Did you see that Gemma called (a) larrie(s) "mental" on Instagram? (I'm not sure if she meant that specific larrie or if it was directed at all larries in general.) That word choice is very...yikes. ☹️
I’m not the person to come to with this. For starters, I don’t think that policing the word choice of complete strangers is useful political practice even when done in a principled way - and I don’t think the response to Gemma is principled.
I also have a lot of sympathy for Gemma. I think a lot of the commentary has missed the basic point about what she was responding to.
Gemma posted a picture of a mural and someone commented ‘confirms Larry’ with blue and green hearts. Gemma responded ‘are you mental’. That’s not directed at Larries in general - that’s directed at someone who has taken Gemma’s social media (which like everyone’s social media is fundamentally about her) and made it about her brother.
I’ve seen a lot of people say that this was somehow less worse than other things that get said on their instagrams. But from at least before I was in the fandom, Gemma has been really bothered by posts that imply that her actions are sending codes about her brother’s relationship.
I more than understand that - I agree. To say that Gemma is posting a mural she likes to confirm Larry - is making her expression and her experiences about her brother - it’s dehumanising her in a really fundamental way. It’s not a one off - over and over again people have taken Gemma’s self-expression and denied that it’s self-expression - and I totally get why that bothers her.
Almost all the commentary from Larries has continued that erasure of Gemma - I have seen very little that acknowledges what it was about the post that bothered her - let alone that she has said many times the specific fan behaviour that she finds upsetting. People aren’t acknowledging that her response is about her and how she feels - even though I thought she articulated that clearly on twitter.
I know there are all sorts of boundary issues in this fandom and I’ve written things I’ve regretted. But I think there lots of reasons, both political and human, that it’s really important to treat the family members of One Direction as people in their own right, with the same desires of self-expression and inner life as anyone else and not make everything they do about the the famous men they’re related to.
and girls were so pretty. there was the effortless girls who had the wide eyes, the freckles, the hair pulled back. who didn’t wear makeup and always wore a smile, who knew you needed help before you asked it; the sunshine and picnic girls, who you felt carried spring with them. and the mountaintop girls, strong bodies and fierce in their bones, drinking green tea and teaching you yoga, who watched you and made sure you ate well, who knew what it was to fight for a body that listened. and the soft heather girls who knew nature and spoke gently and would show you how to hear the light hitting a lake, who would listen no matter how long the story was and somehow know what to say. and the girls who were red moons, a dangerous flash of teeth and darkness, an excited wildness that came in black leather and spoke of nights you ache when you remember, who would look at you and pin you to a board for a moment, so that for once you felt important. and the summertime girls, wide smiles and makeup that never smudged, who could make you feel as if you lived inside a photograph, who brought the feeling of the fourth of july to every party, who convinced you to come to the party. and of course the rain girls, who didn’t need an explanation, but simply were, in a way that when you made eye contact with them you knew somehow about sorrow and also about the safety of staying home.
and girls. girls in their sweatpants in the aisle of a supermarket looking lost. girls staring down their teacher, demanding the grade they deserve. girls with their hands on the wheel, with their hands passing lotion to another, with their hands in their hair. girls upside down on the couch and spine straight in business meetings and body curled around a book. girls who were upended libraries, who were railroads, who were a choir’s last note, who were carols, who were snow, who were a racing track, who glowed or who gave warmth or else sewed cold, who bit hard, who laughed loud, who fell asleep on trains, who rode bikes in rain.
•"i was born in space"
•they introduced the hot bad boy character by having him do a flip off the drop ship
•"it’s an AUTOM OBI LE"
•when they took a tarp with them to carry Jasper who was injured but they ended up carrying their dinner in the tarp and they just made Wells carry Jasper hahaha
•also when they were playing peppy indie music and it was a Feel Good moment but then a spear struck Jasper through the heart and everyone started screaming
•"he tried to kill Jasper, too" “…..what”
•Murphy was trying to rally the crowd and was like “ALL IN FAVOR OF JUSTICE” and like 3 people raised their hands
•the entire Day Trip episode
•"you can’t just KILL PEOPLE to make yourself FEEL BETTER"
•they couldn’t communicate with the Ark and everyone was crying but Clarke and Finn just had angry sex
•they tied Atom to a tree and left him there as punishment
•Murphy peed on that guy
•Murphy spelled “die” wrong
•Jasper saw Murphy strangling a guy with a plastic bag and Murphy just tried to cover it by saying “he just….stopped breathing”
•honestly every goddamn line that came from John Murphy’s mouth
•Jaha hallucinated that baby that he found in a drawer
•"is that the Ark?“ "i hope they have shampoo”
•"i know who Oppenheimer is"
•Monty walked in on Finn and Raven fucking and he was wearing that lil hat
•"happy unity day here’s some unity juice"
•"storms coming…..“ and other such diva Bellamy moments
•14 year old Jasper doing straight shots of moonshine
•"herbs…..if you know what i mean”
•jasper woke up from near death and asked for some booze that kid sure does love alcohol
•everyone was like “Jasper’s had a bad week what with almost dying let’s let him fix the wristbands” and he fucked it up
•they all wanted to murder Jasper because he was keeping them up with his screaming
•just anything Jasper did was iconic bc he was always suffering (still is)
•someone was listed in the credits as “Boy Bullied By Murphy”
•bellamy was always like “no one leave camp” but when his little sister went missing he woke everyone up at like 3 am and was like “we’re all leaving this minute lets go party people”
•raven and finn were reunited and she was like i’m going to cut his greasy ass hair immediately
•bellamy and raven were always ready to fight each other they took every opportunity
•everyone wore bomber jackets
•finn’s trick to make girls like him was to create little sculptures for them and Raven got a pretty bird and Clarke got a two headed deer lmao
•any injury was cured by putting a hot blade on it problem solved
•murphy came back with a deadly disease and everyone was like “aw jeez guys he’s dying he won’t hurt anyone”
•and then he killed like 3 people
•murphy in general
Another icon collab between me and @fonbella, this time I did the coloring and she did the sketches<33 And I loved coloring her adorable doodles, not to mention how excited we are for Sun&Moon and seeing our fave gay trainers again!!<33 (Please note these were made for us, so do not use~)
I promised @arituzz a snowbaz get along shirt. Also, I remember @eroticgropefest wanted a ‘what is this feeling’ first year. I totally forgot that 1st and 2nd years had to wear green and purple striped blazers until I checked the book.