I'm RIDICULOUSLY confused with my sexuality. I'm pretty "meh" about sex in general, I don't really feel arousal (but, say, every once in two months, I'll feel the need to masturbate or something), I have a boyfriend with a high sex drive and sometimes it's real overwhelming but at the start of our relationship we were pretty sexual. But in general, I really don't care for sex and could happily live without it.. I don't feel like I feel sexual attraction at all either.. wtf am I
It sounds like you have a low libido, and also no attraction to other people. So in other words, you’re probably an ace with a low sex drive.
I've identified as bi for a while, but as time goes on I'm pretty sure I'm a lesbian, and now I'm super confused, cause I am mostly attracted to women, I mean some times there's a guy I'm attracted to, but I wouldn't want to be with him. any input?
I actually feel the same. My advice is really to try your best on not labelizing yourself because it will bring you more harm than anything else. Just be yourself, you don’t have to explain who you like and how to people.
hi I just wanted a bit of advise if you don't mind. I'm a girl and I am also attracted to girls and I'm very comfortable with that and am happy, but I really don't like the word lesbian being used to describe my sexuality (even though I haven't personally had a bad experience with the word) and I use the word gay because I am more comfortable with that. Should I use lesbian? is it wrong of me to dislike the word being associated with me if I haven't had a bad experience with it? thanks :)
Hi! No, you shouldn’t feel forced to use a word you aren’t comfortable with! It’s perfectly okay not to use it and I sort of feel the same way.
Personally, the word lesbian still makes me feel slightly uncomfortable. Not because it’s a bad word, but because I associate it with some negative things. I grew up hearing it as an insult, a weakness, something predatory, a porn category, a stereotype etc.
I’m working on reclaiming it as my own. But as of now I prefer gay or queer. And there’s nothing wrong with that, just as there’s nothing wrong with calling yourself a lesbian. It’s simply up to each individual.
I’ve been thinking about sexuality quite a bit lately??? (I guess my own) & it’s wild cause sometimes I can’t tell if what I’m thinking or what I think I’m thinking is actually my own judgement or if I feel that way because a lot of people I associate with feel that way.
Like I can see really cute/pretty girls on here or Twitter & just sit back & admire them. Then it somehow leads to me thinking stuff like “do I just appreciate this person for their aesthetics or am I kinda sorta actually attracted??” It’s a headache in the sense of what I’m thinking is/could be normal for anyone no matter the sexuality or I’m just thinking that way cause others I’m close to think that way.
You can say I spend majority of my year with Dan & Phil. I am so glad that the phandom welcomed me with open arms. I made a lot of new friends, did fun projects and achieved many goals that I’ve set for myself; like having an entire art summary filled with colours+digital and completing inktober. To me, it was been a very successful year. I may or may not still be in the phandom but where ever my art takes me, I hope to create new memories in 2017 like this year.