In the question I asked for tips/advice on surviving high school and complimented you blog :p you only responded with "thanks" aha
OH GAH I’m sorry! Geez, high school felt like ages ago. I think I aged a few decades in the last semester. There are so many things I wish I knew in high school, I hope I can provide some insight!
- Get in a habit of not procrastinating. As tumblr has taught me but I can never remember the original author: procrastination is a thief of time. I know it’s really tempting to always put off work until the last minute, but it turns into a terrible habit that I see biting peoples’ asses all. the. time. If you procrastinate, try to veer away from it by giving yourself a todo list every day and making a point to follow through. It’ll help in the long run.
- Learn how to take notes. I can’t learn from my notes if they’re messy and disorganized. Find a systematic way to take your notes - they can be different for every class! Having good notes is the foundation of so many things - once you have good notes, you can build a new way to study off of them instead of having to go to your textbook for information.
- Learn how you learn. One of the things that bothered me about high school is the fact that the education system and teachers try to impose learning and study methods onto students. Not everyone learns/studies the same way. It’s primitive that you figure out how you study best. I went through various studying methods and found that I study differently for different classes, depending on the topic and work load. High school is the best time to experiment!
- Get in a habit of planning and organizing. It’s one of those techniques that will carry you so so far. I have lists and planners that I bring with me everywhere so it prevents me from forgetting things and staying on top of my work. Once junior/senior year approaches, there will be so many deadlines and things to do! Get in a habit of organizing your days to make sure you don’t suffer the consequences of negligence.
High school isn’t all about academics. It’s important to do well academically, but remember that high school is your time for self-discovery and growing into the person you’re proud of. I think i’ve been really lucky in terms of everything that has happened to me in terms of friends and family because I came out the other side as a mature young woman.
- You will reach a point in your life when you realize that despite having 1000 friends on Facebook, that number won’t mean anything when it’s 4 AM and you’re breaking down. Choose good friends. If you have good friends, I mean, really genuine friends that you can count on one hand, you’re doing well.
- Popularity doesn’t matter. Maybe it’s because I went to school in NYC, but my school didn’t have cliques…or any that I knew of. Everyone was kind of interwoven, but we still had our differences. Your reputation in high school will not follow you into college and the rest of your life.
- Do not sacrifice your morals and self-dignity. Do not give in to peer pressure. Do not justify anything because “your friends do it.” Your friends are not an excuse for you to do things you know are wrong. And if you have friends who scold you for not doing something you don’t want to do, you’re making the wrong friends.
- It’s okay to walk away from people you know are growing apart from you. Do not let tumblr convince you that you cannot walk away from friends, or people in general, if they are demeaning you, or if you know that you have grown apart as people. But remember that just people you’re growing apart as friends is not a reason to walk away. Friends grow…individually. Sometimes, your friends can teach you new things that may not resemble what you believe in.
- Be open-minded to new things. Do not build up walls of ignorance because you think you’re always right. You will never be always right. Remember that we have worlds out there in the universe that we don’t even understand yet. We still haven’t found the cure for cancer. We do not know everything and thus, you do not know everything. Never think you do - always be open-minded.
If I remember correctly, relationships were a huge thing back in my day (hurhur a few months ago), and I can’t imagine that it’s changed much.
- Compromise. As high school students, it’s easy to fall into a routine of thinking everything’s always okay and once you guys have an argument, that’s the end of the relationship. It’s not. A relationship should be measured by overcoming obstacles, but how fast you break down from one.
- The most important thing to have in common is morals. You can like different movies, music, and have different groups of friends. But as long as you have similar morals, beliefs, and ways of life, everything else will work itself out.
- You are young. Be reckless in love. Do things you won’t be able to do later on. There are things that you can’t do when you grow older. Take advantage and do it now. Be lovey-dovey in public. Don’t regret it.
- Rational, Mama Chen speaking: even while being reckless, don’t be stupid. Do not date a boy just because he’s physically attractive. Peel away the layers of his being. Watch him sleep. Listen to him sing in the shower. Find out what songs he sings in the shower. Feel his heartbeat when you’re together. Know him, and let him know you. Break down his walls. Simmer down yours.
- Have enough fire in your soul to start a wildfire. But simmer it down just enough to start a fireplace. Do not give away your dignity and self-independence for a boy who is not permanent in your life. Do not break down your morals, do not sacrifice who you are. If he cannot accept, adore, and love what’s behind your eyes and buried in the crevices of your heart, he does not deserve you.
- Family is important. At the end of the day, they are your blood, and they want what is best for you. My parents and I never had a good relationship growing up but things change and people grow. If you and your parents don’t have a good relationship, build one. Tell jokes, tell them every piece of how your day went.
- I do “sweet and sour” with my parents and my siblings. We tell the sweetest parts of our day and the sourest. My laughs feel the fuzziest when they’re shared with my parents.
- Know that your parents want what’s best for you. The most famous mentality is that your parents want to give you everything they weren’t able to achieve at this age. They will critique, they will demean (even if they don’t really mean or recognize it), but they will also love you and try to heal you. They are not perfect, and you can’t expect perfection from them. But they try, I swear they do.
- My parents and I were in horrible terms until junior year when I had several AP classes and was drowning under acute depression. For the last 16 years, both my parents put such heavy emphasis on academic achievement, and my lack there off signifies my failure as a human being and as a part of the family. But one day, my dad came in one day and he said, “I noticed that you haven’t been happy lately. And if everything becomes too much and you’re not happy anymore, know that school is not important. I would rather have you here than have these numbers prove how good you were.” And I think that’s when everything changed.
THINGS NOT TO FORGET
- You can do it and I love you.