how to eat intuitively


INTJs aren’t always complete geniuses on every topic who are always right and can tell the future. Sometimes they can be obnoxiously ignorant and stubborn because of that Te-Fi pair that is inherently somewhat biased (trust me; I’ve got it, too). Ni wants to make conclusions, Fi wants to be right about them, Te wants to assert them, and inferior Se can completely turn away from evidence other people have to offer. Ni doesn’t make you all-knowing or psychic – everyone has the capacity to be wrong.

After weeks of battling with illnesses, bad skin, breakouts and the moral aspect of it, I’ve decided that now isn’t the right time to peruse a fully 100% vegan lifestyle. I will continue to leave dairy out of my diet but there are many factors in my way of being completely vegan😔 I know I don’t need to justify my decisions but a few reasons include my financial state (student), my living arrangements (living with my parents), my inability to eat the correct macros (vegan or not). I’ve decided to try to follow a sort of keto diet before holiday (but not so little carbs) and then see how my intuitive eating holds up thereafter!

The Eight Cognitive Functions Part 1: Introverted Feeling (Fi) / Authenticity

This will be the first of eight post introducing you to the cognitive functions. Today we will look at Introverted Feeling (Fi) / Authenticity.

On a side note, if it isn’t clear to you already, I absolutely love Personality Hacker. They have a wonderful way of explaining difficult concepts as simply as possible, and my hope with this blog is to take what they have taught me, and apply it to my ongoing work as an aspiring author. Their system has given nicknames to each function, and I have decided to introduce them to you, because they help beginners grasp the core of each function, and leave a much more memorable picture in your mind to connect each function to.

So without further ado, an introduction to Authenticity.

Authenticity (Fi)

This is the first of the decision-making functions. It is an introverted function, which means it’s focused on dissecting and organizing the internal world, rather than the external. The Authenticity function is very similar to the Accuracy (Ti) function, as they are both interested in clean-slicing information, and categorizing it in the most specific possible way. All of this information becomes, for both functions, an intricate map of their entire conscious thought. The difference between the two, however, is where their interest lies. For someone using Accuracy, what intrigues them is data, logic and thought. But for Authenticity users, they are fascinated by values, ethics and emotions. Skilled Authenticity users can recognize the difference between two types of embarrassment with the same level of accuracy (if you’ll pardon the pun) as an Accuracy user explaining the difference between a brook and a stream.

As I mentioned before, introverted functions tend to seek order and understanding within themselves, rather than outside of themselves. For Authenticity users, this comes out in their desire to know themselves as much as they possibly can, and bring order to their internal world, so that they can be highly flexible when it comes to interacting with the outside world. If they know to what depth they care about a certain event or person, they know how to prioritize it and to what degree they can allow other things to get in the way. So they strive to know themselves so much so that they can intuitively know how much they want to eat Thai food in a specific context, for instance. Or how important it is to them that they honor their work commitments, or family commitments etc. If they know this in advance, it helps them to make basic, daily decisions much faster than they otherwise would. This also means they are not wasting energy fighting for things they don’t really care about (like, for instance, someone choosing for them to go to an Indian restaurant when they would prefer Thai would rarely make them bat an eyelid). They are highly aware of the inherent worth of their wants and desires, and the difference between wants and values. In almost every day-to-day circumstance, their values will trump their desires. (So for instance, the fact that the friend wanted Indian food even though the Authenticity user wanted Thai would’ve kick-started the value-system, and the Authenticity user would’ve judged that they’d prefer to honor their friends wishes and enjoy a lovely evening out than insist on eating their favorite cuisine. If the Authenticity user was a vegetarian, however, and the Indian restaurant did not cater for that, then that would be reason for them to speak up in favor of getting Thai.) For the external viewer, this characteristic of Authenticity users is seen as a highly easygoing nature, that can instantly switch to a highly passionate nature at any given moment, depending on the inherent value of the decision at hand.

Because Authenticity users focus on developing expertise in understanding and identifying emotions, they makes decisions by discerning what choice is most in alignment with their core beliefs and values. What is right is often very important, as is staying authentic to those core beliefs. When used healthily, an Authenticity is not devoid of logic, as their internal map can sense when they are being driven to irrational thinking (particularly when it is due to their emotional state) and take that into account.

Authenticity users are less likely to reveal their emotions to others, particularly dangerous or strong emotions when they are in high intensity situations. They are much more likely to hold their tongues for as long as they possibly can, and seek out alone time, so they can actually process their emotions in a safe environment. If they do speak up, likely you struck a deep value they can’t stand to see trodden on, which is why they are more likely to speak out as a form of protection for somebody else, rather than in defense of them-self.

Finally, because of their highly detailed understanding of their own personal emotional state at any given time, they are also very adept at reading other people’s emotions, transferring their personalized knowledge to other individuals. They can connect the signals a personal is giving off to specific emotional states they’ve experienced themselves or seen before in somebody else. The level of discernment they can reach is extraordinarily high.

Feel free to give me feedback, let me know any thoughts you’ve had or any ‘aha’ moments this post inspired (hopefully it inspired one or two…), and send any questions you may have my way.

Self-Love A B C

You wanna learn how to love yourself more, but you don’t even know where to start? You want a tool that you can use to create healthier habits and develop a more stable ground to walk on? Use this “Self-Love A B C” on a daily base, and soon you’ll hopefully be able to make healthier decisions in your everyday life. 

A: authenticity - the only person that has to be content with what you’re doing is you. Learning how to love yourself means practising to be yourself and be okay with the consequences of living an authentic life. Before making a decision, make sure you’re being you, and you’re not trying to please, impress or satisfy someone else. 

B: body love - No matter if we’re just being too lazy or if it’s actually too tough because we are facing a depression relapse or another mentally challenging situation, the very basic acts of self-care and self love shouldn’t be something we postpone or put off. The tool “body love” is all about physical and emotional hygiene. Your body deserves to be taken care of. Brush your teeth, take a shower, floss, put on some lotion if your skin is dry, and do it gently! Treat yourself like you would treat your own child. Make sure not to physically or mentally abuse yourself - so no self-harm, skin picking, self-bullying or nasty self-talk! Don’t be your own worst enemy, make sure you’re being your own supporter instead of your worst critic! 

C: cool calm collected - we live in a crazy, super fast paced world and sometimes it can be incredibly tough to be kind with ourselves, because we’re simply too stressed. This tool is meant as a reminder to slow down from time to time and work on being more mindful. Before making the decision what to eat, how to talk to yourself, what to do about a certain situation, take a break and a couple deep breaths. When we practise to be more mindful, we can fully explore every given moment and it gets easier to make healthy decisions.

D: drink that water (or tea :P) - a hydrated brain and body work better! It’s super important for your mental and physical health to drink enough water. 1.5l are enough, if you’re not working out. If you’re physically active, make sure to drink a bit more than that. 

E: eat and nourish that lovely body of yours - Your body is a real miracle! And an incredibly precious gift. This awesome power machine not only deserve, it needs to be fuelled properly. It’s one of the biggest acts of self-love to forget about all the nutrition “rules and facts” you heard of and to learn how to listen to your body again and eat intuitively. If you pick the right food from with a radical self-loving mindset, it gets way way easier to make the right decisions. You want to honor your body and take care of your health, so you have the urge to eat healthy. Sometimes you wanna nourish the body, and sometimes the soul (or both at the same time!). Moderation is the key!

F: forgive yourself and others and fake it ‘till you make it! - You’re only human, and humans make mistakes. Often the worst thing about mistakes is not that we make them, it’s what making them makes us feel like. There is no point in beating yourself up for not being perfect! If you notice that you screwed up, forgive yourself, learn from it and move on. And allow yourself to be a beginner - fake it ‘till you make it! Also, try to forgive others! Holding grudges against people who hurt you in the past is only going to cause pain and heaviness in your own heart. Forgive them because you deserve a peace of mind!

G: gratitude - for me personally gratitude - next to mindfulness -  has always been the most important tool on my way to more self-acceptance and self-love. If you become more and more aware of how blessed you are, if you develop a more grateful mindset, life will feel a lot richer. You’ll be able to see your positive attributes and focus less on the things that don’t matter that much anyway.