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The Stevenbomb - what happens next...

Warning: Spoilers!

So, now that we’ve experienced the thoroughly explosive new Stevenbomb, there’s a burning question that we all want the answer to:

What happens next?!

Steven’s now willing en-route to Homeworld in order to keep his friends safe from harm, the Crystal Gems powerless to stop this heartbreaking scenario from playing out right in front of their eyes.

They’ll need a plan, and fast.  But the glaring issue here is that their only space craft has been stolen reunited with its rightful owner again.  The upshot of this, of course, is that the Crystal Gems now have no way of reaching space.

Or, do they…?

Originally posted by sakkakumon

Upon being freed from the mirror – and subsequently healed – by Steven, Lapis couldn’t get off the Earth fast enough.  In a relatively short amount of time, she was able to fly herself all the way back to Homeworld without the aid of a vehicle.

We know that, Peridot aside, Steven is the one person who Lapis cares for the most.  She’s already effectively sacrificed herself to save him in the past (this being her logic, no matter how questionable it might have been, when forming Malachite in order to stop Jasper from hurting Steven) – so she’s going to jump at the chance to save him again.

I daresay that the Crystal Gems will be well aware of this and will want/need to enlist her help, along with Peridot’s.  Peridot is, of course, the most “modern” Gem of the group and is the only one with prior experience of the current-day Homeworld.

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However, another issue could arise here because (in a manner of speaking) Aquamarine and Topaz were sent to Earth because of Peridot.  If she hadn’t filed that report all the way back in Marble Madness, things might have played out very differently indeed.

I’ve theorised in the past that Peridot is internalising a lot of the guilt that she undoubtedly feels for her past actions (trying to kill Steven, the fusion experiments, almost leaving the Earth to be torn apart by the Cluster, etc) and that, eventually, something would cause all of this guilt to come spilling out.  I have to wonder if she’s going to blame herself for Steven’s capture and that, ultimately, this is going to be the thing that tips her guilt over the edge.

Peridot has recently been showing an awful lot of compassion to one individual in particular, continually putting this individual’s happiness and comfort first…

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Lapis Lazuli.

Could it now be Lapis’ turn to be there for Peridot, just as Peridot has been for her?

When Lapis and Peridot find out what happened to Steven, there’s going to be a lot of upset from everyone.  Sometimes upset can turn to anger, and blame might start being attributed all around.  Perhaps the Crystal Gems themselves will begin blaming Peridot for what happened.

I can’t stop thinking about Peridot feeling guilty and getting very upset about the whole thing, prompting Lapis to say “It’s not your fault, Peridot…” before glaring at the Crystal Gems and adding something like “You’re not the one who let them take him!”

I feel like Lapis might be harbouring some resentment for the Crystal Gems and that she’s going to see Steven’s capture as being another reason not to trust them.  As I mentioned earlier, Lapis considers that she actually sacrificed herself to save Steven – so this line of logic could lead her to thinking that the Crystal Gems could have done more to prevent him from being taken.

Is it fair to apportion blame like this?  No – but that’s what can happen when something this distressing and heartbreaking happens.

Regardless of whether or not the “blame game” comes to fruition, everyone will have to calm down from their upset eventually and figure out what to do.  They’ll have to set aside any differences/disagreements that they may have and come together in order to rescue the one person who ultimately binds them all together – Steven.

And this is where things could get very interesting indeed.

Lapis can travel through space, but it’s unlikely that she would have the physical strength to carry multiple Gems with her. However…what if she’s not just Lapis at this point?

I think a fusion between Lapis, Peridot and the Crystal Gems (effectively creating another Alexandrite-esque Gem) is highly unlikely, for a number of reasons.

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Originally posted by thecrystalgifs

Alexandrite is an incredibly powerful Gem – and so was Malachite, Lapis’ only other fusion to date.  If one were to combine these forces, the resulting Gem would be unstoppable.  This would be ideal, of course; but, from a storytelling point of view, it offers a solution that’s too simple.  A “get out of jail free” card, if you like.

There’s also the aforementioned issue of Lapis perhaps not fully trusting the other Crystal Gems yet, as well as a huge question mark hanging over the stability of a fusion involving six Gems.  Lapis has also been left traumatised by her experience as Malachite, so I feel like she’d only fuse again with someone who she was very close to – with a dire emergency like this one being the catalyst to get her to try fusing with someone again out of pure necessity.

Luckily, there is someone who Lapis fully trusts, who she spends almost all her time alongside, and who she’s living a very harmonious relationship with…

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…and so this might be where we finally see our Lapidot fusion!

To me, it makes absolute perfect sense.  Lapis can fly through space at an alarming rate, Peridot knows all about modern Homeworld – and, if necessary, their fusion might actually be able to carry the other Crystal Gems along with them!

Imagine a scene where Steven is in a room on Homeworld (or, alternatively, still on-board Aquamarine and Topaz’s ship).  Suddenly, a new Gem – the Lapidot fusion – comes bursting through the door, the Crystal Gems in her arms/clinging onto her back.  That would be an amazing scenario.

Of course, the nature of the show is such that we see everything from Steven’s perspective.  I wonder if the show will break this convention soon in order to show what’s happening on Earth ahead of Steven’s inevitable rescue.  We obviously know he’s going to get rescued somehow, but the tension and build-up would be somewhat watered-down if we see the Crystal Gems’ plan play out in the form of a The New Crystal Gems style flashback episode.  That’s still a distinct possibility, of course, but I must admit that it’d be nice to see the show’s formula get slightly shaken up in the next episodes.

THE PRETTY LITTLE LIARS ENDGAME

It is bittersweet that I present to you my last ever theory for Pretty Little Liars. I apologise in advance for the insane length, but this is covering all those frustrating loose ends across the entire series. I hope you can make it to the end so we can discuss. My only fear for this theory is that it is too daring and gutsy; it would re-define the show we thought we knew. Are the writers willing to ‘go there’ in just 10 episodes? I don’t know! Regardless if this is all right, partially right, or so damn wrong, I hope you have as much fun reading this as I did putting this together the past two months! For the last time before the show ends… I hope you enjoy!

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An Analysis of Bakugou’s Superiority Complex

I think you’re at least kind of right. Bakugou knows Midoriya has something that he lacks, and that causes him to feel bitterness towards Midoriya. It’s also hard for Bakugou to deal with the idea that Midoriya is more like All Might than he is. Although, I don’t Bakugou ever admired Midoriya back when Midoriya was Quirkless. I think he hated Midoriya because Midoriya makes him feel weak.

I think Bakugou’s hatred of Midoriya comes from him having a textbook case of superiority complex.

A superiority complex is “a psychological defense mechanism in which feelings of superiority counter or conceal feelings of inferiority.” In other words, Bakugou’s narcissism and feelings of superiority are due to him trying to cover for his inferior feelings. When Bakugou is feeling weaker than Midoriya in some cases, he’ll lash out against Midoriya and treat him as inferior in order to protect his feelings of weakness. Whether Midoriya realizes it or not, he picks on Bakugou’s insecurities, and, in order to protect his ego, Bakugou bullies Midoriya and tries to make himself feel superior.

I don’t think Bakugou’s superiority complex has always existed. I think Midoriya simply triggered it.

From when he was a young child, Bakugou has always been praised.

As his mom points out, all that praise for his talents has made him narcissistic.

Bakugou’s feelings of superiority come from all the praises during his childhood. That much is self-explanatory. Because of those praises, he has high expectations for himself.

Because Bakugou was praised for his Quirk and Midoriya had no Quirk, it was easy for Bakugou to come to the conclusion that Midoriya is inferior.

As a result, when Midoriya, someone who’s supposed to be beneath him, tries to help him, it’s a huge blow to Bakugou’s ego. Midoriya is supposed to be a Quirkless loser. Bakugou isn’t supposed to need his help.

Any time Midoriya tries to help Bakugou, it makes Bakugou feel weak. In order to feel less weak and to prove his superiority, he bullies Midoriya and brings him down. A superiority complex exists to cover for an inferiority complex. In Bakugou’s case, his inferiority complex comes from Midoriya making him feel weak and like he has lower self-worth. His superiority complex kicks in when he bullies and brings Midoriya down in order to feel stronger. If Bakugou can keep convincing himself that Midoriya is weak and that he’s superior, then Bakugou can feel strong. The weaker Midoriya is, the stronger Bakugou feels. It’s a vicious mindset that Bakugou develops over the years, and he can’t get over this mindset and acknowledge Midoriya’s strength easily.

Bakugou’s superiority complex is so bad that he even considers losing if it means not having to work with Midoriya. Working with Midoriya is just that big of a bruise to his ego, and it makes him feel stronger thinking Midoriya is not good enough to work with him.

He still has to mentally think Midoriya is a piece of shit even while working with him.

Bakugou has gotten into this mindset where he has to prove he’s better than Midoriya in order to make himself stronger. Midoriya makes him feel weak. In order to combat those feelings, Bakugou has to put Midoriya down.

Midoriya getting a Quirk from All Might and catching up to Bakugou in terms of ability makes Bakugou feel weak. That’s why he can’t accept Midoriya’s strength so easily. Midoriya is supposed to always be beneath Bakugou. When he catches up to Bakugou, that only pisses Bakugou off because that’s not the way it’s supposed to be. It’s a failure on Bakugou’s part to allow Midoriya to catch up to him.

Once Bakugou realizes Midoriya received All Might’s power, he thinks that means there must be something Midoriya has that Bakugou doesn’t. Midoriya did something right while Bakugou did something wrong. Since All Might chose Midoriya, a kid who was always weaker than Bakugou, it makes Bakugou feel weak. This aggravates his inferiority complex. Bakugou feels so weak that he blames himself for getting captured by the villains and leading to All Might’s downfall.

It doesn’t help Bakugou’s inferiority complex when he feels like Midoriya is always looking down on him. He hates it when people do that.

Just a reminder, if people feel weak or incompetent and they let that consume themselves, then they have an inferior complex.

An inferior complex isn’t always conscious. In Bakugou’s case, it was initially subconscious and then became more conscious after All Might lost his powers. His inferiority complex is aggravated by anyone who makes him feel weak. Midoriya especially makes it worse. However, other people have aggravated Bakugou’s inferiority complex as well.  

If someone stands against Bakugou, Bakugou wants that person to give it his or her all. If that person doesn’t, to Bakugou, that person is looking down on him and making him feel weak.

Todoroki does just that during the Sport’s Festival.

Bakugou’s superiority complex isn’t the only defense mechanism for his inferiority complex. Often he just gets REALLY PISSED OFF against the people who make him feel weak. For instance, this is what he’s like after his fight with Todoroki.

Bakugou also shuns anyone who makes him feel weak, like Todoroki for example.

There are other smaller examples of other students picking on Bakugou’s inferiority complex. Midoriya and Todoroki are just the big examples.

Not everyone with a superiority complex is as destructive as Bakugou. In fact, out of all the students with an inferiority complex, Bakugou seems to cope with it the worst since he hurts others in the process.

Aoyama is a milder example someone with of a superiority complex. Remember, a superiority complex is simply a defense mechanism for an inferiority complex.

People, like Aoyama, who feel insecure about themselves and let that insecurity consume them have an inferiority complex.

To cope with the inferiority complex, they act more superior. Although, in Aoyama’s case, instead of tearing people down like Bakugou, he simply boasts himself, tries to get attention, and acts like he’s amazing.

Aoyama acts like he loves himself, and he loves the attention. There could be an argument to be made that Aoyama doesn’t have a superiority complex since he doesn’t bring others down in order to make himself feel superior. However, he boasts how amazing he is, gets dramatic, and seeks attention as a way to cope with his feelings of inferiority.

Right now, Bakugou and Aoyama are the only students I can think of who have developed a superiority complex from their inferiority complex.

There are certainly other students who have an inferiority complex. It’s inevitable given the nature of being a hero. Being a hero is very competitive. In order to be successful, students need to stand out from their peers, and their peers in turn will will use their weaknesses against them. Villains also take advantage of any weakness students may have. It makes sense for students to feel like they’re inadequate compared to the amazing talent of their peers or to feel like they’re not as strong as they should be.

Interestingly enough, it doesn’t really look like Midoriya has an inferiority complex. An inferiority complex occurs when people become too focused on their deficiencies and start to feel intense lower self-worth. Midoriya doesn’t have that. Midoriya has usually been pretty pragmatic about his weaknesses and doesn’t let them make him think he’s inadequate or worth less.

Bakugou’s bullying never caused Midoriya to give up or feel worth less. Midoriya has always thought Bakugou is amazing. As a result, Bakugou became a role model for Midoriya instead of someone who pushes him down.

Hearing that Togata could have been the successor for One for All and that Nighteye thinks Togata would make a better successor doesn’t make Midoriya think he is unworthy of One for All. Midoriya still thinks he’s worthy of One for All and will push himself to prove it.

Keep in mind, Midoriya not having an inferiority complex does not mean he isn’t sometimes humble or hard on himself. He’s not cocky. He will have moments where he doesn’t take credit for his achievements or is disappointed in himself. That’s part of human nature. 

Here, Midoriya is giving others credit for his achievements. 

When he says this, he’s not saying he doesn’t deserve to be where he is or that he’s not deserving of his Quirk. He’s simply giving people who have helped him throughout is life credit. He wants to be the number one hero for their sake as well as his own. That’s not an inferiority complex. 

During the moments Midoriya is hard on himself, it’s usually because it’s the rational conclusion, such as in the example shown below. 

All Might tells Midoriya that he can only use to five percent of his power. Midoriya reasonably thinks that doesn’t sound like a lot. Midoriya isn’t being unreasonably hard on himself or thinks he’s weak. He’s just coming to the rational conclusion based on what he knows. Midoriya knows he needs to work on controlling his Quirk without breaking his bones. Midoriya feeling like he has a lot to work on doesn’t mean he thinks he’s a lesser being or has low self-esteem. 

People having moments where they’re hard on themselves or think they can do better is normal. An inferiority complex is when those inferior feelings happen all the time whether subconsciously or not. Bakugou often feels weak, and this manifests into the angry and mean-spirited behavior we know. Bakugou always subconsciously or consciously thinks he’s weak. It’s a more general feeling rather than one that happens occasionally. Midoriya doesn’t always think he’s not good enough or not deserving. If he’s not good enough in a certain area, then he’ll come to the rational conclusion for that particular area. An inferiority complex is a general feeling of inferiority rather than the occasional moments of feeling inferior. It makes people feel like they’re worth less overall. It’s a neurotic condition, meaning people with an inferiority complex worry frequently about their inferiority, even when it’s irrational or not important. The negative attitudes at times are irrational. 

Take Momo’s inferiority complex for example. She is very sensitive to her shortcomings from the Sports Festival. She is very hard on herself for not living up to her high expectations. She even goes as far as saying she “hasn’t left behind any noteworthy results.” Even though Momo is a very rational thinker, this is a VERY harsh criticism on her part and has affected her attitude since then. 

Momo’s negative feelings about herself occur when she compares herself to Todoroki. She starts feeling not good enough and loses confidence in herself. An inferiority complex affects the general perception and behavior one has towards himself or herself. 

Her inferiority complex prevents her from speaking up about a plan because she thinks she’s not good enough to share her idea. 

She thinks so little of herself that she comes to the conclusion that if Todoroki’s plan didn’t work, then hers can’t work either. 

An inferiority complex affects the behavior of individuals. In Momo’s case, hers makes her more passive because she feels like she’s not good enough to voice her opinion. In Aoyama’s case, it makes him more self-centered in order to compensate for his inferior feelings. In Bakugou’s case, it makes him become a bully because bringing people down makes him feel more superior. 

Midoriya not having an inferior complex makes sense. Midoriya is supposed to be Bakugou’s foil. Bakugou’s weaknesses are supposed to be Midoriya’s strengths.

If both boys have an inferiority complex, then they don’t make that good of foils. While Bakugou has feelings of weakness that he lets consume him. Midoriya doesn’t let his flaws make him feel weak or insecure and tries to push himself to be number one anyway because he believes he’s worthy of being number one.

Keep in mind, not everyone with an inferiority complex lets it hold them back or has harmful ways to cope with the inferiority complex like Bakugou does. An inferiority complex is simply a constant feeling of being inadequate and not measuring up. Some people with an inferiority complex use it to improve the skills they think they lack. It can be a driving force to improve. Bakugou, in a way, has also used his inferiority complex to improve himself. Unfortunately, he also tries to handle his feelings of weakness by lashing out and bringing others down.

The worst way to cope with an inferiority complex is to develop a superiority complex from it. People with a superiority complex still have low self-esteem like others with an inferiority complex. However, they also bring down others in order to cope with their low self-esteem and end up being isolated from people as a result.

one week since u looked at me

James and LIly fight and it’s 100% the other person’s fault, and everyone is just a little bit unhinged. 

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For @expressopatronum​, who requested a jily fic based on the Barenaked Ladies song. :D


tues.

James Potter to M8S B4 D8S: well. Fuck.

James Potter: im broken up

James Potter: literally

James Potter: and metaphorically

James Potter: and every other kind of shitty ally tbh

James Potter: hello?????

James Potter: im in Crisis here

Peter Pettigrew: we know, mate. You ok?

James Potter: how??

Peter Pettigrew: well…

James Potter: she texted u???

Remus Lupin: she texted me

Peter Pettigrew: then he told us

Remus Lupin: wtf, Prongs

James Potter: u believe her???

Remus Lupin: didn’t say that, mate. Just a weird situation, yeah??

James Potter: Weird = shitty, then yea. her fault tho for being so dramatic!! And do u arseholes have a group chat w/out me???

Sirius Black: nah. y would we do smth like that to u prongs. go chill @ mine. AND i for one am being a good mate and withholding judgment. (except on evans cos shes clearly at fault here)

James Potter: damn straight she is. 100%!!! and im already @ urs, actually. where r u tho?

Sirius Black: alcohol

James Potter: Good Man

Remus Lupin: I’m getting pizza

James Potter: don’t bother?? never eating again

James Potter: PS no more talking to evans unless its for espionage

Peter Pettigrew: this should be fun

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 James Potter to Not Lovely Lily: ready for ur apology, like, whenever, babe

James Potter: no?

James Potter: sirius’s sofa is super fucking cosy, btw

James Potter: PS whatever the current differences between us, pls dont stoop so low as to eat Mums biscuits



wed.

 Lily Evans to StupidHair BigMouth: the biscuits were fucking delicious.

James Potter: WOW

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Sirius Black to squatter potter: BABE. u know i theoretically want to be sympathetic to ur emo angst. or whatever. but y the FUCK r u watching x-files at half volume at 3:37 fucking am

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Alison is A.D theory

I keep thinking about this tweet. The only people who were upset about Charlotte’s death are Alison, Archer and Mary Drake. We know that A.D is tormenting the liars into revealing the identity of Charlotte’s killer. Alison, Archer and Mary all have a motive to be A.D, however Archer is dead and Mary seems to be off the suspect list. That leaves us with Alison. If you had asked me 2 days ago who I think A.D is, Alison wouldn’t have crossed my mind. However, I’ve been re-watching Season 6 in order to find some clues and I noticed some things along the way.

(This is my first “theory” so please bare with me. If there are any mistakes, please excuse me. English is not my first language. I just want to share my thoughts)

First of all, why would she be A.D? What’s her motive? Avenging her sister’s death is a pretty solid one. It could also be something petty like “I did not sacrifice 5 years of my life trying to get someone out of a mental institution for them to get killed the minute they do. I will not accept this kind of treatment”  

Now, let’s go back to season 6. 

Remember how “shady” Alison was towards the girls in 6x12 during the dinner scenes? She practically accused Aria of being Charlotte’s killer and later implied that Spencer, Hanna and Emily were covering for her

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The first text that the girls received from A.D is “You know who did it and I’m going to make you talk” in episode 6x13. Alison sent that text. She realized that confronting the girls was useless since they wouldn’t spill anything. She also couldn’t count on the Rosewood’s Police departement to find out who Charlotte’s killer is, so she decided to take matters into her own hands.

We know that A.D has access to Charlotte’s old things (the masks, the black hoodies etc). You may think “Oh A.D must have stolen them” but what if they were given to A.D? I’m pretty sure everything Charlotte owned was given to her family (Alison) once Charlotte was locked away.

Let’s not forget that Alison was the liars’ main suspect at one point, but that all changed once Alison started getting texts from A.D too. How convenient. Alison could have easily sent those texts to herself in order to raise suspicions off of her. It’s not that far-fetched, Mona did it too back in season 2. That’s the best alibi ever.

Also notice how Alison is always on some random trips? She’s probably still in Rosewood plotting her endgame.

Alison could have been working with Archer too. They both wanted Charlotte out of the mental institution and probably teamed up when she was murdered. However Archer double crossed her once he found out that Alison lied to him about the night Charlotte was murdered. He started suspecting her too. As revenge, she tricked the girls into killing him. Why? Because Alison likes to get rid of people when she doesn’t need them anymore (Thanks for that quote Noel Khan, may you rest in peace) but also to keep her new hobby a secret.

Let’s not forget the term “AD” itself. A.D could literally just stand for Alison Dilaurentis. Let’s not forget that Andrea Parker said that Mary couldn’t be A.D because her initials aren’t “AD”

Why would she get herself pregnant with Emily’s eggs? Because she’s a sociopath who has no boundaries and trouble with gambling with other people’s lives. The liars’ are her dolls and she’s been playing with them since they were teenagers. Life is just one big game to Alison.

You may think “Oh but Alison changed during the time jump”. I honestly believe she hasn’t changed at all. For 5 YEARS, Alison stayed in Rosewood and fought for Charlotte’s freedom. It would be impossible for someone to move on and change when they relive their past when they see the person who tormented them for years every single day. You know what they say, “out of sight, out of mind”, well if they’re not out of your sight, then they clearly won’t be out of your mind

The show will reportedly come full circle. If that’s the case, then the show should end with Alison since it began with her.

refrigeratedsnakes  asked:

Lance sees his older sister in Allura and sometimes he swears she looks like her and jumbles their names together and Allura thinks hes flirting when hes calling her this strange human name when he says it by accidnet

Oh I never thought about this before. Thank you! 


Lance wasn’t exactly sure when it all started but slowly everyday he would see more and more of his older sister Cleo in Allura. 

He didn’t understand why. Maybe it was how she took control of the situation. Something that Cleo would always do, since she was the oldest. 

Maybe it was how friendly she was to the mice. Cleo was always nice to animals, making her lovable to any animal.

Maybe it was how Allura took care of all of them. Cleo usually stepped up to the plate and took care of everyone when both of Lance’s parents were at work. 

Lance couldn’t really figure out what it was. 

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“Alright paladins, please be at the training deck in 15 minuets.” 

Lance wanted to reply with the usual ‘yes princess’ however he couldn’t stop himself from thinking of Cleo. “Sure thing Cleo!” Lance slammed his hand over his mouth. He stared at Allura and he could feel his teammate stares, he quickly mumbled an apology and walked out of the kitchen. 

‘that was so embarrassing, I can’t believe I just did that. To the princess! Of all people’  Lance entered the training deck and attempted to ignore the confused looks that his teammate gave him. 

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Lance thought that, that was going to be a one time mistake, however he was sorely mistaking. 

Lance stopped counting how many times he would mess up Allura’s name with Cleo.  Allura would say an order and Lance would respond with something he would say to Cleo. He couldn’t stop no matter how hard he tried. 

Lance could also see how annoyed Allura was getting. 

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“Paladins we have a busy day ahead of us. We will be practicing flying. Lance you go with Pidge, Hunk with Kieth. Shiro you stay with me. I will need help watching how they fly.” 

“Yes princess.” Everyone,except Lance,said in unison. 

Lance of course said “Sure thing Cl-” \

“Lance.” Allura cut him off. “ I appreciate your ‘flirting’ however this is not the time to be giving me pet names. Now please get to your lion and we can continue.” 

Lance swallowed around the lump in his throat. “Yes princess.” 

*cries* 

This low key tore my heart out. 

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controversial opinion

people who are straight and cis: your friends and relatives should not be forced to choose between giving you an entire 101-level education in gender and sexuality or forever suffering through your clueless remarks/questions that, trust me, are sometimes incredibly painful, however well-intentioned you are

and they definitely should not have to spend years laying this groundwork of educating you in order to feel safe coming out to you

do. your own. research.

Even if you think you don’t know anyone who isn’t straight and cis, I guarantee you that you are wrong, and you should educate yourself so you’re not an additional burden to them before or after they come out to you. It is unfair to expect them to personally tutor you out of your cluelessness, when they’re the marginalised person and you’re the one with nothing to lose.

You have Google. Use it. And actively seek out writers who are trans and gay and bi etc and read what they have to say. Don’t rely on whatever bits of mainstream or even feminist media drift your way. Your loved ones deserve better.

Love,

someone you know who has to brace every time this topic comes up because you literally do not know how offensive you’re being, I love you but oh my god, please stop

NCT Hyung Line Reaction: s/o wearing only his shirt

NCT 127 Hyung Line reacting to their s/o only wearing his shirt *wink**wink*

Umm may contain very little bit of sexual references

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Listened to this and this while writing. (songs have nothing to do w/ the topic)


This is how it goes down or up ha

Taeil: 

Originally posted by ithastobemoontaeil

You are spending the night over at his house because you two are going somewhere the next day. Before bed you decide to shower. So as you are getting out of the shower, you notice that you forgot your PJs. Since he isn’t in his room, you go in and take one of his oversized shirts. As you are looking for a pair of sweatpants, Taeil walks in. He’s shocked and he has to double take because he can’t believe how enticing you look wearing only his shirt. 

“ugh, y/n, you look really really good like that”

Johnny: 

Originally posted by johnny-nct

Johnny is coming home after a long, tiring day of learning a new choreography. It’s late and he just wants to come home to relax with you. The first thing he sees when he steps into the house is you half naked with his shirt on. Not gonna lie, he’s a little turned on by how attractive you look. 

“y/n, are you trying to hint at something,” he says with a wink as he starts taking his clothes off starting with his jacket. 

“I’m tired though, so, y/n, you’re on top tonight” 

Taeyong

Originally posted by yoon-to-the-oh

He is laying in bed watching their comeback performance on his phone. He is too busy watching for mistakes to notice you walk in the room. 

“Taeyong, you hungry? Do you want me to order pizza?” 

You are finally able to get him to look up at you. His eyes widen a little at the sight of you. He can’t even form a proper response. So, you take that as a yes and leave to order the food. But as you leave you hear him say,

“Woah, so sexy!”

Yuta: 

Originally posted by nctuhohahyes

You are sleeping over at Yuta’s house because he claimed he wanted to watch movies with you. You hadn’t prepared extra clothes before going to his house, so he offers to let you borrow some. He tells you to wait in the bathroom while he gets the clothes. However, he returns with only one of his shirts. When you come out, he smirks at you.

“Yuta, I think you forgot the bottoms!”

He chuckles and pulls you into his side,

“Babe, you look great like this”

Later on while watching the movies he whispers in your ear,

“How about we forget about the movies”

Doyoung: 

Originally posted by dovounq

You guys are over at your house for a day together. You guys had planned to stay there and just cook, watch movies, etc. So when he arrives at your house, he is met with you wearing only his shirt.

“Hey babe, isn’t that my shirt?”

“Yeah, sorry! But I like it on me.”

“Me, too!”

Throughout your indoor date, he can’t stop himself from eyeing your legs or from thinking sexual thoughts. 

Jaehyun:

Originally posted by shutupxiumin

You and Jaehyun have the dorm at to yourselves as the boys had decided to give you two some time alone. You tell him that you are going to change into something more comfortable. He is sitting on the couch waiting for you to come back. He looks up once he notices you standing there, and his eyes widen a little. He wasn’t expecting you to come back like that, but hey he isn’t complaining. As you guys do things, like cook, he can’t help but look down at your barely covered ass but every time you turn around he looks up and smiles innocently.

“Please wear my clothes more often, babe”

Winwin: 

Originally posted by blackgirlslovebts

You are sleeping over at his place because you haven’t been able to be together since he is busy. You guys are about to go to sleep, so you decide to change into something more relaxing. So when you finally come out in his shirt, he looks away with a dust of pink appearing on his cheeks. At first he’s a little flustered and shy to look at you. However as time passes, he, like Jaehyun, sneaks glances at your ass for fap material. 

“I like how you look in my shirt, babe”

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I’m so bad at writing things that have even a little bit of sexual reference so yeah sorry this sucked. guys omg Strong Woman Do Bong Soon is so fucking good! I only have 3 more episodes left ㅠㅡㅠ. UMMM yeah anyways requests are open! have a good day/night ~

equals || peter pevensie

summary: the reader wants to duel miraz instead of having peter do it. basically peter and the reader arguing at first, and then they make up in the end. also, this is rly shitty. just a head’s up.
pairing: reader x peter pevensie
word count: 2.5k
notes: violence, girl power, also i didn’t edit this cause i’m a lazy fuck and i’m tagging @alwaysinnarnia bc she wanted to see some peter x reader :)

Originally posted by pumpkinjuice18

“You’re not fighting, (Y/N).”

“Wait, what?” you looked at Peter, bewildered and disappointed, as you shot up from your seat on his bed. “Why not?!”

“It’s too dangerous.” Peter, feeling guilty, kept his stern voice from wavering and tried his very best not to look into your eyes; the eyes that he found to be so enticingly beautiful, yet made him break every single time he saw them.

“You know that I’m better than you at wielding a sword, Peter. In fact, I’m probably better than Ed and Caspian too.” you scoffed as you walked up to your boyfriend and examined his face. You knew that Peter was very, very stubborn, but you have always despised the fact that men go to war and women don’t. You were just as head-strong as Peter, and that’s what made him so attracted to you.

“Yes, but that’s not the point, I just don’t want you fighting. Especially against Miraz.” Peter broke and finally looked into your eyes.

You let out a frustrated sigh. “I get that Peter, but why?” He remained silent as he stared past your shoulder off into the distance, pursing his lips. You rolled your eyes out of anger, as you thought of a reason why he wouldn’t let you duel Miraz. “It’s because I’m a girl isn’t it?!”

“What? No! It’s just that -” Peter furrowed his brows, confused as to why you were behaving like this.

“You’re crazy stupid if you think that I can’t fight like you and the rest of the men! Just because I’m a girl doesn’t mean I fight any worse than the whole lot of you. I just hate that men are always the ones that go out to war and that women stay at home in the kitchen their entire lives. I just- why can’t we all be treated like equals?” your voice died down to a whisper as Peter pulled you into a hug.

“It’s not that at all, (Y/N). I know this is going to sound really selfish, but I don’t want you getting hurt. Seeing you hurt just really makes me upset. And I love you, a whole lot more than you think.” He pulled away, placing a sweet kiss on your forehead in the process.

You smiled half-heartedly at him, your fiery desire to duel Miraz still burning deep within you. “And you don’t think I’d feel the same way, Peter? I can’t ever bear to see you in pain. I -”

“Please, just let me take care of this? I need to do this, I’m the High King. The Narnians rightfully  deserve their kingdom back, and I can give it to them. Please, (Y/N)?” He rubbed his nose affectionately with yours as you tried to think of a counter argument, but your mind was blank.

Pulling away from his hold, you rolled your eyes. “You, you are absolutely unbelievable, you know that?!” you angrily walked out from his room, not turning back as Peter kept calling your name, tears threatening to spill.

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Nasu: I was thinking Taiga could fill the role of “the person close to the main character who dies tragically”, so she was originally quite a mature character.

Takeuchi: It was such a long time ago that my memory is kind of fuzzy, but i think i recall aiming for a warm personality in order to make her distinct from the other heroines. Nasu seemed to like that vibe as well, so i stuck with it.

Nasu: I remember her having long hair in the rough drafts, but we decided to go with short hair in the end. The first time Takeuchi cleaned up her design, Taiga turned out looking a little childlike. It was at that point that i decided to make her the comic relief. This shift in design concept however, put an end to the whole “tragic death” scenario.

Takeuchi: Tiger Crush! Tagia has defeated Victim Archetype!!

taiga is too powerful, she defeated her own fridging.

PRODUCE101 – 10 Moments That Made Me Completely Lose My Shit

I want to forget this negativity about the final episode, and I want to start cherishing this wonderful time with Produce 101 Season 2. There were 10 moments that dumbfounded me completely. Some of them turned me into a screaming shitty fan girl, others made me burst into ridiculous laughter, and there were those moments that changed my though self into a crybaby. And yes, these are the things I want to remember when I think back on this amazing time we had with 101 fantastic trainees.

(These moments aren’t posted in a particular order.)

#1 CRYBABY JISUNG PLACES THIRD

MMO’s Jisung is best known for his bubbly and quirky personality. However, he showed after his team’s 10 Out Of 10 performance a completely new side of himself – an emotional crybaby. But when he placed third during the very first elimination episode, I completely lost my shit. I didn’t expect that. I was so touched by his happy tears… I started to cry as well. 

Originally posted by lookgoodkpop

Unfortunately, it wasn’t the last time I burst into a flood of tears because of him. And that means I basically cried more and more and more along with our MMO hyung’s emotional outbreaks. Thanks for turning me into a whiney bitch, Jisung!

#2 DONGHO FUCKS YOU WITH HIS EYES

Girls all around the world went crazy when the first team performed their Boy in Luv show. However, when the second team arrived on stage and started their own version of Boy in Luv… I completely lost my shit – within the very first seconds.

Originally posted by yourmomentofkpop

Dongho’s team hasn’t won this competition, but he won everyone’s attention with his extremely sexy expression – which also turned into his trademark. Yes, even the trainees backstage started to recognize that Kang Daddy Dongho is a sexy beast. His nickname Sexy Bandit is definitely well deserved.

#3 NO ONE’S SAVE FROM SEONHO’S LOVE

I always thought that Seonho stands in Guanlin’s shadow. He hasn’t had much screen time, and despite his handsome face, he was easily forgettable – for me. But holy shit – the last elimination episode before the final proved me so fucking wrong.

Originally posted by ong-seungwoo

He made me completely lose my shit with his incredible bromancy behavior among his hyungs – especially the bromance between him and Minhyun. Have you ever seen such a perfect maknae? As WANNA ONE’s actual maknae, I hope Guanlin carries on Seonho’s skinship work. Just do it, bro!

#4 TAEHYUN GOT THE SICKEST MOVES

My first bias of the show was Taehyun thanks to his incredible dancing skills. I wasn’t sure if he can beat his first performance during the second episode, but HELL YES… he did – and it started with just one smirk.

Originally posted by aceyng

Boom! After that the probably best dance performance of Produce 101 happened – and yes, this made me lose my shit… obviously. With Shape Of You he revealed a completely new side of himself, and stole everyone’s show. 

#5 MMO TRAINEES? MORE LIKE MMO GOSSIP SQUAD

Not exactly one of my favorite “moments” – but every single time MMO’s trainees appeared on screen during episode 1 and 2, I’ve started to lose my shit.

Originally posted by cherry-jimin

Mnet didn’t show their evaluation performance, but thankfully – they revealed a lot of their gossip during the first two episodes. Oh yeah, the MMO Gossip Squad was born. Especially Jisung shined more than anyone else with his unique kind of humor. Thank you Mnet for revealing their stupid conversations.

#6 배고파 // BAEGOPA

I already knew that Seongwoo was funny as fuck. But during the tenth episode I completely lost my shit when he introduced us to his own version of BTS’ Boy in Luv.

Originally posted by 116fanxyzihoes

What the fuck, dude? I will never be able to listen to this song with proper lyrics again. NEVER! Thanks, Seongwoo! You ruined Boy in Luv for me. Now I can’t stop laughing when this song appears on my playlist.

#7 LOSING YOUR SHIT IN FRONT OF THE QUEEN

When Mnet announced that TripleH are going to make a song for the Produce 101 trainees, everyone went full nuts. I would lose my shit as well. But when they finally arrived, the other trainees who had no chance to work with HyunA, E-Dawn and Hui couldn’t believe their eyes when they saw Korea’s current sex symbol.

Originally posted by lai-guanlin

As someone who has already seen HyunA live, I can confirm – this is exactly what happens to yourself. Your mouth opens widely, you start to drool and you probably stop breathing. However, it was so incredibly sweet to see how awkward and shy the trainees started to act when HyunA greeted them. Gosh, too cute!

#8 DANIEL THE PANTY DESTROYER

Do you think this is fun, Kang Daniel? You’ve already destroyed enough ovaries with your previous performances, but doing THIS made countless ladies probably pregnant – with or without their ovaries.

Originally posted by nctaetrash

Yes, I’ve lost my shit. I’ve lost more than my shit. I think I’ve lost my virginity for the second time. And I blame this sexy bastard (plus the other Kang) and his sensual performance during the ninth episode of Produce 101. Fuck you, Daniel! Oh, wait… fuck me! 

(This is clearly a joke, guys. I obviously still have my virginity.)

#9 SEXY BANDIT KILLS EVERYONE

Brutal force is what makes men sexy, right? Yeah… well, not really. But when Kang Dongho starts smashing – he smashes everyone. And yes, that’s actually freaking hot.

Originally posted by goddanik

The revenge for his team’s maknae Guanlin made me lose my shit, because Kang Real Namja Dongho fucked everyone. EVERYONE! No one was save during the arm wrestling competition, and no one was save during the punching contest. Sexy Bandit just killed them all.

#10 EUNKI AND JUNG JUNG’S BROMANCE DANCE

There was only one moment of Produce 101 that forced me to pause – yes, during a live stream. I’ve danced ballet and modern for a very long time, and I absolutely still have a certain connection to this kind of dance. And when Jung Jung suddenly appeared on stage and started dancing “freestyle” together with Eunki – I COMPLETELY LOST MY SHIT!

Originally posted by congstellation

Oh my God, boys! This was one of the best moments of my entire life – and I am not someone who ships boys with boys (I usually ship boys with myself). I fell in love – with Eunki, Jung Jung, the dance and Group D. Thank you, thank you so much for this perfect moment that proves that I’m the worst creep ever. Thank you!

If you want to check out my previous Produce 101 shit… yeah… here it is. I write a lot of inappropriate but also sweet stuff.

PRODUCE101 FINAL – THOUGHTS AND OVERWHELMING EMOTIONS

PRODUCE101 – HOW THE PERFECT BOY GROUP WOULD LOOK LIKE

TOP5 SEXIEST PRODUCE101 TRAINEES: #5#4#3#2#1

PRODUCE101 EPISODE 10 – FEELINGS, FRUSTRATION AND FEAR

anonymous asked:

Not being mean, I honestly want to know, what are the main tenants of ma'at everyone should follow?

So the answer to this could probably be a couple of miles long, tbh. But I’m going to try and give you guys a concise list of some of the most common themes I’ve seen over the years while reading up on ma’at. Most of this stuff comes from Karenga, Quirke and Muhlenstein. I’ve bolded the key points to help for readability.

So, to start off with…

  • Humility. You are supposed to be humble. Conversely, you’re supposed to not be arrogant or overly prideful.
  • Moderation is another common theme. This is why Set is often othered, because he lacks moderation in many respects. This is reflected in what you consume, how you respond to people, how you act, etc. I would also argue that it’s also about how you live (aka the wealth you obtain), but I don’t know that that is historically corroborated (probably not, tbh, because you were supposed to give your wealth to those who had less, and so long as you were giving back, you’d be golden afaict).
  • Giving to those who have less than you. This is commonly worded as “clothing the naked, giving a home to the homeless, a boat to the boatless, feeding the hungry, etc.” It’s about giving to those who have less than you. Egypt failed on this a lot. A lot of modern practitioners also fail on it.
  • Not being a jerk to other people. Esp. if they have less than you. It’s written in the wisdom texts that if someone who is of lesser rank than you spouts off, it’ll do you well to listen to them, but not to berate them. Leave that to someone who is of an authority to do so. This also goes back to moderation.
  • All in all, finding your place within your community, and doing what you can to help the community. This is probably because before the modern era, humans truly required their fellows to help them survive. No man was an island before the modern era, and everyone was needed to help keep everything running smoothly. Hence the emphasis on community in the here and now. This, ofc, means more than just the Kemetic community, but also the ppl you live next to. Conversely, it also seems to tie into not suffering people who would destroy your community.
  • Doing your job well, being a hard worker, having a good work ethic. Not being a cheating, swindling jerkface.
  • Self-reflection and making self-awareness and growth something of a priority. Taking the time to look at yourself and being honest with what you need to improve, and working to make improvements as you are able.
  • Maintaining the cult of the gods. This is arguably more relevant to the people whose jobs it was to do this on the regular (aka the king, priests), but it still deserves a place on the list. The gods helped us maintain Order, maintain our world. As such, it benefited us to take care of them. Conversely, if the gods weren’t fulfilling their roles, it was also within ma’at to call them on it (see my point about doing your job well) and refuse to take care of their needs until your needs (or the community’s needs) are met.

These all seem pretty self-explanatory, imo. And they are probably the most commonly sighted tenets of ma’at. The rules shift, however, when ma’at is threatened. Muhlenstein writes about this extensively in his text “Violence in the Service of Order.” In order to get a complete idea of what ma’at entails, we need to examine this side of things, too:

  • Being willing to smite isfet when it shows up. This is often referred to as “smiting Set’s confederates” or something similar. Ma’at is all about creating something, and maintaining that creation–which means defending it when necessary. So when someone shows up and tries to wreck the party, you wreck that person’s face and send them packing.
  • Once any isfet is eradicated, you are supposed to replace it with ma’at. It’s not good enough to just cut down isfet where it stands. You need to replace that void with ma’at, otherwise the isfet will return to fill the void.
  • Taking care of your community is another aspect of this. Egypt used this as an excuse to go conquesting. Pretty sure most of us know that colonialism is bad and would add in extra caveats on what is acceptable for “taking care of your own”, but from a purely historical standpoint, this meant beating down anyone who had stuff you wanted so that you could bring more resources back to your home. In a more modern context, I would argue that it means helping your fellows to succeed and to be safe. This is also more than just our Kemetic community, and should include people who are a part of your life or in-person community.
  • Protecting what you have built (usually referred to as Order, protecting Order.) This honestly is just a succinct way of saying what I said in the last three bullets.

Now, obvs, not everyone is cut out to smite isfet or help defend things on the regular. And that’s fine. However, just because you’re not able or not necessarily comfortable with it doesn’t mean that you should get in the way of those who are willing and able to do so. I think that’s honestly one of the largest issues I see in most situations. “I’m made uncomfortable by this, and therefore you shouldn’t do the thing, because I personally wouldn’t want the thing done.” Even though defending the community and those who are adherents of ma’at is part and parcel with ma’at in certain contexts.

Given how extensive ma’at is, it’s possible that I’ve missed some things, but these are probably the highlights of what comes to mind. If anyone else can think of anything I’ve missed, feel free to add.

[170430] Moonbyul’s Fancafe Reply to a Student MooMoo Who is Struggling with School & Dreams

The MooMoo’s Letter:

“I am just a Stu-Moo (Student MooMoo)”

“A student’s worry is always related to studying, isn’t it? School, cram school, home, study, sleep, school, cram school, home, study, sleep…… every day, like a running machine, I live like a hamster running on its wheel.”

“Honestly, I focus only on the results than the process. Even though the process is important, if the result turns out to be bad, it just ends up being bad anyways. In our country, people only evaluate based on your results.”

“I have a dream - to be an entertainment program host. But honestly, becoming an MC is a very unstable dream, right? It is a gambling-kind-of job in which you face a lot of failures, go through slumps easily, and will flip your life around just because of one mistake. So it is very tough for me to tell my parents that I want to become an MC.”

“I think all I need right now is some heartfelt words that can cheer me up.”

Moonbyul’s Reply:

Consolation..

Although I am not that great of a person to be able to comfort you, please receive my consolation and cheer up!

This is how I think. I believe it is most important for you to have a dream. If you have a dream, you become more positive, and because of the dream, you will be able to get back up even if you fail.

We evaluate a lot just based on the results, but in order for the results to be good, the process has to be solid too. That way, you will not fall apart.

Whenever I am struggling, it is difficult for me to think positively as well. However, I tell myself that I must think this way. Although I am having a very hard time now, I remind myself that there are people out there who are having a much harder time than I am. Run towards your dream for as far as you can, as it is something amazing and something you are capable of doing.

Cheer up!!

MB

Trans by tgc. (@tgcnim)

anonymous asked:

I have a writing-related question: I often get an idea for a character or a short scene BUT there is no plot. How can I turn such an idea into a story / plot / outline / whatever? I always get stuck at this point. Without a plan where to go, writing feels like poking in the dark with a stick, hoping to miraculously hit a gold vein. Do you have any suggestions?

see, this is tough. coming up with actual plot, if you ask me, is one of the hardest and most woolly parts of writing. everyone has their own methods, and they swear by them if they’ve been using them long enough. it’s also, in my experience, really difficult to force - so yeah, a lot of it is poking around in the dark.

HOWEVER. if i had an idea for a short scene, i would absolutely write it down, because that could end up being the seed that i’d plant to grow the rest of the story. that seed doesn’t have to be chapter 1, or the most pivotal scene. it’s literally just a place to start.

let me do a diagram. i think a diagram would help explain:

i ask myself that over and over. total edge-of-your-seat excitement

i don’t know if it’s that i write out of order, but i find the “process of discovery” can be really nonlinear:

and then, once i’m at that point, it’s just filling in gaps. what else do i need to build toward the climax? what do i need to hint or say about this character, so that something they do 5 chapters later won’t seem “out of nowhere?” things like that. questions and answers, basically.

hope this helps!

My PR, mentor and business partner are all waiting for me to get on Instagram. I’m so nervous. I’ve been hidden for years, I’m such a private person, I think in all the years I’ve been on Tumblr I prolly have roughly 6 selfies? Pathetic right? I’m just private. However in order for me to receive more opportunities I need to start putting myself out there. I’m so scared man. I know the direction I want my Instagram to flow towards, it’s going to be similar to my Tumblr, but it will focus more on my writings, personal photos, 1 min spoken word videos and just goofy shit with my loved ones to balance it all out. The longer I prolong it, the further I drift away from success. No one knows I exist and if I want to truly become a digital entrepreneur I have to change my way of thinking. I’ve grown my personal Instagram to 908k followers, just posting memes and my quotes now and then but there’s no soul there. So fucking nervous mayne. Dead ting. Help.

jungianca6  asked:

No way. No.Fucking.Way. Are... are they showing Marco's death next week?! Fuck, I already cried today, I don't want to cry next week AGHHHHHHH

Oh boy, it really looks to me that WIT studio are going there, and episode 34 will show Chapter 77 animated!

I think the biggest clue is that screengrab of Bertolt from the ep. 34 preview. His expression is identical to this one seen in ch. 77; and if you look closely at the background in the episode preview, those clearly look like buildings (similar to those in Trost) rather than a forest of big trees.

I’m still not in agreement about moving this scene so far forward in the anime. I like it’s placement in the manga; it really contributes to Bertolt’s character development in the Return to Shiganshina story arc. However, this scene will make sense in the context of ep. 34.

We’ve already had flashbacks of Marco and Annie this season, so it doesn’t feel out of place to have another flashback with them included again. Additionally, I think they’re including this flashback now to make Reiner’s dissociative disorder more clear to anime-only viewers.

Whilst I’m not a fan of them changing the order of the manga, I still can’t wait for ep. 34. Next week can’t get here soon enough!

[Pretends to crack knuckles]

Welcome to a new series that I’m lamely calling “The Legend of Meta”, because boy howdy, I sure have a lot of things to say on a lot of characters and about Breath of the Wild in general.. And I’m bad with naming things. I love writing meta (aka long ramblings) and the zelda series is my heart and soul, so why not make a series right? None of this is #confirmed by Nintendo, none of it is #official, merely my own thoughts and opinions.

If sonicmega finds this I’m gonna kick my own ass tbh I love him, great dude, great VA, but listen ok I don’t need him knowing I spent more hours than I’m willing to admit thinking about every little detail about his character. That’s just weird.

Word Count: 5031
Estimated Reading Time: 24 minutes, 51 seconds
Series: 1 of ?

Anyways, this post will contain spoilers from here on! Even the link!

Here is the complete dialogue script for Revali for your convenience!

So as you can plainly tell by the title card, I’m going to be starting off with our well known local bird and arrogant friend, Revali. I’ve seen a wide spread love, and wide spread hate rather quite equally for this character, and quite honestly? I can understand it. From what we are given in game, Revali is a self-absorbed, arrogant and rather downright rude Rito, but seemingly only to you, to Link. Many find this to be annoying, and many find it to be relatable, comical even! Which is fine, do what makes you happy! But as a rhetorical question, how many have you truly thought on his character?

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“Fear Rules” in Polyamory

Some of my thoughts on:

Using “fear rules” as steppingstones for letting go of socially constructed thinking about control in a relationship…


What is a fear rule? 

“Fear Rules” (as I call them) are those knit picky little rules that we demand or require (usually) at the beginning of our journey into polyamory… It is often something along the lines of, “OK you can have sex with anybody you want but not on the third Wednesday of the month when it’s a full moon and never ever in OUR marital bed!”

Okay, okay… so maybe not that first part, but in my experience personally… my “ fear rule” was: “No sex in the marital bed!

I had decided that my partner could have sex anywhere else in the entire world, just NOT in that one super special sacred space.

There wasn’t anything special about my Target bought mattress and moderately price sheets. What this was really about was me needing to establish some sort of control over what was happening because that element of control, however tedious, made me feel like I was involved in what my partner was off doing without me… it was a tool to help ME feel like I still was in charge. It was as if, through this “fear rule” nothing could be truly taken away from me.

 Queen Lolita has made her demands known and god help anyone who would dare break this rule…

But what that rule really was, was me scared out of my goddamn mind.

 I was scared I was gonna lose control, I was scared I was going to lose my partner, I was scared everything was going to crash and burn in a fiery death of hell flames…

Of course I didn’t know that at the time!

I actually thought I was advanced! I thought I had grasped polyamory! I was happy and experienced and doing everything right…look at me I’m a progressive poly person letting my partner go of and be with someone else!

But really, at the root of everything, I wasn’t ready yet.

I had to SEE what this “fear rule” really was at the root. And identify my very valid fear and express it to my partner so we could work past it as a team. And realizing that, took some time.

Eventually my partner and I realized the rule wasn’t something we could easily work around. We honestly needed to use the bed when we had partners over out of sheer comfort, for goodness sake, and so though a bit of struggle, we finally agreed to let the rule go… We didn’t get to that place of “letting go” until we were both able to talk about what we were really afraid of - If someone else sleeps in “OUR” bed will it take away from how special the bed is to us as a couple since it’s only ever been us too?! – Well certainly not. My partner and I were not represented by some silly bed. What WE had was special regardless of this material thing we were holding on to… and that discovery, that was the first step in letting go of the “fear rule” because we grew together by discussing the root fear and getting past it together.

And don’t think just because you’re a “seasoned” polyamorist, that you’re out of the woods: 

When new deeper relationships or different relationships are established, even the most seasoned polyamorous individuals will find themselves taking steps backwards into those “fear rules” in order to re-establish a sense of comfort.

I’ve learned however, that the further into polyamorous experience you get the quicker you return to not using “fear rules” as a crutch because we learn through these experiences just how beneficial it is to say “Stop! I’m feeling scared… I’m feeling uncomfortable… I need to sit down with you and work on this as a team”

Fear Rules are helpful in that they give us some of those very first clues that we need to investigate what we are feeling and communicate them to our partner(s) so that, together, we can move forward with everyone truly feeling okay!

I’m not saying some rules (or even “fear rules”) are not needed in a poly dynamic, each of your own unique relationships will have different needs. What I’m saying is, perhaps make sure you’re all taking the time to investigate where the rules are rooting from to make sure there isn’t an underline fear or insecurity that the rules are coming from.

What are/were some of your “fear rules”?!

 I’d love to hear what others have experienced!

<3 Lolita

They Wanna Make Me Their Queen

( Prompt: princess diaries style “I grew up not knowing I was royal and suddenly my royal grandparent showed up out of nowhere and told me I was so now I guess I’m the heir to the throne and you’re my crush from my pre-royal days but I still have a crush on you” AU ) 

PART 3

A/N: So my crush talked to me today ( it was just a simple hello but I DIED ), and I died again when I saw Tom Holland strip down to his boxers in that new trailer. My friends are probably sick and tired of hearing about me rant about Tom Holland’s abs and my new husband, Matt Murdock.

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As it turns out, you don’t have to worry about keeping secrets from your friends for long.

After about a month of gruelling ‘after-school’ sessions with an endless string of tutors, of having to come up with flimsy excuses for cancelling on outings and get-togethers, of having to tough out the agony of avoiding Peter’s soft and concerned eyes that beg you to tell him what’s wrong, the paparazzi snap pictures of you and your grandmother having afternoon tea in the Hilton. They’d put two and two together, and before you could say, “I have a crush on Peter Parker”, pictures of you are splashed all over the front page.

Your phone’s been buzzing non-stop, but you’ve been ignoring the messages and missed calls – Did you even know fifty people from Midtown High? – too focused on your very furious grandmother, who’s been pacing the room, a wild animal in cage. Peter’s face, coupled with his adorable smile, flashes across your screen for the tenth time; you flip your phone over so that you won’t have to see his picture.

“Grandmother, I’m sorry,” You apologise meekly. “This is my fault.”

Throwing the papers aside with an impatient huff, your grandmother rounds on you, her eyes fierce and piercing. You almost regret having said anything.

“Silly child,” She says, her tone warm and exasperated all at once. “How on earth is it your fault? It’s the damn press –”

You’ve never heard her swear before. It makes you giggle.

“Frankly, I’m surprised that we’ve been able to keep you out of the public eye for so long.” She shakes her head, deep in thought. “But now that the – How do you say – dog’s out of the kennel, we’ll just have to make the most of things.”

“What’s going to happen to my baby?” Your mother demands, going into full mother-bear mode, her voice holding an edge of protectiveness to it. “Is (Y/n) going to be safe?”

(M/n), I assure you that precautions are being taken, even as we speak. There will be increased security –”

You’re sure your face turns pale at the thought of having a team of beefy bodyguards on your heels 24/7.

“– We’ll enroll her in some self-defense classes, we’ll get her a Taser, some pepper spray … Whatever’s necessary. I swear on the Crown of Serangoon that I will do anything and everything in my power to keep (Y/n) safe.” Grandmother sighs then, having gotten it out of her system, and continues. “However, I think a press conference is in order. We’ll have to introduce (Y/n) to the public officially, and the date of Coronation Day will have to be pushed forward –”

Your mother and grandmother launch into a deep and lengthy conversation about banquets, fittings, classes. And all you can do is sit there, your head spinning, a satellite out of orbit.

At least you don’t faint this time. 

It’s progress, at least, you think.


You walk into school the next day, and nearly run out screaming for Stanley to take you back home, press camped outside the school be damned.

Stanley had had to muscle his way through about three feet of screaming paparazzi pressing themselves onto you from all directions, screaming out their questions, the camera flashes blinding and searing themselves into your retinas.

Everyone wants a piece of you, it seems. Kids goggle at you when you walk down the halls; in addition to the news article, there had been a news report filled with pictures of you: From a smiley, gap-toothed, pig-tailed (Y/n) to a teenaged (Y/n), smashing her cheek with Peter, clowning about for the camera. The press had raided your Snapchat, Instagram and Facebook accounts, it seemed. You’d had the misfortune of seeing the report at a diner, but the fortune of having Stanley and his limo nearby; you’d ran out before anyone could identify you.

Kids you barely know, have barely talked to in the past year – nerds, jocks, Queen Bees – all stop to talk to you. A year ago, you wouldn’t have been breathing the same air as them; but now, all everyone wants is to talk to you, to ask for your autograph, to invite you to parties.

Worse, your friends are slipping away. You manage to wave to Michelle only once, in a corridor, surrounded by your new fan club. She doesn’t return it. Her eyes are huge and dark and accusing, all at once. As for Peter – he’s taken to spending time with Ned, and he can’t quite look you in the eyes, even when you try to catch his gaze. 

You know that you have a whole lot of apologizing and explaining to do, but how can you possibly start if your friends have already decided that they want nothing to do with you? To avoid encountering Peter, you bury yourself in your phone and hurry away. Every instance leaves you with a frigid soreness buried so deep inside that no amount of heat could wring it out.

On second thought, you accept that party invitation.


You’re wearing a slim black Costume National sheath dress, a strand of pearls around your neck. Your hair is neat, your face made up with a thick layer of makeup. You look like you’re a famous model – or a princess – and you can feel the press staring at you as you walk into the room with Grandmother.

You’d caved, had tried to dial Peter on your cell phone with trembling fingers, but it’d gone straight to voicemail. You try not to think it’s because he hates you.

Grandmother handles the interview like a pro. Public speaking is not your forte – there had been an unfortunate incident in the fourth grade involving a judging panel at the annual talent show, and the front row of students being covered in vomit. All you have to do is fix a vapid smile onto your glossed lips, sitting stiffly between your mother and grandmother.

“Princess (Y/n),” Someone’s saying your name now, and you immediately glance up, more than a little startled at being addressed. “We’ve received pictures of you and a boy identified as Peter Parker. Is he your boyfriend?”

Your hands are shaking. Your knuckles are white when you ball them up into fists. You might have a security detail, a whole armoury of weapons and weekly self-defense classes, but Peter, Ned and Michelle don’t. If you’re not careful, someone could hurt them to get to you. 

And you don’t think you could live with yourself if it did happen.

Protect your friends, only to lose them … Or disregard their safety for your own selfishness?

It’s not even a choice.

Your mouth is dry. You have to practically force the words out of your mouth. “No. No, they – Peter was just a … He’s not important. None of them are.”

The moment the lie leaves your lips, you want to scream. You want to take all your words back.

But you can’t.

❝ I’ve to thank We Got Married ❞

Plot: You and Jaebum were a “fake” couple on We Got Married. You two were filming and he was waiting for you into a coffe shop. It’s started to rain and you became all wet; Because of the script he couldn’t take care of you the way he wanted to, you secretly love each other; and after you were done, you two decided to stay alone and with his warm actions he gave you hints how much he cared about you.

Paring: JaebumxReader 

Words count: 2,1k+

Genre: Fluffy

For our @bulletproofself, I hope you like it cutie! M. ♥

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“Damn, damn, damn!”  

Your voice was lost in the sound of the rain, while you kept running towards the Café where you knew Jaebum was waiting for you.  

The cameras were with you, completely surprised from the sudden downpour that seemed to have affected the entire city at that time.  

“Run Y/N, run!” They continued to yell, but run without being able to see much because of rain was not easy.  

The only consolation was that soon you would have seen your “fake” husband", for whom you secretly had begun to develop feelings many weeks before.  

Now it was three months that you two took part in that program and staying in close touch with him helped you to see an awful lot about him.  

The must you know him and more your feelings grew.  

Meanwhile, he was waiting, trying to remember the script he had read earlier, starting to worry seeing the weather raging outside the small and cozy cafes.  

“She’s coming?” He asked at one of the crew and a small nod of assent reassured him slightly, although not entirely.  

It was not until the door bell, the notice that someone had just entered, to reassure him.  

For the first five seconds.  

You were standing in front of the door, dripping everywhere and being sorry to be in that condition despite your attempts to run as fast as you can.  

“Fuck… Y/N ” He swore under his breath, he didn’t want to be heard by the cameras, forcing himself to remain in place because it was what the script told him to do.  

The sincere moments in that program were few and he began to be tired, wanted to be more free. More honest, especially towards you.  

“I’m Sorry… The rain caught me off guard. ” You excused yourself, rushing toward the table and sitting in front of him, completely embarrassed.  

The blush on your cheeks was due to your outfit or at least was what you kept telling yourself mentally. The truth was that even just see him led to you the famous “butterflies in the stomach”.  

“An umbrella?” He asked, trying to stay lowkey, having to bite the inside of his cheek to ask not more.  

“Oh, Jae! The weather forecast had put nice weather. NICE. WEATHER. What do I know, huh? ” You snorted, getting off your jacket that was completely water soup; “If I were psychic, I could have predicted!”  

“Yes, okay. I order you something hot. ”  

“Shouldn’t we carry out the proof of this day?”  

“The proof of this day is to not kill each other.”  

“BUT IT’S HARD!” Your voice went up by some eighth, making the crew laugh but causing to you, albeit only mentally, a curse long few minutes.  

You hated having to pretend, you were so simple compared to the image that that program was giving you, you were afraid that Jaebum really thinks of you as an airhead girl.  

“You know that however, they ship us?”  

“Really? They can see or just pretend to be blind?” He asked upset, making a nod to the waitress who immediately came up to take his order.  

He knew your tastes, although you wouldn’t think possible, and when he ordered a latte with a sprinkle of cinnamon you don’t do anything but smile. Smile immediately framed by cameras, afraid to miss any of your reactions.  

While he ordered you tried to fix the mess that was your hair and definitely your face, but you ignored the makeup that imagined being smeared. You picked up your hair into a high bun, although some subtle strands of hair fell over your shoulders and continued to soak your shirt, just slightly moist because that had been covered by the jacket.  

“Husband?” You called him out, causing him to turn with a sigh.  

“Tell Me, Y/N”  

“Am I so horrible..?”  

“You look like a clown, look.” He gave you the sugar container, a reflective surface in metal and you had to keep from screaming. You were really a clown. “So stop saying I’m lying when I say that you snore, I always tell the truth.”  

“I DON’T SNORE, JAEBUM!!”  

“Whatever.”  

               ___ 

“Finished!”  

The scream of the Director caused a wave of joy in the entire crew, which began to disassemble all the cameras and gear. A small sigh of relief left your lips, while the cold that made you company for more than two hours seemed to be your second skin. The only thing you ever wanted was to go home and take a long, hot bath.  

“Will you stay here?”  

You were ready to get up when the sweet voice of Jaebum do you froze instantly, almost glued you to the chair. If he asked you, you would have even spent all day and night with him.  

“Obviously, it makes me really happy.”  

After nearly ten minutes the crew had finally gone and you guys were totally alone. There was a change into the atmosphere, in both of you, almost as if the absence of all those people took a huge weight off your shoulders.  

“Wait..” He said, taking his jacket off and handing it out from above the table. “You must be cold, isn’t it?”  

“Hell ya, I feel like a popsicle,” You admitted, and thank him with a shy smile but refusing his jacket. “But I’m still a little damp, I don’t want to get it wet.. and my hair still dripping, I don’t know how it’s possible but they do. ”  

“Y/N don’t be stubborn.”  

“But I don’t kno–” you began to say when he got up from his chair and wrapped his jacket around your shoulders, so as to cover you completely. “It’s huge.” You whispered.  

“You’re tiny, it couldn’t get close. But it looks good on you. ”  

“T-Thanks!”  

“You could use tea, you know?”  

“I don’t really like..”  You confessed, biting your lower lip while he was addressing a look upset to you. “What!?”  

“Thè can help you.”  

“Have I to drink it..?”  

“I just want you to warm up a bit, Y/N”  

The sweetness in his voice was able to warm you up more than any hot drink, but with a small nod you accepted his request.  

His jacket smelled good and was hot, then you tightened it savoring that little moment of calm.  

“Isn’t it warm?? Do you want me to take a sweater? Jinyoung always leaves a spare one into the car. ”  

“I’m fine Jaebum so, don’t worry. Today you’re nicer than usual. ” You pointed out, finding that loving side amazingly cute.  

“Don’t… That’s, you can get sick and I don’t want your bandmates to kill me because their leader got sick. ” Almost coughed out those words, covering his mouth with his clenched fist and making you smile amused. “Then I must bear your presence too because this week we have to record every day.”  

“Hell.. It’s true. ”  

“Did you have different programs?”  

“Honestly? I wanted to go to see my parents, I haven’t seen them in almost a year. ”  

You had lied to everyone for months, saying you saw your parents regularly, realizing only then the huge mess you were combined. His eyes had become to slightly bored, because of the shooting, a visibly worried.  

And you understood thanks to a small wrinkle had formed between his eyebrows and his mouth was folded into an annoyed scowl, that at that time you wanted to drive off with a kiss.  

“What..?”  

“You lied to me. Last week you told me that you went to your parents on weekend ”  

“Oops…? I just don’t want to worry anyone. I’m fine… ”  

“Bullshit. Now drink your tea, then I’ll take you to the dorm. You take a hot shower, I’ll wait and then take to your parents. ”  

“In Busan?”  

“My schedule is free tomorrow. ” He admitted with a tone of defiance, folding his arms across his chest and looking into your eyes waiting for your retort.  

But you didn’t know what to say because nobody had treated you as he was doing. You stayed in silence, looking down on your hands folded on a table and only when the waitress arrived with your tea, you raised your eyes and thank her with a slight smile.  

“Y/N?”  

“Huh?”  

“Sit next to me, so you’re more sheltered from gusts of wind coming from the door.” He almost ordered and slid your cup on the table, put next to his now empty.  

You looked upset, trying to decipher his behavior. “So?” He asked bossy, pointing to the spot next to him on the sofa.  

You snorted but immediately went to sit next to him, but keeping yourself a few centimeters away. You didn’t want him to get wet and especially to feel you shaking because of the cold you felt. 

“Maid?? Do you have a towel? ” He asked yelling to the waitress, who immediately nodded and returned shortly afterward with a towel itself.  

She handed it to him, you were committed to sip your tea and ignore it when your eyes were blinded and a rough fabric stroked your face.  

“What!?”  

“Be quiet, I’m drying your hair. Let me get this rubber band… I got it. ”  

That was no longer an ordinary afternoon, it was turning into an episode of one of those dramas that you used to see at in your spare time.  

His hands were moving up on your hair, rubbing the towel and dry off your hair as best as he could. If you will get sick, even though you couldn’t have known, he wouldn’t forgive him for anything in the world.  

“Jae?”  

“Huh? I’m almost done.”  

“Can I ask you something?”  

“I’m listening, but please… Not something stupid like your usual. ” He took it playfully around, lifting your face by placing two fingers under your chin.  

Despite the towel you got to see his smile, that smile you liked so much, forget for a moment what you wanted to ask him.  

“Y/N… What did you want to ask me? ”  

“Why are you doing this?” It was your question, honest and sincere, which caused him to freeze instantly.  

He didn’t want to find himself like that but unwittingly he was acting like a guy with a huge crush.  

“I..”  

“You?”  

“I don’t want you to get sick.” He muttered shyly, avoiding your gaze and finally removing the towel.  

At that moment you looked around, there were basically just you two and the waitress in the coffee shop because the storm that continued to hit the city. And that was the perfect moment to act.  

Clutching the collar of his shirt you moved him towards you and just touched his lips, so innocent and clumsy.  

It was your first kiss and it was a simple snap of lips, but you didn’t care much. It was with Jaebum, the first guy that you were in love so for you was still perfect.  

His expression turned upside down, however, made you think to be just a fool to think he felt something for you and now working with him would be a thousand times more awkward.  

“I.. S-Sorry J-Jae..” You stammered, loosening the grip on his shirt; “I’m sorry, r-really sorry.”  

“Why?”  

“W-Well … I didn’t mean to put you on e-embarrassment … ” Your voice was trembling, as much as you were at that time.  

You were about to leave when he leaned his hand behind your neck, into your hair now almost dry, drawing you towards him and resting his lips to yours.  

His approach was so completely different than yours. His lips were firm into yours and he took to kiss you gently but with desire.  

It seemed like his lips were longing for, as much as yours wanted the same thing.  

The kiss lasted, however, too little because, after a few seconds, you saw him get away but put his forehead against yours, without ceasing to smile even for a second.  

“I think this program will become more interesting from today.”  He blinked with an amused tone.  

“Wh-Why?”  

“You’re not my wife actually, but my feelings are real Y/N”. He whispered, his lips grazing again yours albeit in a mild and delicate way. “I’ve to thank We Got Married then… And I thought I would totally hate my future wife. ”  

“You were lucky, Im Jaebum.”  

“Damn lucky, Y/N”.