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Reminder

Take suicide threats seriously. I came across a grad student blog recently that had tons of suicidal ideation on it. Eventually, it got so bad that I reported her to her campus police. I’ve never interacted with her and am a complete stranger. Today, her blog was deleted after being active for years, so I can only assume someone intervened. My only regret is not doing it sooner. Care for your fellow humans, even as a stranger, and listen to their pleas for help.

The signs as coffee

Taurus : an entire french press that was made at home that will last the owner approximately an hour before they make another one but you can bet your buttons it was locally sourced

Gemini : iced, black coffee, with 2 packets of splenda, every day at the exact same time, from the same Starbucks on the corner. The barista knows everything and nothing about them.

Cancer : a medium mocha, left to cool down on the window sill with latte art on top that you see on instagram but the photographer spilled it everywhere right after getting the perfect shot and now has to deal with sticky clothes and half the coffee they wanted

Leo : that one pot of coffee in the office that inexplicably makes better coffee so it’s always full except when you want to get a drink and you know all the machines are the same and all the packets of pre measured coffee are the same but stillllll

Virgo : an iced latte surrounded by empty iced latte cups you find surrounding a sleeping student in the library at 8 am how long have they been there the campus coffee shop closes at midnight and opens at 6 how do they have so many empty cups

Libra : a half empty cup of mystery coffee someone left on the bus because I guess they must have been in a hurry to get off why would you disrespect your coffee like this?

Scorpio : a cup of plain black coffee when the owner actually wanted a frappuccino but screwed up so now they’re overloading it with honey and cinnamon and now it’s undrinkable but they’ll choke it down anyway to save face even though no one cares

Sagittarius : a piping hot pumpkin spiced latte drunk with friends who all have the exact same thing, they pretend they’re drinking it ironically, only one person actually likes the taste but will pretend they don’t

Capricorn : a light roast dry cappuccino  from the local coffee house in a reusable coffee cup they got from a local artist with eight fucking shots of espresso in it where did they all go you will die if you aren’t careful man what are you doing man

Aquarius : it’s tea except when anyone’s looking

Pisces : it’s actually hot chocolate, can’t stand the taste of coffee except when they’re studying then it’s an americana with 9 packs of sugar and tears

Aries : who cares it’s all over the ground anyway

On 8am classes:

I am honestly sick and tired of everyone telling freshmen not to take 8 ams no matter what. It really discourages me. So, here are some bonuses to early morning classes instead!

  1. Quieter campus!
  2. If you get up even before your early classes, the gym won’t be as crowded!
  3. Probably easier to find the class you want and get in!
  4. If you’re like me, you’re energized in the morning but dead by like 3. Taking early classes means I’m done between 12:30 and 3:30 and I don’t have to drag myself through classes in the late afternoon/evening!
  5. By the time everyone else is waking up, you’ll already have gone to class, done homework, and accomplished things!

Add more if you’ve got them. Let’s encourage others to not fear 8am classes!

⇁ nudes, not flowers | 01

Originally posted by bangtannoonas

pairing Hoseok x reader x Jungkook

genre smut || fuckboi!au

warnings public sex, slight voyeurism/exhibitionism, dirty talk, dom!junghope, demeaning names during sex if you aren’t into that, jealousy

word count ⇀ 5.5k

You’re not supposed to fall for Jung Hoseok and his repertoire of awful pick-up lines—but you do. The problem is: he’s afraid of commitment, and bolts at the idea of settling down. After that, you decide to stay far away from fuckboys, but his friend decides to test your new found resolutions.

or : Jungkook wants to see how far he can push Hoseok until he snaps 

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College Confession #92

I have a study group that gets together before every test. Whenever we study I always convince the rest of the group that some false information is true so that they will lose marks on the test and I can get the highest mark.

It is even better when someone else brings up something that isn’t true because I can convince everyone that they are right without having to come up with a believable lie myself. They haven’t noticed that I am sabotaging their grades yet.

Okanagan College, Kelowna Campus

So today I decided that I should probably use up my meal plan and I begrudgingly walk over to the cafeteria to get food. After I’ve finished eating my less than mediocre burger I start to head out the door when I notice some spectacularly yellow bananas. Amidst a sea of less than tolerable food shone these bright yellow beacons of hope that I can’t resist helping myself to for future smoothies. So I grab not one, not two, or even three, but SIX of these glorious yellow rods of delight. I begin to stroll out the cafeteria with six bananas draping over my arm because it’s finals week and I couldn’t give less of a shit about carrying around 6 bananas, when I am stopped by a cafeteria lady. She stops to tell me that we are only allowed to take 1 fruit item out of the cafeteria and all I could do was stare for what seemed like an eternity. Without even thinking, I just sprinted the fuck outta there. I didn’t just leave the cafeteria, I went much further. I ran past the next two buildings and across the entire campus. I was getting a lot of states but I didn’t care, I was free. I had never felt this alive as I was sprinting across campus. I didn’t even stop when I got to my dorm building, I sprinted all the way up into my dorm wielding 6 bananas until I got into my room. I have been existing 18 years, but I haven’t truly lived until this day.

Heart on the Line (part 1)

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You and Bucky had your differences in college, but now you need a place to stay and he needs a roommate, and in order to make ends meet, you two start a phone sex line together.  

“For a Good Time, Call…” AU


author: sugardaddytonystark (formerly buckysbackpackbuckle)
pairing: Bucky Barnes x Reader
word count: 1516
warnings: smutty smut smut and dirty talk (future chapters)

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What I Learned From University

FIRST YEAR

  • Everyone is super friendly, especially in the first few weeks → Introduce yourself to the people sitting near you for the first few weeks of lectures. Everyone is looking for a friend or at least someone to talk to!!
  • If you commute, make that time productive → My bus ride was an hour there and back each day. It sucks but I would try to be productive for at least half of the commute. I have a post about being productive on public transport here.
  • On that note, stay on campus as long as possible each day → As soon as I got back home I would procrastinate every little thing. Stay in an already productive environment for as long as possible.
  • Maybe don’t buy your textbooks used → I thought I was being smart by buying used textbooks (most schools will have a buy and sell facebook page for textbooks). I ended up having to pay for access codes in order to do my online homework – access codes that cost ~$70 separately and came included with new textbooks anyways. Email your prof or talk to someone who has recently taken the class to find out if you need an access code. If you do, your best bet is to buy a new version of the textbook (unless you can get a seriously cheap used textbook).
  • Print off your timetable and find all of your classes before the first day → This helped me so much! I found exactly where all my classes were before the first day of class. I wrote down little tricks to help me remember where everything was (i.e. my calc lecture is in the arts and science building which is also where the only subway on campus is).
  • Don’t knock living at home to save money → If you’re lucky enough to have a college or university close to home at least consider living at home. Getting your own place or living in dorms is expensive. (But if you have to find off campus housing on your own, don’t leave it too late or you might not find a place)
  • Figure out the best way to take notes for each class → You have to customize the way you study for each class, all depending on the prof and the content. I hand-wrote notes for some classes (chem, calc, and physics), but not others (psych and bio). If you’re writing by hand you can always just annotate your textbook notes or lecture slides (if they’re posted before class). If you fall behind while taking notes, just leave a gap and check out a friend’s notes after class.
  • Adjust your expectations → Don’t expect to get straight A’s, like you might have in high school. You can strive for straight A’s but be realistic as time goes on. For classes I struggled with, I expected to be near the class average. If I was a lot lower than the class average then I would know to invest more time.
  • Make time for physical activity → If we’re being honest I hardly exercised during uni. Go for at least a half hour walk each day and try to start a physical activity routine. Get a friend and join a sports team, go to a fitness class, or commit to some form of a daily workout with them! You’ll feel bad bailing on someone else, plus working out is more fun with other people.
  • Review content throughout the semester → Reviewing little bits of content will save you a massive content review right before finals! Look through old notes while you wait for your daily coffee or take 15 minutes to watch some khan academy videos on stuff you learned in the first month of classes.
  • Think seriously about how much you can handle → Don’t take on too many responsibilities at once and consider all of your options! I worked weekends and some week nights throughout the school year. Looking back I should have worked less because my stress levels were way too high. Also, quite a few people I talked to took 4 classes instead of 5, for their first semester of university. I don’t think I would have done it, in the end, but it’s always something to consider.
  • Have fun but be responsible at parties → Always go to parties with people you trust!! If you didn’t do much partying/drinking during high school (like me), remember to pace yourself when drinking! Eat before you go out and have some water between each drink, till you find your limit. Don’t let yourself be peer-pressured into anything but also don’t be afraid to have fun! And check out if your uni has a safe walk program (someone will come and walk you back to your dorm or your car if you feel unsafe or nervous for any reason)
  • When procrastination hits, aim to be productive in some way → The only reason my biology mark was so high was because I would study biology whenever I got sick of studying for physics and calculus. If you know you need to study but just can’t do it, start by being productive in some other way – study a subject you do like, do your laundry, organize your study area, etc. Get your brain to start thinking productively.
  • Labs are difficult so be prepared → I had so many labs first year. Some tips: eat and hydrate before labs, never assume you can finish your prelab last minute, be nice to your lab partner, always remember lab safety (don’t be the person trying to wear shorts in the lab, TAs will not hesitate to kick you out), don’t rush through an experiment but be efficient, and ask for help (even if you feel like you’re bothering your TA).
  • Please go to bed early. Sleep affects everything → I was so dumb and would never go to bed early even though I had to be up at 6 am almost every day to catch the bus. Lack of sleep will catch up to you eventually!! Also, all nighters are not necessary, unless you make them necessary. I prioritized and never had to stay awake too late. And never pull an all nighter the night before an exam (you’re better off getting sleep and resting your brain).
  • Bring a water bottle everywhere → Buy a decent water bottle and always carry it with you. Even though my uni is small there are still tons of spots around campus where I can refill my water bottle!! Stay hydrated my friends!
  • A practice problem a day keeps the F away → This saying probably works best for science classes, but I guess a reading a day will get you somewhere too. Do something for every class each day, even if it’s just a practice problem or a quick reading. Develop a routine!
  • You’ll have lots of midterms → I was under the impression that midterms happened just once a semester (I thought I would have one week where I had a midterm for each class). That was not my reality. I had 2 or 3 midterms for each of my classes scattered throughout the semester. Study really hard for your first set of midterms till you get used to the high expectations!
  • Don’t worry about what other people are doing or thinking → This is mostly in regards to social media. I was bummed when I looked back on my first year of university, because I felt like I hadn’t done anything fun compared to other people. You only see the image that other people want you to see. You don’t know how hard someone worked or how hard they didn’t work. Just focus on you and how you can affect positive results in your life.
  • Other people literally don’t care about your appearance → My friend’s little sister visited campus and asked us “Why is everyone wearing sweatpants?” People literally don’t care. Dress nice and put lots of makeup on one day, because you feel like it, and wear sweats the next day.
  • Start essays and reports as soon as possible → You never know what might come up so be prepared for the worst! Outline your essay or graph your data as soon as you can.
  • Eat healthy and do meal prep → You can eat healthy during university! Set aside a couple of nights each week to do meal prep. Cook food in bulk to save money and don’t eat out too much. Try to have at least 1 serving of fruits or veggies with each meal or snack you eat!
  • Find a good study spot on campus → Explore your campus and figure out your favourite places to study. I had a couple of spots where I would always meet my friends to study and quiet spots where no one would bother me. Studying outside or in an area with natural light is always good.
  • Don’t be afraid to talk to your profs and TAs → This is the number one thing I’m going to try to do more of in my second year. TAs are chill to talk to and they can tell you tons of useful information on what upper year classes are like, which professors are good, why they chose to go to grad school, etc. If you’re struggling in lectures or labs, talk to your prof or TA! Make an appointment and be sure you can tell them exactly which concepts you’re struggling with or at least where you got lost. One of my profs told us he just waits hopefully during office hours for someone to come in. (Also profs love it if you ask them about their research or any topics they seem passionate about during lectures.)
  • Explore all the resources your university has to offer → My university has a program that is basically people bringing their dogs around for students to pet, in order to relieve stress. It actually works and gave me something to look forward to! Just be aware of your options so that if something in your life changes you know where you can go to ask for help.
  • Get a planner and utilize it → There’s no excuse not to have a planner of some sort. Use your phone, get a bullet journal, or buy a cheap planner. Have somewhere where you can record important deadlines and make to do lists. I also recommend back planning all of your studying at the beginning of the semester. Write down your midterms and finals dates and write down how much you’re going to study each day leading up to the exam. This way you’ll be able to look ahead at each month and figure out what needs to be done (i.e. getting an essay done early because the due date falls during a busy week of midterms)

This post ended up being a lot longer than I expected whoops. Take the things I said into consideration but remember that everyone’s experience will be different. Good luck to everyone heading to university!


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Your grandfather was a fisherman. Your father and aunts and uncles worked the waters and the docks in the coastal town you hail from. It’s not glamorous, and nobody in the family had made it into college before. You grew up in a tidy little house that always smelled a bit of fish with a huge extended family.

Nobody expected the scholarship letter when it arrived, praising your performance in the local high school swim team, and nobody had ever heard of the school. Your parents were thrilled, and so were most of the aunts and uncles. Your grandfather was suspicious, making vague noises that sounded like “tricks and bargains and that kind of business.” What he said out loud was: “Don’t ever leave the sea. It’ll break your heart, girl.”

You were excited and optimistic and exuberant, and you packed your competition suit and a bag of things from home and you went off to college, not listening.

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Freshman year was odd. You knew you wouldn’t really fit in, given you were a scholarship kid from the back end of the east coast, but it was more than that. You were, of course, on the women’s swim team, but some of the other athletes were … you couldn’t put your finger on it. A couple of the girls seemed too tall, and they never quite got the green from the pool out of their hair. One of the boys was much stockier than the others, a bit like your dad, but he could swim as fast and powerfully as you. He wouldn’t ever speak to you. Some of them were hard to look at, and kept to themselves. Some of them were just ordinary, but they kind of steered clear of you too. It seemed the only thing holding the teams together were the coaches. There were practices, and competitions and your team always did amazingly, but never made it out of state.

Your classes were … classes. Like high school but more interesting. Your managed to keep a decent GPA to hold onto that scholarship, but some of it was a chore. Sandy the RA gave you a list of rules and warned you about some of the other students. There was some superstition about, but given your heritage, none of that seemed off. Fishermen are superstitious folks.

Your roommate was snooty and complained constantly that you still smelled of fish, especially after winter break. You finally told her to go suck a clam and she stopped speaking to you. That was fine with you. You weren’t much for socializing with people who didn’t know the ocean.

That one guy, though, the one who asked you out after the first week of Comp 102 in January. That one, he was great. He was some kind of surfer kid from California. Not a college athlete, but Surfer Boy skated everywhere, talked constantly about the beaches and waves. Somehow tan even in winter.

The third week you were dating, he got you that steel ring for “safety” and you thought it was sweet. It said “always yours” on the inside and got stuck on your finger.

And then - your swimming performance dropped off. They threatened to bench you. There was an uncomfortable conference with the coach and the dean. The rest of the team avoided you even more, and Surfer Boy got … weird. Possessive. Mean.

He thought it was fine that you weren’t competing for a while. He could have you all to himself outside of class time. Isn’t that great? Maybe you could come to California with him for Spring Break. You didn’t want to, though. You wanted to go back to the cold water of home.

Then, about a week after you got benched, out of the blue while you were studying together, he asked you where your skin was. You had no idea what he meant, WTF was this serial killer shit he was asking you? You suddenly remembered Sandy’s warnings, and took off without your books to ask her for help, maybe how to get a restraining order? And maybe to help get this ring off, too.

Sandy the RA (short for Cassandra? Because nobody ever listened to her, not because it was her name) halfway listened to you, nodded tiredly, grabbed a form from a file for submitting to the dean of students and campus security and had you fill it out. Then, as you were both reading the forms over for errors, she looked up sharply, said, “Wait. A ring? Let me see that.”

Sandy took one look at it, got out a saw, and before you could even react, cut it off your finger, in two pieces. One piece said “always” the other said “yours” and she shook her head. “I thought I told you to never accept gifts?”

“But he’s just human, Sandy. Normal, even. More normal than I am.”

“Yeah, nobody ever listens to me.”

Under where the ring had sat for two of the worst weeks of your life, was fur. Sleek, short, dark fur. You yelped.

Sandy blinked slowly, somehow looking completely unsurprised, and said, “That stocky guy on the men’s swim team? The one they call Lion? GO. Talk to him. Show him your hand, he’ll talk to you now. I think he can help.”

As you left, she said, with her back turned, “I don’t think your grandfather was completely honest with you. Have you ever seen any photos of your grandmother? Do you know where she was from?”

(X)

Before I start this post, I want to say that everyone’s orientation is different! I’ve seen that a lot of schools have orientation over the summer, weeks before classes start. My school, I guess because only a few of us are from here and the majority of students are out of the state/country, we had orientation week starting on move-in day, the same week classes started. That’s why I will be discussing move-in day and the first day of classes here, though yours might be a completely separate experience. Let’s get started!

Move-In Day

  • Dress for a lot physical activity. You are going to be lugging your shit up and down stairs (elevators get full, if you even have them) all day, walking back and forth to your car, and once you get everything in your room, you will have to unpack and loft your bed, etc. You are going to be sweaty and exhausted by the time it’s all over. I wanted to still be cute so I wore spandex, my Vandy t-shirt and hat, and a full face of makeup lol. I know you might want to make a good first impression on your roommate and new classmates, but everyone will be wearing what looks like workout clothes. Don’t wear jeans or a dress or something. It’s August, it’s hot, you’ll regret it.
  • Be patient. Oh my god, I swear 90% of the memories I have of move-in day are just me waiting. Waiting in the car for the line to move towards the dorms, waiting in line to get my key, waiting for a dolly to free up, waiting to get inside the elevator, waiting for the stairs to clear up. It’s so boring, especially when you’re so excited to just finally be there. Be prepared to wait and try to appreciate your last few moments before college ruins your life (just kidding!).
  • Brace yourself for something to go wrong. No matter how organized your school is, chaos is inevitable on move-in day. You will have planned according to a schedule they gave you, and something will not go the way it’s supposed to. Thousands of freshmen who don’t know anything all in the same place at once is a recipe for disaster. Just don’t stress about it cause it will all work itself out. Honestly, that’s a philosophy to live by for your entire college career, not just move-in day.

Orientation Week

  • I can’t even explain how busy you’ll be. Starting from the first floor meeting we had on move-in day, the entire next seven days were packed full of activities and meetings and ceremonies. I still have my freshmen guide with the itenerary of all the things we had to do, and it was pages long. Everyday we would wake up at like 8, and have things to do until after midnight. I was so busy, I didn’t even have time to be on my phone, and I love social media. You will be so tired, and it will get old really quick. I don’t really have any advice, but through the exhaustion, remember to try and appreciate this chaotic time and stay in the moment. You’ll never again experience the freshness and excitement of your first week at college, soon you’ll get used to it all and you’ll wish for that feeling back.
  • You don’t have to attend everything. Like I said, you will be exhausted. You won’t want to wake up at 6 am for the Freshman Sunrise (i did and i regretted it), or to take the class picture where you have to stand still for an hour and you can’t even see yourself in the photo (again, i should’ve slept in). You might feel obligated to go to everything, but if you just need a break, then take that break. Orientation is overwhelming. 
  • Don’t freak out if you miss a required meeting. We had lots of events that were marked required. It’s inevitable that people miss these, due to sleeping through an alarm, or reading the time wrong, or getting lost on campus since you don’t know where everything is. Lots of the time, they only mark it as required to scare people into going when there’s no real consequence if you don’t. Even if there is a consequence, you won’t get into any major trouble the first week. You’re freshmen, they understand. Do try to make it to them, though. The best way to do this is to find friends or other people who are in that same section and go together.
  • Don’t stress about making friends. It is quite literally impossible to not make friends during orientation week. You will have to attend so many things with the same group(s) of people that you’ll bond over that alone. You don’t even have to try, so if you’re not a social person, don’t worry. As long as you don’t stay silent in a corner, you’ll have plenty of people to hang out with. 
  • Don’t stress about keeping the friends you do make. You will meet a million people, and have a million new numbers in your phone. You will have a hard time matching everyone’s names to their faces. People form connections really quickly, that’s just human nature, but this is especially heightened in university when everyone is away from home and no one knows anyone. Don’t feel like you have to stay attached to the same five people you became best friends with after two days for fear of not finding anyone else to be close to. Lots of people meet their real friends at the beginning of the year, but most people don’t. All of the pictures and videos I have from my entire first semester are with and of people I don’t even speak to anymore, people who, frankly, I can hardly stand to look at now. During orientation, you’ll gravitate towards anyone, but you’ll soon realize you don’t know them at all and they might turn out to be shitty people. I met all the friends I have now second semester through the LGBT group on campus, and they’re great. Point is, don’t feel too attached to your orientation buddies. You will find your people, even if it takes a while.

First Day of Classes

  • Find the buildings where your classes are held beforehand. Yes, I mean physically walk to them and find the exact classroom, don’t just use Google Maps to make sure you can get there in ten minutes. I knew the names of all the buildings and their general location, but then I found out some buildings are attached to each other and numbered in a strange order, then you finally find the right building but can’t find the right floor and hallway. I was late to all of my classes the first day. University buildings are so confusing. You will have trouble, I promise you. Do yourself a favor and figure out how to get to all of your classrooms sometime earlier in the week. You will feel great about not being that embarrassing freshmen asking the upperclassmen for directions (who are happy to help, but will laugh at you just a little bit).
  • Introduce yourself to the professor before or after class. You don’t have to do this if you don’t want, but it can’t hurt. Just shake their hand and make sure they can match your face to the name. Doing this the first day makes it easier to establish contact with them later in the semester, which you’ll probably have to do. Don’t worry, you’ll see lots of the other students in your lecture doing this, too. Just hop on in line.
  • Double check to make sure you don’t have any assignments due/papers to bring. This is unlikely cause you don’t have summer work in college (at least to my knowledge) and it’s never happened to me, but I had friends whose professors had assigned them work for the the first day of class. This is really ugly, I know, but just check your email and Blackboard to make sure there’s nothing to do. 

This is longer than I anticipated, so thanks if you read it all! I hope this helps someone out. Orientation is a chaotic mess but so so fun, cause it’s the only time you’ll ever be able to experience the fun of college without the stress of the work. Up next is advice on living with a roommate (and boy, do I have advice for that). Previous posts:

Application Process

Choosing/Changing Majors

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  • Pharah: one time a pretty girl called me “gorgeous” and I was so shocked and flustered that I literally cried right in front of her
  • Tracer: Once I was getting off the bus and there was a girl so beautiful next to me that I tripped and walked into a bus pole.
  • Sombra: A pretty cashier at the campus store told me I was pretty and I got so flustered that when I went back to my room I had to lay down for half an hour and my roommate was starting to get concerned.
  • Mei: i made a pretty girl laugh w/a silly joke and i got so flustered that i apologized
  • Widowmaker: every girl I see is pretty, I am in a constant state of paralysis
  • D.Va: today a pretty girl walked me out of class and i was surprised when she kept walking even though we reached her bus stop and i asked her where she was heading and she said “oh i just wanted to walk you to wherever you’re going” and we both blushed
  • Zarya: this pretty girl told me my hair was cute and touched it briefly and I couldn’t form full sentences for a solid 10 minutes.
  • Mercy: this pretty girl offered to teach me how to longboard and when she was teaching me how to balance she put her hands on my hips and I felt my soul leave my body
  • Symmetra: Once I met a girl so pretty I lost all ability to differentiate between languages and gave her my coffee order in three different ones mashed together.
  • Ana: once in college i ran across this weird gothy/pseudo-victorian girl and she was so painfully pretty that i died
  • (based on this post: http://blackkatmagic.tumblr.com/post/155495772340/damaramegido-wheeloffortune-design)

I am having lots of fun making these!  I keep coming up with things I haven’t seen on tumblr and most of them have to do with College!  There is a lot about note-taking and a lot about studying blah blah blah but not a lot about just COLLEGE in general.  College is a lot different than high school in that there is MUCH MORE to college than just school.  Campus is a huge part of this.  So I made this guide.

Some Tips on Figuring our your campus

1. Do not be afraid to do things alone.  You will not always have friends who want to be following you around campus to comedy shows, concerts, and yoga classes so don’t be afraid to try new things alone.  That’s how you make friends in college.

2. Be open-minded.  Know your limits but don’t be afraid to try and push them.

3. Follow your gut.  Don’t do things that make you feel uncomfortable or travel on paths that you think feel dangerous.  I don’t recommend travelling around campus alone at night unless you absolutely have to.  

How to not become lost!

1.  Pick a building and orient yourself.  You don’t need to know cardinal directions, you just need to have a basic left-right-up-down orientation.  I don’t care if its your dorm, your student union, your major building, the health center.  Anywhere.  You should be able to see routes in your head for every building your need to be at from that building.

2. Practice makes perfect: walk campus.  Start with your building of orientation and walk to your dorm, your dining hall, your student union, and your library.  Then walk from your dorm to all of your classes.  You should know how to get to your dorm, student union, library, dining hall, and most visited classroom building from the main road.  You will get better at this with practice but as you become more comfortable with your routes, switch them up. 

If you plan on riding a bike around campus, walk a lot of campus first and take note of places where there are bike racks.  Walking gives you the freedom to find new places to park your bike, walk with friends, and take different exits.  You might even be able to find a better bike spot if you spend the first few weeks at school walking.  

2. Follow people you see on a regular basis.  That sounds creepy but if you see one girl in a class and then in the dining hall later and don’t know how she got there follow her at a safe but not creepy distance to see what routes she takes.  If you always see people going down a certain corridor coming from the library, follow them.  Don’t be creepy about it and don’t openly stalk people because that will get you in a lot of trouble and isn’t cute.  But you should 

3. Look for study spaces!  If your campus has more than one library try to visit at least three of them.  You may find that one of them is closer to you than the main library.  Go to your student union (or equivalent multipurpose building) and explore.  Eat there, walk around.  Try to take all of the entrances and exists and sit once on every floor.  When you go to both of these places, ask for a map of the campus and a map of the building if they have one.

4.  There’s probably an app for that!  Ask around.  This is a great way to be lost without looking lost!

Super Important Aspects of Your Campus

* Make sure to follow your campus as well as all the following buildings on social media to stay up to date on what is going on on your campus.  This is the easiest way to find out about local campus-run activities and events. *

Student Union

This place has all kinds of stuff.  Club offices and information centers, ticketing for events, maps, food, greek life offices, offices for diversity (usually there are several different offices), off-campus housing offices, etc.  Take time looking for bathrooms in this building on the different floors.  This is the easiest way to spot new offices and hidden things.  Student Unions can also be home to free art exhibits and other events for students.  Student Unions may also be the hub for post offices and student bookstores which will be super important for textbook rental, sending letters, and buying stamps.  Go to your student union at least once a week to see what is up.  They might have events that they aren’t advertising, symposiums that no one told you about, and art hidden in the corners.  Every student union is different so when you go there, try and sit in different places.  Buy food and eat on a different floor from where you got it or take some time to study in there. 

The Library(s)

I made an entire post on that here so read that if you haven’t already.  Everything I could have put here will be there.  The library will have study spaces as well as tons of resources for research.  I updated it recently .  Your campus probably has more than one library and they probably all have slightly different services so make sure you check them all out.

The Health Center/Clinic Thing

University Health Centers tend to operate like clinics with terrible hours.  They do everything from check ups to illness visits.  They usually have a pharmacy where you can get generic medicine for less money than your local CVS.  Health Centers also usually offer de-stress services like exercise, therapy dog sessions, and sometimes even acupuncture.  If you’re a new student who needs to regularly have mental health checks or receives allergy shots, visit your school’s health center, call ahead, or find their website to get more information.

Be kind to the doctors and nurses at this clinic.  If you’re someone like me who goes to the doctor for every little thing, it’s good to know you can have someone you trust to slide you into appointments or prescribe you medicine if you really need it.

Your Counseling Center

This building is sometimes separate from the Health Center or regular health services buildings.  Find out their walk-in hours and usual walk-in appointment durations.  Chances are if they keep you longer than a regular walk-in session, you may need to find an actual therapist or make regular counseling center appointments.  They are willing to talk to you about anything from majors to your mental health problems and beyond so if you ever have an issue, you should go here.  College will inevitably get very stressful so you should make sure you know where this is and when you can just walk-in.

Your Major Advisor

These are just like High School Guidance Counselors.  However the quality of your advising can sometimes vary by major/school.  I switched my major from Business to Japanese partially because I found the Arts & Humanities Advising to be more helpful than business.   Check out their walk-in hours and try to meet with your advisor at least once every semester before you register for classes even if your school doesn’t require it.  They often offer career and internship services specific to your major and school so make sure you check that out.  If you are considering changing your major, talk to the major advisor for your current major and your prospective one about your idea to change because your current major advisor may be able to offer your some information regarding passing benchmarks if you decide to switch back.  There are a lot of things to consider when changing your major (see @vera-studies masterpost here because it’s pretty good), but you have to go through the motions to do it so make sure you familiarize yourself with advising early on.  If you keep a bullet journal, save the cards of your advising office inside in case you ever need them.  

something i encourage every abuse survivor - especially from parental & childhood abuse - to think about around this time of year as you’re going off to college or becoming an adult and able to escape, is that being free for the first time, as liberating as it is, is something i was completely unprepared for when leaving, emotionally. 

because suddenly you have all this energy you don’t have to spend on fear, on thinking how to plan out every single word and motion and act, you suddenly have a world before you and people aren’t looming over your shoulder and questioning your every act and controlling your life and it can be incredibly hard to overcome this and relax and make your energy productive instead of painful. 

it’s overwhelming - since being free has really dawned on me, i have been FAR more sensitive to criticism and paranoid, i have dissociated more, i distance myself from people i know care about me in some way, i have felt like i have no purpose, that i am aimless and that my personal relationships mean nothing… when those things aren’t true! i was afraid to talk about it, because i felt that would make me weak, but it’s just something to get through to be healthy and stable and i deserve that. 

i heavily, heavily recommend that if you go off to college that you find a therapist (a lot of schools have those on campus specifically for the reason that many young adults are now suddenly free from these terrible situations, usually involved with disability services) to talk through things with, even if you don’t think you need it right now. find a group on campus or around campus that you can talk to, find resources, find positive people who want to be better, take advantage of the systems that might be in place to make your progress into the world as a free and important human being as smooth as possible. 

try to be active, even if just a little bit. set little, easy to achieve goals and slowly progress up. try to do at least one thing a day or every other day that makes you feel fulfilled and important. sit outside for a bit. experience the world, try making a new thing to eat, as simple as going for a walk around the block or sitting at a cafe for a bit. tell the people around you that you care about them and appreciate them and remember that you are not a bad person for what you experienced and you will make it through this part of the healing process as well. 

The Signs As Coffee

Taurus : an entire french press that was made at home that will last the owner approximately an hour before they make another one but you can bet your buttons it was locally sourced

Gemini : iced, black coffee, with 2 packets of splenda, every day at the exact same time, from the same Starbucks on the corner. The barista knows everything and nothing about them.

Cancer : a medium mocha, left to cool down on the window sill with latte art on top that you see on instagram but the photographer spilled it everywhere right after getting the perfect shot and now has to deal with sticky clothes and half the coffee they wanted

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not interested (m)

Originally posted by sweaterpawsjimin

pairing: hoseok x reader

genre: enemies to lovers | explicit smut, fluff, angst

length: 20k

summary: nobody has ever succeeded at swooping you off your feet. that is until you become coach assistant for your college’s swim team and maybe then, you learn everybody deserves a chance at love.

a/n: i promise my next fic WONT be a college enemies to lovers au lmao its just so fun to do. i gotta thank @junghaze for being my beta reader and practically saving this fic from the dead i cant be more grateful


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I am so tired of the meme that “what aces complain about only highlights their privilege.” because every single time, it’s something that we also fight for and complain about.

This time, someone at a UK college that asks if you’re “straight, gay, other, or decline to state” on their campus job apps complained about not being able to indicate they were ace.

And of course some exclusionists were like “meanwhile, LGBT people are scared to answer that in case it’s used against them! Why do you need to tell people about your relationship to sex in random situations! The things you people complain about just highlight your privilege!”

(Yes, they really said “you people,” like some kind of cartoon stereotype of a bigot)

I suppose that if I were in that same situation and I complained about not being able to say I was bi or trans, that would also be an example of my amazing bi/trans double privilege?

I have fought so fucking hard to be able to tell people I’m bi or trans in random situations!

When I told my dentist she needed something besides “male” and “female” on her intake forms, was I just highlighting my privilege as a visibly nonbinary person?

When I make a point of bringing up my partner, in job interviews, in a way that makes it clear I’m “LGBT”, so that I can't​ chicken out of being out at work, and can test them ahead of time to see if they’re cool about it, am I just highlighting my privilege there too?

(This is a good example of where “LGBT” fails as an inclusive term. I can’t say that mentioning my partner makes it clear I’m gay, because we’re both bi. It might make them THINK I’m gay, but it would sound even more ridiculous to say “mentioning my partner in a way that makes them think I’m gay.” And I can’t say “in a way that makes it clear I’m bi,” because I don’t think it does, and I’m not sure what that would even be. But using “LGBT” as an adjective for a single person doesn’t actually make any sense, since I’m not lesbian, gay, bi, AND transgender.)

Anyway you could argue that it’s some kind of privilege of living in a big city or a liberal state, if you wanted, I guess. But that isn’t actually the same kind of thing as having privilege given to you by society because of what/who you are. And it’s not really accurate.

What’s more accurate is that some of us can use areas where we do have privilege, like class privilege, to balance out some of the areas where we lack privilege. Like around gender or sexual orientation or being intersex.

Like, someone applying for an on-campus job, at a university that asks you about sexual orientation in the job app… They’re probably in the same position I am. They are in a SOMEWHAT accepting environmental, and have enough economic security to risk some of those jobs rejecting them for their orientation.

And that means they have enough safety - even if it’s just BARELY enough - to trade a little of that class privilege in to make their group more visible and better supported. But they can’t, because it’s invisible.

I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve been faced with forms where I had to write in that I was bi or trans or nonbinary, because the situation was a safe space for “LGBT people” but only really knew to ask about some of the more visible things… which then affects their data about what communities they serve, and who needs to be served… by making it so that the people they’re not thinking of don’t show up in those numbers at all.

Complaining about that is not a sign of my magical bi nonbinary trans privilege. And it’s not a sign of someone else’s imaginary “cishet” privilege as an ace person.

Daddy Issues

Pairing: JungKook & Reader

Genre: Smut, Fluff, Angst

Summary: A top student, marks always high. College was not a dream for her…Except she didn’t have enough money. Her parents never earned much so they literally took care of themselves. Her boss acting as a dick towards her she quited her job. Even though she had no idea what she let herself into this was her only option.

Other Chapters: 1 - 2  -  4 - 5 - 6 - 7

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3/21/2017: 

Overheard a girl quietly ask this about me on campus earlier today — I don’t think she meant it in an offensive way, but I was still surprised to hear it. Reclaiming a slur for yourself is not a quick or easy process — or even necessary — but for me, personally, it is very empowering; I think it’s worth it. Maybe next time (if its safe) I’ll be able to confidently say “Yes, she is a dyke!”

The College Years - Freshman Year (Chapter 1) - Stiles Stilinski

Author: @were-cheetah-stiles

Title: “The Park Attack” 

Characters: Stiles Stilinski, Scott McCall, & Reader

Author’s Note: This series is my baby. It will be broken up by years, and currently I’m writing well into their Sophomore year. I hope you all enjoy it. 

Summary: AU where Stiles’ “vision” happened and everyone ended up going to school near each other. Stiles and Scott live together and go to school at University of California at Berkeley. They think that they have escaped the supernatural drama that engulfs Beacon Hills on a daily basis, at least during the school year, until one night in the middle of January, they happen upon a girl fighting two grown men in a park.

Chapter One - Chapter Two

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“I don’t know.” Scott said defeatedly, as he walked from campus to his apartment with his best friend since childhood. “I knew that it was a long shot, but I really thought that going back home for Christmas would, I don’t know, rekindle it or something. Now, I just don’t think it’s gonna happen, Stiles.”

“I know, buddy it’s rough, girls suck, Scott. I swear to god, I am done with them.” Scott chuckled at Stiles’ proclamation. “Don’t laugh at me, asshole. I’m serious, Lydia and I imploded, and while I do think that we are better off as friends, I don’t even want to look at another girl anytime soon.”

“I feel you… All this stuff with Kira, all of this back and forth, on and off.. Honestly?…It makes me really miss Allison…” Scott stared at the pavement under his feet, as he admitted the feeling that had been plaguing him for months.

“Scott, I think we should just go to parties and meet new girls and be regular college freshman, who aren’t moping over girls that we can never have.” Stiles replied, as he gripped Scott’s shoulder, grabbing his attention from his shoes.

“I thought you were swearing off all girls?” Scott smirked.

Stiles stopped in place and stared Scott straight in the eyes, deadpan, he said, “I meant for right now. I’m not trying to go back to being a virgin, Scott. Don’t be stupid.”

Scott laughed and they continued walking. “I don’t know what I was thinking…”

In the distance they heard a scream that stopped them in their tracks.

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