This fandom is so exausting,every new charcter is a LI,or giving them more importance then they are gonna have in the show,they make this rom trope of separate the main couple and saying in our noses putting in front of us a lot of clues and leads basically preaparing both fandoms for bellarke but no we only see the - or expecting the worst for real if they do this with the show dear god with the real life,can barely imagine,enjoy the journey becuause the slowburn is closer to end soon.
True it’s very ship focused. I’ve really had to learn how to do this shipping thing and, to be honest, it’s not the best way to analyze stories. It gets your emotions too tied up so you can’t see the text/canon as well. Your biases and desires take over. You miss things.
Whenever I go into a first viewing with my ship goggles on, I am disappointed. If I go in open minded, I enjoy myself. THEN I am free to rewatch later with my shipgoggles and replay all the emotional beats and sit there rewinding hugs and heart eyes and I REALLY ENJOY IT.
It’s not that shipping is a problem, it’s the emphasis we put on shipping that gets us confused and disappointed. And that goes when we’re shipping our OTPs or against our NOTPs. Because the anti perspective is the same kind of bias. You want ONE thing and nothing else will satisfy.
I’m not going to tell people to stop with their romance centered interpretation, but I can’t let it take over my perspective, because then the show gets all confused in my head and it doesn’t work anymore and I am hurt when I don’t get what I’m looking for.
It’s hard for me because I get a lot of ship centered questions. Because I DO ship Bellarke, and I love it. But I didn’t come to ship them because I loved them, I came to love them because I was open to the story being told. (and then I saw the way he looked at her and I was like, wait what now? and I let myself be drawn in.)