My mother surprises me sometimes. She started talking about same sex marriage being finally legal in the whole of the United States and I started to tense up expecting that she’d say how wrong it was. I immediately tried to steer the conversation away by making a dismissive statement, “Well, they need this so that their partnership is finally recognised by the law and they can get the same benefits like straight couples do.” I was expecting her to disagree, but she just went, “That’s right.” And then I started talking about how long-time couples can now marry and she added, “Oh, yeah, I read about that couple who were together for 50 years or so! They could technically have a golden wedding anniversary now.”
I just sat there thinking, “Huh. Wow. Huhhhhhh.”
Of course, I can never expect the same thing from my father. I honestly want to ask my mother how she feels about my father being a big homophobe, but it’s hard to form the words sometimes.