how-we-react

anonymous asked:

How do we release our attachment to the pain we have experienced?

The past is just that, it’s in the past. So it cannot be changed, altered, or removed no matter how hard we want it to. Past, present, or future events or situations will always be positive, negative, or neutral. As a situation is happening, depending on how we react and respond, can change it to any of the three outcomes (positive, negative, or neutral).

To handle past events, there is only one thing we can and should do to “remove” or release our pain from it - acceptance. Because there is nothing we can do about the past, there is no need to constantly dwell on it and wishing on the should have’s and but’s and if only’s.

The best we can do is meditate on the painful experience, accept it and accept that there will be no change in it, and move on. By dwelling on the past like that, we would be missing out on happy and peaceful moments in the present. Meditating on the situation and accepting it might take several sessions, but it will get easier to accept and let go.


Smile and be well!

anonymous asked:

What's your head canon on how stydia deals with jealousy?

ohhh this is a gooood question.

So before they’re dating ( we saw how they reacted in canon ).

Stiles didn’t try to break her relationships, he wasn’t like “Lydia, I can treat you better, leave him and be with me”.  He loved her from afar, he wanted her happy with him or without him. he didn’t pressure her and I love him for that,

Lydia hid her jealousy and she was subtle, you can see it on her face but she doesn’t talk about it she also didn’t try to ruin Stiles relationship. I LOVE MY BABIES, THEY’RE SO RESPECTFUL. 

Now when they’re dating. 

I think Stiles would be glaring at any man who comes near Lydia, he trust her but doesn’t trust the men.

And if Lydia saw a girl flirting with Stiles should would totally go to Stiles and kisses the shit out of him in front of the girl, and stiles would be smirking as he kisses the shit out of her back.

anonymous asked:

I'm sure Leah doesn't mind matt bc he is fake with her for Amber and cameras.But I highly doubt she loves him&he's like a best friend to her. Leah seems very aware of things so I think she pretends to like him much more than she does bc she knows it will make Amber happy (we saw how Amber reacts in front of Leah when she isn't happy - Xmas ornament convo) However Leah probably feels like "that's moms fiancé, he's fine" &will have natural questions about him leaving but ultimately wont care much

I think that’s likely.

S4 Inconsistences

I know we’re already discussed a ton of times how S4 doesn’t make sense (specially TFP) but I wanted to make it even more clear, and explain with this why to me S4 (and again, specially TFP) is fake and why there must be something more to explain all of these inconsistences. I understand there could be continuity errors or some things that they could have not noticed, with such big projects there’s always this kind of things, it can happen, but please look at this:

1) We’re told in ASIB what happens when a person falls from Baker Street window

And then in TFP is just like:

??? Ok Mark, sure!

2) In HLV we clearly saw how a gunshot looks like

But then in TST is like:

What was that? seriously! Why is the blood coming out like that?? Why is Mary flying? 

3) In TGG we’re shown how how a flat explosion looks like 

But then in TFP we get this:

(sorry for the shitty quality but this gif was long af D:) But the wall, them and Mrs. Hudson are perfectly ok. 

4) In TGG we saw how Sherlock reacts when John is in danger and has to save him

But then in TFP we get….this?

WTF Sherlock, mate??? He’s gonna drown! *SIGH*

5) In TRF we painfully see how John reacts when he knows he’s about to see a beloved person die

And yeah, in TST he’s like:

He looks like he was waiting for her to die fgs!!

If you come up with more examples please tell me and I’ll gladly gif them.

I’ll tag some people under the cut, if you want me to untag you please tell me

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We all face difficult times.
But what matters is how we react to it. 
And this is where our upbringing comes into play.
—  to be kind: we have to be taught kindness // @abillionlittlethoughts #dailythought
The Truth About Life …

1. Things never, ever go according to your plan

2. You’ll always meet with unexpected snags and obstacles

3. Not everyone will like you, or want to be your friend

4. We all lose motivation and want to ditch our dreams

5. Success is transitory – the happiness will pass

6. We all get disappointed and let down by our friends

7. But attitude is everything – we choose how to react

8. There’s always something good, if we will only look for it

9. There are those who “play it forward”, and who’re helpful, warm and kind

10. And life is full of chances, new beginnings and fresh starts.

The Moon

Glyph ( ☽ )

Ruler of Cancer
Exalted in Taurus
Detriment in Capricorn
Fall in Scorpio

Time Spent in a Sign: 2 ½ Days

Mythology behind the Moon
Often associated with femininity, the Moon is symbolic of many things. In popular culture, the Moon is associated with emotions and it is believed that Full Moons have a strong effect over us, inspiring the folklore behind werewolves. In Roman Mythology, the Moon was represented by Luna, Goddess of the Moon (and others). In Greek Mythology, Artemis was not only Goddess of Hunt, but also Goddess of the Moon. In many ancient cultures, the Moon has always been female and was representative of fertilization, emotions and the Mother or other female figures.

The Moon in Astrology
No one knows you better than you know yourself. People see your Sun sign, but know nothing of your Moon sign. The Moon is the deepest part of us and is ruler of our emotions, our “deeper” personality, our soul. It is an extremely important luminary in our charts. How we feel, approach and react to things is determined by our Moon sign. What we need in order to feel secure is usually determined by the Moon sign as well. We all feel things differently, we take things in differently and react to them differently too. All of which is determined by your Moon sign. So how do we express our Moon sign?

Moon in Aries
People with their Moon in Aries can’t help but feel their emotions aggressively. It is harder for the Moon in Aries to hold things back because of the impulsive and direct nature of Aries itself.

Moon in Taurus
The Moon is exalted in Taurus. People with their Moon in Taurus usually have a leash on their emotions. They aim for stability and they are not ones to react quickly to their emotions, but they do so with good reason.

Moon in Gemini
People with their Moon in Gemini can fluctuate constantly with their emotions. They would much rather verbalize how they’re feeling and they do so in a humorous or rather dramatic way.

Moon in Cancer
The Moon is domicile in Cancer. People with their Moon in Cancer are emotionally self aware. They don’t hold their emotions back much and because of this they do rather well in being able to empathize with people.

Moon in Leo
People with their Moon in Leo feel their emotions dramatically. They can’t help but to feel things on a grand scale that it can be overwhelming for them, but because of this they are self aware people.

Moon in Virgo
People with their Moon in Virgo can be pessimistic towards things. They are usually highly aware of what’s happening around them and it can cause them to be a little high strung, but they are helpful with others because of the reality they always face.

Moon in Libra
People with their Moon in Libra find the beauty in things and other people easier compared to other Moon signs. They are romantics at heart, compassionate towards others and know how to keep their cool in a crisis.

Moon in Scorpio
The Moon is in fall in Scorpio. People with their Moon in Scorpio feel things intensely. They can’t help but to be strongly tied to their emotions, but they do a rather good job of hiding them.

Moon in Sagittarius
People with their Moon in Sagittarius feel things strongly. They are good hearted, generally optimists and they look for a good time no matter the situation presented.

Moon in Capricorn
The Moon is in detriment in Capricorn. People with their Moon in Capricorn are masters at hiding their emotions. They are tough and cool in a crisis, but may not be so good at emotionally comforting others.

Moon in Aquarius
People with their Moon in Aquarius can be detached with their emotions. They have to really process and internalize their emotions before expressing them because the last thing they want to do is make a fool out of themselves.

Moon in Pisces
People with their Moon in Pisces feel the deepest of them all. They have to be cautious about who they hang around with because of quickly they absorb the energy around them. Too much negative energy can consume and overwhelm them to a breaking point.

So Anti’s back. Time to hyperfocus

Today’s episode of Hyperfocus is on what Anti says.

So for any of you who are extremely confused (I was too until I did some hardcore searching), Anti made his grand return in the intro for Jack’s PAX East panel. The reason you may be seeing so many phone- recorded videos is because Jack told people to record it on their phones. But… Was it Jack?

We’ll get to that in a minute.

First, let’s start with Anti’s first words, a voiceover on nothing. Did you miss me?” 

Sound familiar? Oh, yeah.

Dark said it when he came back. I’m willing to bet Anti got similar reactions. I, at least, reacted the same way for both: a little flailing, a little fangirling, and repeating, “Yes, yes I did.”

Next: 

“Look at you all just sitting there, you all thought I was gone. Not worrying about anything. You all thought I was gone, but I’ve been here this entire time, keeping an eye on things.”

Anti, like Dark, wants us to pay attention. The difference here is that while Dark feeds off our attention and needs it (see: “You just need to let me in”), Anti simply craves the attention. As soon as the spotlight was off of him, he got jealous. He lashed out, because he wants to be seen again.

And when he says “I’ve been here this entire time,” that goes along with a lot of theories centered around the idea that Anti really did get rid of Jack on Halloween, and that Anti has just been pretending this entire time. Every glitch and Anti sighting between then and now has been Jack trying to get our attention.

Anti insults us. “Look at you all just sitting there.” He makes us feel at fault. He says we should have been worried. Flashback to Halloween, when he says “This is your fault.” He blames us. 

But he’s been here the entire time, which leads me back to what I said above about Jack telling us to record with our phones. Was it Jack? My theory is, no. If Anti claims to have been here this entire time, there has not been a single moment that it has been Jack since before Halloween. 

Moreover, I think Anti wanted a record of his reappearance, but in a chaotic way. This wasn’t in a video uploaded to Jack’s channel, it was an intro to a live event. Multiple people record this on their phones and share it on Tumblr, and the entire fandom is thrown into confusion and chaos.

Yeah, I’m pretty sure it was Anti.

“You stopped paying attention. Well, I hope you’re happy. You’ve found someone new. You threw me aside. Someone to replace me.”

Again, Dark.

I wanted Dark and Anti to get along, but this right here makes me think that if they ever did meet, it would not be good.

Dark said he’d been “Pushed aside, replaced, mocked.” Most people agree that he was referring to Anti here. Anti had been getting most of the attention, and Dark was a little mad about it. But when Dark got to us, when we let him in on Valentine’s, it satiated his need for attention. He believed that he wouldn’t have to deal with Anti anymore, because he came back.

Anti, on the other hand, not only said “Betrayal, neglect, mistake,” he also said this very cryptic little phrase: “cheap imitator.” 

Most people, again, agree that after Dark came back, Anti got jealous once again. But instead of saying he’d been pushed aside, replaced, and mocked, he’d been betrayed and neglected. By us. He believes that by even looking at Dark, we’ve betrayed and neglected him. He calls Dark a mistake, and a cheap imitator. Not good.

But then this. “You’ve found someone new. You threw me aside. Someone to replace me.”

Again, the only thing I could imagine he is talking about is Dark. We turned to Dark, and Anti is not happy.

“I’m not going anywhere. I’m always there, always watching. You can’t get rid of me.”

This goes back to above, where Anti says he’s always been there. Not much else to say about this, other than he’s always watching.

He sees everything we do. How we react to him, how we react to Dark. He sees every little headcanon we cook up. And he really doesn’t care what we say. Like Fall Out Boy said, “I don’t care what you think as long as it’s about me.”

Here’s a big difference between Anti and Dark. Dark needs us to trust him and even like him for his plans to play out. Anti, on the other hand, just wants us to watch. He doesn’t care about controlling us, because he believes he can do anything on his own. We can’t get rid of him. When he says that, he shows that he truly doesn’t care what we think as long as we pay more attention to him than Dark.

Enjoy the show.”

The first thing that popped into my head was Mark’s Raspy Hill video, which was arguably an early Darkiplier appearance. Although it isn’t canonical or acknowledged by Mark, we all kind of understand it to be Dark. (Sidenote, even back then, before Dark had concrete characteristics, we can still see him trying to make us trust him. More on that if you want it. Hmu.) In that video, Dark says, “Enjoy your stay.”

Enjoy is the key word here. I don’t think either Dark or Anti truly meant that they want us to enjoy in the common sense of the word. They meant to pay attention, and don’t try to leave. No matter what, the show is going to be worth watching.

Edit: I’ve been reminded of Natewantstobattle’s Sister Location song “Enjoy the Show” featuring Jack and HOW COULD I FORGET. And, yeah, maybe Anti threw that little reference in there for kicks and giggles. Anti likes showing up in horror games, doesn’t he? I highly doubt that Anti was making direct reference to Dark, and it’s entirely possible that he was referencing the song “Enjoy the Show,” but at this point it’s impossible to separate Anti and Dark completely. There is undeniable interaction between the two.

~

Oh, and the sliced neck? Yeah, kind of confirms that Jack is gone. Anti has been in control since Halloween. 

And the gauges? Most likely a canonical character trait. Makes Anti edgier.

just because someone doesn’t have “real problems” which, in itself, is debatable, doesn’t mean they don’t have real reactions. and how we react, physically and/or emotionally, makes all the difference. you’re not better than someone just because you were built to react better to certain situations. we were just made differently. being sensitive doesn’t make you weak.

It is your story and we need to respect that.

This is for all those creators, animators, voice actors and everyone involved with the making of a story that is a show, a book, a comic book, a manga and/or a movie (to name a few)…


 Recently, someone took pictures while on a tour in Studio Mir. those pictures belong to DreamWorks and the Voltron Legendary Defender creators. After the poor person, posted them, they went viral within the VLD Community. Soon,they were  being contacted by Studio Mir to take those pictures down, due to legal reasons involving DreamWorks.

And this person did their best. Never in my lifetime have i seen so many people coming together to delete all those pictures from tumblr, twitter instagram etc….

And we got victory.

But of course the victory was short lived.


It started with one person. A person who, claimed they loved the romantic ship of Keith and Lance from Voltron Legendary Defender, and kept on posting those pictures all the while saying to Studio Mir,  ‘I won’t take them down unless you confirm Klance Canon’.

(i.e the ‘ship’ name of Keith and Lance.)

People started to say so many things about this person as in:

“They hate Klance and are making us shippers look bad!”

or: “They aren’t even in the Voltron fandom, they are just here being a troll (aka, nuisance)!”

To be honest, it doesn’t matter who they ship, why they did this or if they even are in the fandom. What matters here most is 1) all the people who have planned out the story of VLD and who are now, getting either, discouraged by how these so called ‘fans’ are acting or are rolling their eyes at us. And 2) The consequences Studio Mir can face due to this once small accident.

And with this one idea from that person ‘blackmailing’ Studio Mir, came copycats. Around thirty other people or so are doing the same. ‘Blackmailing’.  All claiming they just want LGBTQ representation in a very successful show like VLD but not knowing they are jeopardizing the chances of ever getting that in this and possibly many other shows.



Now, onto the show itself.

I fell for Voltron Legendary Defenders because of how it just isn’t a kids show to me. Its very well made, humorous to all ages and all in all one of the best reboots i have seen in awhile (my 32 year old Brother agrees to this too.)

But, again, as someone who too, ships Klance i have never felt more ashamed? 

A lot of people who ship LGBTQ relationships in shows and books that aren’t canon are seen as ‘Fetishizing’ these characters. 

The romantic relationship of two men or two women or all of the above, should never be considered a fetish. Because it is now the real world. Romance is real and for people to fetishize that, is sick and saddening.

I personally, love the dynamic of Klance. But, i also love and adore the dynamic of Klance not being romantic. Them becoming best friends is more than any person in this fandom could ask for. 

To even enter into a romantic relationship, people NEED to become the best of friends first. It’s common sense.



Now, i know the panel for VLD is coming up (?), and whether or not they address this isn’t our business but, what is and will always be our business is how we react. 

Our actions speak louder than words.

If Lauren Montgomery and Joaquim Dos Santos, walk onto that stage and say, “Keith and Lance will never enter into a romantic relationship.” it is OUR jobs to know that this wasn’t because of some person on the internet that this was probably true from the start.

But, if they say, “Any and all romantic relations that will take place in this show in the future have been decided on our own and without the pressure of you lovely people of the fandom. We make things canon on our own terms and love the continuation of support from the fandom.”

Still if Klance becomes canon, that does not mean you go and praise the people who tried to ‘blackmail’ these people. If Keith and Allura get together you don’t go bashing and hating on those people who tried to ‘blackmail’ the creators. You sit and watch the show and learn to love it not for its ships, characters, design but for it as a whole.

I am sure that whatever happens the VLD team will see that, hey, we (as in the fandom) all are very happy with how they are going with the show. They recognize they can’t simply say “Yes gay will happen”  but they also know that if they happened to plan out romance before this whole ‘blackmail’ thing happened that they have the right to.

All in all, for those people who ship all the romance between characters, or even just LOVE the show as  a whole (all fans should at least) it’s our job to:
1: STAY POSITIVE
2: To remember, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS
And 3: To love the show for what it is.

 

Sincerely, Nina June.

Here’s something to add to the whole “humans are weird” thing going around fantasy tumblr: how fucking weird is it that when we run into something unfamiliar or awkward or sometimes even scary, we laugh?

Like imagine we’ve made contact with aliens, and they’ve figured out that laughter is how we react to funny stuff. Simple! And then one of them brings out this horrifying abomination they keep as a pet…

And their human contact just starts giggling nervously.

Another alien from the same ship bluntly asks a human how reproduction works, only to receive a lot of awkward laughter in response.

Another one elicits surprised laughter just by arriving. 

When they return to their ship, they hold a conference over one nagging question: what about these interactions was so damned funny!?

Meditation is about seeing clearly the body that we have, the mind that we have, the domestic situation that we have, the job that we have, and the people who are in our lives. It’s about seeing how we react to all these things. It’s seeing our emotions and thoughts just as they are right now, in this very moment, in this very room, on this very seat. It’s about not trying to make them go away, not trying to become better than we are, but just seeing clearly with precision and gentleness.
—  Pema Chödrön
ACOWAR is a book about war

There are a lot of grey areas. Lines are crossed, truths revealed, people are allied with and others are made out as enemies. This isn’t a review, but an observation.

I think many people are uncomfortable with the way war is presented in the book because there is no “defined” good and evil, rather, everything is a bit grey and murky.

What we do know, the truths that we believe, are that the king is bad and the Court of Dreams is good. But everyone else who falls in between, that is what makes us uneasy. Because how are we supposed to react to Tamlin, Elris, and Jurian. Men who are both good and bad.

As a reader this was a bit unsettling. But at the same time, the way the war is portrayed is “true”. While I have not experienced war and combat first hand, I do know that there are no definite good and evil in war. We can say without a doubt that Hitler was bad. But what about the US or the Soviet Union during WW2. Both counties committed atrocities. But we defend them. Because we are on their side, the winning side.

Now, how does this apply to ACOWAR? Well, that same good and bad is seen within the Court of Dreams. Rhys and Feyre do a lot of good, like save the girl from the king and his men, help defend Tarquin. But they also do bad, like releasing the monsters and allying with Elris without telling Mor. And this is off putting because they are supposed to be the heroes, the good guys. Now, they still are. But we also see that they can do wrong and can hurt those they care about.

The reason I bring this up is not to dissuade those who think ACOWAR was a bad book. But rather state that the seventh book in the Throne of Glass series will be a lot like ACOWAR. It too is set during a war and there are more “bad guys” along with more issues that have to be resolved somehow. Meaning that TOG7 will be a book based in the grey area too. There will be a lot of lines crossed and people allied with or forgiven that normally wouldn’t. And I just think people should prepare for that. Because if you didn’t like ACOWAR I can be pretty certain you may not like TOG7 too.

Sooo! The voltron fandom is in flames right now, and that’s how it usually is, but right now I feel like things are worse than usual.

I want to say this though: don’t let the actions of a child reflect the fandom as a whole; don’t let that define us. The future of the fandom depends on how we react to this mess.

Be respectful and have fun. That’s all we can hope for, really.

“We need a continuation of that proposal! More specifically I think it’s really important that we see how Maggie reacts to it. She felt she was worthless like a year ago and now she’s going to get married to the love of her life. Thanks cap!” from @swiftiealex13 and @ts-1989 “Most obvious one: Maggie’s response.” and “can we please get maggie saying yes i feel so deprived” from @detective-icecream and @everythinginasockdrawer “Maggie actually verbally saying yes to the proposal/aftermath stuff.” and “We need to have the rest of the scene!!! Maggie needs to break down in tears and not say yes til she’s kissed Alex until neither one of them can breathe” from @smolersmith

Other proposal fic here: https://queercapwriting.tumblr.com/post/160973112864/prompt-maggie-says-no-from-the-hard-hitting


She swears she’s not hearing her right – her ears have been ringing since blazing through that explosion on her way to the DEO to access better surveillance to guide the NCPD, fire department, and EMTs to more accurate areas of need, quicker.

She swears she’s not hearing right, because it’s been a long day.

Hell, it’s been a long week.

She still can barely tolerate Alex being out of her sight, since she told her not to wait up for her and then almost…

But she held on. She held on.

She held on, and now she was asking Maggie to hold on to her forever, and she wants to – god, does Maggie want to – because she’d be lying if she said she hasn’t been thinking about it, damn how soon it is, damn how fast it is, damn how many U-haul jokes the world will make.

The world doesn’t understand the fire their relationship, their love, has been forged by. 

The world can’t comprehend the way they’ve suffered together, survived together, already.

Suffered together, survived together, and somehow – somehow, and this is the truly incredible part – somehow managed to hold each other up, never spiral each other down. Someone managed to find reasons to celebrate life together, when celebration feels wrong and life feels meaningless.

Because they’ve created right together, and they’ve created meaning, and Alex is nothing if not blunt, and Alex is nothing if not direct.

Alex is nothing if not perfect.

Absolutely perfect.

The way she grabbed her – all that time ago, and no time at all ago – by the forearm in their bar, spinning her back around and kissing her until she couldn’t breathe.

The way she doesn’t ask her to marry her.

The way she tells her.

Tells her, and then begs her.

“Seriously. Marry me. Please?”

Maggie’s already berating herself for her “excuse me?”, but what else could she possibly muster?

What else could she possibly muster when this woman – this woman who’s committed herself to making Maggie feel like she’s enough, when she’s never, ever, ever been nearly enough before; this woman who leaps off buildings and single-handedly destroys genocidal war facilities; this woman who cries so easily but refuses, utterly, to break – what else could she possibly muster when this woman is breathless, and breathtaking, and asking her to marry her?

She doesn’t know what else to muster, so she does the only thing that her body, her brain, can do.

She kisses her.

She kisses her desperate and she kisses her hard, one hand in her hair and the other on her waist, closer, closer, closer, until her body racks with tears, her chest racks with sobs, and Alex murmurs bewildered comfort against her lips but Maggie doesn’t need that, Maggie just needs more, more, more.

More of Alex’s warmth, more of Alex’s lips. 

More of Alex’s hands wrapping her up, more of Alex’s breath moaning slightly into her lungs.

More of Alex’s love, because she loves her, god, god, god, she loves her, she loves her, she loves her.

She’s not exactly sure why, but she knows anyway, trusts Alex anyway – Alex Danvers is in love with her.

And Alex Danvers wants to add a wedding to their lifetime of firsts.

So she kisses her and she sobs and she sways on the spot and she only brings her lips off Alex’s when they have to bring their foreheads together to breathe, breathe, breathe, because the world was starting to spin from lack of oxygen, from overflow of love.

She loves her, she loves her, she loves her.

And they have a lot to talk about.

A lot to interpret and a lot to navigate.

But they’ve held on in tanks and interrogation rooms and abandoned warehouses and bars full of ghosts and fathers full of betrayal and decades full of worthlessness.

They’ve held on, and they’ve found each other’s arms to hold, too.

So when Alex asks, “So you’re saying yes? Cuz that’s… that’s what I’m getting – because of course that’s what Alex asks – Maggie sobs again, again, again, matching Alex’s tears when she tells her yes, yes, yes, yes.

Yes.

anonymous asked:

(Wow this is the first time I actually use tumblr I might be doing everything wrong) Anyway I just realized that we have a Dan with curly hair in a pastel pink oversized shirt and a really happy and comfortable Phil in their new apartment talking about getting a dog and forever homes and painting nails and sure, we're shook™ but can you IMAGINE how we would've reacted two years ago

two years ago the phandom had a month long meltdown about the fact that dan called himself phil trash #1…. .. .