So people are hating pretty strongly on the Reylo ship and all I have to say to that is:
I found Padme and Anakin’s dynamic to be a lot creepier than Rey and Kylo’s tbh
No but forreal:
Ship whoever you like. It’s not even a question of how canonically bad they are for each other, or how bad each character is individually, because shipping happens in a fandom space where you can, in fact, pick and choose which parts of canon to adapt and which to abandon
I don’t ship Reylo much but I remember enjoying a Reylo fic where they were both high schoolers and Kylo Ren was a nerdy art student because why not???
I also see people calling the ship “abusive” and I’m like “it is if you want it to be, it isn’t if you don’t”
because again, fans and their derivative works can pick and choose which parts of canon to take from. Maybe a fan wants Ben to have never converted to the dark side, maybe a fan wants redemption, maybe a fan wants Kylo Ren to stay evil. Maybe Rey becomes evil, maybe Rey becomes more powerful, maybe Rey remains safe and happy.
Maybe they’re both high schoolers and canon is a distant, amusing idea. And to Reylo shippers: Don’t keep trying to defend your ship. There’s nothing to defend. Different interpretations for different fans are all valid if done simply for personal enjoyment, and all the “defenses” for the Reylo ship I’ve heard are just as idiotic as the “reasons people shouldn’t ship them.”
Block the people who hate on your ship. Flag the posts that hate on your ship. Write your fics, draw your art, make your material, slap on appropriate warnings, and sail on. If somebody asks you to tag your material, tag them for tumblr savior or have the person unfollow you if you know you’ll be posting a lot more of the ship, depending on your preference.
Because look, the Hannibal fandom goes the whole nine years with their canonically heavily abusive ship without ever bothering to defend it because they know exactly what they are and what they’re shipping and there’s nothing to defend. They just keep shipping anyway, because fiction gives us the opportunity to deal with morally dubious if not outright objectionable material in a way that doesn’t have any direct real life consequences.