i am not a good enough feminist

Does the sun ask itself, “Am I good? Am I worthwhile? Is there enough of me?” No, it burns and it shines. Does the sun ask itself, “What does the moon think of me? How does Mars feel about me today?” No it burns, it shines. Does the sun ask itself, “Am I as big as other suns in other galaxies?” No, it burns, it shines.
—  Andrea Dworkin, Our blood: prophecies and discourses on sexual politics (1976)

//Can we please return to a peaceful, drama-free community? Would that be absolutely preposterous? I refuse to have to put up with drama, no matter what side of it you are on. I will start unfollowing people. There are important issues at hand, I know. I get it. I know that in the eyes of many sjws on Tumblr I’m ‘not poc enough’ to warrant a valuable opinion on this matter because I’m what these so called experts in racism call ‘white passing’. BUT I am 100% a feminist, and all that entails. Racism, bigotry, etc, do not fly with me, and I fight against these issues like anyone else who stands for equality and equity.

BUT THIS IS NOT THE PLACE TO DO IT.

This is a community. It’s as peaceful as WE make it. Fuelling the fire IS NOT A GOOD THING, and is COUNTERPRODUCTIVE. This entire issue is snowballing because NOBODY IS HANDLING IT PROPERLY. There’s a troll here, and you’re GIVING THEM EXACTLY WHAT THEY WANT.

STOP.

I’m so sick of pandering to men with my feminism. Nothing I do is ever good enough. I say “we fight against circumcision,” and they expect me to be accountable for the feminists who don’t.

I say “male victims of rape are even less likely to come forward than women and that culture needs to change” and they want me to answer for the people who say men can’t be raped.

I say “the expectation that men cannot be emotional is cruel. We need to fight for their right to feel something besides anger” and I am asked to answer for the women who want to date tough guys.

They say “what about false rape accusations.” And when I respond with facts and figures that prove that false rape allegations are no more prevalent than false allegations in any other crime, I am sneered at with derision.

I am asked to answer for the sins of all women while they cry #notallmen. I spend more time soothing men that we fight for them too than I do speaking in support of my sisters and I’m finished.

I will no longer try to fit their mold of acceptable feminism when it turns out that mold does not exist.

I will not try to be a respectable feminist for one more day. They are not the gatekeepers of acceptable activism. They will always shout us down because they do not want equality.

They DO NOT WANT EQUALITY. These people who try to gate keep what is acceptable from activists against sexism and racism and homophobia, they don’t want a respectable activist. They want a silent activist. They don’t want equality because equality is a threat to their privilege.

DEBUTING TONIGHT AT BRAIN WAVES:

i am not a good enough feminist

co-edited by Melanie Kress and Kate Ryan

i am not a good enough feminist is an exhibition and publication that seeks to investigate feminism as a historically situated moment and the possibilities and necessities of its contemporary manifestations. Though organized by and stemming from an artistic mission, this project invites not only artists, writers, and other individuals from other artistic practices, but also an interdisciplinary group of activists and intellectuals to contemplate their experiences with, preconceptions of, and convictions surrounding feminism.

Contributors to the publication include: Jay Critchley, Emma Dorsey, Laura Flanders, Barbara Hammer, Maren Karlson, Ben Lasman, Marley Blue Lewis, Clare Parry, Brian Paternostro, Yvonne Rainer, Carolee Schneemann, Mira Schor, Risa Shoup, Joan Snitzer, Debora Spar, Gayatri Chakravorty Spivak, Elizabeth Streb, Virginia Sweeney, Sam Vernon, Leda Ward, and Julia Weldon.

/// IN CONJUNCTION WITH ///

* itinerant ones *

an exhibition curated by Jules de Balincourt

featuring the work of Ariel Dill,Denise Kupferschmidt, Christian Sampson,
Adam Sipe and Tyrome Tripoli

July 1-17

Opening Reception: Friday, July 1, 6-9PM

potentially non-pc

i follow hari nef on here and she often fights with people via reblogging; the other day she reblogged a post (fighting with someone over i forget what) and said something along the lines of “you can’t say that because i am the oppressed, you don’t have the power to use that word/idea/whatever-it-was without being offensive because you come from a position of power/privilege” which is all find and good. But she was aggressive about it per usual and the person she was fighting with reblogged adding their comment which contained a line similar to “don’t use your sexuality as a weapon of public humiliation against people in an argument,” and i agree?

i want to expand upon this but haven’t formulated enough thought to.

similar to this, a friend posted on fb

“When a queer feminist calls someone out for being Hetero masculine, I get really sad. You’re missing the whole fucking point. Calling someone out for being ignorant Or hateful is all fine and well, but attacking someone’s identity will get you no where, especially if you want to be equal. Just because you’re a cis Hetero male doesn’t mean you’re not fighting the same fight. Yes, there is privelage that comes with being cis Hetero but that doesn’t stop someone from recognizing their privelage, having empathy, morals, and the will to fight for equality. You need to understand and embrace and support your comrades regardless of their personal identity. Sharing an identity with an oppressor does not make you an oppressor. Sharing ideas with or ignoring or perpetuating the misdeeds of makes you an oppressor.”

and i also agree with this. again, i want to expand but i don’t have enough formulated thought to.

idk. i feel like people are using their identity as an oppressed as a weapon of humiliation and it bothers me. i’ve been subjected to it in conversation because i come from a point of power/privilege as a straight white female, basically the second place on the totem pole of privilege, but i also understand the frustration of oppression and don’t see insulting other people because of their privilege as productive in the fight for equality when the person you are insulting is on your side. using it against someone who is fighting against equality is a different can of worms, but i think my feelings on that are fighting fire with fire doesn’t work. however, again, i do not have enough formulated thought on this to state this as a personal belief/thesis for any argument. thinking out loud here, don’t hate me

yahoo.com
Hillary Clinton addresses sexism after Madeleine Albright and Gloria Steinem scold young women for backing Bernie
The topic of sexism came up several times in the Democratic presidential campaign over the weekend after two of Hillary Clinton’s prominent female supporters criticized young women for backing Bernie Sanders.

This is really stupid. To say that young women are betraying Hillary by not voting for her. It is like saying that Jews are betraying Bernie if they don’t vote for him, or Blacks were betraying Obama. People can make up their own damn mind. Stop saying that the only way to be a good feminist is to vote for Hillary. We all know that if she becomes President she will be the first woman to hold the job, she doesn’t need to bring it up EVERY SINGLE TIME SHE OPENS HER MOUTH at a rally. If you are a real feminist I am sure you understand that a woman is smart enough to make up her own mind, so stop trying to dictate for other women.

Despite that silliness, there were a few good points in this article. Can the men out there stop complaining that she is always raising her voice and screaming? She is just passionate about her topics as the other candidates and when you get to speaking you raise your voice for emphasis. That’s all it is.

And all those people who are out there complaining about the Sanders campaign employing sexists (BernieBros) to attack Hillary and her female supporters crudely. He has repeatedly fired those sorts of people and said he doesn’t want that sort of crap going on.

I'm closing my ask box and not posting until further notice.

I thought people were done attacking me, but I’m still being called a homophobe, and someone has even called me a misogynist (that’s funny- I’m a female feminist that is all about gaining equality for everyone), and I’ve decided to just disappear until this fades away.

I am not going to be gone permanently, just long enough that I won’t be harassed about this anymore. If you wish to ask me any questions about asexuality, I suggest you ask fuckyeahasexual and asexual-society and asexualadvice.

I am not a homophobe. I am not a misogynist. I will not put up with this harassment anymore.

Good bye, until further notice.