Compassion hurts. When you feel connected to everything, you also feel responsible for everything. And you cannot turn away. Your destiny is bound with the destinies of others. You must either learn to carry the universe or be crushed by it. You must grow strong enough to love the world, yet empty enough to sit down at the same table with its worst horrors.
—  Andrew Boyd- Daily Afflictions: The Agony of Being Connected to Everything in the Universe 
You’re a Newly Self-Discovered Empath; Now What?

So you’ve just figured out that you’re an empath. What should you do now? Here’s a quick list of essentials to get you started. 

  • Shields: You need these. I mean need them. Going out without a shield is like leaving your house on a freezing day buck naked. To create shields, visualize the element you are the most connected to surrounding you in a protective shape. For me, it’s earth. My shields are made of very large visualized boulders surrounding me in the astral plane. You can also keep certain crystals around to strengthen your shields. 
  • Practice: Just as they say, practice makes perfect. You can harness your abilities and use them to your advantage, and others’. Read your potential boss and use your findings to nail that job interview. Use your ability to communicate with your deities, or household spirits. Become familiar with your friends auras so that you always know where they are in the house. Read new potential friends so you can better communicate. Practice reading the energies of various stones and objects.
  • Project your aura: Some of us have always been powerful, and have never known our true strength. Because of this, we never knew how to control it. When I feel something strongly, everyone around me feels it. When I am angry or sad, everyone around me becomes angry or sad. I don’t have to say a word or make a face. This is another reason for why shields are so important. We as empaths feel things so deeply that it can and will affect those around us. 
  • Meditate: Meditation allows us to practice and get in touch with ourselves. It will help us discern whether or not the emotions we are having are our own, or from someone near us. 
  • Astral travel: This will make you help you harness your abilities, as well as control them. In the astral plane, it will be much much easier to set up shields and work on your shiz. Plus, it’s really fun. 
  • Journaling: Journal things as you learn and realize them. Notice something unique to being an empath? stick it in your handy dandy empath journal. Notice something unique to YOUR experience as an empath? Jot it down in your journal. It will make things so much easier. 
The Most Accurate List to Understand an INFJ

INFJs are, by definition, rare, reserved, and unlikely to initiate anything, which means that many of them can end up alone and misunderstood. To help with things, I’ve compiled a list of points which I think would be of great use to anyone considering trying to get to know someone who identifies as an INFJ.

  • For most INFJs, omitting or distorting information is equivalent to lying, and at the very least will rouse their suspicion. INFJs have an acute sensitivity for stories which don’t quite fit. At the same time, INFJs also like to assume the best and can be extremely gullible.
  • INFJs are adept at nonverbal communication (eye gaze, touching, body language, etc.). Just because they’re not speaking doesn’t mean they’re not saying something.
  • INFJs have an extremely complex internal value system. An INFJ will see if you ‘fit’ into their world, and they’ll bend their own rules if they really like you. INFJs tend to have very high standards, but are also very accepting once they trust you and know you’re safe.
  • INFJs can be pretty intense emotionally. This isn’t to say that they can get into a heated argument, in fact INFJs avoid conflict, however they are easily hurt and feel very deeply. It’s not uncommon for INFJs to cry if they feel something very deeply.
  • INFJs are weird / odd / strange / extremely rare and they very much know it. They yearn to be understood and want to be accepted as they are (as most people do, of course). An INFJ is incredibly complex, so complex they confuse even themselves. They almost always feel misunderstood and ‘hidden’. They will be offended if you pass them off as ‘simple’ or ‘average’. Getting to know an INFJ takes work, so be prepared for that. A lot of gentle enquiry is required.
  • INFJs can often mimic other types.
  • INFJs are typically better in writing than in verbal communication. If you want to know an INFJ’s true feelings, ask them to write out what they think and feel.
  • INFJs don’t typically engage in casual relationships. Most of them will become too attached for it to be possible. If your intentions aren’t serious then you should probably steer clear of an INFJ unless it’s very obvious beforehand that they aren’t interested in a serious relationship.
  • An INFJ’s allegiance is no trifle. If an INFJ wants to stick by you, it means they really like you. Do not violate that gift.
  • INFJs consciously choose the people that are close to them. They would rather have a few very close friendships as opposed to numerous superficial ones.
    They open up at a dinosauric pace. They typically hold themselves back and consider that behaviour to be part of their nature. They’ve been described as having ‘layers’ which only a select few people are privy to, the closer the layer to their heart, the fewer people are granted access. Do not expect to find yourself in the ‘top tier’ overnight. It often takes months or years to access the deepest recesses.
  • INFJs, like other idealists, love harmony. While an INFJ is relatively adept at conflict resolution, they do not appreciate the unneeded creation of conflict. An INFJ will strive for harmony.
  • The ‘N’ combined with the ‘J’ in INFJ means that they are future oriented. Do everything you can to make yourself seem like a long-term option. If you become destructively impulsive, an INFJ will lose the ability to see you as a long-term mate, and will become unhappy as a result. INFJs are future-oriented and have powerful imaginations and superb insight.
  • INFJs are extremely sensitive. Make sure that criticism is handed as lightly as possible and constructively. At the same time, INFJs love to please their partner, and will work on an issue if presented in the right way. When to be blunt with an INFJ: never. Be honest and direct, but there’s a fine line between direct and insensitive.
  • INFJs love helping people. If you’re bad at accepting help (yes, accepting help is a skill), then get ready to have problems. To reject an INFJ’s help is to reject their love, and one of the things they hold nearest to their hearts.
  • An INFJ’s ability to help people goes hand-in-hand with their ability to destroy people. Their keen knowledge of people’s weaknessess means they can either help you incredibly or destroy you, however the latter is extremely rare and is only reserved for people they believe have done serious harm to them or others.
  • They need patience but they give patience in return.
  • They’re curious about other people. To their friends, they are very accepting. However, the closer one gets to an INFJ’s heart, the more their standards will apply to the other person, which can sometimes create issues.
  • They often have darker periods where they close up. They can become monk-like and reclusive. It doesn’t mean they don’t like you, it just means they need to recharge.
  • They can be stubborn once they believe they’re in the right, especially if it has to do with their values.
  • INFJs hardly ever initiate anything. They like it when the other person initiates a conversation, contact, etc.
  • INFJs need 2 things to thrive: trust and safety. Trusting you is about knowing that you’re ethically and morally upstanding (or at least in accordance with their values), and feeling safe is knowing that you’ll stick by them. INFJs don’t want to open up to people who might disappear overnight. If an INFJ feels they can trust you and feels safe with you, they’ll be very happy. The only added bonus is to tell them how much you appreciate them.
  • Their energy drains when around others. They will need time alone to ‘feel like themselves’.
  • Your energy will easily affect them. If you seem unstable, etc., it will seep into them and poison them. It has often been said that an INFJ’s partner has to be strong, and this is generally true.
  • INFJs live in a world of fantasy. They can have problems consolidating their idealism with the reality of the world.

Useful quotes from the internet about INFJs:

On truth:

“INFJs are all about deeds, not words. Don’t fuck up anything when you are granted a stage by an INFJ. It may take a long time before they give you that stage. Remember that they are intently testing you at that point. Talk all you want after that audition, providing you pass the test. The conversation will be most pleasant forever after… until you fuck up.

“Eight years of marriage to a textbook INFJ has taught me the power of truth. I have seen what happens to people who deceive an INFJ. They are dropped like a hot pan.”

On vengeance:

“I do think that’s one of the main features of the INFJ type, vital even: a strong sense of right and wrong; they can’t tolerate wrongdoings of any kind. But at the same time, I’ve observed that INFJ’s attitude over their sense of morals comes in two variants; Jesus-like ones that say “turn the other cheek”, and the badass Kenshin ones that punish wrongdoers.”

“I have an INFJ friend, who is someone I would never EVER want to piss off, I’ve seen him angry only once in my life, and he goes all out then, lashing out to the point that it’s fearsome and it takes nearly an hour for him to cool down… it would start with him just suddenly becoming quiet and very isolated and then bam! If ever in a war, that dude is on my side as a general!”

“We go through great efforts to keep everything civil, friendly, and harmonious, and we even allow people a certain amount of “buffer space”. But once you’ve overstepped that boundary or pushed things too far, then BAM! Tactical. Nuclear. Strike.”

“When someone gets the better of us, and they do so in a way that is not admirable, they become mortal enemies that must be vexed immediately.”

“I agree with the above. I will take a lot of abuse now, but once I am pushed to a point and feel I have nothing to lose or protect, well, you are pretty much dead meat. I will sit on every piece of ammunition I have and let the offender do their best, and then in the end, I let it all loose.

If you get on their good side, you have made a wonderful ally for life, and most likely they will use their arsenal to protect you.”

“I’m an INFJ, and I sometimes mentally play out what I’d like to say to someone I’m angry with, but I have never (and would never) take physical vengeance on anyone. I’m incredibly patient, but do eventually have a point where I will calmly tell someone what they have done to upset me and whether or not I will be able to get past it. If it’s something I can’t get past, that’s pretty much the end of things with that person.”

On holding back:

“My tendency to hold back IS who I am, and I am okay with that. I embrace that.

Because I am here and my friends know it. I am at my maximum potential when I am taking care of my family, yes, but I have many close friendships I nurture on a regular (every few weeks) basis, and they are almost as important to me.”

“INFJs take time to open up. They are slow burners. I find I can’t really get to know them until after many prolonged conversations. But after you enter their realm of trust they are the sweetest, most genuine people.”

On Sex:

“If I pursued a lot of meaningless sexual relationships, I can guarantee you I would be miserable in the end. It’s not in my nature. I am 100% aware that I’m someone who has to have a certain level of emotional bonding and trust to have sex with someone, and while I’ve had friends give me a hard time for it in the past, I accept this about myself. I can’t turn that off, and I know it. So, instead of living in denial, trying to be “the tough chick who can have sex like a man,” I hold out for someone who actually values my true nature. If I didn’t do that, I’d only be hurting myself over and over again. Denying your true nature in an effort to be “fashionable” or “modern” or “independent,” in my opinion, really comes back to bite you in the ass.”

“I can’t see the appeal of casual sex, for me I have to be in a relationship with someone before I’d consider sex with them. Sexual intimacy is much more valued and emotional to me and I do not want to waste that on people I don’t know or do not have a special bond with.”

“I take care of and very much value my body. If I’ve just met that person, I feel really uncomfortable with the idea of a stranger touching me the same way as someone who respects and loves me. I don’t judge others for what they do with their bodies, but I know what feels right and what doesn’t feel right for me.”

“Can’t do casual. Must be committed. Feel safe.”

On Feeling Different:

“I have always felt extremely different from others. I know when people are sick, even sometimes right down to what is bothering them. I am automatically drawn to people in pain and instinctively help people through hard times with out even knowing I am doing it.”

On Love:

“INFJs are more “for the cause”, not free-love.”

“INFJs look scary love-wise.”

Other Useful Quotes:

“If I go to a party, I find that I do latch on to one or two people I feel comfortable with or click with, and try to have a meaningful conversation with them of some sort. I CAN mingle well, but I prefer not too as it’s draining for me. I am not an extrovert so I know I will not be the life of the party, but I do not expect myself to be, beyond making a bold entrance, which I kinda like to do. I like the excitement of hanging back and wondering who will give me the vibe, or who’s energy I’ll pick up on, and if that will be a surprising find, as in someone I wouldn’t ordinarily talk to.”

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Psychic Abilities Masterpost

Clairvoyance: is an inner seeing.  It’s the most well known, but least understood intuitive gift on our list of psychic abilities.I would describe it as watching a little movie inside your head.Someone who is clairvoyant is not necessarily seeing the future or having dramatic psychic visions like you see in the movies.Rather, clairvoyance can be very subtle.  For example, you may just see a color, a number, or even a symbol.  You may or may not understand what these images mean, and they are not always meant to be taken literally. On the other hand, you may get a full blown premonition.  Like the old saying goes, “I saw that one coming!” Other terms for clairvoyance:  third eye, psychic eye, psychic vision.

Clairsentience is the ability to receive intuitive messages via feelings, emotions, or physical sensations.  Empathy (feeling the emotions of others) is also a form of clairsentience. Here’s a great example of a clairsentience:My daughter is a teenager; she’s not a professional psychic (though she probably will be one day!). She is homeschooled now, but she’s struggled with going to school for many years.  Why?  Because she’s extremely empathic and clairsentient.  She feels absolutely everything and it leaves her feeling exhausted, anxious, and overwhelmed.  Whether someone is sad, angry, or ecstatic, she feels it.You may feel that way, too.  Whether you are at school or at work, you may feel drained or pick up on the moods of people around you.  You may feel exhausted being around someone who is negative and it may be difficult for you to watch the news.As a clairsentient, it may be very easy for you to know when someone is lying to you - you can just feel it somehow. And you may even feel the physical ailments of others.

Clairaudience is a way of receiving intuitive messages without using the physical ears.  I know, that sounds weird.  Let me explain.Think of clairaudience as an inner hearing.  For example, you may suddenly hear that little voice inside you say, “go right!” or “stop!”. When a highly sensitive person - such as a psychic or medium - is clairaudient, they are able to hear things that others cannot, such as spirit voices, sounds, and even music.For example, spiritual mediums are often clairaudient and can hear words, phrases, and names from those who have passed on.Most times, the medium will hear Spirit speaking inside his or her own head in her own voice (it sounds like when you are reading silently to yourself).  On some occasions, the medium may also hear the actual voice that the spirit had when they were living.

Claircognizance is the ability to just know something without logic or facts.  It may help to think of it as an inner knowing. Like if you know that you shouldn’t trust your new neighbor or get on that airplane, but you don’t know why, that is claircognizance.  It’s an important extrasensory perception, so it makes it into the top four on our list of psychic abilities. These claircognizant feelings can be very strong.  They can also come in the form of intuitive thoughts that can pop  into your head at random. For example, my husband (who is not psychic) was driving on the highway with some co-workers.  He says he didn’t know why, but all of a sudden he knew he had to tell everyone to buckle up. Less than five minutes later, their vehicle was rear ended from behind by a car going 64 miles an hour.  The seat my husband was sitting in broke in half. This is a great example of an intuitive thought coming through in the form of claircognizance.  He didn’t know why everyone needed to buckle up - he just knew they had to do it immediately!

Clairalience is the ability to smell things outside the normal range of smell, such as the perfume of a loved one who has passed away. Sometimes a person in spirit will fill a room with a familiar smell so that their loved ones know they are around.  My sister-in-law often smells cigar smoke which she associates with her father. I don’t know how our loved ones in spirit do this, but many people find this phenomenon very comforting.

Clairgustance is an inner tasting; that is, tasting without actually putting anything into your mouth.This form of extrasensory perception is sometimes experienced by mediums when they give a reading. The way it works is pretty simple.  When a medium is communicating with a spirit, they may begin to develop a particular taste in their mouth.  So, if a person in spirit used to love to eat chocolate cake, a medium who has this sense might taste chocolate cake.

Remote-viewer – the phenomenon of remote-viewing can also be technically called of travelling clairvoyance. Therefore the remote-viewer can clearly see consciousnesses, places, and events happening at long distance, either in the physical dimension or in non-physical dimensions. The remote viewer can also describe to an audience, even with eyes open, what is being seen, what is happening in real-time.

Lucid Projector – astral traveller or sky walker, the person that leaves the physical body or soma sleeping in the physical dimension and explores with the psychosoma other physical or non-physical locations, thus gathering information the soma cannot obtain during the waking state. The lucid projection amplifies one’s level of physical and non-physical awareness not just of oneself but also of the reality of all consciousnesses.

Lucid dreamer – the person that achieves control of dreams, becomes increasingly more lucid, and can use the trigger(s) of his/her lucid dreams to further increase lucidity and induce conscious lucid projections (astral travelling). During the level 2 of the IAC’s core course – the CDP – we will provide further information and techniques

Precognitor – the person that develops the capacity to gather information from a possible future. To be able to access information from the future means only that you can ‘read’ the possibilities. The future may or may not unfold according to these possibilities, because consciousnesses still have freewill and with it the capacity of choice and change the future.

Retrocognitor – the person that acquires information from past lives or from the intervals between physical lives where the consciousness lived in non-physical dimensions. This modality can bring to the projector information from what was learnt and planned during these periods spent in non-physical dimensions allowing for present increased discernment in the physical dimension.

Telepath – the person that can ‘read’ the information being transmitted mind-to-mind in physical or non-physical dimensions between the consciousnesses. The telepath is a receptor and a transmitter. We all are. In the physical dimension, telepathy occurs when the alpha rhythms of the two communicating consciousness enter synchronicity. Perhaps for this reason it is easier for two consciousnesses that have more affinity to relate and communicate with each other using telepathy.


Psychometrist – the person that can ‘read’ information contained in the energy of objects. The psychometrist can learn information from the past, the present or details of the personality of the owner of an object and the epoch in which he/she lived by reading the energy that got stuck to this object. The psychometrist reads in the energy of the object the owner’s thoughts and feelings. One of the most positive applications of psychometry is, for instance, in the finding of disappeared people, when associated with precognition. It can also be used to help retrocognition.

Intuitive – the person that can get an intimate clear knowledge of things, and grabs insights that escape the normal thought process. The immediate and instinctive represents a shortcut of the mentalsoma, a jump over reason, it adds to intelligence.

Psychographer – the person that does psychic writing or automatic writing, being at the moment it happens the instrument of the non-physical consciousness(es) that take over the process of reasoning. This means reasoning is eliminated in favour of becoming the medium of the mind of some other non-physical being who dictates.

Medium – person that mediates and brings information from the non-physical dimensions to the physical dimension. We are all mediums, much more than we can think of. We keep bringing information transmitted to us through telepathy by non-physical consciousness around us only too often, and when you don’t know it you think these thoughts you are thinking or these feelings you are having are actually just yours.

Psycophoner – this is when a non-physical consciousness uses your physical body and speaks through you. This process can happen consciously or unconsciously, hence the interest in learning more about it. In mediumship, the medium is the mouth piece of the extraphysical consciousnesses that wish to manifest or convey their messages to the physical dimension.

Physical ectoplasmic medium – the person whose levels of ectoplasmy allow for the dense, almost physical manifestation of non-physical consciousnesses and non-physical objects. Ectoplasm is a dense semi-physical and non-physical energy that can be produced by some people (ectoplast mediums). It is a very plastic substance that contains leukocytes, epithelial cells, fat, albumin, combined with other non-physical substances and presents an unstable form, looking like tenuous vapours, spirals, threads, cords, webs, rays, and seems to be an intelligent being. Ectoplasmy is a complex phenomenon that implies temporary dematerialization of the ectoplast medium, materialization of different forms, and posterior re-materialization of the ectoplast medium. During this process people around the medium can see the dematerialization, the materialization, and the re-materialization, so this is a phenomenon that can be witnesses, and to this day there are many people conducting séances during which these phenomena can happen.

Psychic Surgeon – Thanks to the abundance of ectoplasmic energy and well developed mediumship, some people have/can become psychic surgeons, operating intraphysically while guided by extraphysical non-physical consciousnesses. Generally, the psychic ectoplast mediums were not surgeons by profession, but the non-physical consciousness operating through them were. There are ample examples in China, Brazil, and the Philippines.

Telekinesist – the person that can move objects without touching them. Besides making objects move in your awaken state, people can when projected act like non-physical consciousnesses and produce phenomena like finding objects, making them disappear, produce: combustion, electromagnetic, electrochemical, photogenic, mechanical, nuclear chemical, and sonorous effects.


My brain,

13 Things Highly Intuitive People Don’t Do

You’ve met them. You know, the people who seem to know what’s going to happen before it does, predict your impending breakup or simply seem to read your mind. Before screaming ‘burn the witch!’ it’s important to know that these people aren’t so different from you, they’re probably just more intuitive. Those who are both cursed and blessed by being highly intuitive, they simply go about their lives in a different way. Let’s take a look at some of the things that these people don’t do.

1. They Don’t Ignore Their Inner Voice

Highly intuitive people know that their inner voice is something worth listening to. Sometimes basing decisions purely off logic and reason isn’t the best choice. I realise that to some this will sound crazy, but to those who consider themselves intuitive, they will understand that sometimes the best decision for ourselves are one that comes from that little inner voice, as opposed to the external information that the world provides us with.

2. They Don’t Let the Modern World Stop Them From Taking Time For Solitude

Between increasingly longer work days and technology keeping us constantly connected to one another, it can be difficult to take time for ourselves. In fact, some of us get so addicted to constant contact that taking time for solitude can be near impossible. Intuitive people know that it’s important to get off the grid every once and while, even if it’s just for an hour. They understand that people need time to decompress and get some much need stress relief. Yoga, meditation and Tai Chi are great ways to incorporate this essential ‘you time’ into your busy schedule.

3. They Don’t Stifle Their Own Creativity

It can be easy to ignore or push down your creativity in order to be more practical. Quite frankly, pursuing creative interests and fields can be scary, and they’re certainly the roads less travelled. However, intuitive people know that if they have that creative calling it’s important to let it flourish. Ignoring this urge can lead to a lifetime of unhappiness and feeling unfulfilled.

4. They Don’t Ignore Personal Observations

Part of being intuitive is simply being good at observing the world around you and then interpreting that information to find more subtle meanings. Intuitive people realise that being observant is imperative in order to find truth in people and the world in general. A small look or shift in body language, or a seemingly throw away comment, can be more important than what you may think.

5. They Don’t Ignore the Importance of Connecting With People On a Deep Level

Highly intuitive people love with every fiber of their being. Whether you’re a friend, a family member or a lover, they realise how important it is to connect on a deep level. After all, this is the only way to truly know someone. Both a positive and a negative of these connections is that they can also feel the pain of those they’re close to. Not literally of course, but they care deeply when someone is hurting emotionally. If an intuitive person ever says “I know how you feel”, they probably truly do.

6. They Don’t Ignore Their Dreams

Highly intuitive people know that truth can be found not only in the physical world, but also in their own dreams. They’re aware that their brains use their sleeping state in order to work out problems and present solutions and pathways for the dreamer. Those who are the most aware of this generally become quite good at interpreting their own dreams and acting accordingly.

7. They Don’t Hold Onto Negative Emotions

People who are intuitive tend to be highly connected to their own emotions. It’s for that reason that they may find it hard to let go of negative emotions. However, they recognise the necessity of it in order to to keep emotionally and spiritually sane, as well as connect positively with others.

8. They Don’t Forget to be Mindful

Intuitive people tend to be incredibly mindful of those around them, as well as their environment. This is somewhat different to being observant because it taps into the feelings they get from what’s happening around them. This can be as simply as discerning how someone feels about them, to gauging whether they are in a potentially dangerous situation, despite appearances.

9. They Generally Don’t Rush Their Decisions

Intuitive people who are acutely aware of the way they make choices may take longer to eventually come to a decision. This is because they tend to have more information and feelings to consider.

10. They Don’t Take Wrong Decisions Lightly

Highly intuitive people can get incredibly upset if they end up making a bad decision or choice. This makes sense considering that they tend to be equipped with more personal tools to avoid poor decisions and mistakes. However, nobody is infallible and it also makes them all the more careful when it comes to the important choices.

11. They Don’t Mind Crying

Intuitive people tend to be in touch with their emotions, and thus don’t see any harm in a good cry. They realise that sometimes people need a physical release in order to achieve an emotional one.

12. They Don’t Ignore the Needs of Their Body

Highly intuitive people tend to be in tune with their bodies more and are aware if something is wrong. It’s for this reason that many will turn to spiritual exercises because these pursuits teach them how to be even more sensitive to their body’s needs.

13. They’re Not Afraid to be Spiritual

Highly intuitive people tend to be quite spiritual, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re religious. They tend to be spiritual in terms of their relationship with themselves, those around them and the world.

i hate being sensitive. i hate assuming the people’s tone in their voice and thinking i did something wrong. i hate bursting into tears if my friend goes to bed.
i hate being so over emotional that whenever a friend is being playfully annoying with me i have to bathe in a puddle of my tears because im too sensitive.