I'm trying to be optimistic but it seems to me that if romantic canonical, textual Destial was going to happen then SOMETHING would have occurred by now. I'm so frustrated!!!
I understand your frustration nonny believe me. I often wish that they would be a bit more obvious about it.
I think what I am happy with, and what is calming my frustrations for the moment at least, is the fact that they have already laid the foundations for canon destiel, and they are currently building on them.
Those foundations were removing the “blockers” that stood in the way. Things such as confirming that Jimmy’s soul was in heaven. Confirming that Dean was aware of that, confirming that Dean views Cas’s vessel as his body, and confirming that Cas also views his vessel as his body now.
Those foundations were also laid via “trial runs” with certain themes and ideas that lets be honest, 10 years ago the show wouldn’t have done. 11x19 is a great example of this. Showing the audience that two rugged macho men can be in a homosexual relationship, married and hunters and that this is normal in the SPN universe was a huge deal. They showed us that having a homosexual relationship in this show would absolutely not change the style of the show. Because those two awesome characters were in no way gay stereotypes, and they didn’t turn the show into a romance either. It was done very subtly and it worked brilliantly.
The fact that we had a whole arc late last season that went out of its way to show how differently the brothers feel about Cas. Sam being objective, logical, worrying about his friend but focusing on how to fix it. Dean was emotional, stressed, not sleeping, not eating, panicking… it was glorious to watch. 11x18 was a freaking gift for that (which I still can’t believe because it was Bucklemming).
Then 12x10 comes along and proves what we already knew from 9x22 and 9x23. That Cas is in love with Dean. It might not have been in your face obvious, but it was still pretty obvious. We also were once again shown just how differently each Winchester interacts with Cas and Dean’s emotional response can only be described as the worrying of a spouse. Not friend. Not brother. Partner/lover/husband. Then we get Sam as the long suffering third wheel all the way through it. It was fanfiction brought to life on the screen and I mean that in the very best of ways.
Take all this and put it alongside 10x16′s confession scene (which was a very subtle coming out speech) and you have pretty obvious textual confirmation of their feelings for each other. They just haven’t confessed to that love yet.
What 12x10 also gave us which was a huge gift for anyone saying why hasn’t it happened yet? Was an answer for that very question. Castiel will not act on his desire for Dean because of some stupid heavenly law against angels being with humans. It is forbidden and Castiel took a sacred oath. When you consider how all the angels have treated him for the past few seasons suddenly this is blatantly clear.
So we have all of the building blocks right there, laid out in canon. Seemingly in preparation for something. The next BIG step IMO is bringing Dean out of the closet. This will be the final brick before it becomes canon. (A love confession or reveal from Cas would also be nice as his arc seems to be going in a direction where he eventually admits his feelings but this is already made clear in the text). I wrote a while back now how I thought they should bring Dean out of the closet. It wouldn’t take much at all. But once we have that then we are there.
So whilst I share your frustrations nonny, I am in a good place right now regarding canon destiel. The show has given us so much lately. Every character is only adding to the subtext and the meta. I don’t think I have ever felt as positive as I am right now.