Not every failed relationship was abusive.
Not every ex is toxic.
Sometimes it just doesn’t work out.
So please think before you throw these labels at your previous relationships… because if you’re being honest, there’s much more to past relationships than painful memories… there are some happy moments, too. You hurt each other’s feelings sometimes, and there is often fault on both sides.
That makes us human; it doesn’t inherently make us abusive or toxic.
Pallas in Aries With Pallas in Aries, there’s a natural talent involving the physical body. They may excel in sports or anything that involves a lot of movement.
Pallas in Taurus Pallas in Taurus can find their talents through forms of Art and can be talented at handling money. These people tend to do well being stylists of any kind.
Pallas in Gemini With Pallas in Gemini, there is usually linguistic intelligence. These people can be excellent at communication, learning languages and even storytelling. They are quick to pick up or even adapt to forms of communication.
Pallas in Cancer With Pallas in Cancer, there’s natural emotional intelligence. There’s an ability to understand and even heal others emotionally. May be talented in anything regarding culinary, decor and teaching.
Pallas in Leo Pallas in Leo finds their talent through self-expression and anything creative. There’s an abundance of creativity present here and they make excellent leaders.
Pallas in Virgo With Pallas in Virgo, these people are talented at organizing and usually anything involving health. They can make excellent writers and planners especially! Pallas in Virgo really has an eye for detail as they are able to notice things others may not.
Pallas in Libra Pallas in Libra has a talent for social interactions and simply understanding relationships between humans. These people tend to understand, naturally, how humans interact with one another. They are also aesthetes and have an appreciation for all things beautiful.
Pallas in Scorpio With Pallas in Scorpio, there is intelligence through anything regarding the occult. They are extremely intuitive people and they are able to naturally understand others on a deeper level. They may be talented in things regarding death and sex as well.
Pallas in Sagittarius Pallas in Sagittarius is able to see the bigger picture. They are visionaries and they don’t necessarily think for themselves, but for others as well. They can be excellent life coaches and have an optimistic, fair view on life.
Pallas in Capricorn With Pallas in Capricorn, there’s a talent for being practical and they are exceptionally talented at planning as well. They usually understand the meaning and value of hard work. Pallas in Capricorn understands what they have to do in order to be successful.
Pallas in Aquarius Pallas in Aquarius is also talented at seeing the bigger picture and applying all their knowledge and creativity into a larger community. They are usually aware of what goes on universally and so they aspire to help out or even reach out to something bigger than them. They are visionary people.
Pallas in Pisces Pallas in Pisces is the most universally intelligent of all the Pallas signs because they don’t necessarily think of themselves, but of others instead. Through this they gain their talent of healing and compassion towards others. They can also be very creative and can have a good ear for music.
I’m studying for my Anthropology final tomorrow and one way I study is copying my notes down on paper and/or on a virtual document. So I thought I’d use Tumblr to write down some of my notes while also sharing with you guys some random Anthropology stuff.
It’s the study of health, illness, and healing across the range of human societies and over the course of human experience, with an emphasis on how members of the community direct their behaviors, articulate their ideas, and organize their resources in these realms.
Medicine: Any and all practices that are intended to address or alleviate what a given group of people consider to be an affliction in need of attention.
Biomedicine: The medicine of hospitals and mainstream doctors of the industrialized world.
Health: A dynamic condition combining individuals, society, and an adaption to the environment.
Sickness: diseases and illnesses
disease: a condition that is objectively identified with a medical label or diagnostic name, based on externally established signs.
illness: the more subjective perception of the individual experience of suffering.
All medical systems, including our own, are shaped by culture.
Two Broad Divisions in Medical Anthro: biocultural and cultural
biocultural approaches: an anthropological view of the ways in which people adapt to their environment and change that environment that makes healthy conditions better or worse.
cultural approaches: emphasizes the role of ideas, beliefs, and values in creating systems of illness classification and medical programs for curing.
Human communication by means of shared symbols which can be linguistic or non-linguistic
No one is intrinsically superior (no language is better than another)
Sociolinguistics: the study of linguistic diversity; looks at language in its social context, examining relationships between social and linguistic variation.
style shifts: how you may talk to your boss vs. how you may talk to your best friend.
Gender differences: there is a linguistic variation between men and women.
Women are more likely to speak Standard English
Language reflects position of power
Women end sentences with an intonation of uncertainty.
Linguistic variation reflects social, political, and economic forces
“Proper Langauge” is a strategic resource
Black English Vernacular (BEV): Ebonics is a systematic and rule-governed linguistic system.
there was a national debate about it in the mid-1990s
Standard English is not superior to BEV as a linguistic system, but they do have different prestige
Sign language: a complex, culture-laden system of communication.
a manual communication to convey words and thoughts.
Social Inequality and Control
Social Stratified Societies: contain social groups that have unequal access to important advantages.
Egalitarian: contain no social stratification
bands or tribes
tribes have “Big Men”
no differential access to power, prestige, or economic resources
same opportunity to gain prestige through sharing
same access to hunting areas
men hunt and women gather
younger men/women provide food and older men/women carry the myths and wisdom
the ecological base of hunters and gathers and tribes leads to an egalitarian society
must share - cannot hoard
everyone dependent on the other for survival
cooperation essential between members
environment dictates cooperation and sharing
Rank Societies: usually are agricultural or herding societies.
primarily found in chiefdoms
chiefs are different from “Big Men” in many ways
this position is ascribed even though it’s still kin-based
chiefs are full-time political specialists in charge of economic production, distribution, and consumption
slight inequality regarding prestige (aka @ the ascribed role)
larger and more sedentary
have a surplus - can save up
have redistribution from different ecological areas
Class Societies: unequal access to power, prestige, and economic resources.
found with states
extremely sedentary and have large populations
nucleation, centralization of power, and diversification of labor
Social Control in Kin-Based Societies: social control is the responsibility of the kin groups.
kin act as mediators
Social Control in Class-Based Societies: punishment meant to be impartial and impersonal
Four Types of Social Control: law, gossip and ridicule, witchcraft, and the threat of the supernatural.
law: a social norm whose violation is punishable by threat of or application of physical force by a legitimate official or body
focus is on harmony
not necessarily codified
gossip and ridicule: found in all societies and is especially important in kin-based groups
witchcraft: used to harm other people
supernatural: fear of punishment (hell, karma, etc.)
Power of the States: coercive powers, hegemony, appeasement, the anthropological other.
hegemony: the power of solidarity of the state as created by the consent of the governed.
it is in a stratified social order in which subordinates comply with the domination by internalizing its values and accepting its “naturalness”
the positive outcomes of development and “progress” are highlighted
the costs and inequalities are masked
often promises are made - “if you are patient, the costs of progress will eventually pay off”
often is it wrongly assumed that those suffering from inequalities are really to blame or that they just need to “pull themselves up by their bootstraps”
appeasement: an industrial class base society gives the basic necessities to the poor/needy; meant to help control.
the anthropological “other”: lack power, legitimacy, and validity
their knowledge is dismissed
suffer from cultural poverty
dichotomy of otherness leads to mistreatment of the “other
Religion and Worldview
Religion: the belief in the supernatural and behavior for dealing with it; whether that power is forces, gods, spirits, ghosts, or demons.
religion is a cultural universal
Supernatural: power believed to be not human or not subject to the laws of nature.
Probably dates back to the time of Neanderthal (religion)
Not all religions have a belief in a god or gods
Why is Religion a Cross-Cultural Universal? - Some Theories…
the need to understand: religion originates in people’s speculation about dreams, trances, and death
animism: belief that there is a physical body separate from a soul
Tylor’s student argues instead for animatism
animatism: the belief in impersonal, supernatural forces
reversion to childhood feelings: we look to religion to fulfill the role that our parents filled when we were children
all knowing and all powerful
anxiety and uncertainty: we turn to religion during times of anxiety and uncertainty.
the need for community: focus is on social needs
religious beliefs and practices affirm a person's’ place in society, enhance feelings of community, and give people confidence
Types of Supernatural Forces and Beings:
mana: a supernatural force that is impersonal and is thought to inhabit some objects, people, or animals, but not others
taboo: persons, objects, animals, or places that are not to be touched because their power can cause harm
gods: supernatural beings with non-human origins and are named personalities
ghosts and ancestor spirits: supernatural beings that may act in a guardian way doing good deeds
others act in mischief
they were once human
were born of a human woman
Structure of Supernatural:
monotheistic religions: have one supreme or high god with other lesser supernatural beings
the gods/spirits are ranked in power and prestige
ex: Christianity and Islam
polytheistic religions: recognize many important gods with no one supreme god
ex: Ancient Rome, Greek, Egyptian, Mayan religions
can’t separate natural and supernatural
equality between humans and their environment
personalized relationship between spirits, nature, and humans
power is manipulated through ritual
nothing happens by chance
based on origin narratives
All humans engage in rituals
Ways of Interacting With the Supernatural:
prayer: asking for supernatural help; can take many forms
altering the body or mind: i.e. Yanomamo use of ebene, Native Americans and peyote, Native Americans and vision quests, and Kung San drumming and dancing
trance: common altered state, can be possession trances
stimulation: where one thing stands for something else; black magic voodoo
divination: getting the supernatural force to provide guidance
sacrifice: some of value is given up to the gods, whether is be food, animals, or people
magic vs. prayer:
sorcery and witchcraft: both invoke the spirits to work harm against people
sorcery: may include the use of material, objects, and medicines to invoke the supernatural malevolence
witchcraft: accomplishes the same ills as sorcery but by means of thought and emotion alone
Most seen in societies as a social control when the population is far too large for gossip and ridicule and when the population is much too small for judges, juries, and police
Ritual: a repetitive social practice composed of a sequence of symbolic activities in the form of dance, song, speech, gestures, or the manipulation of objects, adhering to a cultrually defined ritual schema and closely connected to a specific set of ideas that are often encoded in myth.
four elements to rituals: repetition, set off from everyday life, adheres to culturally defined ritual schema, and connected to ideas encoded in a myth
Rites of Passage: going from one status to another
a ritual that serves to mark the movement and transformation of an individual from one social position to another
three stages: separation, transition, reaggregation
“ I am traveling the world, falling in love with each landscape and capturing birds in its real ecosystem.”
“Diana Beltran Herrera (b. 1987, Colombia) is a designer
and artist that has been working over the past years with ordinary
materials as wire, cardboard, plastic, and paper, the primary medium in
the production of her work. After graduating from her BA degree in
industrial Design at the Jorge Tadeo Lozano University (Bogota,
Colombia) in 2010, Herrera decided to pursue design as an experimental
practice, researching daily about different materials that exist around
us and are present in our everyday lives. For Herrera, there is a
considerable distance in the relationship between human and nature, and
throughout her work, she aims to repair this relation by producing
elements that are constantly removed, altered and forgotten. Her work is
presented as a resistance of time. Her sculptures portray the ideal
state of a thing and also act like a model of representation of a
reality that doesnt suffer any change.”
Saw this the other day but Tumblr crashed before I could repost. Luckily I had saved the image to my phone.
I feel like, at this point, I would definitely define what R, F, and I do as “Hierarchical Polyamory.”
EDIT: Wow. Who knew someone else’s work would become my most popular post? Also! As is the nature of human relationships, this has somewhat changed for R, F, and I. I feel I’ve moved toward a more equal relationship with each of them so I guess we’re more “Egalitarian Polyamory” now.
EDIT 2: I’ve been called out for posting someone else’s work. As I mentioned in the original posting, I wasn’t able to reblog. And I’ve never claimed this image as my own. I should have taken the time before now, of course, to give credit where it is due but I have been unable to find the artist or the original poster. The artist’s copyright is clearly visible on the lower left-hand corner of the image. If you are able to find their Tumblr or personal website, by all means let me know, I would love to link them.
first time writing for Barry Allen (CW Flash)! I lost count of how many times I
used the word ‘theoretically’. Hope you lovelies enjoy it!
just gotten your Master’s degree when you decided to visit one of your best
friends from college a few months ago. You and Cisco kept in touch of course
and you knew about his work at S.T.A.R. Labs, in fact you had helped him with a
lot of the physics involved in helping the Flash. That’s why your little visit
turned into a permanent stay as you continued to help team Flash while working
on your PhD in Central City.
course of the last few months, you’ve become pretty close with the team;
particularly a certain fellow nerd who speeds around in a red suit when he’s
saving the city. You’d stay late a lot of the time to get some of your work
done and Barry Allen being the gentleman he is, would stay behind to keep you
company or when he still had CSI work to do, he’d invite you to work beside him
in his lab at the precinct. He’s come to have quite the crush on you, between the
take-out you share during late-night work sessions to the inside jokes you’ve
come to have that even Cisco didn’t understand. He found himself noticing every
little thing about you and loving every quirk you have.
Pretty much the whole team had caught onto his crush. Cisco had been telling him to take you out on a date, and assuring him that you like him too. Although you had never explicitly said anything, Cisco always seems to know.
In what way is Harry the right person for Ginny? I always got the feeling that he fell in love with her facade of coolness, not the real girl. (Also, he didn't learn anything from his disastrous relationship with Cho, which fell apart because Cho was in too much pain to be fun, and Harry was in too much pain to be considerate of anyone else's feelings.)
Here are some of the ways in which Ginny and Harry fit together:
Humour: they enjoy the same kind of humour - dry, cutting and sarcastic. Also, since Ginny is one of the funnier characters of the series, Harry likes that, especially since he relies very much on humour to get him through difficult situations. Harry craves laughter and humour “But I could do with a few laughs. We could all do with a few laughs. I’ve got a feeling we’re going to need them much more than usual before long.” - Goblet of Fire, p.635. Which is part of the reason why Ginny is definitely a much better romantic companion - because she shares his sense of humour, which is very important in a romantic relationship. Also, look at the way they play off each other, particularly in the tattoo conversation. It is very natural and free flowing.
Physical attraction: I wrote about it above. Even when younger, Harry does take appearance of Ginny’s appearance. For example, to name just a few times where this happens, in CoS Ginny is “glowing like the setting sun” and she “blushes to the roots of her flaming hair”. She has “bright brown eyes”. Her hair is described as being “a long mane of red hair”. Even when Ginny is arguably being described neutrally, here in GoF, it’s an opposition to Hermione. In GoF, when Harry sees Hermione and Ginny coming down the stairs of the Burrow, Hermione is described as having “very bushy brown hair and rather large front teeth” while Ginny is described as being “small and red-haired”. And the thing is, you do need physical attraction to spark off a romantic relationship. If you deny this you deny human nature.
Love for Quidditch: It is something that they can bond very strongly over it as well as it definitely being alluded to more than a few times in the series (even in OotP, before their relationship begins). It is about the similar passion for the game.
Similar experiences with Voldemort: they do talk about it, particularly in OotP, HBP and DH. A few times, but still, what’s represented on-page is not necessarily the case off-page. Sure, one may look at these few conversations and say, that’s not a lot of conversation they’ve been having. But let’s put it this way: is every conversation between every single character in the books? Of course not. What we are debating about is why their characters fit together, not the way it was written. Also, linked to this of course one of the controversial moments of their relationship is when Harry’s break up with her in the end of HBP. But that just signals why they work so well together. Even if Ginny personally disagreed with the reasons for which he was doing it, she understood it and accepted it.
Anti-authoritarianism and individualism: their characters are anti-authoritarian, in contrast to someone like Hermione or to a lesser extent Ron. Both Harry and Ginny have a very individualist and anti-authoritarian streak, Harry from his time at the Dursleys, Ginny from the standards her family (particularly her brothers and her mother) push on her.
There was a moment When things reached their apex Where I realized what’s inside of my mind An entire universe – a galaxy, with uncountable thoughts Uncountable potential And what I say, is merely a sliver An infinitesimal fraction – of what I really am When I used to think that was all that’s in a person’s head But, even more starling Was that I realized it’s not just me That I always dismiss people off what they say But what a miserable mistake that is, if this is actually
true And then I looked to you And I saw your “delusional” thoughts The ones that, logically, made no sense to me When you talked about your situation with her, ending it You wanted to take time When everyone said to cut it off now As soon as possible, before more poison seeped Into the wounds she’d opened – the ones I’d seen you tend But I’m not in the situation And I can’t pretend to know the contents Of your universe – there’s the logical way through But – sometimes – there’s the way something has to happen Could just be your history Or something else – just human nature And it’s pointless to say whether it’s good or bad The only thing to know is that, sometimes, it’s just
necessary My perspective – limited What can I do but float you where I may Just… Don’t do anything stupid – please, just try I know what’s best – and what’s right – aren’t always the
same But it’ll hurt you the same And I hate that I can only observe A lot of the time – so, when I’m in the forefront I won’t ignore it or push it back, just like I hope you
A (very) brief look at the runes of the Elder Futhark
These are my basic interpretations for each of the runes of the Elder Futhark. While these explanations may reveal the basic meanings of these symbols, at least according to my own research and experience, they only scratch the surface of the layers of wisdom that can be found in the runes. For deeper study, there are many wonderful books out there that expand on them. I would personally recommend Diana Paxson’s Taking Up the Runes as a great starting point.
As a personal aside, I would consider myself a fairly conservative interpreter of the runes. I feel that the best basis for them can be found in reliable sources, such as existing lore and the rune poems. As such, I attempt to adhere closely to these sources when it comes to explaining the meaning of each symbol.
Fehu: Fehu means cattle and
signifies wealth, but it is a wealth that is best used when moving through the
community generously. The rune cautions against hoarding wealth and cites the
discord that can result.
Uruz: Uruz stands for
aurochs, which was a species of horned cattle common to the ancient world. As
such, it is a rune of primal strength and determination. The rune can also mean
Thurisaz: Thurisaz represents the giants of the
Norse tales and is a rune of chaos and unrest. It could also be interpreted as
a rune of Thor, which would turn the symbol into one of protection against
those same chaotic forces.
Ansuz: Ansuz is the rune of Odin, which makes it a
rune of wisdom. In the Anglo-Saxon rune poem the symbol also represents the
mouth, lending an additional meaning of wisdom through communication and
Raido means ride and is a rune of travel. While the journey may be swift and
joyful, the rune poem warns of the toll the journey will take on the horse.
This suggests that one must take care of those who help us along the way.
Kenaz is the torch that illuminates the way through darkness to a warm hearth
and good company. However, as the fire burns for warmth, it can also cause pain
and may indicate illness.
Gebo signifies the rune of gifts and generosity. The rune also represents the
cycle of reciprocity and the right-relationship that results when maintained.
Wunjo denotes the rune of joy. It is a bliss that can spring from prosperity,
overcoming anxiety and sadness.
Hagalaz represents hail, making it a rune of destruction and painful
transition. All is not for naught however, for the ice seed will melt, giving
water and growth to the hardier crops that survived.
Naudhiz means need, and is a rune of constraint, oppression, and hard work that
goes unrewarded. This is a challenging symbol, but the rune also indicates that
lessons could be learned from the experience.
Isa stands for ice, fair to look upon but dangerous to traverse. This is a rune
whose message is one of caution in situations where a particular decision seems
desirable, but could be perilous. On the other hand, Isa can suggest stability
Jera is the rune for year and the harvest. It is manifestation of the rewards
for hard work, with prosperity and abundance that sustains the individual or
Eihwaz is the symbol for the yew tree and can mean strength that is drawn from
the line of ancestors. Eihwaz is also interpreted as the rune of Yggdrasil,
which implies connection to the cosmos.
Perthro is the dice-cup, the vessel from which the lots are cast, and the rune
of chance. Perthro can represent uncertainty in everything from light-hearted
gaming to the vagaries of fate.
Elhaz is the rune of the elk and the sedge. The shape of the rune resembles
that of the antlers of the elk and the thorn of the sedge, making this a symbol
Sowilo represents the sun, making it a rune of illumination, victory, and
power. The rune can also mean guidance, as one can always depend on the course
of the sun to lead them to the end of their journey.
Tiwaz is Tyr’s rune and is a symbol of justice and truth, potentially at the
cost of self-sacrifice. Tiwaz also has an aspect of guidance in that
right-action will always set you on the correct path.
Berkano is the rune for the birch tree, indicating feminine strength and
resourcefulness. From this meaning, it can be a rune for nurturing, healing,
Ehwaz means horse and expresses the relationship between the horse and the
rider. It is a rune of partnership, with attention given to those who help us
along our journey. Naturally, the symbol can also represent movement and
Mannaz is the symbol for “man” or “human,” and emphasizes
the interconnected nature of human relationships. Mannaz can show the spectrum
of these relationships, from comfort in good company to the more negative
aspects of the human condition.
Laguz is the rune for lake, making this a symbol for water. As such, this is a
rune of potential and change, perhaps with the suggestion for flexibility
through various situations. It can also mean the unconscious mind and the
hidden wealth that lies beneath the surface.
Ingwaz is Freyr’s rune and takes on the domains of the Vanic god as a symbol of
fertility, productivity, and abundance. The rune can also symbolize masculine
strength and the transforming cycles of life.
Dagaz means day and is the rune of new beginnings. With the day also brings
hope, and is a welcome rune when life has been difficult. Dagaz can also signify
the present moment and a call to “seize the day.”
Othala: Othala is the rune of
the home and encompasses everything that entails, from the physical homestead
to familial relationships of blood and heart. Othala also symbolizes the
connection to the ancestors, from genetic inheritance to physical property
passed on through the family line.
Rivalry More Like Sexual Tension, or The Jalph Essay
I wrote this mess for my English class and turned it in enjoy
The concept of human relationships has existed for thousands of years, yet still continues to fascinate people in real life and in literature. There are several types of relationships but all vary in form and habitually appear in unexpected places. In William Golding’s 1954 novel, Lord of the Flies, a group of boys crash land on a remote island and are forced to form their own society while waiting for rescue. Throughout the book, two of the main characters, Jack and Ralph, share an unusual connection constantly ranging from more than friendly liking to sexual tension to unrequited feelings. Their relationship culminates in a bitter power struggle ultimately causing the downfall of an attachment which could have evolved far beyond its final destination. Jack and Ralph are an ill-fated young couple who illustrate the effects of a certain aspect of human nature- the survival instinct- on interpersonal relationships.
Jack and Ralph originally have an amount of chemistry going beyond what is considered “friendly.” When they first meet, they look at each other with “a shy liking” (23). Both boys, specifically Ralph, prove themselves completely comfortable around others, yet once they interact with each other, they suddenly become shy. Although most of their association bases on emotional rather than physical attraction, Ralph briefly demonstrates how impressed he is by Jack during their first meeting; “[Jack’s] grey shorts were sticking to him with sweat. Ralph glanced at them admiringly,” (23). Jack and Ralph have outgoing, commanding personalities, and from the beginning they seem evenly matched, with plenty of potential for evolution. For the first few weeks, they tend to fumble, blush, and stutter their way through conversations with each other. Eventually, they establish a cooperative bond which consists of Jack leading the hunters and serving as a confidence booster for Ralph, while Ralph leads the government and keeps Jack in check to the best of his ability. The connection between the boys continues to develop as they spend more time together. Although their ideologies differ, the situation has not yet become dire. They mostly have the same goal of keeping the rules intact, and Jack still respects Ralph, as stated by Piggy. “You’re all right- he respects you” (93). For his part, Ralph holds Jack in high esteem, even thinking Jack Merridew the person is equal to the high status of chief (93). Part of Ralph’s character includes valuing people over power, which leaves him confused and shattered after Jack, motivated by a thirst for power, finally breaks off to start his own tribe.
The departure of Jack from the main tribe and the formation of a new dictatorship drastically alters the bond between Jack and Ralph and stretches their relationship past the breaking point. Immediately following Jack’s split from the group, Ralph is devastated. He sits in the same spot the rest of the day, ignores people when they talk to him, and repeats “He’ll come back. When the sun goes down, he’ll come,” (128). Ralph, always the optimistic one on the topic of rescue, says to Piggy, “There’s no help, Piggy. Nothing to be done” (128). Only when offered food and comforted by his friends does he perk up, and eventually Ralph becomes more reliant on Piggy the way he was on Jack. Although the closer friendship with Piggy helps Ralph, the dynamic has shifted. Piggy never becomes a true replacement for Jack, and Ralph’s feelings for Piggy remain platonic. More interesting still is Ralph’s excusing of Simon’s murder and Piggy’s stolen glasses.When the four boys go to Castle Rock in an attempt to recover the glasses, Ralph’s priority is on possibly talking it out rather than going by force. While fighting, he holds back for a time, and after Samneric’s capture, he still tries to appeal to Jack’s “better side,” despite its uselessness. “Ralph cried out hopelessly against the black and green mask, ‘Jack!’” (179) It takes Piggy’s death and Jack stabbing Ralph with a spear for Ralph to finally realize there is no hope of bringing Jack back to the rational side. Though a logical person, Ralph is not immune to the effects of emotion blindsiding him, and his continued feelings toward Jack allow him to hold on to the idea Jack might be above killing him, even after the events of Castle Rock. Ralph never quite abandons his side of the “indefinable connection between himself and Jack” (184). Like before, Ralph mostly appears confused over what he did to agitate Jack so greatly. He says to Samneric: “What have I done? I liked him-and I wanted us to be rescued” (188) after they tell him of Jack’s plan to hunt and kill. Jack and Ralph had a connection deeper than a mere power struggle or usual friendship, but their relationship follows the same downwards path as human nature throughout the novel.
Despite their potential, Jack and Ralph’s relationship falls apart due to a key part of human nature and the survival instinct. The factors composing the instinct include brutal selfishness which allows the person to eliminate any obstacle to survival. These obstacles include, but not limited to, pain, moral values, or even people and objects the survivor once considered valuable. The survival instinct served a critical role in destroying Jack and Ralph’s conceivable relationship. As displayed through his behavior and attitude, Jack’s instinct kicked in much earlier than Ralph’s. While Ralph manages to stay rational and calm for the majority of the time on the island, Jack falls prey to inner brutality and greed. Their ideas of what defines survival differ as well. Jack’s definition is being chief, ruling with complete power, and staying on the island. As a result of his power desire, Jack stops seeing Ralph as a person; instead, he views him as an opponent on his course to survival. From the point on, the survival instinct takes control and negates most attraction he has toward Ralph in favor of overthrowing the latter’s chiefship. Not all feeling vanishes immediately, as Jack doesn’t try to eliminate Ralph despite given opportunities, such as the late night raid on Ralph’s camp and the fight at Castle Rock. But once Ralph’s resources are completely nullified, Jack sees his chance and goes in for the final kill, effectively ending any remaining sentiment he had for Ralph. Ralph’s definition of survival, on the other hand, is a cooperative relationship and rescue. His more rational outlook keep the more primal part of the survival instinct from factoring into his decision making, therefore harboring affection toward Jack for longer. He continues to see Jack as a reasonable person for the majority of the novel; however, the instinct finally takes effect in the last chapter and shreds most feelings to ribbons. After Ralph, on the run from the tribe, has lost everything, he stops seeing “the savages,” as he calls his former tribe mates, as humans and does not hesitate to hurt them as they become his greatest survival obstacles (195). Interestingly enough, he continues to refer to Jack by name, and does not address him as “the chief” as everyone else does, as if making one last effort to convince himself Jack is somehow still human. Only once the arrival of the naval ship guarantees Ralph safety does he stop calling him by name, instead identifying him as “a little boy” (201). While it could be argued the rescue officially ends whatever last shreds of connection remain between Jack and Ralph, “boy” is a distinctly human classification, signifying Ralph still sees Jack as human to some extent; therefore, the bond may not have completely died. Even so, distancing himself from Jack and never seeing him again once they return home would be the rational choice. Ralph has proved a logical thinker, and human and good are not synonymous. However, an experience such as the one they have both gone through leaves lasting scars, and it proves nearly impossible to imagine Ralph ever fully leaving behind Jack Merridew.
While the survival instinct is not inherently dark or light, it can tear apart or neutralize any potential compatibility, as previously discussed. From their initial meeting, Jack and Ralph created a connection plausibly crossing from friendship into a romantic relationship. Yet, once the survival instinct takes hold, the relationship swiftly deteriorates to a one-sided attachment and ends with next to nothing. The descending spiral between Jack and Ralph depicts the ramifications of a part of human nature and the disastrous result on personal relationships.
While maybe some of the sentiment behind this is okay… This is fucking bullshit.
Men are not born to pursue women. That is how society has trained them to be. Women are “prizes” and that is the patriarchal societies fault. Not being born. It’s not human nature.
A relationship should be two way unless you like it the other way. Pursuing a guy does not mean he is not interested. It could just mean he’s not an entitled asshole. Some won’t make advances until they know the girl is comfortable with it? It’s a two way street.
Like yeah, it shouldn’t be one person doing all the stuff… On either side.. Unless both parties want it that way.
Is anyone else kind of very uncomfortable with this post? Blech. I can’t even formulate all the words to describe why this is gross. Feel free to add on.
I just really don’t like how this is acting like women are supposed to be passive.
I saw te breakdown yandere and it got me wondering, how do you think Knockout would be as a yandere?
Knockout (Transformers: Prime)
A less chill yandere. Where are you going? Who are you going with? He needs to know where you are at all times.
If he deems someone a nuisance- given they aren’t his superiors- he’ll request Breakdown take care of them. Can’t have his finish ruined, now, can he? Of course, if someone is /really/ bothering him/you, he’ll get Personal with it.
Has to have your attention almost all the time. Not really /clingy/- he knows when to back off- but when he doesn’t have to, he’ll hold conversations with you to keep your attention on him. Gets annoyed when someone interrupts you two.
Not above kidnapping you, if you’re human. He prefers trying to get the relationship going along naturally- he’s a stunning Decepticon, how could you not fall for him?- but if he feels like someone’s taking you away from him, you’ll be on the Nemesis before you know it.
Reclaimed is the second piece in an ongoing series that explores the way we, as humans, romanticize and personify our relationship to nature. This figure has allowed itself to be overgrown by lichen and branches, but it still cannot fully shed its humanity. In its hands, it holds an unnatural and inorganic form; a symbolic reminder of all that separates us from the natural world.