how to be successful in college

I Came Out

First off, thank you all so much with how supportive you all were yesterday, I was truly amazed! I didn’t expect such a reaction at all.

So, onto how it went: Dad dealt with it pretty well actually; Mum accepts it but she’s said that she won’t call me Jack and that we can look into binding once I go to college.

I’m pretty okay with that, Mum was talking about a breast reduction because my boobs are my main problem, but she’s given me support.

I reckon this was pretty successful…

Dear Tumblr,

Hey, lately a lot of people have come to me very distraught over having not made anything with their lives. They’ll often be very early 20s or younger and be very upset they don’t have amazing careers or haven’t done anything with their lives. I’m here to remind you this life tip

LIVE LIFE AT YOUR OWN PACE. PEOPLE THAT ARE SUCCESSFUL UNDER THE AGE OF 30 ARE EXTREMELY RARE. PLEASE STOP COMPARING YOURSELVES TO OTHERS TO MEASURE HOW SUCCESSFUL YOU ARE IN LIFE.

But Heather, you’re an adult with a career, you won’t understand. Worry not, I’m here to make you all feel better about your life situations. My family is poor. I had to pay for art school out of pocket and I’m still paying off student loans. I’ve had to work since I was 16 and worked customer service and food service full time while going to college full time. I graduated late and took 2 extra years to wrap up college. And when I graduated it was in the middle of the big recession. And because I wanted to be an artist, my career path was much different than everyone else’s I knew.

While I worked at Starbucks for almost 10 years I watched as all my friends and coworkers moved onto better jobs that had to do with what they went to school for. So I got to work at Starbucks with a BFA and felt like my life was going nowhere. But thanks to freelancing, I was eventually able to leave Starbucks. At age 28. And I’ve only been working full time with a career I wanted the past few years. So if there’s anyone on the planet that knows your struggles, it’s me.

The point of my story is it’s okay to not be successful yet. Success isn’t going to come to you easily. Stop pressuring yourselves to be amazing prodigies with incredible careers by the time you’re 21. To be honest, it’s super unlikely it’s going to happen. Take your time and keep working towards your goals, you’re only hurting yourselves by comparing yourselves to 1 in a million success stories. And there’s absolutely no shame in working customer service or food service to make ends meet while you’re on your way there. It’s not the end of the world if you’re 18 years old and not famous.

8 Things Successful Students Do

Hey everyone! A lovely man named Mike Strangstalien, MA, MFT, LPC, NCC decided to compile a list of 8 things successful people do. He has been working on this list since 1994 and continues to update this list as he does more research. I decided to share some of his amazing work here with you all by summarizing his main points. Enjoy and good luck!

1. They raise their hand in class.

Now, this may seem trivial and sometimes you’re left with the question, “How can I speak up in class if I don’t even know what I don’t know?”. However, its been proven that people who raise their hand and ask questions tend to do better. If you are unsure of a question to ask, a good technique is to go home and review the material and the next day at the beginning of class, ask your question. This not only gets you to actively participate in class, but you begin to think about the information you learned and are able to commit it to long term memory.

2. They establish routine and structure.

During the day you should try to complete your homework so that at night you can spend your time studying, reviewing and consolidating. Its been proven that studying something before bed can commit it to long term memory. Doing work at night when you’re tired can lead to poor performance and may not commit things to memory if its the first time you’re seeing the information. 

Also, try to go to bed BEFORE 1:30 am! Why is this important? Your serotonin is used up during the day (about 90%)  and is reassembled if you get to bed by 1:30. If you go to bed past 1:30 twice in a row, you miss your key opportunity to replace it and you’re left with only 10%! Do this again and you’re down to only 1%. This affects your concentration, focus, attention, motivation and memory. 

3. They go to office hours.

Those who go to office hours at least 8 times during the semester yield, on average, 0.5-1.2 grade points HIGHER than their non-attending counter parts. The main reason people don’t go to office hours is a fear of looking “dumb”. However, if you just admit to your professor or TA that you’re completely lost, they can help re-teach. Remember to be honest about your confusion because otherwise they may start their explanation off the assumption that you already know something and you’ll have wasted your time and your professor’s. This can be the difference between a C and an A! 

4. They prepare for each lecture.

Preparation for each lecture is essential. Begin by reviewing any information from the last lecture within 24 hours of first receiving this information, otherwise you lose valuable time to commit it to long term memory. Additionally, quick read assigned readings so that the lecture can consolidate what you read. After the lecture, spend about 5 minutes summarizing the major points and look up any vocabulary you didn’t recognize. This all compiles into the three-read principle. 1. Read the textbook (or other materials) beforehand. 2. Reread after the lecture and try to find the main points in the reading. 3. Reread a third time and write notes as though you plan to teach the information. This means simplifying and not writing down unnecessary information. 

5. They remain actively involved when learning, attending lecture, and while studying. 

I have a post about active studying techniques which you can find here. Active learning requires not only that you consciously try to pay attention, but also that you maintain your motivation to learn the material, the willingness to complete the tasks at hand needed to learn it, and saying to yourself, “I am excited to learn something new and I am thankful that I have the opportunity to do it”. Remember, there are kids in other countries literally dying for the right to an education. Your education is luxury, not a right. Additionally, every 15 minutes, stop and ask yourself, “how does this fit into the main idea,” and “what is it that I just read and how can I form study questions from it?”. 

6. They take responsibility for their learning.

Although your professor is there to provide you with the information, it is not their job to make sure you learn it. Often times students fail because they expect the professor to try hard to help them. This is a harmful way of thinking and it can lead to failed exams. Those who take responsibility will make sure they seek help when they need it and they will make sure they search for resources outside of what is provided. If you’re really struggling with a concept, try Kahn Academy, YouTube or asking a TA. Its up to you to earn the A, not your professor. Also, keep track of your own grades and assignments that you turn in. This way if you need to see someone for help, you’re not disadvantaged because you waited until the grades were updated online after you threw away graded papers. 

7. They understand the work load and are prepared to study 7 days a week.

Not everyone can study for hours on end every day. For this reason, those who are successful make sure they break down their studying into 25 minute intervals. Additionally, make sure you touch on this information every single day to keep your brain ready for the class when it comes time and you can avoid procrastination. You also need to be prepared for repeated exposure. This means reviewing the same material 3-7 times. This highly increases your likelihood to not only learn the information for exam, but not become guilty of the “pump-and-dump”. This is especially helpful for anyone pursuing medical school or graduate school. 

8. They have no use for negative self-talk and they are honest with themselves.

You cant commit things to memory if you feel down or you are angry with yourself! Those who are successful maintain the mentality of, “I know that hard work and commitment will lead to success,” and, “I am capable, intelligent, and worthy of excellent grades”. They also understand that any grade they receive is earned and not given. Additionally, they understand that even at the end of the day, if they get bad grades they know for a fact that they tried their hardest. Self-criticism can be more harmful than good. Never scold yourself for missing homework, doing bad on an exam, or being confused. Instead, search for ways to actually CHANGE your behavior. A change in you mentality may sound silly, but it may be the difference between having the motivation to study a little harder and laying in bed feeling bad about yourself. BE HONEST. If you are really struggling and going to office hours and studying isn't helping, drop your pride and try to find a tutor. If a tutor isn’t in the books for you due to financial situations, explain this to your professor and see if you can schedule more one-on-one time. 

One day it just clicks. You realize what’s important and what isn’t. You learn to care less about what other people think of you and more about what you think of yourself. You realize how far you’ve come and you remember when you thought things were such a mess that you would never recover. And you SMILE. You smile because you are truly proud of yourself and the person you’ve fought to become.
—  Unknown

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Today was really stressful. I had to do a bunch of homework and other stuff because I didn’t get it done during the week. I’m really excited for my new set book for english lessons. I’ve wanted to read it for a long time now. Let’s see how I’ll like it! 

so 2017 is here, and that means we’re all going to try to change for the better. we all know that most people don’t succeed, but why is that? my theory is that a lot of people don’t know how to keep their motivation consistent. turns out many psychologists have actually figured out a kind of equation for motivation, factors that play into whether or not we keep our resolutions, habits, and goals. i read this amazing book about this equation and“hacking” your motivation and made notes of some of the main takeaways. enjoy and happy 2017!

take advantage of “success spirals”

set yourself a series of achievable goals and then achieve all of them until you expect only success and failure is no longer familiar. this is a great way to get started living a motivated life. example: start out your new year by changing one habit that’s small enough where success is likely, and use that success to propel you to larger goals.

commit early on

choose now to limit your later options, preventing yourself form making the wrong choice in the face of temptation. signing up for a public speaking engagement that you know you should do is much easier 2 months beforehand, thereby forcing you not to chicken out when the going gets tough.

surround yourself with motivated people

have a workout or study buddy with similar goals as you. you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. example: read or watch biographies of inspirational people whose lives you would like to emulate. go on a social media diet, in which you only see motivating and positive posts by motivated and positive people.

visualize

visualize the success you want to achieve, contrasting it with the life you currently live. Add in implementation intentions and process visualization for more oomph. michael phelps does this for every race, “playing the video tape” of the perfect race in his head. this allowed him to break a world record in 2008 with water in his goggles.

get into flow

flow is a psychological state characterized by being completely absorbed in whatever it is you’re doing. musicians, writers, and other creatives often report this while making their best works. how to get into flow? tasks which are too easy or too hard are not engaging, so find ways to make tasks challenging but possible. compete against yourself, or against others. getting into flow is most achievable when something is familiar to you and you can do it automatically, but it still contains mentally stimulating elements.

connect your goals to passion

look for ways to connect tasks with major life goals, so that you can remind yourself why you’re doing what you’re doing. set up extra reminders of those connections where you’ll see them (ex: every day i make my goal of saving 100 dollars i am that much closer to financial freedom). make sure you’re on a path to goals you actually want and that the journey is making you happy. If it isn’t, consider something more intrinsically motivating.

care for yourself

everything is better when you’re alert. sleep well, eat well, move your body every day, guard your circadian rhythms, and avoid burnout. cure energy lows with quality breaks, movement, sunshine, and good music. match intensive tasks with periods of high energy.

kill perfectionism

if you can’t bring yourself to do your main task, at least get some other things out of the way. it’s not perfect, but perfect is the enemy of good. get used to the act of doing consistently, rather than having things be perfect, so it doesn’t paralyze you. do not be afraid of failure, because it is the fastest way to learn.

use rewards

celebrate your successes with any reward that will motivate you (treats, crazy dance parties, an hour of social media or video games?). we all know the feeling before a deadline where it seems as if our life for the next week is just a never-ending tunnel of drudgery and work. 

play hard

this one is related to rewards – plan times to have as much fun as you can - this leads to more efficient recreation, and it also lets you focused on your goals during the other times, rather than just having low-grade leisure constantly tempting you as an option. ex: rather than taking a “break” every two minutes to check your instagram feed, do something that will actually burst your mood, make you laugh, or release some of the tension in your body.

more motivation hacks: the motivation hacker by nick winter, 2.99 on amazon!

1. Remind yourself that some day you will have to show your report card to someone important.

Such as admission staff, employers, business partners, your future spouse or your children. Your grades do not speak about yourself, but imagine how great your odds would be to be accepted in your dream college or employed by a big company, or how proud and motivated your children will be. This is a great way to stay motivated throughout your school years.

2. Make a list of all the things and perks you will get if you get good grades and continue studying.

I’m not saying you only need good grades to be successful in life, but it sure helps! You can either use your bullet journal or a piece of paper to pin in your cork board, or whatever suits you best. Some examples would be: high income, a low stress life, a greater chance to get a scholarship, motivation, a dream job. And keep these “goals” in mind.

3. Stay positive

Got a bad grade? That’s okay! We all fail at times, that doesn’t mean you’re a bad student. Study harder next time and you will do just fine! Keep a positive mindset and don’t over stress, you got this, you’re smart and you’re working hard, don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

4. Keep your study space and room tidy at all times

Might sound silly, but making your bed right after waking up everyday helps overall productivity, and cleaning your room and organising your clothes, shoes, scarves, makeup, and whatever else you have will too. Having a nice and clean study space is key. It doesn’t have to be an astonishingly and aesthetically arranged white desk, it could even be the living room table! But keep it clean and keep all your school supplies close by. The feeling of a clean, nice study space and room will keep you motivated and ready to do your hw or study for a test.

Hope this helped! xo

If anything, admitting when you don’t fully understand something displays curiosity for learning. So keep asking those questions!

15 Questions to Know for COLLEGE INTERVIEWS

Hey! You there! Are you going for a college interview? Yes? Have you prepared? If not, here are some basic questions you should anticipate from your interviewer:

1. Why do you want to attend our school?

2. What can you bring to our campus?

3. Describe yourself in three adjectives.

4. If you could take a gap year, what would you do?

 5. How do you define success?

 6. What are your strengths/weaknesses?

 7. If you could change your school, how would you do it?

 8. What do you think about [latest news issue]?

9. Who is your hero? Why?

10. What do you do outside the classroom? 

11. What is your favorite book?

12. Does your high school transcript accurately reflect your abilities?

13. What do you want to major in/ Why do you want in to major in [desired major]?

14. If you could change anything about your high school career, what would it be?

15. Why do you want to go to college?

 —


 These are questions I’ve heard before multiple times, but they’re not always the same at every interview. And remember:

 Sleep well 

Eat breakfast

 Arrive on time 

 And be natural! Getting nervous won’t really help you! Do your best!

How to Overcome FAILure

So recently I heard of a great acronym that I thought I should share with you all, and make a post all about it! Here is the acronym

Fail

Assess

Internalize

Learn

And that is how you move past failure! So let’s break that down, shall we?

F is for Fail

As my favorite band, Coldplay, once said,

You have to try in order to fail. Who knows you might just succeed! Always give it your best shot. What is the worst that could actually happen? Some people find it comforting to imagine the worst case scenario or even to journal about it. It can help relieve some of the stress! Another method of anxiety-relief can be coming up with a “Plan B” and “Plan C”!

A is for Assess

When you fail, one of the first steps towards succeeding the next time is assessing what went wrong, and why you failed.

I like to write this out and put it into two categories:

Column 1: External Factors

External factors are things that lead to your failure but were outside of your control. Here are some examples:

1. Being sick while taking a test

2. Someone else’s fault- They got involved when they shouldn’t have, they didn’t do their group work etc. 

3. Bad Luck

There are a lot more examples of external (and internal) factors that can lead to failure. These are just some!

Column 2: Internal Factors:

Be honest! These are the things that were your fault that might have lead to your failure:

1. Lack of Sleep

2. Got distracted (could also be external)

3. Didn’t study or try hard enough

Many things, such as distraction, can be both internal and external. Try to be honest in your analysis of what was actually to blame for this failure. Try to control external factors as much as possible, but also understand that you can’t control everything. Do not be too hard on yourself about the internal!


I is for Internalize.

Come to grips with the fact that you failed, and that some of it might be your fault, and some of it might have been uncontrollable. Take a few moments to be sad if you need it, but then get back up and try again!

L is for Learning

Learn something from your failure! And get up and try again. Either you will have learned to succeed or probably learned another step toward success!


Last tip: Best chance at success, but if you fail, Fail EPICALLY! Put your whole heart into it, in order to give yourself the best chance at success, or in the worst case scenario, a legendary fail.


Originally posted by lovefortelevision

littlewing56  asked:

Any advice on how to deal with failure? College is kicking my butt at the moment and any advice would be helpful. By the way you did an amazing job on voices for BOTW, I can't wait to see what you do in the future!

Let me tell you something about failure.

Way more often than it should, failure manages to convince us that we aren’t something. Not that we aren’t enough, mind you, but simply that we just aren’t.

This isn’t true. Failure at singing a song does not mean you aren’t a singer; failure to climax doesn’t mean you aren’t a good lover. Failing a test does not mean you aren’t a proper student, and failure did not make Nikola Tesla “not an inventor”; rather, it taught him all the different ways that would not result in what he was going for, leading him ever closer to finding the way(s) that would.

When we fail, we are given an opportunity to reflect and pore back through our actions and decisions. We have the chance to try and figure out what went wrong, or what we might have done that wasn’t as effective as we thought, or even what we did that hurt our efforts more than it helped. It is the ultimate reminder to review our process, because it’s sometimes harder when we succeed to remind ourselves to go back and identify what contributed to that success.

Failure is incredible, because it is the single easiest way in the world to make new friends. Nowhere in life is there an easier starting topic of conversation than going to someone who you feel is doing well at the thing you failed at, and asking them to help you figure out what to do.

Can you imagine? Regardless of how well you know this person, you’ve already made them feel important and valuable by asking for their assistance, and in turn you’re giving yourself the chance to improve instead of simply giving up. And further still, you’ve already established a common interest that you both share and can grow at together! What ridiculous efficiency!

In voiceover especially, this kind of connection is essential, because often when we ‘fail’ we are given absolutely no further information on the degree to which we did not succeed. Of those 20 auditions I never heard back from, I have no idea whether I missed the mark completely, if I submitted a strong take but just happened to not be the subjectively ‘best’ choice, or if something happened that was completely unrelated to the audition but nevertheless had an impact on my chances. And despite not having this knowledge, I must push myself to learn by any means necessary; I must move beyond the sting of rejection and refocus on further bettering my chances at accomplishment.

Make no mistake; failure fucking sucks. But it’s not devoid of success, and it most certainly does not represent a complete waste of effort and time (unless we allow it to be). How we deal with failure is very telling of how we will deal with a lot of situations in life where the problem we’re dealing with is not as simple as we want it to be; it’s up to you to determine how much you want those moments to play an important role in your development and path to success.

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Today my yoga teacher talked about how trees don’t compete for nutrients, but rather share them through an underground system of roots and fungi– helping each other grow tall towards the sun. After a particularly stressful academic week, this message really resonated within me. There is room in this universe for everyone, for everyone to grow and flourish and fulfill their own individual sense of purpose. So why do we act as if one person gaining success will ultimately render us as failures? College is a pressure cooker, especially for people who base their own worth off of the highest form of success. You are not your body, your clothes, your income, your job, your grades… you are a beautifully made human being, an infinitesimal sum of your hopes and dreams; you are a soul. And me? I am Kaela, and my happiness and worth as a member of humanity will not be augmented by slaving away to achieve the perfect grade point, or not eating a cookie that I so, so want to eat to shed slivers of fat off of my body. Celebrate yourself today please loves! 💫 February is draining, but the days are slowly lengthening and the world is starting to thaw.

College Bloggin’

One of my teachers emailed me about the syllabus and added at the end ‘you contributions in class are superb,’ and I was gonna respond with ‘thank you, it is my last semester so I think I’ve luckily built up a lot of historical analysis skills.’

And then I got rid of the ‘luckily’ part cause I read on interesting article on how women often attribute their successes to ‘luck’ and things outside of themselves instead of personal hard work- which plays into narratives of women being passive vessels of their accomplishments instead of active participants.

So hell yeah I do superb talkin’ now, ain’t luck, I studied hard & think critically, hell yeah.

Society so you want me to

1. Work a 40 hour week job
2. Pay my bills
3. Get a gym membership so I can be toned and tight to solicit a piece of dick.
4. Be successful
5. Get into a relationship
6. Go to college
7.Buy food & hygene products
8. Do social media
9. Go out and meet people
10. be happy 24/7

Who’s got the time? The energy? The funds to be doing all of this???

Studyblr PSA

I know how much everyone romanticizes Ivy League colleges. And don’t get me wrong, they can be great.

But I can honestly say that I am a happier, more successful person now that I am going to a community college. When I was at Penn I was anxious and suicidal. I’m so glad I made the decision to come home. I don’t know what would have happened if I didn’t, but it probably wouldn’t have been good. I now have a steady, great job, I just bought a house, I am in a longterm, loving relationship and I have great grades.

So don’t let anyone else define success for you. Your version of success might be very different from anyone else’s. And that’s okay!