i actually want this kind of relationship

anonymous asked:

Hey, so I came out to my mom a few months ago and it went great. But when I'm actually dating a girl, it's suddenly not okay. I've been lying and saying "we're just friends, I was confused" to get my mom off my back and allow me to keep seeing her (I'm 17) but all this sneaking around is taking a toll on the relationship, but also we don't wanna break up and let my mom win. I don't want to lie anymore and we're gonna get caught eventually...what should I do?

Ohh I think you should make kind of protest, like if you can quit home for a few days or ignore her… you should make her understand that you will do whatever you want even if she’s not happy about it. Then after your protest she will know that you’re ready to do smth radical and won’t stop you from what you want to do

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A lot of the fandom seems to be freaking out about this so let’s talk about it!

This was actually one of my favourite scenes from the episode. Not because of any kind of impending drama but because this conversation has honestly been a long time coming.

After episode 7, there was no relationship talk. Victor and Yuuri have yet to sit down and tell each other straight up what they want out of their relationship (both personally and professionally). Flash back to episode 4 where Victor was asking what he should be to Yuuri. Now they actually are boyfriends (well, even more than that, fiancés) but same as we’ve never heard them state it, I don’t think they’ve really made it explicitly clear to each other either.

I feel that so far they’ve just been letting things evolve as they go. The Cup of China was actually only a bit over a month ago in-series. Their intimate relationship is still very new and it’s been moving really fast. They’re definitely physically intimate (as you can see by the pushed-together beds) but they haven’t quite connected the same way on the emotional level. They definitely love each other and want to stay with each other, I don’t doubt that for a moment, but they haven’t sat down and said “I want to spend my life with you” to each other. They haven’t told each other what their plans are for their professional relationship either.

We know that Victor has been doing a lot of thinking, and it was very obvious in this episode that he is grieving his career, but it’s also obvious that he doesn’t plan to go back to skating competitively.

Yuuri however, being the anxious person that he is, is reading Victor’s grieving all wrong. Yuuri is thinking that not only is their professional relationship (which he could end simply by retiring) but also their personal relationship is holding Victor back from what he “wants” – to go back to being a competitive skater. And thus we get the line that we did here. This is Yuuri’s attempt to “free” Victor to allow him to chase what Yuuri thinks he actually wants, which turns out could not be any further from the truth.

They aren’t going to break up. I can tell you that right now and with absolute certainty. Rather than this being something that is going to create drama, it is actually going to work to solve it. Yuuri needs to hear from Victor that Victor has no intention of leaving and that he wants to stay with Yuuri more than he wants to continue his skating career. Also very important is that Victor needs to say it out loud. Victor is a thinker, he rarely makes big decisions on a whim. He’s been processing what he wants to do with his life for a year now and he has definitely come to his decision (as was evident in episode 10).

Victor has chosen Yuuri over his skating career and this line from episode 11 is just the gateway to the discussion that will firmly cement their personal relationship in place. And the final bow-tie on the gift that is their relationship will be the duet skate at the end of the episode.

I’m honestly looking forward to seeing it.

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Pinescone Yuri on Ice AU, some redraws from ep.7, I don’t want to pick between who is who, so I’m gonna go with Dipper as Yuuri, so Mabel can make him all of the costumes <3

i just remembered one of the first vividly gay moments i had back in highschool when i was in denial. i was friends with two girls who were dating and one of them made the other cry for some reason all the time like all the time. and i was always trying to comfort the one who was crying. and one day i had the thought “i wouldn’t treat you like this.”

and my het™ oriented mind immediately rejected that thought like “too bad she’s a GIRL so you wouldn’t be dating her IN THE FIRST PLACE b/c YOU’RE TOTALLY STRAIGHT.”

anonymous asked:

OMG It's not rape culture to need sex! Y'all nut jobs might not need sex, but there's a reason why it's on the bottom levels on that hierarchy of needs chart. NORMAL ppl need a complete physical connection to their intimate partner to be fully actualized. You don't want it, that's fine. No one should force you. Tell ppl up front so they can avoid you. Date your own kind and leave normal ppl alone! I don't even want to socialize with things like you bc you're not human. You're sad stunted freaks.

Let’s get one thing clear;

No one ‘needs’ to have sex. Ever.

You don’t need it to actualize a relationship. You don’t need it to actualize yourself. You don’t need it to enjoy your life, or your relationship with other people. Never in anyone’s life is sexual activity an obligation. If you really do need sexual contact to that level, that’d be a symptom of hypersexuality, which is a method of destructive self-harm.

What you’re really saying is that you need to have sex with someone in order for you to stay motivated to maintain the relationship. And that’s completely different. 

Relationships have limited or no sexual contact for multiple reasons, even barring asexuality altogether. If your requirement for a relationship equates to an obligation to sleep with you, and you equate that with ‘no aces ever’, then by all accounts, people like you are the actual problem.

We’re always the one expected to make the compromises, and it’s not fair to us? Like hell the rest of the world would be suppressed in their dating lives if they for once centered their sex lives around our boundaries instead of their desires. I guarantee that plenty of people who might think they ‘need’ sex actually definitely don’t. They just grew up in a world that taught them a single way to define a relationship.

But thanks for dehumanizing the ace. It’s not like we’re gonna clamber over for someone like you.

- Fae

Kara’s worried she’s losing Alex to Maggie and she’s trying to cling to her sister a little too tightly. And that’s the only reason. Not the Mon-El thing. There is no Mon-El thing. Please don’t let this turn into a Mon-El thing…

Originally posted by geekylaugifs

it’s okay to be aro and feel like you want someone to have a crush on you. it’s okay to be aro, want that crush, and have no desire to ever actually enter a relationship. your desire isn’t cruel or unfair. it’s normal to want that kind of validation. it doesn’t make you a bad person.

Confession

I don’t love my parents and I don’t believe a lot of parents love their kids. tbh it’s more of a biological connection then actual love. I feel obligated to give some sort of damn about them because they birthed me. If they weren’t my parents I would not want anything to do with them. Many people have children but neglect or abandon them, many children who are victims of their parents poor treatment are kind of pushed to forgive them because “that’s your family ”. To me that seems toxic.

 My dear lgbt+ kids, 

There are posts calling out people for fetishizing gay relationships, and rightfully so. Certain people do fetishize gay relationships and that can not only be very uncomfortable but also damaging for gay people. 

But sometimes, those posts may (accidentally) confuse or worry questioning kids. That’s why i want to clarify some things. 

I’m straight but i love reading gay erotica because gay sex is so hot and sinful” is, quite obviously, fetishizing. While everyone is allowed to enjoy any kind of erotic fiction, the idea that gay erotica is “sinful” shows that the person sees it as morally wrong and is actually homophobic.  

The same applies to straight men who see “lesbian” as nothing but a porn category - basically to everyone who reduces gay people to “sex, sex, sex”. 

But what about “I’m a cis girl and i must be straight because I can see myself having sex with a man - but i don’t really see myself as a girl having sex with a man? It only feels right if i imagine us both as male. That’s why i actually prefer to read gay erotica, i can identify much better with that than with hetero erotica.. .”?  People with thoughts like this may feel as if they are fetishizing gay relationships and feel dirty and guilty - while they are actually simply on a journey to discover they’re a gay trans male. 

Reducing gay people to a sex fantasy is wrong, yes. But sometimes, questioning your gender idenity and/or sexual orientation starts out as fantasizing about sex. And i believe we need, as a community, need to be careful to not make young lgbt+ people who can not yet admit to themselves that they are lgbt+ scared of exploring their feelings by yelling “ Fetishizer!” at them. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom

extreme salt ahead

i’ve returned from the cinema and i am Ready to Rant™

spoilers ahead, my dudes

• to me the first parts of the movie seemed kind of rushed and they really wanted to focus more on jake and emma’s relationship more than the actual storyline
• I WILL PROTECT HAYDEN KEELER-STONE WITH MY LIFE OKAY HE IS SO PRECIOUS
• anyway
• wasn’t barron jacob’s school bus driver
• i don’t recall anything about enoch raising victor back from the dead in the book
• victor’s scene fucked me up tho
• how is this rated pg-13
• CAMERON KING, MY SON AHHHH HE WAS SO CUTE
• wowza enoch became way saltier
• pls give horace more love
• “ super shirt, by the way ” - horace 2k16
• hugh got a few parts and im sad
• fiona did too
• i only remember claire saying one line
• i missed the part where they saved miss peregrine because i desperately had to pee and im very angry
• olive was precious
• didn’t like the scene where she and enoch kissed though
• the scene of abe’s death was a little bad for me
• they changed the loop’s date ???? why ????
• why does horace have a projector eye ????
• okay but the part in his dream where he was trying on a suit tho, that was really cute to me
• the twins weren’t in the book
• how could ransom be okay with these changes
• guys we should remake the movie pLEASE
• i started singing Wish That You Were Here while violently shaking my friend by her shoulders during the credits
• i may have squealed too much when horace first introduced himself
• i may have also squealed millard’s name again and again at the scene when they were saying goodbye to jacob
• wait why is abe alive again
• what’s all this about jake going through different loops to get to emma ????
• bronwyn, claire, fiona, and hugh need more scenes
• guys we should really remake this don’t you think

  • A relationship between two adults with a large age gap is not inherently abusive.
  • Parents maintaining some form of control over their child’s life whilst that child is underage and still under their parents’ care is not inherently abusive.
  • A parent reasonably disciplining their child is not inherently abusive.
  • Arguments in a relationship of any kind do not automatically make the relationship, or any of the people involved, abusive.
  • Friends who aren’t available to tend to other friends’ needs 24/7 are not inherently abusive or “toxic”.
  • etc.

Can people seriously stop automatically categorising things as abusive because it just trivialises the seriousness of actual abuse. I’m so tired of seeing things like “if your partner yells at you then leave them”, “if a friend isn’t there for you then they’re not a real friend”, “if your parents don’t let you do what you want then they’re bad parents”.

Just because you don’t agree with someone’s behaviour it doesn’t mean the behaviour is abusive. Humans are complex and very emotional and while small things can sometimes be indicators of abuse, usually negative emotions or behaviours are just because people are fucking complicated.

Things are not as black and white as “100% abusive” and “100% not abusive” - please keep in mind that there are shades of grey such as “possibly abusive” or “a shitty thing to do, but not abusive”, or “just fucking normal human emotions because not everyone can be 100% positive and nice to everyone all the time you twats”.

Can I just say one thing I really love is that all signs in canon point to Kara being some kind of ace? Like her two encounters with any sexual activity were her being grossed out, she lights up more at food than she does the idea of dating, and when she finally gets the guy she wanted she realizes what she thought she wanted based on all those rom coms she loves maybe isn’t actually what she wants. That feeling intimacy is supposed to give her just isn’t happening. And while it’s very much the writers doing a terrible job of handling the relationship, it does provide more fuel to an ace Kara.

in light of that one interview i just want this scene
  • corrupted jasper writhing on the ground or s/t: we all get what we deserve, I deserved for this to happen
  • garnet, sitting placidly cross-legged on her shoulder: the hilarious thing is that's completely true but not for any of the reasons you think

a slow burn ship/plot of two best friends (a “straight” one and a gay one omg) where the gay one is just really casual/nonchalant and flirts with his straight friend bc that’s just who he is and the straight friend is fine with it (bc i am NOT HERE for those homophobic types who can’t even let their friend joke around with them like jfc) and like… just eventually they get really drunk/high/etc one night and things end up happening and it’s kind of just like? a snowball effect of the straight one questioning about if he’s actually straight and then it leads to just… a cute relationship where it’s just like “we’re dating now but like before anything you’re my best friend. we might break up, or fight, or whatever, but you will always be my best friend” and just CUTE SHIPPY SHIT FAM with only a little smut thrown in (okay maybe occasionally a lot, i just want this to be more about their relationship than their sex k fam)

Here have a sleepy Craig with a sleeping Tweek-

Idk in the dreamcatcher au they have a lot of cute moments- they’re probably the only second good relationship in the whole au tbh… They’re actually not bonded yet and end up doing so at the end really.. they kind of… tip toe around it though haha…

I really want to draw/write more for this au…

Someone I really like is polyamorous, but I’ve always been mono. They have multiple partners, and poly is really new to me; I’m learning a lot about it actually. What I’m wondering is…if I ask this person out, am I expected to date all of those other people too when I’m only interested in just them? And…I’m the kind of person who wants to maybe settle down with someone one day, am I just setting myself up for heartbreak?

No, polyamory doesn’t necessarily mean you need to be in a “closed” relationship with everyone involved. Some people have those as their terms, but many don’t. You’d need to talk to this individual person about whether they expect anyone they date to also date all of their partners. 

If you eventually want to end up with only one person, don’t date a poly person with the hope or expectation that they’ll “come around” and want to settle down with you. Never go into a relationship built on a foundation of denial or hoping that things will change in the future. If you’d be unhappy in a relationship with no long-term potential to become monogamous, this probably isn’t the best call for you.

But, if you aren’t looking for someone to settle down with just yet, if you’d be okay dating someone for fun, for a fling, to indulge a crush, to explore, if you don’t particularly mind that this relationship at this stage in your life won’t end in settling down monogamously, then you may not be setting yourself up for heartbreak. You would need to be clear with this person that you might end up leaving the relationship when you feel it’s time to start actively pursuing a long-term, “settled down” monogamous relationship. They might decide not to date you with those terms, and that’s their right.

Soulmate Au HCs 3/?

Timer Au HCs (in which everyone has sort of a timer in their wrist that counts down to the time they meet their soulmate)
Again, I know that Ty and Eth knew each other before but shhh

-Ethan is honestly fascinated by the timer and he proudly shows it off to his friends like “look two more years!!” and it’s honestly the purest shit ever

-Tyler, on the other hand, wants to build a strong relationship not dictated by the timer and therefore always wears like? an actual watch over it to kind of hide it (he still throws glances at it all the time and cares but he doesn’t want to love someone just because some power out of his control says to)

-As Ethan’s getting ready to go to LA he notices his timer is getting very close to 0 and he’s honestly excited because he really doesn’t know many people in LA aside from Mark and his friends

-Tyler’s timer is also getting really close to 0 and he kind of wants to cheat the system by just isolating himself in his room to see if his soulmate will somehow appear

-Mark drags Tyler out of the house like a few hours before his timer’s due to go off because they need to go pick up his friend from the airport

-Ethan’s on the plane and now it’s not even days it’s just hours and then just minutes

-Both boys know that they’re going to meet their soulmate in an airport and there’s just so many possibilities because there’s so many people? And you always hear of people getting off planes and meeting their soulmate who’s like a stewardess or fellow traveler

-The plane lands and Ethan’s fidgeting because wow there’s only like ten minutes left holy shit

-Tyler’s feeling the same way but he’s also trying to keep some form of order by the arrival’s gate because of cOURSE Mark brought along a big ass sign to welcome Ethan and suddenly there’s a bunch of fangirls trying to get pictures with him

-A security guard makes Mark and his fans move away from the gate because they are blocking, Mark makes Tyler stand there awkwardly and hold the sign

-Ethan’s flight is slowly streaming through the gate and Tyler kind of lowkey looks at each person that passes in hopes of finding Mark’s friend (Ethan decided to use the bathroom really quick)

-Ethan finally comes through the gate and he just sees a sign that says “welcome to your new home crinkgamplz!!” but he doesn’t really recognize the hot guy holding it

-Tyler opens his phone to send a message to Mark and when he looks up there’s just a smiling blue boy in front of him excitedly saying “hey there! I’m-”

-And right then, despite the loud noises of the airport, you just hear the clear sounds of both of their timers going off

-!!!!!

-thanks Mark

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Carousel is Cry Baby’s first love interest. I wanted it to be kind of magical to capture those first love feels, but still express the dark side of how toxic and kind of one-sided the relationship was. I was actually telling the story of one of my relationships and “Carousel” was the perfect title because I felt like I was bolted on a never ending carousel ride and he was on the horse in front of me, I was reaching out and could never grab him.

actually though it’s kind of sad that despite all the complex storylines and relationships in Game of Thrones, JaimeBrienne is the only thing I truly care about

I have a feeling either of them will die next season (or in s8) and I think it will break me even more than Shireen’s death. What if they confess their love and then they get killed? What if Brienne dies saving Jaime from Cersei? What if Jaime dies saving Brienne? what if they die fighting boldly together? I am not ready for that pain. I want them to get married and live happily ever after and forget that Jaime is involved with the Lannister politics and that Brienne is now involved with the Stark politics. nope. Just make them happy and forever together. please.

anonymous asked:

Hey! I just wanted to tell you that I absolutely love your fic recs and I'm so grateful for them! So thank you for that!! Now... do you know any fics where they can't stand each other but are forced to be together?

Heya, thanks for your kind words :*

So basically, you want some Hate to Love + Fake relationship, right ?

- Dance to the Distortion  : Louis accidentally breaks Harry’s camera lens and in order to get it fixed, they decide to participate in a romantic couples study. The only issue is that they are not actually couple. Well that and the fact they cannot stand each other.  (16k)

- All The Attention, All These Intentions  : Harry could barely breathe at even the possibility of getting to be Louis Tomlinson’s fake boyfriend.  Louis was his favorite actor since childhood, when Louis was also a child on the big screen. The guy he had always looked up to.  The guy whose poster he used to kiss every night before bed.  The guy whose movies Harry would watch all night until his eyes couldn’t possibly stay open anymore.  Harry was pretty sure Louis Tomlinson wasn’t even real—he couldn’t be.  or the fake relationship au where Harry is an aspiring musician and also Louis’ biggest fan–until he actually meets him. (120k)

- rapture in the dark  : Harry Styles is a breakout musician who has shed his boyband label in favor of embracing his inner brooding rockstar. His PR team think that his rebrand is the perfect time for Harry to come out of the closet and have devised the perfect plan for doing so. Enter Louis Tomlinson, up and coming (and very openly homosexual) model whose public image as America’s Sweetheart is the perfect foil for Harry’s new edge. From a PR standpoint, it’s a dream come true - a power couple that can slowly coax the public into accepting Harry’s altered image. The only problem? They hate each other.Or, Harry does the Winter Girlfriend routine with Louis instead. (13k)

- Like Candy In My Veins  :  “Um…” Harry said slowly after a moment. “Okay. That’s… this is… Let me get this straight.” He lifted up a hand and swallowed. “You told your family that you have a boyfriend… and my name was the first one you thought of?”  “Harry Potter was on TV, alright? It wasn’t that much of a stretch.” Louis pinched the bridge of his nose. He couldn’t believe he was explaining himself to Harry fucking Styles. He couldn’t believe he was stooping this low. “Forget it. I’m sorry I even thought about bringing you into this.”   Harry snorted. “What? Did you want me to pretend to be your boyfriend or something?”
(Basically the A/B/O, enemies to lovers, fake relationship, Christmas AU that nobody asked for.) (31k)

- i’ll be yours to keep  : louis should’ve thought a lot more about who he said his fake boyfriend is, especially since he and his “significant other” kinda hate each other. most of the time. (17k)

- Love’s On The Line, Is That Your Final Answer?: Harry can’t believe it when Louis, the boy he’s always had a tempestuous rivalry with, asks him to be his boyfriend. Well, pose as his boyfriend, that is—for a new television game show in which young couples are quizzed on how well they know each other for a jackpot of thirty grand.Reluctantly, Harry agrees—because he’s got student loans to pay off, hasn’t he? What’s the harm? And he can totally deal with keeping his secret thing for Louis under wraps too. This is all just to win some money. It’s fine. No big deal. What could possibly go wrong?Well, everything. Obviously. (53k)

If you can do WIP, read this, it’s awesome !

- Paint Me In A Million Dreams       Harry’s one of Hollywood’s biggest actors, has made a name for himself in prestigious films and lives the life of a superstar. There’s just one thing missing to make it picture-perfect, but the one Harry’s in love with is completely out of reach for him. Enter Louis, one of Hollywood’s biggest actors himself, who just came out of the closet and taps new genres in the industry. When Louis sacks the role Harry auditioned for in Scorsese’s next big film, their irrational feud starts. Who could have guessed it would get even worse when for promo season, their teams decide to present them as a couple for publicity? In short, Harry’s in love with someone and doesn’t care about dating anyone else, Louis never felt home in L.A., Liam writes love songs for someone he shouldn’t write love songs to, and Niall makes everything better with good food. (31k)

Also I add this one Hate to love + Arranged marriage :

- Sail into the Sun  : Prince Louis Tomlinson is sick of the closet. Harry Styles is a con man with a hatred of rich people. Louis needed a way out, Harry needed a husband. It was a mutual agreement. Doesn’t mean they have to like each other. (31k)