I feel like there’s an important thing people are forgetting in this fandom:

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Meaning, in this case,


I get it, Love Square content over-saturates the fandom. Trust me, I understand. However, many of you may be surprised to hear that I, in fact, ship it. I say that is ‘surprising’ because I’ve honestly been surprised by how many times people just casually say things to me as if I am in agreeance with them on hating it. I get frustrated sometimes when I can’t find content for other stuff, but I don’t hate it.

I remember once getting a message that seemed to genuinely believe I would only draw Love Square if I was drunk.

Um, no. I might joke about it but, honestly, that’s not the case. It seems to be this common idea that if your main ship is something other than Love Square then you must hate it. So I see so many people casually talking about Love Square like it sucks or is terrible or ‘oh god not another one’ to those who have other main ships and I think that’s not good behavior at all.

How can you expect those who ship it to like you if you talk shit about their ship all the time? And if you turn around and get mad when they say shitty things about your ship, you honestly deserve it by that point.

Love Square is what the majority likes. Accept this and move on. How can you expect them to accept you if you keep talking shit about what they like? And how can you expect them to accept your ship as a whole if people keep giving the impression that those who ship it are against them? It makes no sense.

Don’t talk shit about Love Square. Especially if you don’t want people to talk shit about your ships. You may also be surprised at how many of your fellow shippers also ship Love Square too. Don’t alienate them as well. This have been a PSA.

Theological debate with Sam's Dad
  • Me: I had a thought today. I was thinking about religion, and how I really disapprove of it but how many people who follow religion are good people, and I realized... it's the corrollary to 'hate the sin, not the sinner'. Only it's 'hate the religion, not the religious.' Because there are so many decent Muslims (and even evangelical Christians and... maybe Scientologists...) out there, but imho they just come up with their own interpretation of the religion that excludes the violent aspects.
  • TBH probably true of all religions. They're so open for interpretation that people just assume things about the beliefs. Like the Catholics. You said this Pope is a good guy, right? But past Popes have not been and have totally fucked up the religion for everyone who follows it.
  • Dad: Interesting reframing of the debate. Don't you wonder also, though, if a lot of the precepts of many religions, if applied in a heartfelt way, do lead one to do good? Where else do many people find an ethical framework? Where do you get yours?
  • Me: Not from religion. Experience, application of my own inner moral compass and logical reasoning. Mom telling me 'the goal of life is to have fun and not hurt anyone.' Making things into Big Systems, in my experience, mostly creates rigidity and immediately corrupts whatever legitimate precepts existed.
  • Dad: fair enough
  • but the question persists -- what is the source of our moral principles?
  • Me: Why does there have to be one? The idea of a source of moral principles seems silly to me.
  • Dad: but they guide you powerfully -- why? how?
  • Me: Because of my ongoing respect for, and trust in, other people whom I see conducting themselves well. I believe what's happening here is that you are treating morals as object--as something that exists in some abstract form, a very Platonic idea--rather than as process.
  • Moral conduct does not rely on the existence of some Principles in the world, any more than wealth relies upon the existence of gold bullion.
  • Moral conduct is a process in which we engage, with no absolutes. If I had to think about how I actually apply it to my life, I'd say that I very, very rarely default to any single rule. Rather, I think of how what I'm doing will affect others. Hence, my moral conduct in my job comes from putting my students first, then my company, then my own happiness, etc.
  • Dad: that's a really interesting explanation. Two immediate thoughts--
  • 1. that's OK for you -- I wonder if most people can manage that kind of dynamic process. Religion offers a checklist, a set of rules, etc. supported by the Platonic notion of thingness external to the process -- perhaps easier to operate that way.
  • 2. but I'm bugged too by this -- WHY do you choose this way of acting? The respect for others etc. -- WHY? Where'd that come from? Surely others operate by different rules (which supports the non-absolute argument, of course). But how and why do you choose yours? Do you think they're better than someone else's? Maybe we don't have to answer those questions.
  • Me: I think I can answer both of your questions by evoking another Socratic notion: the idea of the daimon, or inner moral compass.
  • If we don't have one, as people, there's no point to any of this. The idea i that people are inherently able to guide themselves and don't need to be... brutally forced to be nice to each other.
  • Dad: I can buy the inner demon -- NATURE, really. No different, I think you're saying, than having a beating heart.
  • I guess that stops the argument cold -- I can't explain why I exist and have consciousness any better than I can explain why I have a sense of right and wrong.
  • Do you agree?
  • Me: 'Right' and 'wrong' aren't things outside of being human, so of course they're intrinsically tied to our humanity. They're not explicable the way mathematical principles are--though arguably even math is the product of the human mind.
  • Yes, I agree with you agreeing with me. Silly bean.
  • Dad: But I'm glad I thought of it anyway.
  • Me: I know, you like to do that so you feel better about accepting an idea.

The more room you give yourself to express your true thoughts and feelings, the more room there is for your wisdom to emerge. - Marianne Williamson ✨

I’ve been having so many issues with expressing my true feelings and it’s been eating me up inside. My mood would change and even affect other people. I hate it so much. My past has made me this way. I was always around people who would tell me I’m too emotional and didn’t care about my feelings at all. I’m learning to understand that now I’m finally friends with people who actually are sensitive to my emotions and care about how I feel. Im learning to express how I feel instead of bottling up inside because I never want to hurt the people who actually care about me. Everyday is a new step. Just believe in yourself and everything will be fine. I promise ❤

Photo by: @nikkrich

Like, this isn’t just “internet discourse.” Its not even just a toxic bullying movement. Its widespread HATRED for an entire group. Y'all cling to your justifications that you think are entirely reasonable just like every other bigot in history has, but fact of the matter is you hate an entire group of people for existing, and you make it known, you hurt them.

How many people justified abusing me as a bisexual because “all bisexuals are cheaters, are sluts, are actually straight.” How many goddamn people thought that they were doing the RIGHT thing by condemning trans rights because trans people “are all predators trying to go in the wrong bathrooms, obviously,” and “are x gender trying to invade spaces that don’t belong to them.” And how many of those people thought they were entirely RIGHT and their behavior was excused because everyone they surrounded themselves with was/is doing it too?

How many of you are 100% convinced that every time you shit on aces its completely ok because “they’re all inherently homophobic, the whole community is bad, they’re all actually straight anyway,” and are encouraged because your peers do it too?

Let me spell it out. You. Are. Hating. An. Entire. Orientation. Because. Its. Popular. To. Do. And. You. Justify. It. With. The. Same. Slandering. Tactics. That. Get. Used. By. Every. Other. Oppressor.

You ABUSE and DISCRIMINATE and somehow it never crosses your small minds that maybe that’s never an ok thing to do? That people being born different than you is not a threat and they don’t deserve to be treated with mass bullying for existing?

The culture on this site (primarily made up of teenagers and young adults,) is nothing other than digital high school where the kids who have been educated about social justice have learned how to weaponize the popular sj language to continue the same bullying of vulnerable groups while pretending they’re still good people, because they made up an EXCUSE. You’re all still bullies and bigots though. None of your pathetic rhetoric will change that.

I gotta get this off my chest

Any Mettaton is a good Mettaton, as long as it makes you happy!

You like Mettaton all chubby and masculine, hell yeah!

You like Mettaton with breasts and narrow hips, hell yeah!

You like Mettaton with just a dick, hell yeah!

You like Mettaton with a vagina and breasts, hell yeah!!

Hell, I’ll even like him with he was straight, trans, gay, demi, hell, even asexual!!

Truth is, all Mettatons are good Mettatons and I still love him no matter what he is!

@russianspacegeckosexparty and I have talked about this pretty regularly, but the marvel fandom is and always will be a giant racist cesspit, like most fandoms unfortunately are.

Adam asked his mutuals/followers to make a game out of going into the Wakanda tag on ao3 and check how many fics there actually involved and focused on black characters and not the fandom’s white faves. I found one so far.

I also found a fic that exists solely to remind me how much the fandom continues to hate black people, as the whole paragraph long premise is to show how much smarter Tony is then everyone in Wakanda. Naturally the klandom crawled out to share their love and support of this fic, including my favorite comment so far.

“Thank you for this. I hate all Sues, including Wakanda-Sue. Really, nothing about that frigging country is realistic from its economy, technology, cultural heritage, cat religion, etc. How did this country develope in isolation? Vibranium doesn’t miraculously raise everyone’s IQ. A modern country run by a king in a black cat costume? Is their military the best in the world, cuz they should have invaded a hundred times by now. If it’s so damn perfect, please knock yourself out leading the free world. The US has its own damn troubles. Oh wait, they are cowards and hypocrites, hiding and not sharing their tech with the rest of the world. Why didn’t they land a man on the moon first? Where is their cure for Ebola or HIV? Why did they not get involved in Hutu Tstsi civil war that decimated millions? Or Rhodesia? Or Khadaffi wrecking Libya The questions just add up.    Yea, I get it. It’s PC attempt to make an African country be a first world marvel. But it’s not even remotely plausible. I’ve gone from meh, to the whole place can FOAD. I want someone like John Wick to mow down the Dora. I want Tony to nuke it from orbit, just to be sure. So thank you for bringing this sanctimonious place to its knees. Please do more to humiliate them!”

Honestly it’s a really long paragraph just to say that you hate black people, including wishing that a white billionaire war criminal would commit nuclear genocide just  to get rid of them.

But it’s also telling that you hate us that much.

angry short, mellow tall aus

these were requested by so many people omg,, time to deliver

  • you’re always making fun of my short legs well jokes on you sucker because you are failing so hard at this obstacles course with your giraffe limbs
  • you can pout all you want, at the end of the day i win all the arguments because i can just pick you up and place you in a corner a sulk yourself tired
  • i really wanna knee you in the crotch right now but your crotch is too fucking high
  • “how did you two meet?” “they tripped over me. while i standing.”
  • man, i hate going out into huge crowds with you because i always lose you among all the children and i have to peruse through all of them to find you
  • man, i love going out into huge crowds with you because you’re like a beacon sticking out and i’m basically never lost
  • whenever i get too mad or frustrated or down you give me a piggyback and it’s embarrassing how much it calms me
  • you’re so fantastic to cuddle because i can, like, hold all of you. no place misses out on my hugs, you get all the hug, the full hug,, all my love

- jo

Your Roleplay is Just Fine

I’ve met a lot of people in my time RPing, and I’ve met a lot of people who are very insecure over their roleplay and get a lot of hate for it. So!

  • Noble roleplayers, whether your house is an entirely original idea or inspired by something else
  • Roleplayers who use titles like “Highlord” or “Archmage” ICly
  • Roleplayers whose characters are “tropes” like the suave rogue woman or the honorable handsome knight
  • Those who roleplay controversial things, like Scarlets and criminals
  • Those who enjoy dark roleplay, in whatever flavor that comes in for you
  • Those who used to be really good at roleplaying, then something happened and you feel like you can’t hold a candle to how you used to be
  • Those who prefer to roleplay background characters like a blacksmith or a cook rather than an adventurer
  • Those who are new and still learning the ropes
  • Those who roleplay LGBTQ+ characters
  • Those who roleplay non-white characters and constantly have to defend as to if it’s “lore friendly,”
  • Those who roleplay having a personal relationship with a major lore character, or having an artifact ICly
  • Those who follow lore to a t
  • Those who stretch lore 
  • Those who disregard lore all together and write their own original stories within the game
  • Roleplayers who try to be as practical as possible when it comes to combat, weapons and armor
  • Roleplayers who prefer to take the more fantastical route, entering battle bare-legged and with a weapon as big as they are
  • One-liner RPers
  • Para RPers

All of you. Your roleplay is just fine. Roleplay what makes you happy, you’ll find people who are into the same stuff that you are.

Roleplayers who are not fine and need some juice and a time out:

  • Those who make anyone feel like they’re lesser or deserving of hate because of how they roleplay

Libra moon things: I hate when people disagree with me and do so with bias instead of objectivity. That’s fine to disagree with me, that’s not that point at all before anyone misinterprets; it’s another thing to claim what you’re saying is ultimately right because of your own subjective (and hurt) feelings. Then, when I debate back with objectivity, with facts, I’m being ‘rude’ or unsympathetic, so I just avoid it all together. Not sure how many times I’ve been attacked for sounding arrogant or heartless simply because I’m using proper evidence instead of catering to the emotions of others. On the contrary, I’m a very “feeling” person, extremely empathetic, and I am certainly emotional, but I don’t let that blind me or falter logic and practicality. I make it a point to debate neutrally and with no bias. You can scoff and whine about how I’m rude because I’m not babying your feelings, or choose not listen to me when I’m doing my best to show you logical proof, but the conversation will then end there immediately. People mistake this for “avoiding confrontation,” oh goodness, do they love abusing this phrase to describe Libra moon. No, it is not that I’m avoiding confrontation out of cowardice, it’s more, I’m not going to have a discussion or a debate with someone when there is no equity or mutual respect. 

It’s always neat whenever I post about how I loved volume 4, I always see comments from people saying “yeah, me too! I don’t know why everyone hated it!” and that just tells me that not everyone did. In fact, a very small group did - they’re just very loud. 

That’s how negativity goes with everything. Just look at the like/dislike ratio on every 1 million+ viewed episode of V4 on Youtube. The last one has like 44k thumbs to maybe 400 thumbs down. Was it perfect? Of course not, but it was damn good and the show gets better every season. 

Trust me, RWBY is a LOVED show by so many people. 

cactinouis  asked:

i finished the song of achilles yesterday night and no book has ever destroyed me like this.., who even need feelings anyway, please if you have headcanons about patrochilles to share or anything tsoa to share im willing to cry

Oh my gosh I have so many thoughts about Song of Achilles (and have forced them on so many. I cannot tell you the amount of people who hate me for making them read this book)

  • please give me all of the patrochilles friendship where they love each other so deeply and are already folded into each others lives before they even start dating
  • it is so natural for them to start dating, and they realize their relationship has always been heading towards this immense something between them that was fate 
  • Achilles knowing just how much Patroclus makes him a better person, and always calling him his better half 
  • Patroclus always calling Achilles petal as his endearment, and it started as a joke, but now Achilles feels all warm inside whenever Patroclus uses it. 
  • Achilles being an absolute disaster at life in general, and Patroclus being able to calm him down somewhat. Achilles always becomes softer around Patroclus. 
  • Patroclus being an absolute badass who works in a hospital and has seen some shit, so everyone always assumes that Achilles is the super aggressive and assertive one until they see Patroclus angry. Achilles just is a disaster; Patroclus is a storm.
  • They have a playlist of songs that they call theirs. It’s a really eclectic mix and Careless Whisper is definitely on there. 
  • Achilles is really particular about folding clothes. Patroclus is really particular about kitchen cleanliness. This is how they battle out problems in their relationships. 

anonymous asked:

Before Sherlock, I was a homophobe. (The type that doesn't realize they are, you know "I love them but they shouldn't marry" type) when I started watching on Netflix, it was just obvious to me that they'd get together. (I had never been wrong before). After TRF, I went searching to figure out if there were more eps, when I stumbled onto tumblr. From there, and through my love of johnlock, I quickly realized how homophobic I was (and realized I wasn't so straight after all.) Johnlock cures hate💕

Hi Nonny!

What a beautiful story! Despite the shitty message that S4 left us with, I love how much Sherlock has done for so many people in discovering who they are and realizing that we were so blinded by heteronormativity. I will forever be grateful to the show for that, at least, as well as for my self-discovery at 32 and for all the amazing friends I have made and the beautiful creativity that exists here. I think a lot of us realized we weren’t 100% straight when we delved in deeper into this show, to be honest.

I am glad, Nonny, that you are doing well and in a better frame of mind. The world is a better place because you were willing to open your eyes. <3 

karyaobrien  asked:

My fav character is Mikasa, but it annoys me that many people hate her because she's in the way of the Ereri or the JeanMarco >.< But hell! She's a girl and she' cool. I don't how to say it in english, but in italian is "È una tipa che che fa il culo a tutti".

You mean she’s badass? Yeah she is! I think it’s very sad as well that she gets hated so much, mostly for being a girl and being “””””In the way of the gay””””” which is bullshit actually. 

lol sorry for being trash again but i feel like it’s expected, by now.  Idk how many of my followers are puppyshippers, but that’s like all I post and draw, so I’m assuming it’s a decent amount of you lol

I just wanted to say thanks to all 50 of my followers; that’s a milestone I reached this week, and that just seems like so many people! So here’s my gift of the OTP xoxo

Here’s the thing about trump.

It’s not even about “political views,” it’s much more than that to me. To accuse me of not being positive because I don’t force a smile on my face and welcome trump supporters on my blog is honestly very ironic, because you’re supporting a man who sees people like me and many others as below him. As a bisexual girl, trump not only infuriates me but makes me uncomfortable, even downright terrified. And I can’t even fathom how woc feel, how muslims feel whenever that man opens his mouth and spews ugly, hateful words. And for you to ignore the things he says, to turn a blind eye every time trump does something screwed up, is disgusting. The things he’s said about women, about immigrants, about innocent people, is just plain awful. And when you call yourself a supporter of trump, you’re supporting him and his actions and everything’s he’s said. Keep that in mind. So of course I don’t want you anywhere near my blog. I, a positivity blog, don’t want supporters of a man who is the LEAST positive example in the world to think my positivity is for them. That shouldn’t be hard to grasp at all.

My positivity is for poc, my positivity is for trans people, for Jewish people, for everyone in the LGBT+ community, for muslims, for autistic people, for disabled people, and the list goes on. I want to uplift these people, I want them to feel safe on my blog, I want them to feel welcomed and supported because this world is becoming a terrible place and I just want to be a little shelter where everyone can come inside and escape from all the disaster going on.

You see it as simple politics, I see it as mine and many other’s basic human rights being slowly stripped away by an evil man.

I’m a rational person. But then again, I’m also incredibly irrational. I find it hard to believe my fiancé actually loves me despite the fact he wants to marry me, I assume my mother hates me because I didn’t text her all day, I feel that the day will be terrible if I find make the bed correctly and many other things. The thing is, I know I’m being irrational but I have yet to figure out how to stop these thoughts. People offer kind, thoughtful and rational thoughts, trying to help me. Sadly those words irritate me because in my head I know I’m being irrational.

I’m learning to accept that I am both rational and irrational. I’m also learning to be kind and thankful for the words of others. In recovery I’m facing parts of myself that I dislike. I’m growing. I’m trying.

anonymous asked:

I loved how Yakov praised Yuuri (and kind of sassed Viktor) for his compulsory figures. It really shows that he's an old-school skater and maybe was one of the outraged folks from when comp. figures were removed from the scoring system. I wonder if he also thinks that the contemporary stress on jumps and overall athleticism is removing the beauty from the sport? Btw, you continue to amaze me with the depth of your research. That was just one of many little sniplets that shows it. u rock <3

Haha, I’ve been waiting to put in a bit about compulsory figures for ages! Ever since I saw lots of people on tumblr talking about how Yakov would love Yuuri as Yuuri seems like a more traditional skater and does figures for fun and to warm up all the time whereas Viktor probably hated them and how Yuuri would have easily beaten Viktor in the old days when compulsory figures were such a big part of the competition 

I mean is SEVERELY disheartens me to see just how many people completely bought the exclusionists’s mogai smear campaign, from the truscum to the aphobes, to the point that even straight people and any other LGBTQ people think its totally acceptable to mock an entire community and whole identities because its popular and everyone is doing it so it /must/ be true. How many of those people don’t question tumblr posts of lies made up about groups the poster hates and they just take it as evidence. Its so fucking easy to demonize groups on here and to get everyone else to fall in line and react against them too. Its fucking disturbing.

If an exclusionist wanted to demonize intersex people, for example, it would take a short amount of time and not a lot of work.

First they would place emphasis on “cishet” intersex people (and completely deny/ignore the inherently different relationship with gender/sexuality because of being intersex,) and would post about them constantly, painting them as a devil because they’re evil “cishets” who pose some threats. Then slowly lose the “cishet” as they post, as their posts get circulated, and if called out on that, insist that it was implied.

Then they would find one to a handful of intersex people with negative qualities, spread callouts for them blaming their behavior on their identity and the intersex community even, and use it as proof of the intersex community being toxic and evil. They would even use anything they disagreed with from other intersex people, twist it to look as bad as possible, and frame them with diluted “evidence” as further proof of how terrible intersex people are.

They would make up stories of how intersex people were harming everyone behind the scenes so those that have no quarrel with us would feel vindicated in turning on us; accusations like “stealing resources that belong to other people,” and “being a conspiracy to secretly let in the straight oppressors because why else would they want to be in the community.”

Then they would write long and winding and even contradictory posts using words they aren’t fully familiar with but neither are most of their readers so they assume them to be correct, all talking about “privilege” and establishing intersex people as top of the pyramid, asserting their privilege on all below to get more of it.

They would then write ignorant and unresearched analysis’ of intersex as an identity, and how different it is from the rest of the community, and how it doesn’t belong, and how its “incoherent” and doesn’t even make sense as an identity, how its too broad and describes too wide an amount of people, and “lol by your definition most people are a little bit intersex anyway,” and wow its useless as an identity now it should just be erased, you should stop using it, some people have different genitalia and aren’t intersex so your label makes them feel weird and its inherently harmful uwu

And then “wow there really isn’t even much discrimination against it anyway, its all misdirected OTHER oppressions, like sexism or homophobia. Clearly you’re all pretending to have any oppression just to get into our club.”

I would bet everything I own that within a year of this behavior, mass amounts of people would believe I everything I just wrote about intersex people, without question, would demonize the community and any supporters, and think there was 100% proof of them being entirely correct.

You might think this is a reference to ace/aro treatment, and while I do believe that it would be almost identical because its involving identities that are closely related, let’s not pretend this behavior is exclusive to this. So many goddamn identities have been attacked exactly like this over our history, and it all repeats itself, over and over, because people fail to criticize the information they see, and are far too eager to jump on another group and attack. Every person I seem complicit in this behavior, towards any other group, feels like a knife in the back. Every person happily spreading those lies and buying them is just as actively violent as the ones who made them up. I’m so tired and honestly very depressed.