Hiii hey you have studied the Bible a lot right? please help me, how are we supposed to take the commands towards women in Paul's epistles I feel like they are so cruel as a woman it hurts my heart
Which commands are you talking about, specifically?
If you’re talking about submission in Ephesians 5, let me shock you by saying that it honestly doesn’t bother me that much - mainly because of the following verses where Paul instructs Christian husbands to do even more.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. - Ephesians 5:25-30
Men are told to love their wives as Christ loved the church - which is truly the ultimate submission. Christ submitted himself unto death for our sakes (Philippians 2). I understand when women believe that the command in this chapter is abusive, especially when viewed in light of our sinful culture where men aren’t acting how they are instructed in the Bible, but at the same time expect women to bend over backwards for them. A man who is not actively giving himself up for his wife in love is NOT acting in the way that a Christian man should. If both men and women obeyed the commands of Scripture, this reading would not have been distorted to the heinous interpretation that we have today.
God Speaks to Fathers Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Proverbs 22:6 “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Colossians 3:19, 21 “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them….Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” 1 Thessalonians 2:11-12, “For you know how, like a father with his children, we exhorted each one of you and encouraged you and charged you to walk in a manner worthy of God, who calls you into his own kingdom and glory.” Fathers, my challenge to you is this…be a man, be strong, lead your family well, teach your children and encourage them to walk in a manner worthy of Jesus, and love your wife as Christ loves the church.
Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. - Eph 5:25-27 (MSG)
I post this late at night because I want to encourage everyone that is still awake and finding themselves thinking about that ONE guy…don’t be discouraged! I know it seems like you’re running out of time and all the good guys are taken, but it’s not true. There ARE men out there who are growing closer and closer to God everyday and understanding more and more what it means to let God prepare them to be godly husbands. I know it might seem crazy to think about but there are guys who are reading this passage in Ephesians and praying about what it means in their lives. Just because you don’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not happening!
YES, there are those who have been called to stay single and not ever be in a relationship (read 1 Corinthians 7:1-16 for more on this), but if you desire to be in an intentional, committed relationship that is pleasing in God’s sight, know that God DOES honor marriage! You don’t have to settle for someone who:
1. Doesn’t respect your body, your time, your heart..
2. Only wants to date you for certain benefits
3. Wants to consume all of your time, but never state their intentions
4. Broke up with you, yet still wants to be “friends” and exhaust you emotionally
5. Only talks to you when they’re bored or when others aren’t willing to talk to them
6. Just wants to be “friends” yet drain you emotionally
7. Keeps you waiting up on their texts even though they are not willing to commit to you
8. Isn’t willing to commit to live for God
9. Only wants the physical part of the relationship
10. Seems to like you, but doesn’t pay attention to you around his friends
Just keep on living for God and pursuing HIM, and you will find that He is ALL you need, and whatever He has in your future is just for you and completely worth the wait!
Biblical context + further reading: Eph 5:21-33, Heb 13:4, 1 Co. 7:1-16
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Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.