are you really telling me that biphobia exists? like, there are actual people who think that being bisexual is wrong bc you have to choose one gender? in a world where we try and fight the stupidity that is gendering things? in a world where there are so many hot people, who could choose? i am shook
Oh it’s alive and well, unfortunately, and evident in both people out and in the LGBT+ community. It’s really disheartening and honestly one of the reasons I haven’t come out publicly yet.
The phrases “saying it for attention” or “just an excuse for promiscuity” are thrown around quite a bit at bi people.
It’s also not well represented in the media which only makes the fight harder. While a character may be bisexual, the actual word is so rarely used and is often covered up as “I don’t like labels” or “I am experimenting”. Not to mention media often feeds into the stereotype that bisexuals are serial daters who will hop into bed with anyone they deem attractive. (In relation to this issue, I’d like to quote an important post: “Bisexual people who are promiscuous, polyamorous, or into threesomes are not “bad representation” or “reinforcing stereotypes.” It is not the responsibility of bisexual people to avoid fitting stereotypes. It is the responsibility of other people not to stereotype us.“ source)
Bisexuals are often told they’re only saying that until they figure out which gender they actually like. “She says she’s bi but she just hasn’t accepted that she’s a lesbian yet.” In my case, it’s been stated that someone who identifies as bisexual is burdening those around them and confusing their families and friends by dating both genders. “Are you gay now” and “oh so you’re straight again” are far too common questions to bisexuals.
I’ve heard many stories of lesbian women or gay men who believe bisexuals are less persecuted because they can “pass as straight” so they don’t understand the struggle and do not belong in the community. Some LGBT+ people who see bisexuals as tainted goods or “dishonest to their true sexuality” (as either gay or lesbian) is something I’ve come across more than once as well.
Biphobia is real. It can be subtle or blatant, intentional or unintentional, spewed by non-LGBT+ people or by LGBT+ folks themselves. It’s discouraging and disgusting, and man, is it real.