imagine you watching Doctor Who.”

“Is that really so strange?”
You shrugged, smirking, “Have a favourite Doctor yet?”

“I’ve only ever seen Nine so far, so Nine.”

“Solid choice. I approve.”

*not my gif

techftw  asked:

Hey, can you explain what Remender did that was so terrible? Because I see a lot of posts talking about how he did something horrible, but I can't find what it actually is. Thanks!

1.  He killed Rogue and Scarlet Witch on his way out the door on Uncanny Avengers.  (Two female characters who feature heavily in just released/upcoming movies)

2. He fridged Sharon Carter for Steve Rogers’ manpain. (ANOTHER female character who features in a current movie, wow what are the CHANCES he’d find another one to kill?)

3. He just wrote a story that features a sex scene that a lot of people (especially females and POC, two groups that often feel that their concerns are not taken seriously by comics culture) are finding to be very problematic.  It involves alcohol, Sam Wilson (ANOTHER character that was just introduced in a major movie, WOW!) and a female character who may or may not be of age.  Although the narrative has established her to be an adult, the fact that Remender felt the need to clearly state her age in the middle of the sequence means that he was aware that most people did not take her to be an adult.  To put it another way, when Natasha Romanov has a morning after, it does not involve her saying, “I’m thirty-six.”  She doesn’t need to.  Everyone KNOWS she is an adult.  The fact that the character’s age must be stated indicates that the writer and the editorial staff KNEW it would be an issue, and they moved forward with it anyway.

4.  He wrote a speech where a (white, cis, het male who could pass for a non-mutant) character states that he does not approve of the “M-word,” or Mutant, that he considers it divisive.  IT IS BAD TO HAVE SUCH LABELS WE SHOULD DO AWAY WITH THEM.   This kind of speech, written and spoken from a position of privilege, does not feel like inclusion.  It feels like erasure.  Having a pretty blonde white boy dismissing the very real problems of people who CANNOT hide their minority identity, dismissing the way they define themselves, because he doesn’t like that word, but doesn’t offer an alternative, smacks of the worst kind of white male privilege, and it sticks in the craw.

4. I do not appreciate his writing aesthetic.  I do not appreciate how he treats female characters.  I do not approve of the choices he makes.  I do not appreciate how he handles his interviews or how he treats fandom.  I do not appreciate the fact that every time I get an ask saying, “I’m new to comics, but I love the movies, can you recommend a comic?” I cannot, in good conscience recommend Captain America.  I will not, especially to a new, female reader who loves the Cap she’s seen on the screen.  Because Remender does not write that Cap.

5.  He is a hack.  I’ve seen more compelling plots and character development from the average AO3 fic.  

I don’t like him.  I’d be happy to see him driven from comics.  I’d be happy to have Cap in better hands.  I will not buy anything else with his name on it.  I have let Marvel know as much, and I continue to support comics with creators who, in my opinion, treat their characters and their fanbase with more respect.

LISTEN UP FUCKERS

Ok, listen up.

CALUM IS 18.

CALUM IS 18.

CALUM IS 18

calum is 18

CALUM IS 18

C A L U M I S 1 8

CALUM IS FUCKING 18!!!!!!!!!!

I AM SICK OF THIS FANDOM TREATING HIM LIKE HE’S 7 AND MAKING JOKES ABOUT JOY NOT APPROVING OF HIS CHOICES AND SAYING THAT HE’S BEING PROBLEMATIC OK YOU ARE ALL BEING PROBLEMATIC. THEY CAN’T DO ONE THING WITHOUT YOU CRITICIZING IT AND TO BE HONEST IF I WERE CALUM I WOULD TREAT YOU GUYS LIKE YOU ARE TREATING HIM, 

LIKE FUCKING CHILDREN.

FOR STARTERS: THE PICTURE ISN’T EVEN THAT CLEAR.

HE MIGHT’VE BEEN DRINKING THROUGH A STRAW, HE MIGHT HAVE BEEN SUCKING A DICK. HE MIGHT HAVE BEEN SMOKING.

IT DOESN’T MATTER.

ALSO

IT’S NOT LIKE HE’S SMOKING 10 CIGARETTES EVERY DAY, IF IT EVEN IS A CIGARETTE. IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN WEED AND AS SOMEONE WHO HAS SMOKED BOTH AND AS SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN IN THIS FANDOM FOR A LONG TIME: THIS ISN’T EVEN THAT BAD. WEED IS BETTER FOR YOUR HEALTH AND CALUM ISN’T THE TYPE OF PERSON TO GO AND RISK HIS HEALTH. HE ALSO HAS FRIENDS AND FAMILY THAT WOULDN’T LET HIM WASTE HIS LIFE AWAY.

WHICH ISN’T WHAT HE’S DOING.

HE’S JUST DOING STUFF THAT 18 YEAR OLDS DO. IT’S NOT A CRIME. CALM YOUR TITS.

AND DON’T TRY AND SAY YOU’RE JUST LOOKING OUT FOR HIM: YOU’RE NOT.

YOU’RE JUST BEING PROBLEMATIC, WHINY LITTLE BITCHES.

AND IT WON’T GET YOU ANYTHING.

An open letter to Ashley Devine,

TAYLOR SWIFT IS A FUCKING HUMAN BEING. She isn’t perfect. She isn’t some pure light that shits rainbows and unicorns. She lives her life as best as she can and deals with assholes daily. When ‘FANS’ write open letters starting their disappointment in Taylor who is dealing with situations we know VERY LITTLE ABOUT it makes me want to smack them right back into their mom’s womb bc clearly they need to rethink their life choices.

I have NEVER been so embarrassed by this fandom in my life. ASHLEY DEVINE maybe get off the internet and stop holding a person up to such high standards that when she ends a relationship and isn’t devastated you find that problematic and GOD FUCKING FORBID she moves on. What is the grieving period for a relationship ending?!? Should she have sulked around for 2 years and released RED 2.0 before you APPROVED of her dating again?!?


Kanye West illegally recorded a PRIVATE conversation and then his trash wife leaked it out of context. Taylor never lied to us. Her statement didn’t change after the call leaked. Kanye, his trash wife, the media and fans like you owe HER an apology for being complete assholes who feel they are OWED anything by Taylor. She owes you jack shit.


I hope you get you head out of your ass - Mac

So this happened and I'm just at a loss.

I saw this in this post:

I took it and put it in my own post because I didn’t want to clog the other one with my response.

It’s unpopular opinion time.

Actors in general do not get that involved with their fandoms that they’ll sit there reading fanfiction. I used to work for an actor on a show in the mid-90s who was part of a ship that eventually went canon and he knew about fanfiction, shipping, etc. It didn’t bother him. He didn’t care. It didn’t make him uncomfortable or anything, but he never felt a desire to read fanfiction, nor did he want to answer shipping questions in public. Why? It pitted his fans against each other and made him feel responsible if people responded negatively. So he chose not to talk about it in public even if the concepts of fanfiction and shipping didn’t personally bother him. Jensen’s handling of shipping and fanfiction is virtually identical to the guy I used to work for.

Let’s throw another unpopular opinion out there.

The majority of people–probably Jensen included–don’t feel comfortable looking at incest between brothers. That’s just a fact. And honestly, any kind of fanfiction should not be part of any actors’ sphere of interest. Fanfiction is for fans, not actors. I mean, do people really think Jensen would be interested in brother-on-brother incest? Come on. I don’t even expect the actors to glance at Destiel fanfiction or any other kind at all either. The media asking about it just pits fans against each other, as we see here.

Even if he did look at fanfiction, I highly doubt he’d admit to it–especially in the NY Times–because of the venom between the Destiel and Wincest camps. Misha has talked about it before, how the concept of shipping doesn’t bother him but he doesn’t feel like he can talk about it because he gets backlash. He said he has to choose his words very carefully. So do I blame Jensen for wanting no part of being that deeply invested in the fandom? Not at all.

But for this J2fangirl person to twist his words around into a Destiel thing is wrong. That’s not what he said. Do I think he looks at Destiel fics? Absolutely not, nor would I ask him to as a Destiel shipper. I’m simply saying stop twisting his words around to fit your venomous agenda. He was asked about Wincest and that was his response. Period. Don’t use Jensen as a tool to bash a subsect of fans that you don’t like.

If actors enjoy reading fanfiction, like Orlando Jones, then that’s their choice. Jensen chooses not to get that involved with the fandom and his response was the correct one for him. It’s not a tool for you to be hateful toward people you don’t like. I highly doubt Jared, Jensen, or Misha would approve of the deep divisions and bullying that go on in their names.

Stop it. Just stop it. Disagreeing with people is not a free license to be mean to them.

To the Crisscolfer dickwads who have been harrassing Chris

Yes, I’m posting this on your precious tag because I wanted to make sure you idiots had a chance to read this. Given how many times I’ve had to block those who post your crap on the Chris Colfer tag, you’ll just have to deal.

Who the flying fuck do you think you are? What the hell do you think gives you the right to harass Chris, boyfriend, his family and his friends because they refuse to cater to you and your delusions?

Crisscolfer might be a fictional ship, but Chris’s life is not. He has a real relationship with someone not named Darren Criss. And seriously…. looking at the two of them now, what makes you think that Darren, even if he did like dick, would have a hope in hell in getting someone like Chris? He barely associates with Darren outside of the show. They are, at best, cordial workplace friends. Not close intimates and not by any stretch of the imagination secret lovers. Now I will grant that a good number of you accept that and are able to separate fantasy from realty. Therefore this post is not aimed at you.

It’s one thing to write your little stories and play with photo manipulations for your own personal enjoyment. It’s another thing altogether to expect Chris to want to see it as well. Chris has a very good grasp on the line of separation between himself and the character that he plays so sexy pictures of him as Kurt don’t bother him. Sexy pictures of him as himself with someone that he is not in a relationship crosses the line. Again, making this stuff for your own amusing is one thing, but Chris shouldn’t have your fapping material inflicted upon him. Especially since he’s expressed a distaste for it.

And here comes the next part of my post - the behavior of a lot of you show a shocking level of disrespect for Chris. I do remember the time not that long ago when Chris had expressed discomfort with the RLP stuff and someone responded by sending Chris a load of Crisscolfer porn. That was real nice. Or people posting pictures of the dedication pages from Chris’s books with his boyfriend’s name blurred out (or worse, with Darren’s name inserted. I’ve seen numerous posts of Crisscolfer fans saying that they won’t support Chris’s writing because they can’t stand to see Will’s name in the acknowledgements. And then we have the morons that decided that harassing Dot’s wife over posting a picture of Chris having an evening with friends that did not include Darren. Now we have Chris’s instagram being spammed because his boyfriend dared to comment on one of Chris’s posts, and this new bitchfest because Chris has again expressed dislike over the RLP.

Let’s get something straight. Everyone is entitled to their fantasies. RL fandom is fine when you know where the line between fantasy and reality is. But when you can’t shake your insistence that your fantasy is real and take it to the point where you start harassing people over it, you’ve gone too far. Chris doesn’t need to see your fapping material. Especially after he’s already said that it makes him uncomfortable. And if you can’t tell the difference between him enjoying regular fanfic and art (even if explicit) or requesting art based on his books for a contest vs that which depicts himself in romantic/sexual settings with someone that he’s not involved with, then you need serious help. I don’t care if you think that Will is an awful person or that Chris and Darren would be perfect together. Chris doesn’t need your approval over who he is romantically involved with and if you cannot respect Chris’s choices or his privacy, then you have bigger issues than your “ship” being “disrespected”.

So here’s the challenge to you on this tag. You don’t want people like me coming in to read you the riot act, then start policing yourselves. Don’t support those who think that harassing Chris, his boyfriend or anyone else who doesn’t approve of their “fandom” is acceptable. Otherwise, expect more lectures from the rest of the fandom who are who are totally sick of your shit.