As perhaps may have been clear from previous Adventures in Co-Writing entries, @bookshop and I spent 70,000 words in perfect, gorgeous sync, and the story was *so* easy, and I swear, we were, like, thisclose to wrapping it up…and then everything fell to pieces, lol. I, admittedly, wrote the moment that caused the breaking point–actually, I may have written many of the moments–but when we got to the crisis point and really stopped to examine it and really stopped to dig into what we’d written…we realized that maybe we’d accidentally been writing two TOTALLY DIFFERENT stories the whole time, lololol, oops.
so lately I've been having a lot of problems with my gender. Im afab and I prefer male pronouns and plan to fully transition eventually because I have severe body dysphoria, but I just don't identify with being male. i still like acting and looking extremely feminine. its just my body thats wrong. i cant find anything that fits how i feel and i know i don't really need to label myself but not having something to call my gender is causing more dysphoria.
1) being feminine doesn’t mean “not male”
2) you can totally medically transition to male but not ID as male! Many people do (i actually may do so)
3) Have you thought about maybe you are agender, transmasculine, or simply non binary?
I’d start with this: do you identify with your assigned gender, ever?
Clearly you don’t identify as male, do you identify as in the middle? Nothing at all? Simply just “masculine”?