i am actually going out and socializing with people

Pro-tip for Autistics

When I’m out and about and need to escape being overwhelmed with noise, light, or socializing, and the people I’m with don’t know I’m autistic, I don’t tell them that I’m heading towards a meltdown or am experiencing sensory overload.

I tell them I’m getting a migraine.

Meltdowns and migraines are, from my understanding, neurologically similar events, and for me they often go hand in hand– if I get one, it’s a signal to me that I’m likely to get the other pretty soon and need to take care of myself. The remedy is the same: removing myself from the situation and retreating to a dark, quiet room.

The difference is that NTs often don’t understand and simply dismiss sensory overload if you explain it to them as such, but nearly all of them understand what a migraine is and sympathize. 99% of the time, if I tell a NT that I have a migraine or am about to get one, they treat it as an emergency and help me get away from the source of the overload as quickly as possible. I am then free to recover in a quiet, dark place without anyone trying to invalidate my needs, forcing me to “tough it out”, or thinking that I’m rude for having to leave or to outright avoid certain events or situations in the first place.

inkdropfox  asked:

As a trans guy who works in zoos and very much enjoys your blog, I might have to disagree with your current discussion just a little? While it IS very important to separate gender/sex and animals/humans, I think it's important to let the LGBT community find solace in animals displaying LGBT-representational behavior. Especially when many anti-LGBT people use the excuse "it's not natural" or "you have a disorder", it's very nice to be able to point to animals as "examples" or for our comfort?

(This ask is in response to this post on if animals can be bi). I’ve taken forever responding to this because I wanted to sit down with a trans friend who does activism/education on LGBT issues and hash out a) am I being shitty about this and b) if no, how do I actually say what I mean because getting myself out of science lingo when things cross over into social issues is something I struggle with. 

(I am very specifically not addressing trans/intersex animals in this post. I need to do more research and chat with people about that topic to get the wording correct first).

You’re absolutely right. It’s really important to say yes, in nature, there are animals that have sex / pair bond with / go through courtship behavior with animals of the same sex, or both sexes, or are uninterested in sex. This is absolutely a thing that occurs in nature, and while there are some species for which this is not species-typical behavior there are also species in which it is totally inherent in the normal behavioral repertoire. In terms of representation, yeah, it exists all over the animal kingdom and that’s absolutely worth acknowledging. 

I feel like there’s an important differentiation, though, between talking about is  ‘this animal’s existence is similar to / analogous to mine’ and projecting a human experience of that state of existence onto those animals. That’s where discussions about bi/gay animals start getting frustrating for me, as someone whose goal as an educator is to teach accurate behavioral science and remove anthropomorphism from how people think about animals. 

The really important parts of how people experience identity or how society reacts to someone’s identity (sexual attraction, isolation for not being heteronormative, for example) are too fundamentally tied up in being human to be correct for other taxa. We don’t know if animals have a sense of gender, or if they experience sexual attraction to conspecifics in any way other than an instinctual preference for specific indicators of fertility and quality, and I don’t think I’ve ever heard of an animal that was treated any differently by conspecifics as a result of who it tried to have sex with. When we assume animals experience being bi/gay/ace the way humans do, we basically invalidate all the ways their species-specific experiences and internal states would affect how they perceive and interact with the world. 

Tl;dr, bi/gay/ace animals definitely exist in a social/behavioral sense, but it’s really important to not assume that they have the same experience as a bi/gay/ace human. 


okay, so there’s a bit of misinformation being spread around and it is partially (not sure how much?? maybe entirely??) my fault, so i feel it is my responsibility to help correct it.

in my stefon post from last night, part of my joke was “ja rule taking those rich kids’ money and giving it to charity” which i meant ENTIRELY AS A JOKE and i didn’t realize people would take it seriously. i am sorry about that - that is entirely on me, and i know that out of the context of my head, it sounds like a statement of fact, thrown in with other funny but ACTUALLY factual things about fyre fest (the sandwiches, [possibly??] the dogs, etc).

sometime last night, as social media was really going to town on fyre fest, jokes started to circulate that amounted to “where is ja rule in this time of crisis,” inspired by an old dave chappelle stand-up bit and due to the fact that ja rule was one of the many celebs who promo’d the fyre festival.

among these jokes were also jokes along the lines of “this is ja with those rich kids’ money” followed by pics of joanne the scammer, and even a screencap circulated of ja rule’s instagram post of the city harvest nyc charity drive (which he performed at and helped raise money for - none of that money came from fyre festival, and happened 2 days before the festival even started) which featured jokes implying ja rule gave all the money away.

it was in the middle of that little flash-in-the-pan “ja rule took the money and ran/gave it away/this is all a robin hood-esque social experiment” that i made my stefon post. i saw the first tag asking “did he really give it to charity” about 200 notes in (i didn’t think it would blow up. i only saw how many notes it had now about an hour ago when i left work). i quickly reblogged it and added this note trying to explain. when i went to be last night, that was the only non-tag addition to my text post, and easily seen from the notes if you clicked the little drop-down box/notes link.

since i got home, i saw this post taking the instagram screencap out of context (thinking the money really was taken and donated, which sounded like my text post which made me go “UH-OH. I MIGHT HAVE FUCKED UP”), so i thought i’d go ahead and try to set the record straight.

please reblog this and help combat this misinformation! i’m glad you guys got a laugh out of my dumb joke i made half asleep lmao, but ja rule is not robin hood (and he’s actually a homophobic dick irl anyway, so…)

<3 -ali

people always tell me how lucky I am that I don’t have work, go to school/college or do housework because of my illnesses but they conveniently forget that I also can’t go out and do things I enjoy, I can’t have a social life, I can’t drive, I can’t have hobbies, I can’t go to parties, I can’t go on days out or trips away. I even miss out on important events. I may not get to do the shitty things in life but I also don’t get to do the good things either. I’d take all the shit stuff in a second just to have a small taste of all the good things. 

craigartasin  asked:

so I watched Yu.ri On I.ce, but I never really got into the fandom... and now I'm super glad because the antis are so fucking insane. they're shitting themselves over a TWO YEAR AGE GAP. TWO FUCKING YEARS. 16 and 18 and that's "pedophilia" one of the arguments I saw was "lol the laws in the US aren't the laws everywhere" like I am so sick of these dumbass teenagers. go away, no one wants your sensitive was bullshit diminishing the true meaning of what pedophilia actually is.

This is exactly the kind of thing I’ve been speaking out against.  It is incredibly, INCREDIBLY socially harmful to spread the notion that a two-year age gap between people that have biologically reached the point of sexual maturity that they’re producing viable sex cells counts as “pedophilia”.  Like, *I* literally dated guys two years older than me in high school.  TWICE.  Imagine being someone like the little girl that survived the exploitation of Peter Scully, and seeing what you went through being compared to two cartoon teenagers in a non-existent relationship.  That’s like comparing losing a sock in the laundry to your neighbor becoming homeless because their entire house burned down.  THAT’S the part of this that makes me absolutely sick: This co-opting of others’ genuine suffering.

Honestly, I think a lot of these people are just terrified of adults and adulthood.  They project themselves so hard onto fictional characters that they see it as THEMSELVES being put into these fictional relationships.  The presence of others that don’t share the same view of these characters shatters the fictional world they’ve built up for themselves using someone else’s intellectual property.

To them, this little world inside their head is their substitute for reality.  That’s why they take fiction so damn seriously that they’ll use any excuse they can muster in order to justify their resentment and agression in trying to censor others.  I’m also fairly certain they’re FULLY aware that their arguments are in the wrong, but are also aware that serious issues like pedophilia provide a sort of shield behind which to hide their true motivations without most people bothering to question them.

These people are emotionally stunted, yet seem to believe THEIR mental state is representative of EVERYONE, when the reality is that they’re just so socially inept that they substitute cartoons for actual human interaction, because the versions of those characters inside their heads can’t reject them.  These people are painfully immature because they outright refuse to grow as human beings.  They want to be babied and cared for rather than accept responsibility, take initiative, and experience anything that might force them through desperately-needed psychological development.  Not only are they hurting the issues they claim to stand for, but they’re hurting THEMSELVES (and enabling each other to CONTINUE hurting themselves under false self-righteous pretenses).

I still cannot believe whatsoever that people are trivializing many legitimate issues with grave consequences just because they’re the spoiled, sheltered loser kids in school that sit alone at the lunch table, and think the world owes them praise and popularity for being bitter about it.

anonymous asked:

This might come out weird. I dunno how you identified before coming out - as being particularly / exclusively sexually attracted to a particular gender or not. But do you feel your own transition has changed your attractions or orientation?

No, I don’t think it has.  I was attracted mostly but not exclusively to men beforehand, and I still am now.

The only thing that has changed, which is sort of weird, is that I’m gay now.  Nothing’s actually changed in the sort of people I’m attracted to or the sort of things I want to do with them, but it puts me in a different social category now.  Which I’m not really used to.  It’s like… I was expecting to be trans, but I kind of wasn’t expecting to be gay?  It keeps being a weird surprise to me that when I go out holding hands with my boyfriend, we’re two men holding hands.

If that makes any sense at all?  I recognize this isn’t totally logical, and some of it is wrapped up in narrow-minded internalized beliefs around “I don’t fit all the stereotypes, so I can’t be gay gay!”, but it’s a thing I’m dealing with right now.

Hi! A few things:
Firstly, sorry I haven’t been on here in a few days, between moving out of our old house, navigating an airport and air travel with a cat, and trying to settle said cat temporarily into a house already housing two dogs and three cats I haven’t had much time for internet-ing.
Secondly, and this is a tiny bit belated, thank you for 10K followers!! I started this blog only 3 years ago and I still can’t quite believe how many of you have come along for the ride :’)
Lastly, I’ve finally had to say goodbye to Oahu but I still have quite a bit of unposed photos from my last week or so there, so while physical me is firmly planted in Arizona at the moment, virtual me will still detour back to hawaii from time to time.
Actual lastly, This picture was taken, of course, by @ashleydiscovers​, whom I am going to miss with all my heart until our next adventure. I could not possibly have found a better human to experience the island with. As a fairly non-social creature who prefers the company of books and animals and only a few choice humans it was nothing short of a miracle that Ash and I found each other and reached out. But I’m forever grateful that I did because as it turns out I reached out to one of the most exceptional people I’ll know. She has been my rock on that rock in the sea and my time there would not have been the same without her friendship. Love you Ash, thank you for everything<3

Hi! Hey! Hello!

My names Liam, I just turned 16 a few days ago, and I am from California! 

My hobbies include binge watching Netflix, FaceTime/Skype, procrastinating really badly on homework, and photography. Tbh I fuck with all kinds of music, except country (sorry lmao), But Lana del Rey, Halsey, Ariana Grande, and Melanie Martinez are my favs, but I love so many bands/artists you could literaly pick a random one and the chance that I like some of their music is very high. My favorite TV shows, music, and youtube videos that I like to watch constantly change so I love hearing about what other people are watching or listening to.

I super sarcastic and ½ of my texts include kim kardashian or New York memes. Where ever I go, drama seems to follow so I have like 3-5 rants a day about how annoyed I am or what made me laugh on that day. I love hearing about what other people went through on that day. I love friendships where we plan trips and our lives out with each other, and it’s going to actually turn into something that’s more than “what’s up?” for a month. I hope that we can can whenever, have a million inside jokes, interact on all social medias, laugh together, cry together, and grow up together. I speak english and I’m learning Spanish (I know conversational basically)

  I love those 2 am texting friendships and honestly as long as you’re not a hateful person, we’ll get along great. I am 1000% fine with any Age/Gender/Sexuality  etc; and i want to meet all types of people.  At first I may be awkward af, but in a week ill probably be telling you all my secrets lmao, and I got some shit to spill😂😩🐸☕️. 

You can talk to me at:

Snapchat: liam_awesome100 (yes I know it sounds like a 7 year old made that username, i made it so long ago and I don’t have the energy to make a new account)

kik: crimsonword (also made when i was young af, you can see that recurring theme of aged usernames here lmao)

tumblr: lana-del-ayte

Email: liamc9207@gmail.com

Instagram: liam.canniffe

PS: Holy shit did you really get to the end of that long ass paragraph?!? Good for you boo!👏🏼👏🏼

An Open Letter to Those Ignorant of Introversion and How Their Mislabeling and Misunderstanding Makes Everyone's Life Difficult

Dear humans who think introverted means shy or don’t think introversion is a thing:

You are the reason that I can come off as an aloof liar. My lack of social skills and inability to respond quickly are caused by people like you. The quick drain of any social energy that makes me want to leave a social situation after an hour is generally caused by you. Let me explain some of the things I have been called and some reasons why you are the cause:

1). Lazy: To avoid being hassled or bothered by people like you, I have adapted a work/sleep schedule that does not match yours. This means that I like to do work when you are sleeping. I have changed my natural Circadian Rhythm just to avoid your questions. This means that you see me when I am tired and you are not witness to my productive time. Also, I don’t need to talk about what I have accomplished. I just do it. You would realize this if you just look at what I do instead of insisting that I report back to you and judge the work on how well I present results. How well I present is not related to how hard I work, so stopping judging in that way.

2). Elitist: I do not think that I am better than everyone simply because I am not talking to them. Please do not label me that way. That fact that I am not talking or by myself is likely related to my energy level and nothing to do with you. The irony is that I likely feel very inferior. It is somewhat like being the fat guy that goes on a hike with a bunch of fit people and has to rest all of the time. If he complains and stops all the time, you know it has nothing to do with him thinking he is a better hiker and is too good to be walking with everybody else. The guy is tired and just doing his best to keep up be conserving energy. If I am not talking, just let me take a breather and don’t project motives on to me. Please.

3) Liar: I have to make up stuff all of the time to get out of social events because you will not except “I don’t have the energy” as a reason. So I have to make stuff up. All the time. So maybe you are correct, I am a liar. But you have made me this way. Maybe I wouldn’t have to lie if you would just believe me when I say I can’t. Don’t get me wrong, I know that you are trying to be helpful since, often times, the person who is trying to get me to go outside is trying to help. I know that going out is what has made you feel better, but that doesn’t work for me. Don’t force me to make up lies to satisfy you.

4) Anti-social: This is not even kind of true because I love people and have an inner compulsion that has lead me to take jobs in which I help people. I am a psychologist and an education specialist. I go out and force myself to be social so that I can help other people learn and grow to the best of my ability. If anything, I am pro-social. I just have to work a lot harder to be good at it than others. I have to prepare more, I run out of juice faster, and I don’t make as many strong showings. I know myself enough that sometimes avoiding social situations is actually beneficial for the group.

So what I am asking is that you take time to learn about what an introvert is so that you understand the things we do. I will admit that there are times when I am lazy, elitist, untruthful, and anti-social, but I am generally a good person and don’t want to hurt you. I feel the same goes for most introverts. I just ask that you don’t place judgment on us without a solid understanding of what is going on. It makes us into people we don’t want to be and the whole situation can be cured with a little patience and knowledge. So do everyone a favor and educate yourself.

Most Sincerely,

All the good introverts in the world that want to enjoy life on their own terms,

Argumentative ENTPs

What’s with this stereotype?? Like I know it’s a stereotype and just a joke most of the time but still??? ENFPs are way more argumentative (but we’ll get to that later).

In my experience ENTPs are not very argumentative at all. Like, Ti will poke a whole or two in your logic if we feel it’s deserved (or I’ve seen some do it in excess if they really dislike the person) but that’s a different thing. Arguing isn’t the same as pointing out flaws. I often do it to help other people realize flaws so they can fix them and improve whatever they’re doing (if they decide to take it personally, that’s not my fault. But I am working on doing it more nicely).

People say tert Fe tries to get reactions from people, but only really childish ENTPs (or actual children) would go on with arguing forever. Eventually the socially-aware-and-caring parts of Fe kick in and they knock it off. And even if it didn’t, most ENTPs have other (granted, often more weird) ways of getting reactions/attention from others.

Honestly, in my experience ENFPs are much much more argumentative than any ENTP I’ve met. ENFPs often lack the Fe to know when to stop and Fi seems to empower them to want to “be right” so the arguments just keep going.

My brother, my dad, and my best friend are all ENFPs. They want the attention and reaction at LEAST as much as your average ExTP. My brother will taunt and infuriate his classmates over political differences when he knows basically nothing of politics. When I suggest that’s not a great idea, he responds, “But it’s so funny.”

My ENFP best friend started poking fun at me in a group chat over a silly mistake and kept trying to one-up me and make me look dumb, seemingly just for the sake of “winning.” Later I talked to him about it and assured me he was never actually mad and didn’t actually care. That doesn’t mean I didn’t. Lack of Fe -> doesn’t consider others -> doesn’t know when to stop (this is a generalization. Not true for all, but for many Fi users I know). I love him, but gosh I really hate him sometimes.

When Ti users do argue a lot, it at least is founded in some form of logic, typically. Whereas I see Fi users pull at anything that they think could help them. Which is all the more frustrating when I’m trying to talk about improvement from a logical standpoint.

So yeah for real, what’s up with the argumentative ENTP stereotype? It’s the ENFPs, not us. I’m not offended or anything and I don’t want ENFPs to be, I just wish there was a more accurate stereotype for making MBTI memes and stuff. Ya know? What are your thoughts and experiences on this?

The nasty authority of identity in social justice narratives. (first draft).

This is a longer version of a post I already made about how social justice communities often use being part of an oppressed group as a form of authority. Which basically boils down to ‘If a trans person is speaking about transphobia, they are right. If the person disagreeing with them is cis, they are wrong.’ Replace transphobia, with racism, misogyny, ableism, etc and repeat. 

This is an understandable system. “believe the person with actual lives experience, not the person with privilege to protect” is a good social instinct to have, We live in a world where having privilege is presented as being ‘objective’, and thus more right and where people who speak on their own experiences of oppression are constantly required to provide proof of the bleeding obvious. (And make no mistake: the constant demand that we proof that racism/sexism/transphobia/etc exists is an exhaustion mechanism designed to keep us from doing the real work of destroying these things). 

But where someone is automatically believed and does not need to prove their points, there is authority. And authority comes with a long range of problems. I’m going to list a few:

1. It doesn’t help us to get to the truth. 

The fact that there are a lot of different narratives about what it means to be trans, all by transgender people, should be a first clue that being a member of an oppressed group doesn’t make you right. Some trans people claim that only those who experience ‘gender dysphoria’ are transgender, others reject this. They can’t both be right. 

Yet a cis person is told always to believe a trans person, even if there seem to be flaws in their stories and theories. This may seem like a thing that protects trans people, but actually, it has the convenient side effect of relieving cis people of the burden of figuring out who is right. If trans people are always right, then cis people can stop thinking for themselves. But to quote cool-yubari:

If someone’s arguments aren’t adding up, automatically expecting that they’re acting in the interests of all oppressed people simply as a result of being oppressed is wrong. […] Being victimized, or having been victimized, doesn’t automatically give you wisdom, and it sure as hell doesn’t teach you kindness.

We are not achieving the best possible understanding of our world by using oppression-group-membership as a requirement to speak at all, and even less by automatically assuming that every member of a group is always right. Sometimes we’re wrong. And as controversial as it is to say this: being a member of an oppressor group can produce really valuable insights that we need. Some of the best writing on how toxic masculinity can be and how exactly ‘boy’s don’t cry’ is connected to rape and violence has been done by men. Some of the work of unraveling cissexism and transphobia must be done by cis people. 

2. It results in a tyranny of definition. 

When being a member of an oppressed group grants authority and being a member of an oppressor group means shutting up and sitting back, the result is that identifying becomes mandatory. Welcome to a social justice conversation, please name your side, rank and number. Label all your privileges and lacks of them. This is violence, because so many of us do not identify as one thing or another or do not want to always be known by the identity labels that we sometimes use. 

As I said before:

Does a person who does not define their gender experience male privilege? Do they experience misogyny? Do they experience either of these things dependent on who encounters them and when?

MRA’s and feminists alike erupt in rage when they do not know how to label us, when we do not name our privileges and our sides. This tyranny is often enforced as ruthlessly by those who made the norms as by those who resist them. There has always been special punishments reserved for combatants who do not wear a uniform or list a rank and number.

When we do not identify, people do not know what to expect from us. But they also do not know which authority to ascribe to us and where to rank us in the order of ‘allowed to speak’ and ‘probably right’. Instead, they have to actually listen to our words to figure out if they’re worth something. Which, as I mentioned above, is work we’ve been told we don’t have to do. 

3. Authority can be used by abusers.

There are abusers who can and will use any system to their advantage, no matter how awesome that system is under normal circumstances.We have important social cues in social justice communities, like “always believe people who say they have been victimized”. And 99,9% of the time, that’s a really good social routine to have.But even that routine can be abused and I’ve seen that happen a few times by people who were just plain bullies and abusers and who used this specific social routine to do their abusing, capitalizing on their ‘more oppressed than the person I’m bullying’ status to get away with it.

Quoting myself:

In the case I’ve witnessed, the abuser started out calling out real shit (and continued to do that) going on in a community and as a result gained a lot of respect and status, to the point of being considered sort of the expert on transphobia.

Then they started capitalizing on that gained status by using the treat of a call out as a weapon in any situation. First they’d see if they could get away with minor bullying by calling the bullied person transphobic or responding to a minor act with a massive lash out, then they’d expand on that. Eventually, they’d create a climate of fear within their community, a “you better not mess with me or I will find any excuse to call you transphobic and in that case I will scream in your face and use any violence I deem necessary and people will support me because I am a trans person calling you transphobic and they have been trained to respect that”.

All the while, they’d continue to be an actual valuable activist calling out actual transphobia, but they’d also become a person who could bully anyone, abuse anyone, because no one would dare mess with them anymore for fear of being expelled from the group as a transphobe.

There are many other ways an abuser can use these social routines to their advantage, and we’re going to have to recognize each instance as it happens. But also, we’re going to have to recognize that these kind of things to not happen by pure coincidence, they happen because we created systems of automatic authority that abusers can capitalize on. I’m pretty sure this abuser, as others, used different bullying techniques before they discovered social justice lingo as a tool. But once they found that tool, it proved incredibly powerful because of all the authority that we ascribe to people without acknowledging that that power can be absed. 

4. Authority brings out the worst in all of us. 

While an abuser can use the ‘rules’ os a social justice oriented community for their own game in ways that are really manipulative and cruel, any of us, and most of us, abuse those same rules to some extend. In a culture where being ‘wrong’ or not having a response to a ‘call out’ is viewed as a very negative thing, the pressure to always win an argument (even if we’re not sure we’re right) is on. And if we have lived experience of an issue and our opponent does not, then it’s not hard to use the ‘rules’ to make ourselves look right and reaffirm our feelings of rightness.

But the response “sit down and take a lesson” or “I’m right because I belong to the group who gets to talk about this” is not just a smackdown without real arguments, it’s an act of domination. It’s using your authority in this social justice space to silence someone else. The amount of institutional power as this person may have over you doesn’t change that. The fact that you felt hurt and attacked doesn’t change that, a lot of dominant acts come from a place of feeling vulnerable and not liking it.

None of us like being wrong. None of us like losing an argument. Most of us like the feeling of having ‘smacked down’ someone who we perceived as wrong. And to be a little blunter: let’s not pretend to be social justice monks meditating on a pure state of being. Most of us, on some level, like winning, being admired, and feeling like our words are authoritative. These things feel good, but they are an ugly side of us. 

The authority of being able to say ‘I am right because I am identity X’, brings out that nasty, dominating side in us. I, for one, don’t think that is good for our communities or ourselves. 


These are some problems and there are probably more. But that doesn’t mean we should throw everything we have out of the window. We came from a place where newspapers will have you hating the people who are being oppressed, and loving the people doing the opressing. And we build a place that works the other way around. That’s good. 

But we need to be much much more aware of the fact that we, in a search for easy answers, are creating authority and power relationships in our communities that are not helping. In fact, that are suffocating conversations, creating a tyranny of always identifying yourself, that are empowering abusers and bringing out the worst in all of us. 

anonymous asked:

Honestly it amazes me how you and other communists can't understand why people don't trust you. Everything you listed in that response has happened in the ussr China Cambodia and right now in Venezuela. Also none have you have even acknowledged what's going on there. I don't care if these countries are bad examples of socialism because their leaders got to power for spouting you're rhetoric. Why should anyone believe you or trust you. You didn't even try to sympathize with that anon.

idk if you found my blog bc of some post ive made and dont follow me because ive made it very clear that i dont support any of those countries and as a libertarian communist countless other libertarian communists have fought against oppressive leaders who call themselves communists and been murdered by them. they asked me why im a communist and i answered and i answered why i cant support capitalism. i understand why people who lived or whos families lived under those countries might oppose that and im not going to seek them out to bother them but i am not going to change my mind about being a leftist, sorry. and its not just “bad examples of socialism” because its really not socialism by any definition. i highly recommend actually reading anything about socialist theory

I never understand the obsession with getting more friends, making friends, being everyone’s friend ahhhh!!!

Meanwhile I’m like “I have enough friends now, no one else socialize with me.” Lol!

I never go out looking for them, anytime I’ve ever made friends it’s because they came to me for some cosmic unknown reason (Am I actually hot but don’t know it..?) and I was okay enough with their presence not to tell them to go away. Pfft!

I’m grateful for those I have though. My core group of friends are all people I didn’t say “go away” to and I’m so glad I didn’t.

Ok so for real

Dan’s Tinder video was not only genuinely really funny and good, but I am blown away by the fact that he actually did that because idk about you but I’m way too socially anxious to ever go out and do the stuff he did in that video (interacting with real people with pictures and a profile based on himself, not a guinea pig like last time), and I’m quite very certain that not too long ago, he was too 

but not anymore

The Dragon Club: Chapter 4 - Wine and Dine

Summary:  Jon Snow is an online blogger who gets an interview with the sort after Daenerys Targaryen, the Editor of Valyrian, a multi-million dollar fashion magazine. He’d heard so much about the silver-haired and silver-tongued woman and he running of her business; he would have to be smart to get anything more than five minutes. Will he be safe walking into the Dragon’s lair or will he get thrown to the Lions?

Link: http://archiveofourown.org/works/12018519/chapters/27290892


Daenerys glared at the TV as E! News reported the sensational news of Jon Snow’s blog. It was two days after their fiasco interview and Dany woke up seething after receiving phone call after phone call from news outlets wanting her comments as had phoned Missandei (who was back at work and healthy) to cancel her meeting that day and that she was going to work from home on editing the March issue of Valyrian (February’s was coming out in two weeks so she needed this one in the back by the end of the week). But she couldn’t concentrate as she received a message from her brother telling her to turn the tv on.

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anonymous asked:

I'm a newcomer. I'm just getting into b.a.p and I wanted to know if you could enlighten me about them pls. Thank you :)

Hey! Ah welcome to the b.a.p trash pit, hope you enjoy your stay here 

but yeah definitely! I don’t know how familiar you are with B.A.P but I’ll try to fill you in on the basics :) (Putting it under a read more)

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anonymous asked:

I'm not trying to sound rude but it's there something you genuinely like about Harry's solo career?

I’m not trying to sound rude, but what has he given me to like?

Mediocre music, an image built entirely out of other people, advantages nobody else would have that he manages to blow, robotic social media, interviews that completely disregard fans and One Direction, fake deep statements that are actually sexist, and now he’s building his social media on Louis’ back to try and keep people around.

What is there to like about that? Honestly? And why does there have to be anything I’m expected to “genuinely” like?

As I’ve said a million times before, you like his music or his image, great! Go listen to it! Go buy it! Stream it, do whatever you want. There’s something for everyone out there.

I like 1D as a band and I am a Larrie. None of that means I have to automatically approve of solo Harry. Messages like these, as well as posts telling people to “get out” if they don’t support solo Harry, make it seem like people think Larry=Harry and 1D=Harry. Neither of those are true.

anonymous asked:

i mean one of the signs of being not attracted to men at all is being attracted only to non-attainable men :o so it might be that ur just. gay? idk if u like the female connotations of lesbian considering ur agender but!

yea its something ive been thinking about more lately. i always just kind of.. assumed i was attracted to men but i can like. remember just kind of randomly picking out dudes to tell friends i had a crush on them, etc. like i never had any actual interest, besides fictional men/unattainable men like mentioned here.

my gender is a big source of confusion and i want to go on T but thats bc of social dysphoria and some other things, im not male aligned (which random anonymous people keep insisting on telling me i am),and i mostly dont feel like i have a gender so its just a big I Dont Know that fits decently under the label of ‘agender’. but its probably at least good to look at the signs and accept that i am Probably Not Actually Attracted To Men and move on

Asa Butterfield’s interview for “Boys by Girls”

Do you cry?

Yes, when the time calls for it, like when I die in a vídeo game. No, that was a joke, I want to clarify that, haha. I don’t know what makes me cry, sad shit. I’d say I’m definitely in touch with my emotions and quite emotionally connected, but I think that growing up as a guy you tend to supress certain emotions for whatever reason. Whether it is to impress people or to show that you’re a tough guy, which a lot of people put on. Although I do cry a lot less than I used too, I used to be such a wimp when I was a kid. Like when you lose your favourite lego brick, that’s devastating. That will bring tears to your eyes.

Who is Asa?

I think that’s na interesting question, because I had quite a diferente upbringing. I’ve had to be more mature and have proper conversations with adults since I was thirteen years old. There is definitely that parto f me which is confident and good at talking to people. There is also a part of me, that is quite a quiet person. I’m very content in not saying much and just enjoying whatever situation I’m in; playing vídeo games and hanging out with my mates, which are two very opposing sides. The first impression I give people is that I am quite talkative and a sort of funny guy, but in reality I’m totally not. I”m a lot more boring, placid and easy going. I’m very contente going with the flow and chillaxing.

You have played such a variety of roles; from Ender Wiggin leading the fight against na alien racen in “Ender’s Game”, angsty teenager in “Tem Thousand Saints” and a math progidy in “X+Y”. You seem to make good choices.

Whenver I’m picking a role I look for characters that are going to be challenging or diferente to what I have done before, otherwise you’re not really pushing youself as an actor. For “Ender’s Game”, conveying his understanding of the situation they were in, being so ahead of his peers, was a challenge. I loved working with Gavin Hood, the diretor, to figure out the best way to represent that. Then “X+Y” was probably the most challenging role. Firstly it was a person who was on the autistic spectrum, which was something I didn’t know much about before the film, so it was na educational experience for me. Everyone on the spectrum are slightly diferente, so I had to figure out how to portray my character, Nathan- how he would speak and observe the world. For him it was all about mathematical patterns and colour. It was quite demanding physically, because I had to totally change myself in the way I walked. When you take on a role, even if it is subtle change you adopt, you have to start stripping back all the things you would naturally do. You need to get rid of all that, so it’s just a blank slate in which you can start to create this new character and the way he speaks and Works. It was a really interesting experience.

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