ok so I've been thinking and like. I love my ace friends and I support them and I know they struggle but as a lesbian like. sometimes I feel uncomf. with cishet aces in lgbt spaces and im really worried I might come off as aphobic if i talk to anyone about it. I really don't want to make anyone feel unwelcome I just am like :/ what do. do u have any advice for me feeling more comfortable?
Think about why you are uncomfortable with them. If it’s because you’re worried they might be homophobic, remember they most likely wouldn’t be in lgbt+ safe spaces in the first place if they didn’t support gay people. And if one does end up being homophobic I’m sure the group would no problem with kicking that person out. Or if it’s because you can’t relate much with their experiences, that’s fine. You can stick with just interacting with other lesbians/sapphics. None of this makes you aphobic unless you’re actively trying to kick aces out of their spaces.