i am not in a pan

We Need To Talk About Ramona Blue:

TO EVERYONE WHO GAVE THIS BOOK ONE STAR WITHOUT READING IT:

First off, know that I am not going away. I am going to stand here and scream this from the rooftops as many times as I have to. Because I am tired of my voice and my story being drowned out. This book tells my story. If I get even one person to at least consider they might be wrong, if even one person buys this book because of me, then I’ve made a difference. 

I respect your opinion and based off of the original synopsis I completely understand why you felt that way - indeed I agree with you. I understand why the initial synopsis made you angry, really I do. The b.s. trope that lesbians (or any LGBT+ girl) can be ‘cured’ by finding the right boy is not just offensive and incorrect, but incredibly, incredibly harmful. And when it’s used as much as it is, it leads to people in the real world justifying their homophobic thoughts with - “I can f**k that girl, she’s secretly straight anyway. I can make her change her mind. She just needs the right guy.” Corrective rape is a very real danger and one that is directly impacted by words like those in that synopsis.

But this isn’t what the book is about. When the author, Julie Murphy @andimjulie, was informed of how offensive and harmful the synopsis/blurb was she started arranging to have it changed. Because here’s the thing: authors don’t get to write those. Some random person at the publishing house does. It’s that random person that made the harmful words and who misunderstood the book.

The new synopsis is up on this goodreads page now  . Please read it and maybe consider changing or removing your rating?

Because this book isn’t about 'lesbians can be cured.’ This book is about bisexual girls, girls just like me, who grow up not knowing that they are bi. Believing that because they like girls they must therefore be lesbians or because they like boys they must therefore be straight. I’m the latter; in this heteronormative world I spent years believing I was straight before I realised.

This book is for all the girls like me who think they fit into one box because they like someone and then one day, realise they have feelings for a different gender. It is about how confusing and scary and downright terrifying that is. It is about lying awake all night thinking “but does liking this boy mean i was straight all along?” “do i actually like him or is it because i’m supposed to?” it’s about worrying that you can’t change your identity because people already know you as a 'lesbian.’ Worrying that you’re just attention seeking or greedy or unable to make up your mind, that you’re on the fence and you need to choose.

This book is about the moment of relief when you finally find the name that suits you - bisexual. Or, perhaps when you decide that it’s okay to not know for sure right now. And how much weight is taken off you once you know who you are, and you have an identity.

I haven’t read the book yet but the new revised synopsis reflects that the book will actually be about those topics. You’re punishing the author for what someone else misunderstood and wrote as a harmful piece of promotion. Notice how different (and not harmful) the synopsis is now that it’s been written with the author’s suggestions instead of just by some dude? That to me suggests that the book itself, written entirely by her, will be much more like the new synopsis than the old one.

Oh, and you will also notice that I mentioned I haven’t read the book yet. So how then, you wonder, am I able to sit here and say that the book will be about all of the things above?

Because I am that girl. I went through all of those things. Mine was vice versa to Ramona - I believed that I had to be straight because I liked boys and if you like boys that’s all you can be right? Wrong. It was so, so hard for me to figure out who I am, where my place in this world is. It took me four years to get where I am (I’m 18 now). And I still haven’t finished this journey - my parents don’t know. I know, from reading this new synopsis, that that is what this book is about because I have lived it. I know because the author is bisexual, married to a man - she has lived it too.

Tumblr I just don’t get it. We cry and cry for more representation but when you have it you destroy it’s chances with negative reviews before it’s even begun. All because it’s the “wrong sort” of representation. You don’t want this bi girls story, my true story, because it shows that sometimes girls who like girls also like boys. Not always but sometimes. And sometimes we end up with those boys. 

Please, buy this book. Promote this book, please at least undo this low rating until you have read it. This book could have saved me so much heartache when I was fourteen. It could have let me know that I was not alone. It could have saved me six months of self-harm, an emotionally abusive relationship, bullying for being 'frigid.’

I didn’t have this book when I was facing all those things. But the next bi or pan girl could. We could save them.

Representation is important. Lesbian representation and positive, good representation at that, is important. But so is bi girl representation. And this book just happens to be one for the bi girls. This doesn’t have to be either or, bi girls existing doesn’t mean that lesbians do not. Please, let’s not harm each other’s chance at representation. Let’s support each other.

Please, at least let’s read this book before we give it a rating. Please help the next girl like me before she is hurt.

anonymous asked:

Hi! What's the thing with Mac Walters tweet? I found a couple of post about that but apparently he deleted the tweet. (I read something about Shepard surviving the destroy ending)(????)

Hey, Anon :) 

Do you mean the Destroy Ending one? 

In which case it’s here: https://mobile.twitter.com/macwalterslives/status/834276140680347648

I am going to assume that you’ve either not done the destroy ending, or you did and just being kind to give me floor for rambling :) So for the benefit of the audience here it is. 

If you choose the Destroy Ending with High EMS, before the credits roll there is a scene which pans the rubble of the fallen Citadel and you see Shepard’s body amongst it. Just before the scene fades to black there is an audible intake of breath and Shepard’s chest rises. Cryptically suggesting that they survived the entire fall from orbit, and lets be honest at this point Shepard has ascended to godhood and nothing can kill them anymore, ever.

That’s as good of a Happy Ending as we ever got without mods. Now Walters tweet confirms that canonically Shepard really does survive longer than 10 min after this scene and is reunited with their crew, and Garrus in particular. 

Now, whilst the tweet is not gender specific nor romance specific it makes my tiny Shakarian Trashcan of a Heart sing. Because damn it finally validation to ALL of my headcanons, sunshine through the kitchen window, Garrus asleep in that comfortable chair in their apartment, the battle couple no longer at war. 

I could weep right now. 

Anyway enough of my gushing, thanks for the ask :D 

Have a wonderful morning/day/night wherever you are <3 

Originally posted by enigmaphenomenon

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Hi! My name is Katie,I’m 25, I use she/her pronouns. I’m in Chicago IL, US and I’m bi/pan and ace. I’m not really sure what I’m looking for to be honest, I’m pretty new to finding my sexuality and extremely inexperienced. But I know talking to other ace and queer people has helped me get to where I am now. At the very least I’m looking for friends, so I look forward to meeting you! Grumpy-gandalf.tumblr.com

anonymous asked:

im pretty sure my fam members think im gay and like idk if i am i might be bi/pan/idek but ;'| (they joke bout me being gay all the time and im just idk)

Well you figure yourself out first before they try telling you what you are. You are your own person

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anonymous asked:

Looks like to be a fander you have to be some sort of bi/pan/asexual/gay/whatever. God forbid one of them turned out to just be straight, am I right?

LOL are you talking about the LGBTQ+ meetup this past weekend that was organized for people identifying as a part of that spectrum to get to know each other? It’s time to relax, take a deep breath, and realize that this past weekend was for them. I don’t bar anyone identifying as any sexuality from enjoying my content. 

you really can’t trust Straights with knowing your sexuality cause the moment you mention you’re gay or bi or pan fucking Heterosexual Jimothy is interrogating you about your entire sexual history like he’s digging for wank bank fodder 

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Happy Blackout!!! The top photo is in honor of the  50th anniversary of the founding of the Black Panther Party of Self Defense. The last picture was taken at the opening of the African American of History and Culture’s opening where Public Enemy, Living Colour, and The Roots performed. (Jacket by Reformed School). (Photo creds in order : @jamesjuly@36chambersof-oldirtybae, Paul Holston) (also I wear the jacket more for historical relevance than for gender)

i just love that skam wrote a character like Even, who had been in a relationship with a girl for four years and then saw a boy at school and thought “damn ok” and proceeded to pursue those feelings with a complete disregard for gender. no “what am i feeling??? am i gay??” just straight up bi/pan rep ✌️️

People actually expect me to believe that if you throw a group of only one sex inside a fucking maze with no memories, no social, cultural or religious discourses forced upon them, no outside influences of any kind for years and years with only each other to grow close too, trust, survive with, protect, build with, bond with etc. 

That eVERY SINGLE ONE WOULD END UP STRAIGHT??????!??!!