i apologize to the actual tumblr users

  • tumblr in 2018: tumblr user murderboi345 might have admitted to being a serial killer. but he apologized for it. i just can't believe how toxic this website is that they just keep bringing up this old discourse to attack murderboi345 who is actually a great person and i know this because i reblogged 3 of their posts. in fact they haven't even murdered anyone since 2017 and here you all are attacking them for the MISTAKES they committed when they were barely in their 20s. people change tumblr!

anonymous asked:

Just yknow so you know Roachpatrol isn't an "outed pedophile"... that was a rumor started by people who don't like her or her friend group and then they took something she said (which she admitted later that it was worded poorly and apologized for it along with rewording it) and twisted the original intention.

I am hesitant to address this because Tumblr, but I did in fact know this D:

I got a few messages from users in the past ‘informing’ me of the call-out so I thanked them and then went and checked out roach’s blog, specifically the tags dedicated to addressing the issue and I think people should do the same instead of spreading vicious and damaging rumours without actually finding out whether they’re true or not.

As someone who was accused (more than once) of drawing incest without ever having drawn any, I am aware of how easy it is for things to be blown out of proportion so I’m extra suspicious of all these ‘informative’ call-out posts, and so should everyone else!

I got to present in a workshop on Saturday at the 2017 American Studies Association conference in Chicago. My part of it was about the ways that tumblr’s format obscures the fact that users only ever see a tiny slice of tumblr as a whole and how that endangers young and new trans folk. 

It went really well and I’m proud of how I did, especially as a non-academic at a decidedly academic conference. I got a good response from the audience, and my fellow panelists assured me that I didn’t ACTUALLY talk too much, though I’m certain they’re very wrong. 3,000 apologies should be enough of that, right?

I’m not going to share any more about it, but I was REALLY proudest of my last slide in the presentation. I call it ‘Self-portrait of the author.’ I think I captured my likeness about as well as free clipart can do. 

I’m a scholar y'all!

anyway, as the release date of dr strange approaches, here’s a couple of things i wanna get straight on where i stand:

1) if you wanna go financially support this dumpster fire of a movie, you do you, but don’t go back and call yourself an anti-racist ally afterwards. not watching the movie literally isn’t gonna cost you anything; financially supporting it means choosing to support a hugely dehumanising piece of media that you can easily boycoytt without any detriment or nuisance to yourself.  

1.5) seriously, even if you’re a diehard fan of the original comics/the actors/whatever, pirate it or something. hq (ish) marvel torrents usually take like a couple of weeks to leak these days.

2) if you’re not tibetan, chinese, or asian, stop speaking over tibetans, other chinese and other asian ppl talking about it, especially tibetans who were erased and whitewashed, especially tibetans talking about chinese communist government’s oppression of the tibetan people (i’m looking really hard @ all the tumblr communists who had the fucking gall to derail the actual, lived experiences of a tibetan user to spew the bullshit communist apologism)

3) i don’t care how many PoC Friends of Colour you have or photoshoots of PoC of Colour you reblog, if you’re white and repeatedly speak over poc in fandom talking about what is/isn’t racist, you’re still an ugly fucking racist lmao. 

have a nice day :)

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Personally, I don’t think shubbabang needs to apologize. I interpreted the first panel as confusion, as the 10 year old may not have ever seen two men kissing before. Also, I’ve seen so many tumblr users that embody that second panel, even more ironically it’s often the same types of people who demonize heterosexual relationships for one reason or another, so I also interpreted it as a comic actually making fun of the intense fetishization of gay men by teenage girls. And plus, if it weren’t so relatable, the comic wouldn’t have gotten so popular.

I hope they’re not receiving any anon hate over this, especially since they apologized.

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Season 2 Deleted Scene Discussion: Bedelia and Jack

In all of my discussions of the deleted scenes, I’ll be addressing five questions.

  1. What was in the scene?
  2. Where should it have come in the story?
  3. What does it do for the story?
  4. Why was it left out?
  5. Was leaving it out a good decision or not?

See also “Season 2 Scene Discussion: Hannibal and Will.”

Quick disclaimer on this one: This is a long post with lots of gifs. If you’re on Tumblr mobile app, it’s probably going to cut off the ending of this post, and it will struggle to expand the gifs as you get farther in. But I’ve used gifs to reference the source instead of just discussing it, so it won’t be possible to get the idea without being able to see them. Thus if you want to actually see what I say in here, you’ll want to be on the website and not the app.

(My apologies to mobile users for you having to scroll through this long thing.)

Keep reading

Went to see Mr Holmes with Ian McKellen,yesterday .What a lovely film and what an actor. If there was a hands’-acting Oscar award, he should win it. It was hands’ reference heaven!


PS: Some of you messaged me about a certain tumblr user, who uploaded my Johnlock kiss gif, without giving credits. I want to thank you guys for standing up for me on this.I have to admit (without any intention of *ss kissing :P) that tumblr is one of the best internet communities out there, because it actually works as a community should.Protecting its members. So, yeah thanks. The user took it down and apologized and that is fine by me so let’s call it a day. :)

Give credits to the artists fellas. That way, you help them get a wider audience and maybe get paid jobs. It’s as simple as this. Credit the artist, get them work. Your help is just a couple of clicks but it might pay my months’ rent :)

You are all great. Thank you <3 <3 <3

@snapkyuu, I’m sorry if it looks like I stole your picture. I saw the photo on Facebook and I asked the poster if it was his original photo and if I could post it on tumblr. The Facebook user said yes. I didn’t know it was actually yours and I apologize for posting it. I already deleted the photo. Once again, I’m extremely sorry.

Guess what the road to hell is paved in?

Good intentions. It’s a trite saying, I know, but unfortunately it’s pretty damn relevant right now.

This post is about the incident of sexual harassment at Disneyland, but I’m not interested in addressing the person who did it. Because what I’m really appalled with right now is the reylo community’s response, and that’s what I want to talk about.

Over the last two days I’ve seen at least as many posts apologizing on the harasser’s behalf as I have discussion about why her actions were unacceptable. These passionate defenses have included everything from extolling the harasser’s personal virtues to saying things like “her intentions were good,” her behavior at the park was “playful,” her actions don’t merit the hate she’s receiving, sharing the incident on her blog was “innocent,” maybe she crossed a line but “she didn’t mean any harm” etc. etc.

Further, I’ve seen a few claims floating around that the harasser has apologized. This may be true, but if so I find it odd that I haven’t seen evidence of it anywhere. And no, “I pissed off tumblr” and “I’m sorry you find my sexual harassment offensive” is not an apology. If the user in question has made an actual apology, someone please PM me about it so that I can edit or redact this paragraph. (I’m requesting a PM because I’m hoping to avoid drawing further attention to the user’s blog.)

That this is how we respond as a community to an incident of blatant sexual harassment is frankly disturbing. But I guess it shouldn’t be surprising, because it perfectly reflects the general social attitude toward sexual harassment in particular, and to a lesser degree, sexual assault and rape. People who experience sexual harassment are constantly told that their experiences aren’t serious enough to merit penalizing the harasser, that they are being overly sensitive to harmless flirting, and that they don’t deserve justice.

I have not been harassed, but I was sexually assaulted as a child, and it took me over ten years to use the word “rape” to describe what happened to me. There are many reasons for this, but part of it is because the few adults I confided in only said that my experience was normal and dismissed my response to it as an overreaction.

Needless to say, seeing similar language being used by a good portion of the reylo community to excuse sexual harassment is deeply upsetting to me.

I’m not alone in this. I’ve seen multiple people, whose experiences are closer to that of the Disney employee’s than my own, saying the same thing. They feel invalidated and dismissed–which is a perfectly reasonable response to seeing an instance of obvious sexual harassment invalidated and dismissed!

To be clear: I absolutely am NOT advocating that anyone send the harasser anon hate or bully her in any other way. Responding to an incident of sexual harassment by bullying the harasser is both unkind and unproductive.

However, I also want to make clear that informing someone that their behavior is sexual harassment is not in itself bullying. Just like telling a racist or homophobic person that their statements are bigoted is not bullying. Just like telling a physical abuser that their actions are abusive is not bullying. Calling out inappropriate behavior and applying the proper name to it is not harassment, and saying that it is only further alienates and invalidates actual survivors for the sake of protecting a harasser’s feelings.

I’m not denying that tumblr mob culture is a real and nasty thing, nor that our fandom has engaged in it in the past, and I definitely don’t want to see this turn into another such instance. But bloggers have every right to call out sexual harassment for what it is without being incorrectly named harassers ourselves, because these things are not the same.

It’s true that people can make huge mistakes, and that someone can be a generally nice person and still act in a way that is abusive and potentially traumatic, but those things should not be the focus of the topic at hand.

Why are we rallying around and protecting a harasser more than we are talking about the gravity of sexual harassment? Why are we paying more attention to a harasser’s good intentions (which are irrelevant) than the harm she might have done to a real life person? Why are we talking about sexual harassment in a way that excuses the damage it can do?

This is wrong. This very, very wrong, and at the risk of pissing off a lot of people, I am saying it loudly and without apology.

XKit Update, February 11

Once again I apologize for the lack of updates and if you’ve sent me an ask and didn’t get a reply yet. I’ve received a lot of asks while I was on my break (and I am still on a semi-break actually) but I’ve been trying to reply to your asks. It might take a few days to get a reply. Thank you for your understanding.

XKit Patches and Quick Tags

  • Fixed not being able to use Tag Bundles on sideblogs on posts that were created/posted by another user.

Convert Links

  • Fixed it not working due to Tumblr changes.

Blog Tracker

  • Increased limit track to 15 blogs.
  • Small bug fixes.

XKit Preferences

  • Now you can reach the Tumblr Help pages by holding down the ALT key while clicking on the XKit icon.

Drafts+ and Classic Header

  • Small bug fixes.
RACISM~ the pizza masterpost

OK since pizza deleted her posts, I thought people deserved to know what was going on, hence, this masterpost.

A year ago, tumblr user pizza made tons of racist tags, such as “nigga fights”, “nigga stories”, and other such, blatantly racist material. However, 3 hours before this shit went down, she was discovered linking her racist tags to people, and so shit blew up.

She removed her tags and posted 1 text post apology as well as a video apology on youtube.

HOWEVER.

All she’s stated on her “apologies” is that she said those things over a year ago, and that she’s grown above it now.

But pizza had the tags up on her home page, as well as having LINKED the tags to other people just hours before she got caught. So it’s quite clear she’s only sorry she got caught, rather than being sorry for the actual racism.

~end of what I know so far about the actual facts~

Feel free to show me more evidence on what she’s done, so I can add to this post!!

~and here is my opinon, skip it if you don’t care~

I genuinely feel like blatant racism from such a pointedly well-followed blogger such as hers should be shut down as largely as possible, especially since she isn’t apologizing. If you actually pay attention to what she says, she just says “it was a year ago, I’ve moved on past that”. Her apology is not sincere at ALL. I’m not starting a fight, I’m just trying to make sure this never happens again.

anonymous asked:

Do us all a favor and stay out of the Dievin tag or maybe just the Desert Bluffs tag in general. Obviously you are too young to understand that two people can be in a BDSM relationship and be healthy together. Last I checked you were not the creator of Diego so you couldn't possibly know what type of relationship he would have with Kevin. Ok? Thanks. Goodbye.

Wow. Wow. Okay. I just hit the motherfucking jackpot with this one. Sit your ass down and buckle right the fuck up because you’re gonna fucking need it.

Let me tell you something, anon. I don’t even go into the tags. I avoid the WTNV tags like the plague. This is just shit I’ve seen on my dash. Which means this is the shit that gets popular.

Let me tell you something else. As part of a BDSM relationship, I know what healthy BDSM looks like. I’ve been researching BDSM relationships long before ever becoming part of one, both for writing purposes and as someone interested in the community. And just because I’m 19 does not mean I’m “too young to understand” this sort of thing.

I am not the creator of Diego, nor the Dievin ship, this much is true. However, Dievin is an abusive cycle, not BDSM. It doesn’t take much more than basic knowledge of both BDSM and the warning signs of abuse to be able to see that.

VF has compared Dievin to Gomez and Morticia from the Addams Family. However, Dievin is far more similar to the dynamic between Christian and Anastasia from the 50 Shades trilogy. Anyone who’s read 50 Shades and has any knowledge of true BDSM knows and has informed others that the relationship depicted in the trilogy is not BDSM, but out and out abuse.

Diego Strex is like Christian Grey—suave, manipulative, controlling, possessive, obsessive, always gets what he wants. And what he wants is the object of his affection, who, though he may get all heart-eyed and mushy over them, he still sees as belonging to him.

Kevin as depicted in the Dievin ship and in VF’s work is like Anastasia—sweet, kind, somewhat naive. And yet, despite seeming to have his lover wrapped around his finger, he is still under Diego’s complete control.

While it is true that most of the works romanticizing that abusive dynamic are not directly made by VF, save for Kevin fawning over how “protective” (read: possessive) Diego is, she has made no move to denounce them. In fact, she reblogs them, sometimes leaving positive comments, showing she wholeheartedly supports and endorses them. Through this, she shows us that this is exactly how their relationship is. Tumblr user meveret is often the worst perpetrator of these fanfics, and often the one whose ideas/suggestions/fics become part of VF’s canon.

TW: Abuse—next three paragraphs {{Here is a perfect example of this. (I had to actually go find an example for you, I hope you’re happy.) In this, Diego has kissed a sparkly pink gun goodnight, thinking Kevin is asleep. The next day, he returns from work to a locked door, seeing Kevin holding said gun over the fire through the window. Diego threatens Kevin, and when that doesn’t work, begins apologizing, even begging, and breaks down crying when Kevin drops the gun into the flames.

Meveret takes this a step further. In their fanfiction expanding on the comic VF made, they wrote that after Diego is allowed inside, he mourns his lost firearm. When asked why, Kevin says he thought Diego had a problem, an addiction of sorts, and it would help if he got rid of the other guns, too. Diego flies into a rage, and of course, the perfectly logical conclusion he jumps to? He strangles Kevin to the point of unconsciousness, very nearly killing him. He then drugs Kevin so that he forgets the entire incident, even going so far as to cut out Kevin’s third eye, which had allowed him to see Diego kissing the gun in the first place. Kevin remembers nothing of what happened and goes back to loving his perfect Diego.

This is a perfect example of an abuse cycle—tensions build (Kevin taking Diego’s guns and Diego’s threat to “shut your third eye permanently”), the incident occurs (Diego blowing up and strangling Kevin, then removing his eye), reconciliation/the honeymoon period (Diego having no reason to be angry now that Kevin remembers nothing).}}

In VF’s reblog of that alone we see that she supports that depiction of Diego and Kevin’s relationship. Never once has she denounced any work where her character is depicted as abusive. Every fanfic that she has reblogged, no matter who has written it, has had undertones of Diego’s possessive obsession for Kevin. As I said, though, most of these are written by meveret. So, VF, as well as meveret, are the biggest perpetrators of the romanticized abuse of the Dievin ship.

So don’t fucking come here and tell me that Dievin is anywhere remotely close to a healthy BDSM relationship. Obviously you are too ignorant to be able to tell the difference between a healthy BDSM relationship and romanticized abuse. Ok? Thanks. Goodbye.

anonymous asked:

wait what happened with cassie,?

This is a long story. But I have to give background or it won’t make sense. If you guys already know what happened between me, my friends, and Fangirlish/TMI Source the other day, scroll past this first part until you see “!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Fangirlish has a copy of an early draft of the script, as does TMI Source. They posted about things that they saw in the scripts, but didn’t post them with disclaimers. So everyone got all upset about things that aren’t even in the final script, and both blogs kept posting things that aren’t true. For example, just the other day, one blog tweeted that Dot (an original character for the show) is Clary’s best friend, not Simon. This completely goes against what ABC Family said, that Simon is Clary’s best friend. But which ever blog that posted this obvious lie didn’t fact check and tweeted this anyway, even though they were basing this information on a draft that they got at least a month ago, before Alberto was cast because in his casting reveal, ABC Family gave a description of the character (Clary’s best friend). So anyway: obvious lying/ignoring facts. 

They’ve done this many times before and have been called out by many fans for it. So the other day, I reblogged the screenshots of their tweet about Dot and some other useless tweet, and I said (paraphrasing) “Stop lying/getting the fans riled up. You don’t know what’s actually going on you ‘ignorant ducks’”. I did call them ignorant ducks because they were being ignorant and ducks because idk I just think ducks are a non-offensive quasi-insult. Also they didn’t misread the “ignorant ducks” part because Fangirlish reblogged the post and said “I AM NOT AN IGNORANT DUCK!” So then my friend reblogged me and was basically like “Fangirlish and TMI Source need to stop acting like they know everything.” That’s all she said. There was nothing rude or mean from her side of the post. 

So sometime just after that, I - taking a cue from Fangirlish and their “open letter” attacks on the writer of Shadowhunters - posted an open letter to Fangirlish and TMI Source, basically saying “stop lying/posting rumors/getting fans riled up just because you want attention. it’s not fair to the fans and we’re tired of this bullshit”. “Bullshit” is the only word I can think of that may have been offensive. 

Then Fangirlish tweeted (and TMI Source retweeted) a tweet like “just because you post to tumblr doesn’t mean I don’t see the bullying” and she linked my friend’s post, which had my “ignorant ducks” comment CLEARLY being said by ME, but the post she linked was my friend’s reblog that I talked about above. So, since my friend’s blog was linked, SHE was the one who was attacked by tens of thousands of people that follow Fangirlish and/or TMI Source. So then my friend came to me, extremely sad saying “I didn’t even say anything and they sent their followers after me, calling me a bully. I didn’t even do anything bad.” and she DIDN’T. She had to go ask everyone who’d reblogged her post to delete her parts because she didn’t want to deal with people coming at her, harassing her - something that started with Fangirlish. 

Then, after seeing how poorly my friend was being treated for something I did, I went to tweet Fangirlish. I have the screenshots of our conversation but that’d make the post even longer. Basically it was:

L: people tell you to stop lying and so you call them bullies? you can’t get mad when fans tell you to stop lying. you haven’t seen a final script and you’re not writing the show. stop lying to us. 

F: I’m not lying

L: yes you are, as you’ve done before

F: I haven’t lied

L: *links post from a few months ago debunking everything Fangirlish lied about with the Shadowhunters show* uh, yeah you did

F: *blocks Leigh*

Also, though I never even tweeted them, TMI Source blocked me.

THEN I found a tweet from Fangirlish to my friend, saying “don’t call me names, you don’t know me” but this is the friend who DID NOT CALL THEM ANY NAMES. Reminder: this is all public so tens of thousands of people are seeing this girl calling my friend a bully and attacking my friend. If it were just the link to her tumblr post, that was bad enough, but then she had to call out my friend THROUGH TWITTER, so twitter AND tumblr users could go after her. 

So then I was like “hmmm, maybe what I said was too mean and they got offended and they thought ___ was the person who had insulted them so they’re calling her a bully.” I thought that’s what was going on and I felt extremely bad because if I’d been the only person who they were attacking, whatever. I’m a tough girl, I can handle some people on the internet. But they were not only attacking an innocent person (and I have screenshots of her SEVERAL apologies, though she never actually did any wrong), but after I posted to tumblr about what had happened that night, many other people came to me with the same story. “I got tired of Fangirlish posting lies, I told them to stop, they harassed me and my friends, blocked us, and continued to blog their lies.” This is showing that the person (or people) running Fangirlish is a bully. This wasn’t a one time thing or a misunderstanding. This was straight up bullying, harassment, and playing the victim. There’s no excuse for what she’s done. 

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So Cassandra Clare follows both TMI Source and Fangirlish since they are very big blogs in the fandom. There’s about a 3% chance that she did NOT see what was happening the other day. And even if she hasn’t seen what happened, she has DOUBTLESSLY gotten messages/emails/questions about it. She knows what was going on and what Fangirlish was doing. And yet she’s still supporting these blogs, even after they sent thousands of people to attack an innocent girl. She defends their lying with “they can have their opinions” but first of all, they were not posting “opinions”, they were “reporting facts”. And second, opinions are not okay when they result in people being bullied. There’s a big difference between “this is my opinion” and “this is a lie but don’t call me out or I’ll tell thousands of people that you’re a bully”. But in Cassie-logic, “opinions” can excuse bullying?? 

What’s really fucked up about this is that Cassie has a history of bullying people online, though she has moved past that. But by supporting blogs who the fandom witnessed bully someone who was completely innocent, who fans have been attacked by several times in the past, who have harassed and written rude things to the show runner, she’s being no better than them. If you support bullies, you are just as bad as that bully. The thing that pisses me (and other fans I’ve talked to) off is that she’s the author of our favorite series and yet we have to sit here and witness her defend people who have bullied us and the people in charge of our show? What the hell kind of shit is that?

I love Cassie’s books, I think they’re great. I think it’s awesome that she has such a cool story and diverse cast of characters. But when you support people who treat your readers like shit, there’s a problem. I’m not about to support an author who thinks that’s an okay thing to do. I’m still going to watch the show, and I’ll read the books IF FANS GET AN APOLOGY FOR HER DOING THIS. But other than that, Cassandra Clare doesn’t exist to me.