All I can say is that you make me… you make me into someone I couldn’t even imagine. You make me happy, even when you’re awful. I would rather be with you - even the you that you seem to think is diminished - than with anyone else in the world.
The thing is, you’re pretty much never going to catch someone actively physically abusing a kid. You’re probably not going to have any idea that it’s happening right under your nose. That’s why, when working with children, you absolutely do need to report suspicious or inappropriate behavior, even if it seems minor or just a joke. You can’t point to a single specific behavior and say that it is or is not grooming, except in retrospect, because you’re never going to be privy to the full picture.
Summer camp requires you to establish rapport with kids under your care. You want them to like you and consider you a trustworthy adult that they can turn to. It’s your responsibility not to abuse that trust and to be vigilant in regards to how your coworkers behave - you’re probably also a legally mandated reporter. You really can’t be too careful… better someone get in trouble for poor judgement than have serious abuse go unchecked.
Testing and pushing a child’s boundaries via subjecting them to inappropriate comments, jokes, and other sexual language is absolutely a method of grooming. Even if you’re not personally taking advantage of that, you’re establishing these things as normal adult-child interactions when they are absolutely not. It does not benefit the kid in any way. Either they don’t understand what you’re saying but realize that they are being mocked and humiliated and made uncomfortable by adults, or they do get it… maybe because the last time they heard that, it wasn’t meant as a joke.
we have all expressed our sadness over skam ending and we all joked and laughed saying “what are we gonna do after skam” or “how am i supposed to get over skam” but like now that skam is ending tomorrow who here genuinely feels like they dont know what theyre gonna do after skam
like ppl always talk about how miserable they are and how gloomy their lyrics sound but when you have thousands of people singing along at the top of their lungs to a song that came out 20 years ago and is being played by a band that’s been around for 30 odd years and like every person in the field and on the stage and watching from their laptops around the world is smiling so wide their faces look like they’re gonna split open, that is what a feel good band is. and it’s radiohead. doesn’t matter what they sing about, it’s how it makes you feel.
I never post many selfies because I never really had much confidence due to being plus size. It took me a while to not wear makeup. So two years ago I decided to not wear makeup for a full year. My face broke out, I found new skincare and started to feel more empowered. I went through a bit of a rough patch in regards of how others see me but today, I decided to just wear mascara. And I noticed how beautiful my eyes were. Then I started to notice how the shade of red my hair likes to stay brings them out too. Then I started to notice how long my lashes were….and I realized, only I need to find myself beautiful. I don’t need others to tell me I am. I don’t need to keep bringing myself down if men or women arent interested. I don’t need love except love for myself.
So to all the women and men who struggle with their weight as self acceptance, and im not talking about overweight only. Im saying those who cant gain weight either..
tell yourself every day how much you are worth, how much you have accomplished. Find one new quality about yourself you admire. Because we are all beautiful to someone, but we need to be beautiful for ourselves.