i actually made a third one but it doesn't really fit in so

anonymous asked:

Tbh scientificaly there are only two genders and only two sex. Sex = penis or vagina. and in the rare case that you're intersex, that doesn't mean you're a third sex or gender. It means you're internal reproductive organs differ from your external reproductive organs. By calling yourself gender fluid, non-binary, other kin, gender fuck, agender, greygender you're dimeaning actual trans ecperiences people face in regards to gender dysphoria and bullying. It's disrispectful and invalid. pt 1

(it’s a trilogy, guys, i am going to add the other two messages here:

the fact that 14 year olds on tumblr invented thenew genders rles than a decade ago shows how invalid this argument is. Gender isn’t a social construct. Expectations of gender is. To put it simble stuff like boys like blue girl like pink girls wear dresses and skirts boys wear pants and shits and shit like that. THATS  a fucking social construcing. I feel so sorry for all the tom boys are tom girl that you’re comfusing. They might think they’re not one of the made up genders just beacuse pt 2            

they differ from their gender rolls. Also don’t you think it’s a bit of a coinscedince that these genders have NO bases. You guys don’t medialy transition you’re not diagnosed with gender dysphoria, all the made up genders are based on the existing 2 genders if not then they’re either based on not having a gender at all or being both (girl boy/ male female). I cba doing this because it’s so obviouse. just please face reality because its getting so annoy to listen to you about first world problem  pt 3

Okay so *cough* a word from the second world country over here *cough*

As far as I understand you have a problem with the idea that there are more than two options out there to “fit into”? And I get that, I do - growing up in a society that tells you constantly that you can only ever choose between two opposite options can take away from the flexibility of the mind to think for itself. That is why it is a good idea to educate yourself by reading about gender studies by sociologists and sexologists and not self-proclaimed scientists on the internet. So let’s get back to the idea that gender and how we as humans express it is a social construct and why it is in no way invalidating anyone’s self expression but on the contrary giving people the freedom to be whoever they want to be.

The gender role theory, considered by Alsop, Fitzsimons and Lennon (2002) is an early form of social constructionism. Social constructionism, briefly, is the concept that there are many things that people “know” or take to be “reality” that are at least partially, if not completely, socially situated. For example, Harvard psychologist Steven Pinker writes that “some categories really are social constructions: they exist only because people tacitly agree to act as if they exist.”

Gender, according to West and Zimmerman, is not a personal trait; it is “an emergent feature of social situations: both as an outcome of and a rationale for various social arrangements, and as a means of legitimating one of the most fundamental divisions of society.”

Doing gender according to west and Zimmerman “is to advance a new trap house understanding of gender as a routine accomplishment embedded in every day interaction”. Essentially, West and Zimmerman argued that gender is something that humans created. As humans, we have categorized and defined many aspects of life. If someone was not in favor of their gender role or did something that was not deemed “correct” for that gender this person would be committing an act of social deviance.

And I assure you Alsop, Fitzsimons and Lennon were not 14 when they were writing “Theorizing Gender” and neither were West and Zimmerman when they published “Doing Gender” in 1987 but still I do not get your ageism towards the young. How are the opinions of 14 year old people any less valid than those of older people?

Anyway, let’s get back to our “gender rolls”.

From someone who took a gender studies course: “It’s less that they’re saying, "society completely invented gender” and more “gender exists only on a social level, therefore it is mutable.” In other words, instinct is biological, but instinct can be ignored/overwritten. To me, I’ve always seen postmodernism as being about how there ARE NO incontrovertible truths, even if we want to believe people fit into these neat little categories, they don’t, because THOSE CATEGORIES are constructs. The traits by which we categorize may be biological, but the categories themselves are not.”

In other words, gender is a performance; it’s what you do at particular times, rather than a universal who you are. Judith Butler argues that we all put on a gender performance, whether traditional or not, and so it is not a question of whether to do a gender performance, but what form that performance will take. By choosing to be different about it, we might work to change gender norms and the binary understanding of masculinity and femininity. This idea of identity as free-floating, as not connected to an ‘essence’, but instead a performance, is one of the key ideas in queer theory.

Additionally, these categories are culturally constructed since they are fluid. What it means to be a “man” and “woman” have changed in the last 50 years alone. There is no denying gender roles changed and thus accept that these are things that societies construct. While sex is pre-determined, even though that can change, gender changes.

So yes, things change. Remember, for example, how homosexuality was considered a mental illness until 1973? And how homosexual people had to fight to prove they were just as “normal” as heterosexuals? Also how even before that some sexologists started studying sexuality properly and then we accepted the Kinsey scale and the idea that sexuality was in fact a spectrum? And then we ended up adding a couple of new letters to the LG making it LGBTQA+ plus all the non-binary categories? You know why? Because people are ever-changing creatures, we learn, we discover new things about ourselves and we want to be heard and accepted.

And hey, here we are again 44 years later and you’re telling me I should stop trying to explore my identity and just stick to what’s “normal” and okay. Because it annoys you.

So in the end the only person who is demeaning other people’s experiences and identities by making them seem invalid is you.

Before it Rains

Pairing: Lady Zabini x Lily Evans

Warning: Mentions of canonical character death. Non-linear narrative.

Word count: 788

Alt: FFN, AO3

Gabriella Zabini was never the sentimental type. After all, one should always look forward instead of backwards.

Even if she still kept a picture of Lily Evans in her purse after all these years.

“Mum, who’s this?” her son asked, examining the picture curiously, and her memories began swirling, back that day, clear skies and bright sun and muggle London. She thought about the red hair that seemed almost golden under the sunlight, the ringing laughter, and the green eyes that looked the emerald green ring she still wore on her finger while pretending it didn’t remind her of Lily every day.

“Oh, that’s Lily,” she answered, calm and casual as if memories hadn’t just whirled through her brain.

“Pretty,” he commented lightly.

“Yes, pretty. Vivacious. Overly-brave,” her lips curved slightly, and she wasn’t quite sure what the emotions she were feeling at the moment, “and always had a better taste in women than in men.”

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anonymous asked:

A genderbent!Laito and an innocent, naive 1st year girl where the 1st year confesses (she doesn't expect Laito to be so pervy) to Laito in an empty classroom, afterwards pervy stuff ensues (✯◡✯) (but the 1st year doesn't mind). God this is a mess I'm so sorry!

マリ: YA GIRL MARIDIARABA AT YOUR DISPOSAL FOR NSFW YURI GENDERBENT!LAITO SHENANIGANS, AS PROMISED. I had a lot of fun writing something different for once. Give it up for some girl on girl action, y’all. I kept Laito’s name exactly the same even though she’s a girl in this context because I wanted to avoid stuff sounding weird.


Ever since the semester had begun, you’d been looking up to one of the girls from the third year. Whether you were a boy, girl, first year, second year, third year – it didn’t matter – everyone was interested in her, a straight-A student, representative of the student council, and the overall lovable high school sweetheart with shoulder length light brown hair. Even the teachers were keen on her, and praised her for being such a good example for her fellow students to follow, and she’d flash an innocent, modest smile at the rest of the class every time this happened. Sakamaki Laito was, true to her name, always the ray of sunshine among the hundreds of other, contrastingly dull students.


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anonymous asked:

IronFalcon+ 17 “why are you staring at me” + because of some weird chain of events, like dunno maybe Tony is laying low, shaved his goatee, and is wearing cheap clothes, Sam doesn't realize he's been flirting and getting to know iron man

Sam hadn’t expected to be hit on while he waited for Steve, but apparently that was happening.

The man had that kind of blond hair that screamed it was unnatural and it didn’t actually fit him at all, since he seemed to Mediterannian to be naturally blond.

But still, Sam found himself appreciating the man, he had a very nice body, warm expressive eyes, and it certainly didn’t hurt that he was smiling at Sam.

“What got you waiting in a dump like this?” the man asked and Sam raised an eyebrow.

“What makes you think I’m waiting?”

“This is your third drink and I don’t imagine you come here for the company,” the man said with a glance at the bikers that were playing pool at the other end of the bar.

Sam turned his concentration back to the man and narrowed his eyes. “And how long have you been watching me?” he asked, subtlety aiming himself a bit away from him.

With Steve still searching for Bucky and Hydra agents scattered all over the planet no one knew what one guy in a bar could do and Sam didn’t intend on dying today.

“Someone’s tense,” the man chuckled and extended his hand. “Tony. I’ve been sitting over there,” he pointed to a booth in the corner, “for almost an hour now, but you hadn’t noticed me. Otherwise I have to assume you just didn’t want to keep me company and I don’t think that’s the case.”

Tony let his gaze run up and down Sam’s body and Sam had to hide a smile.

“Sam. And I don’t think you’ve made your intentions all that clear,” he teased back and Tony made a dismissive noise.

“Guess I should have ordered you that drink after all.”

Sam quickly finished his current drink off and then smiled at Tony. “Guess I could use another one.”

Tony laughed at that and ordered another beer for Sam and a whiskey for himself.

They sat in comfortable silence for a few moments before Tony asked “So, Sam, are you waiting for your boyfriend?”

“Don’t have one that could show up here,” Sam told him and he didn’t imagine the hopeful glance Tony shot him.

“That’s good to hear. So I didn’t waste my money on that beer for nothing.”

“My company’s not good enough for you suddenly?”

“I would like your company a lot better in my tower,” Tony said and suddenly everything clicked into place. Sam couldn’t stop staring at Tony and Tony quickly began to shuffle on his chair.

“Why are you staring at me?” he asked when Sam didn’t stop and Sam had to swallow a few times.

“You’re Tony Stark,” he eventually managed and Tony nodded once.

“Yes? I thought that was clear? With Steve asking us to meet him here and all?”

“But you don’t look like Tony Stark,” Sam went on and then the words caught up to him. “Wait, what? Steve asked you to come here?”

“Yes? I thought he asked you, too? He told me to look out for you.”

“He did, but he didn’t tell me we would meet you as well. Sorry! God, I’m so sorry. I didn’t recognize you with the hair and without the goatee.”

“That was the goal actually,” Tony said and ran a hand over his chin. “It still feels all wrong.”

“I can imagine,” Sam told him and scratched his own beard.

“So, know that you know who I am, should I back off?” Tony asked him with a small smile and Sam almost chocked on his drink.

“So you’re serious?” Now that he knew who Tony really was, he had thought the flirting was a game. Steve had certainly told him enough about Tony to make that entirely possible.

“Of course I am. Not every day that I meet someone who can keep up with Cap, is entirely too good looking and seems nice on top of that. I would definitely like to show you my tower.”

“If that’s a euphemism….” Sam trailed off, unsure how to end it. Because he absolutely did not want to back out of this.

“It can be. It can also just mean what I said. Up to you.”

“I think I’d like to start with the tower. We can work our way up to the euphemism.”

“I’m looking forward to this,” Tony said and raised his glass.

“Me, too,” Sam replied and clinked his glass to Tony’s.

Send me two characters or more and a number and I’ll write you a short fic. Or come up with your own prompt/sentence.


Special Hirakawa Daisuke Talk Show Report 14.05.17
II. Fan Letters and Photobook Behind-the-Scenes

Part III | III | IV | V

He started reading some fan letters and said that it felt a lot like he was hosting a radio show. The first letter read, “Hello, Hirakawa-san!” to which he promptly replied, “Hello!” Everyone laughed because he was really acting as if it was a radio program. He looked up, appearing really surprised and confused, and asked up why we were laughing. But then, he went on. The first one asked about all the activities he did for the photobook and wondered which one he would like to do again.

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anonymous asked:

Varys describes Aegon to Kevan in a quote I can't post here because of the character limit, but starts with "Aegon has been shaped to rule..." to "Aegon knows kingship is his duty...". He seemed like a decent guy until we actually met him through Tyrion. In an example of telling vs showing, Aegon VI appears rather... douchey. Read again that paragraph with Arya in mind. She fits the description, doesn't she? Is GRRM saying Arya's fit to rule or is it red herring?

Okay, I’m breaking this message up into two parts (it was getting way too long,) starting with your questions about Aegon. I’ll answer the second bit about who’s fit to rule in a second post.

Here’s the full quote:

“He is here. Aegon has been shaped for rule since before he could walk. He has been trained in arms, as befits a knight to be, but that was not the end of his education. He reads and writes, he speaks several tongues, he has studied history and law and poetry. A septa has instructed him in the mysteries of the Faith since he was old enough to understand them. He has lived with fisherfolk, worked with his hands, swum in rivers and mended nets and learned to wash his own clothes at need. He can fish and cook and bind up a wound, he knows what it is like to be hungry, to be hunted, to be afraid. Tommen has been taught that kingship is his right. Aegon knows that kingship is his duty, that a king must put his people first, and live and rule for them. Kevan, ADWD

Well, I do feel like we’re lacking the full story on “Aegon” to be honest. We really only have so little of him. (Side note: I’m going to call him Aegon despite the dubious nature of his identity just because it’s easier.)

For the first part, the parts about his education, Varys definitely seems to have been truthful:

Tyrion watched with mismatched eyes, and said, “The boy is bright. You have done well by him. Half the lords in Westeros are not so learned, sad to say. Languages, history, songs, sums…”Tyrion, ADWD

And hisfight with Duck attests to his strength in arms I would think.

The thing is that Aegon could be mad and a total douche as you suggest, or he could just be young enough to come off as bratty to an increasingly morose Tyrion. Considering that Tyrion was more or less antagonizing him during their discussions (to the point that Tyrion is nagging him to pick at his pride and anger him,) it’s really hard to be certain. I lean more to the idea that Aegon is kind of a jerk just because I think the hints are there, and it makes sense from a storytelling perspective, but at the same time, what did he really do? Most of what he does can be explained as being young, foolish, and a brat. He’s only 14 or so (15 maybe.) Around the same age as Jon at the start who has his fair share of bratty moments despite being a good guy. 

He certainly seems better than AGoT!Joffrey (you know, when he was pretending to be a good person.) He’s the one noted to pull Tyrion out of the water when Duck throws him in:

Ser Rolly grabbed Tyrion by the collar. “Let us see how dwarfs swim,” he said, chucking him headlong into the Rhoyne.

The dwarf laughed last; he could paddle passably well, and did … until his legs began to cramp. Young Griff extended him a pole. Tyrion, ADWD

  He also laughs easily.

He pulled off the other boot, then did a cartwheel along the deck, spraying all of them.

Young Griff laughed. “Where did you learn that?” Tyrion, ADWD

He does actual work.

Later, when Young Griff went up on deck to help Yandry with the sails and poles…

At the prow of the Shy Maid, Young Griff stood with the third pole, to push them away from hazards as they loomed up through the mists. 

He’s willing to listen and interested in Tyrion’s advice:

The dwarf pushed his black dragon across a range of mountains. “But what do I know? Your false father is a great lord, and I am just some twisted little monkey man. Still, I’d do things differently.”

That got the boy’s attention. “How differently?” 

If anything, he seems foolish, spoiled, and rash. It’s actually different than Joffrey since he more wants to be involved in battles. He’s stubborn.

The old woman may be right. This place is no good. I feel as if I am back in the privy again, watching my father die. He would go mad as well if he had to spend his days in this grey soup whilst his flesh and bones turned to stone.

Young Griff did not seem to share his misgivings. “Let them try and trouble us, we’ll show them what we’re made of.” Tyrion, ADWD

Griff drew his longsword. “Yollo, light the torches. Lad, take Lemore back to her cabin and stay with her.”

Young Griff gave his father a stubborn look. “Lemore knows where her cabin is. I want to stay.”

“We are sworn to protect you,” Lemore said softly. “I don’t need to be protected. I can use a sword as well as Duck. I’m half a knight.” 

“And half a boy,” said Griff. “Do as you are told. Now.”

The youth cursed under his breath and flung his pole down onto the deck. The sound echoed queerly in the fog, and for a moment it was as if poles were falling around them. “Why should I run and hide? Haldon is staying, and Ysilla. Even Hugor.”

“Aye,” said Tyrion, “but I’m small enough to hide behind a duck.” He thrust half a dozen torches into the brazier’s glowing coals and watched the oiled rags flare up. Don’t stare at the fire, he told himself. The flames would leave him night blind.

“You’re a dwarf,” Young Griff said scornfully.  

“I’ll send a rider,” said Franklyn Flowers, “but the lad won’t much like the idea of staying safe, I tell you that. He wants to be in the thick o’ things.” Connington, ADWD

The prince sat. “We’ve been talking with Strickland and Flowers. They told us about this attack on Storm’s End that you’re planning.”

Jon Connington did not let his fury show. “And did Homeless Harry try to persuade you to delay it?”

“He did, actually,” the prince said, “but I won’t. Harry’s an old maid, isn’t he? You have the right of it, my lord. I want the attack to go ahead … with one change. I mean to lead it.” Jon Connington, ADWD

He definitely acts petulant, but just the desire to lead an attack sets him apart from most of the leaders in ASoIaF actually. He wants to be involved, he wants to do things and get into the fray as opposed to some other leaders we see. Some are content to direct from the background or the ones who want the power but don’t fight for it.

And that is kind of what I interpreted Varys to mean when he says that Aegon “knows kingship is his duty”. He wants to lead the attack from his people, and he’s more proactive and discontent to be pampered and protected from the background. That’s not necessarily smart, mind you, but it could be what Varys meant.

He’s young which could explains a lot of his negative traits that we see.

The lad did not seem appeased. The perfect prince but still half a boy for all that, with little and less experience of the world and all its woes

 Young Griff arrayed his army for attack, with dragon, elephants, and heavy horse up front. A young man’s formation, as bold as it is foolish. He risks all for the quick kill. Tyrion, ADWD

Tyrion even notes how he has “a young man’s formation, as bold as it is foolish” for cyvasse and that he is “still half a boy” and has “little and less experiences of the world and all its woes.” He’s sheltered and young. He doesn’t seem to be cruel so much as having a temper, being petulant and prone to childish displays of authority.

Young Griff jerked to his feet and kicked over the board. Cyvasse pieces flew in all directions, bouncing and rolling across the deck of the Shy Maid. “Pick those up,” the boy commanded. Tyrion, ADWD

“Escort His Grace to my solar,” he commanded. “At once.”

Prince Aegon Targaryen was not near as biddable as the boy Young Griff had been, however. The better part of an hour had passed before he finally turned up in the solar, with Duck at his side. Connington, ADWD

I would say that he acts like a child, he was sheltered and spoiled and behaves like a brat. But it is very important to remember that Tyrion was antagonizing him. Aegon rose to the bait like a child, but Tyrion was baiting him.

The prince gave him a wary look. “I am sick of cyvasse.”

“Sick of losing to a dwarf, you mean?”

That pricked the lad’s pride, just as Tyrion had known it would. “ 

“Now, how do you suppose this queen will react when you turn up with your begging bowl in hand and say, ‘Good morrow to you, Auntie. I am your nephew, Aegon, returned from the dead. I’ve been hiding on a poleboat all my life, but now I’ve washed the blue dye from my hair and I’d like a dragon, please … and oh, did I mention, my claim to the Iron Throne is stronger than your own?’ ”

Aegon’s mouth twisted in fury. “I will not come to my aunt a beggar. I will come to her a kinsman, with an army.”

“A small army.” There, that’s made him good and angry. The dwarf could not help but think of Joffrey. I have a gift for angering princes. “Queen Daenerys has a large one, and no thanks to you.” 

Smiling, he seized his dragon, flew it across the board. “I hope Your Grace will pardon me. Your king is trapped. Death in four.”

The prince stared at the playing board. “My dragon—”

“—is too far away to save you. You should have moved her to the center of the battle.”

“But you said—”

“I lied. Trust no one. And keep your dragon close.” 

He’s literally jerking the kid around to the point where he notes “There, that’s made him good and angry” because his intention was to piss him off. And then Tyrion lies to him when he’s listening to his advice and throws it in his face.

I’m not saying that Aegon isn’t a douche as you say, but that Tyrion was attempting to piss him off. It’s not the most reliable scene. For someone quick tempered, that can be enough to make them act out of character. But I do think that Aegon is going to end up being likely fake and not that good of a ruler.

As to whether this is an example of show vs. tell, it’s hard to say. It could also be an example of how even with all the right attention and education, you can’t just make someone the perfect king. It’s not possible to create and mold a perfect king because there isn’t one.

The whole idea of the perfect ruler has be deconstructed in ASoIaF. Robb, Stannis, Dany, and Jon for instance all have admirable or good qualities for a leader and yet they also have some really negative traits that hurt them in their attempts to gain/maintain power. In fact, I’d argue that in another fantasy story, Robb Stark would have been the ultimate good guy leader- and yet in ASoIaF, his time in leadership was fraught with issues until eventually he died after only a year in power.

So while Varys and Jon Connington and whoever believe that they’ve created this perfect king, there really isn’t a perfect king.

Of course, it’s also incredibly possible that Aegon is going to turn out to be just- as you put it- a “douche”. In which case, then this is probably show vs. tell. It’s just a little early in my opinion to make that assessment. He’s not a POV character and has only appeared in two POVs (Jon C.’s and Tyrion’s) and not even for that long. I think he’s in about 6 chapters total. So I’m hesitant to declare the guy to not be “decent”.

Still, most of this won’t matter if Aegon turns out to be a fake, which is very possible.