But we are not part of community for being aspec, we can be a part of it if we are lgbt. If someone is not trans or similar gender attracted, then they are not lgbt, that is not excluding, that is simply stating the fact that lgbt people are lgbt because they are lgbt. Aspec are not lgbt for being aspec. We are aspec.
No, we’re lgbtq+ for not conforming to straight ideals of sexuality and gender. As a bi woman, your “similar gender attracted” description smells like BS. I mean, what about people who aren’t gender aligned? If a woman is attracted to a NB person whose gender isn’t binary aligned, as well as men, is she not bi? Because that would fit the definition of being attracted to more than one gender, but not your rules for belonging to the community.
Your general description of the community seems to exclude a lot of people and that’s not my community. And again, I am not a-spec. I am not going to weigh in on intra-community issues. If you, as an a-spec person, don’t want a-spec people to be a part of the community, take it up with the a-spec community. I, as an outsider, am going to do the thing that causes the least amount of harm.
Okay so I've told some people in my life that I'm bicurious. But they think that bicurious is something made up. I've never personally been with a female (I'm a female) but I am emotionally and physically attracted to them but I don't know if I am bi because of that as I've never acted on those preferences. Am I still valid to say I'm bicurious because of this or?
I mean yes, in my opinion you are. Bicurious isnt just a made up word. Its something that was termed because a lot of people were attracted to the opposite and same genders but they were uncertain if theyd actually like to have ~sex~ with the same/opposite gender (depending on what youre comfy with). Of COURSE thats valid. Just bc youre questioning doesnt mean your feeligs arent valid. Also ive helped a lot of my curious friends realize that they are in fact bisexual which is always such a cool thing
I was kinda sitting there thinking about what am I attracted to in girls, and it turns out girls. Just all girls. Butch girls, femme girls, fat girls, thin girls, poc girls, trans girls, bi girls, pan girls, girls with long hair, girls with short hair, girls who wear makeup, girls who dont, tall girls, short girls, androgynous girls, pastel girls, girls who like tight clothing, girls who like loose clothing, quiet girls, loud girls just wow girls.
Norm Lewis, Renee Elise Goldsberry, Rosario Dawson and Oscar Isaac at the Open Rehearsal of the ‘Shakespeare in the Park’ Production of 'The Two Gentlemen of Verona’ at Delacorte Theatre in New York City (August 18, 2005)