how to be cool at parties

itty-bitty-baby-face  asked:

i was thinking about abby (for reasons) and i started thinking about how cool it would be to intern for abby for like college similar to jimmy and ducky and this is a thing i need in my life and you bet ur ass this is gonna be something i request in the future

she doesn’t like you at first because she’s a lone wolf but ends up loving you a lot after spending so much time together

and when you finally finish the internship, abby highkey cries and throws a party

SNM #4 7 May 2017 late

I had a good second show of the double, but it was much more low-energy on my part. Once again, down the stairs to the ballroom, and the witches were just starting up. Bald (Sarah Stanley, maybe? maybe not?) pulled me in for a dance and I managed not to step on her feet as she led from the follower position. I bungled a turn move that she started, and that just made her smile before then pulling me in closer for a couple more steps. I was happy to be a foolish mortal amusing a powerful witch. I followed Sexy (Evelyn Chen) first loop, so I finally saw how all of her scenes fit together. She, in a very sly Sexy Witch way, pulled in someone else for the 1:1, so I went to the mortuary to catch back up. Fulton was Colin Buckingham, so it was cool to see his version of the examination choreography. By the second ballroom party, fatigue was setting in for me. Instead of trying a second loop, I went to Manderley and had a nice long conversation with Elizabeth Lindsay, and drank lots of water. Back inside, I spent a very long time on 5, wandering the maze, exploring the rooms, and peering into Matron’s hut. And then, somehow, it was all ending again. I followed one of the easily-recognized regular fans down to the mezzanine, to watch the finale from there for the first time. Matron (Ilana Gilovich) was standing at the rail so I stood a few feet behind and to the side of her. There were folks on either side of her but soon enough I got that slow-motion head swivel and eye lock, and she gestured for me to stand at the rail. Then I was in her clutches until the end, and she took my hand and I realized “Ah, I am getting my first walkout!” Except it wasn’t a walkout, it was a runout. We ran and she was looking at me the entire time and I was looking back and amazingly I did not trip and fall at any point as we dashed through the hotel and up to the Manderley where somehow she turned the jets of joy and gratitude-exchange up even higher before disappearing. So that was swell.

We chatted some more with the regulars, but the bar was closing down, and then it was time to go.

8

You’re a little judgy. You’re a lot judgy. You’re like Judge Reinhold.

my pals on the lancecord asked me for some tips on cuban spanish so i thought i’d share them here too for all you lance writers. i’m a cuban voltron fan who doesnt want to live in fear of bad spanish in nearly every damn fic and im trying to be the change i want to see in the world. so feel free to message me if you have any questions about lance’s culture bc this is nowhere near being comprehensive at all.

lets get into the stuff google translate can’t teach u!

i don’t know anyone under the age of 60 who says “dios mio.” lance definitely would not, unless he is doing an impression of his abuela.

things that sound more natural than dios mio: ave maria, ay dios, por dios, AY POR DIOS

more commonly we exclaim “coño!” for anything. shock/anger/awe/etc. if the reaction is negative, it’s just coño. if the reaction is positive, we drop the first syllable and draw it out like “‘ñoooooo”

we exclaim “pinga!” or “cojone!” or “pinga cojone!” as a negative reaction more commonly than any translations of omg too

“de madre” is something we usually exclaim as a negative reaction. it can be yelled or sighed or grumbled. usually has a frustrated or incredulous connotation

“wepa!” is a sound we make as a positive exclamation.

we say “‘ueno” like the verbal embodiment of ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ (it’s bueno with the b dropped)


other things that sound really stiff for cubans to say is like, “hola, como estas?” i mean, you say it to people you’re not on a casual level with. to friends/family these sound more natural:

“que bola asere” is how we greet our close friends

“que bola” or “que vuelta” is how we say hey

“oye” is hey! but not as a greeting, as an exclamation. something you would say before a greeting or on its own when surprised/offended/trying to get someone’s attention/etc

common insults: cabron/cabrona, mojon, comepinga, comemierda

common pet names for anyone: flaco, nena, mojon, mi socio, corazon

“asere” is our word for “bro” that no other country uses (1000% what lance calls hunk)

we also have a tendency to call our family members by their relation+their name, such as “my Tio Jimmy called” or “Abuela Carmen is making food.” i think this is when we have big ol families and just saying tio or abuela isnt specific enough


also this isnt spanish but i s2g so many bilingual cubans i know use the word “fire” almost constantly to describe something awesome. so i think thats a small cultural thing that communicates lance is cuban without having him speak spanish. (ex. “omg that’s fire” “hunk makes fire tacos” “pidge is fire at fixing stuff” “can you play that fire song?”)


now here’s a bunch of stuff that’s just my opinion

  • I think it’s most in character for Lance to drop Spanish words only one or two at a time into English phrases, since that’s how he uses it in canon (“Hasta la later, Keith!”). A couple of quick examples off the top of my head -
    • tremendo/tremenda - an adjective for huge. “You’re being tremendo sore loser, but okay.”
    • todito/todo - means everything. you can use them one after the other for extra drama. “I forgot todito, todo, about calculus immediately after passing it.”
    • These sound like really natural ways to drop Spanish into conversation without being forced if you keep it to a minimum. I aint here to tell u how to write your lance but i beg you - Please show restraint and don’t try to use all of these tips at the same time!!
  • I recommend following latin internet personalities (like jaxxgarcia or mr. red) to pick up their Spanglish phrasing if you’re really into that. please don’t try to make up your own. it’s never as cute as you thought.
  • if you’re writing full on spanish for more than a word or two, please do not ever make Lance speak it “accidentally” (or even worse, on purpose) to someone he knows doesn’t understand the language. that’s really rude and alienating and it’s so against lance’s character to isolate himself from others like that when he speaks fluent english. 
  • other times Lance can toss a spanish word in without sounding forced is if he’s namedropping cuban things! Try looking up some of our 
    • food (ropa vieja, pan con lechon, arroz con leche)
    • drinks (materva, iron beer, malta), 
    • films (juan of the dead, azucar amarga)
    • or music (celia cruz, marc anthony, juanes*) and have lance mention them by their spanish name if the topic comes up. 
      • *not all of these musicians are cuban, but they’re some of the most popular amongst us. i’m simply naming artists i think lance is most likely to enjoy considering his age and personality.
  • speaking of music, we have very specific dance styles that are pretty cool and almost mandatory to learn at a young age. cubans in general love to party, and to host large family gatherings which easily morph into parties, and basically any social event seems awkward if there’s no one dancing at any point. 
  • what I’m trying to say is Lance definitely knows salsa or merengue moves.
  • I don’t love to party and I’m not a good dancer and I don’t like dancing, but I know salsa anyway because I had to be in the environment my whole life. always exceptions, but the majority of cubans grow up knowing how to dance and it looks more or less like this:

and one last opinion for the road:

Voltron takes place in the future, so I like to dream of Lance being born in a world where Cuba’s free from communism. If you’re doing a Voltron AU that takes place nowadays, please don’t write about Lance’s experience in Cuba if you aren’t familiar with what it’s like to live under a regime like that. It’s very bleak and textbooks don’t cover half of the fucked up things that those who live there actually have to go through.

Lance could have been born in Cuba, but raised somewhere else. Miami would be my recommendation because it’s our second homeland and it means he would have been raised surrounded by Cuban culture without the governmental oppression. But Cubans are absolutely everywhere, so it’s equally believable that Lance’s family could have immigrated to Pawnee, Indiana. Even in Voltron canon, I think it’s likely Lance moved to America at a young age because he clearly has a native fluency in English.

Dwayne "the Rock" Johnson

    In the beginning campaign I DM for, my players were forced into a battle against Drows.  One of my players was still getting used to how to play and trying to fight effectively.  Unsure of what to do for his turn, he said: 

    “I flirt with a rock.”    He rolled a Natural 20 and thus started a relationship with it (he wasn’t too happy, but the rest of the party found it hilarious. The party keeps this going on as a running gag within the group, and this rock is now named “Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson.”  

     Fast forward, due to complications, that player who was unhappily dating Dwayne discontinued the campaign, and we accepted two new members who learn of the Rock Legend.  Now, it had been a long time since they last saw Dwayne– she had disappeared for off somewhere (which my players were like, “How the hell did she move?  She’s a rock.”).  Our Ranger sent off their panther to find where she, the rock, could have gone, and the only information they got at the time was that, “She’s in a community with high position.”

      After a few chaotic events, the party traveled in the forest trying to find survivors of a destroyed village, following a trail of prints.  The trail they were following was divided into two paths– left and right.  They flipped a coin and went right.  Instead of finding the survivors, they came across a Golem society with mud-huts and a I just kept describing:

      “There’s a ziggurat with a throne on the top……….. with a rock on top.”

       Immediately I see my Ranger drop their head in their hands.  "I hate you.“

       "It’s Dwayne the Rock Johnson!“ 

     So pretty much this rock that my player’s party discovered became Queen of the Golems.

Characters in “Get Out” and what the represent
  • The girlfriend/daughter: typical fetishizer of black people
  • Mother: Sees Black people as subserviant and there to suit her needs
  • Dad: Classic racist. Thinks there’s too many, need to be culled, and if they can’t then use them for your own purposes.
  • Brother: “Good” streotyper. Thinks they are genetically superior is some ways (athletically) but still racist because that’s racist. Not good at all because steretypes aren’t good. Thinks they are still brutes, beasts, etc. Thinks they are intellectually inferior and thus makes that point about how certain martial arts are about smarts (he’s making a point that although he will lose in physical combat that’s pure physicality based he’d never lose in one that needs intellect. Of course, he proves wrong as the main character outsmarts him TWICE during the course of the movie)
  • “Black is fashionable” guy at the “party”: Classic appropriator. Only wants us for the cool things we make. Doesn’t respect us peole but wants all our shit.
  • “How is he in bed?” girl at the “party”: Perpetuating the Mandingo streotype which paints us as sexual deviants with uncontrollable lust. Also, ties in to us being brutes, beasts, and less intellectual.
  • “Is black an advantage or disadvantage” token Asian guy: Classic POC anti-black person. Probably thinks hypervisability is a priviledge. More than likely believes being black is a privilege other POC don’t have, while somehow still think he’s intellectually and visually superior. Also important to note that he’s FULLY aware that these white people are racist but still will hang ou around them and rub elbows KNOWING full well what they do to black people and will even feel comfortable doing it to a black person as well.
  • The photographer: Typical “I’m not racist but…” person. Truly believes himself not to be racist but definitely is. Again, stereotypes us with specific talents, particularly in the art/creative departments (again, not the more “logical” and typically “intellectual” departments). Also, doesn’t respect us but wants our shit.

I’m leaving out a few of course but I think for the most part they intersect with these. They don’t really have any particular traits that seperates them from the others mentioned. I really like this movie

Going Somewhere?

5e, party is a halfling monk, human paladin, and a dragonborn fighter. We have been pursuing the agents of a nefarious secret society in Waterdeep, and have just encountered one unexpectedly while out shopping.

DM: You see Ludvig [the guy we’re after] handing a coin purse to a back alley vendor. He’s looking around to make sure he’s not being watched. As you see him, he sees you and bolts down the street.

Monk (OOC): Hey, [DM]? Be honest with me: is this a chase sequence? City streets, back alleys, rooftops, dodging through crowds?

DM: …Yeah, why?

Monk (OOC): Is there anything especially cool that happens in this chase?

DM: Not really.

Monk (OOC): Perfect. How far away is Ludvig from me?

DM: One hundred feet.

Monk (OOC): Perfect. I’m going to save us all a half hour of dice rolling then.

Monk: I move 35 feet, use a ki point to dash another 70, and use my attack to crane kick Ludvig in the back of the knees with my full momentum. (rolls to hit, succeeds)

DM: *rolls* …Jeeeesus Christ.

DM: …I assume all of you have skinned a knee before?

Party: Yeah.

DM: The rest of the party sees nothing but a blur before Ludvig’s legs are taken out from under him as he’s running full speed. He skins his knees, his hands and arms, and his face on the cobblestone as he skids fifteen feet face-down across the pavement. He is unconscious and bleeding out.

Fighter: I guess I’m gonna go interrogate that back alley dealer.

Paladin: I guess I’m gonna go heal the villain.

13 Reasons Why

Thoughts on 13 Reasons Why characters and a rating of how much I dislike them from 1 being “my baby!!!!” to 10 being “FUCK THEM THEY CAN ROT” 

Hannah Baker: Didn’t deserve everything she went through especially rape. She pushed some people away though and sometimes she was kind of idk how to word it but I didn’t like stuff about her at times. Either way she deserved so much better than what she got. Deserved to be happy with Clay. 2/10.

Clay Jensen: Will fight anyone for Hannah. He was so shy around her and didn’t know what to do whenever he was with her, he’s so precious. Sometimes there were some things he did that didn’t sit right with me but he definitely deserved a happy ending with Hannah Baker; they deserved to be happy and in love and ugh. Also… took like 4823707592 years to listen to the tapes? 2/10.

Tony Padilla: Gay POC which I love because we need more of them. I love him he was so patient with Clay and all he ever did was try and protect Hannah’s wishes. Glad he shared the tapes with Hannah’s parents because they deserved to know why she killed herself instead of being left in the dust wondering why. I was always so happy when he came on screen. CLAY LISTEN TO THE GODDAMN TAPES. 1/10.

Jeff Atkins: My pure cinnamon roll, didn’t deserve to die because of a stupid girl who couldn’t own up to her mistakes. I hate how nobody including his parents and except Clay never knew he wasn’t drunk that night he died. Just wanted Clay and Hannah together. Your fave is problematic: uses “unique” 7 times in an essay. -5435973495797/10. I love him forever, hes so great. Never did anything bad.

Justin Foley: Didn’t deserve the home life he had BUT i really hated him for what he did to Hannah and the fact that he’s a rape enabler and a rape apologist like he literally let his best friend rape his unconscious girlfriend, covered up for him, and lied to her about it and then when she found out, he STILL was justifying what he and Bryce did by telling her that he didn’t tell anyone because Bryce does all this shit for him. KNEW that whatever happened at that party was fucking Jessica up but didn’t come forward until the very end. Claims he cared for her but you don’t do that shit to someone you claim you care about. Fuck him for that. 8/10.

Jessica Davis: She was so cool and nice in the beginning but then I hated how she got mad at Hannah and slapped her for the list instead of Alex, like really??? You think she asked to be on that list?? PLEASE. But after all that, she was still nice towards her and was never ill-mannered when it came to Hannah. Also, can we talk about how she didn’t deserve to be raped??? Justin Foley DEFINITELY didn’t deserve her. YOU GO GIRL. TELL HIM YOU NEVER WANT TO SEE HIM AGAIN. 5/10.

Alex Standall: He made some poor decisions making that list for a stupid reason and then letting Hannah pay the price. I somewhat like him though. I think he was a redeemable character and had a conscience (although it was too late, rip Hannah Baker) and felt that he needed to own up to it and tell the truth, was ready for whatever penalty he was gonna get. Was the only one (for a while) who thought what the others were trying to do was stupid. He definitely deserved better too, he didn’t deserve to shoot himself (or in other theories, didn’t deserve to be shot by Tyler). Please be okay…please be alive, baby. 4/10. 

Courtney Crimsen: GIRL, BYE. I hate and will always hate her character so much. Her and Bryce should just rot. She was a rape apologist and only cared about herself. Like girl I get that coming out is hard, I haven’t even done it, but to fuck up Hannah’s life like that? Are you serious? Justified Bryce’s actions to hide her truth. And she fucked up Jessica’s life too, in my opinion. She tried so hard to convince herself (and others) that Hannah was lying, Bryce isn’t a rapist, and that Jessica was never raped just so she can stay in the fucking closet. Like there’s nothing wrong with being gay. And she has two gay dads for fucks sake. 10/10 would always hate her again. 

Zach Dempsey: I think he genuinely liked Hannah but after all the shit Hannah had been through and the fact that his friends were his friends, I definitely see Hannah’s side of why she shot him down. I think he, himself, was lonely too but in different way; just because someone’s popular doesn’t mean they’re not lonely. Didn’t get compliments so he stole Hanah’s when she needed it most (I hate how he did that ugh like WHY…did you really need it?). Redeemable character, though. Also…HE KEPT HANNAH’S NOTE IN HIS WALLET!!! 5/10.

Tyler Down: Fuck him. A fucking creep. Like, he stalked people and took pictures of them when they were unaware (especially Hannah) and when she confronted him, HE FUCKING SENT THE PICTURE TO EVERYONE. Claims he “loved” Hannah but really?? FUCK HIM. Why did he even have so much guns? I’m pretty sure he’s planning a school shooting…fucking psychopath…”I can take care of myself” BOY BYE. And if he did shoot Alex, FUCK HIM EVEN MORE. 9/10.

Ryan Shaver: Didn’t respect Hannah’s wishes. Only cared about himself and poetry. Didn’t even care that Hannah didn’t want her shit to get out. I only liked him whenever he said Bryce is a rapist and that Courtney should just shut the fuck up and stop justifying Bryce’s actions. 8/10.

Marcus Cole: He cared more about himself and his reputation more than anyone. Thought he was the shit. Sexually assaulted Hannah then called her easy for refusing. 9/10.

Sheri: I liked her and she was genuinely nice but she crashed the stop sign and left a drunken Hannah at the scene and fled. Caused Jeff to die and I hate her for it. Though she reported it because she knew it was the right thing to do, it was already waaay too late. 6/10 because of Jeff.

Bryce: Rapist. Douchebag. Scum of the earth. He didn’t even think what he did was wrong. He raped two fucking girls and didn’t even feel remorse. He just thought every girl wanted him and that was that. I hate him so much, he can die. 102804802020x100000/10.

Mr. Porter: Could have tried better to stop Hannah from killing herself. She was set on suicide until she had doubts and needed just one person to help her and the one person she came to didn’t care enough to chase after her when she left his room that day. Worst. Guidance Counselor. Ever. 8/10.

The signs at a house party
  • Aries: that one drunk girl that gives everyone shots and is real fun until someone doesn't want a shot and then she tries to fight every one.
  • Taurus: four words. Stoned on the couch.
  • Gemini: the host.
  • Cancer: in the corner waiting for it to be over. Only here cuz their outgoing friend dragged them along.
  • Leo: telling obnoxious lies because everyone is intoxicated and is believing the stories of grandiose, which is a rare opportunity.
  • Virgo: shy but cool guy who is only here because the person he likes is also here.
  • Libra: cute guy who backpacked across Europe and speaks seven languages. You're in love, he isn't about that life.
  • Scorpio: don't open that bedroom door or so help me.
  • Sagittarius: made an appearance with a beach ball and big funny hats for fun times, left at 12 like Cinderella.
  • Capricorn: wearing a blazer? Somehow it works? Talks about sustainable living? Somehow not bored?
  • Aquarius: on the back porch with a small crowd of people talking about fringe theories and how humans are animals too.
  • Pisces: by the pool, talking to everyone and anyone. Also the drunk girls by the bathroom.

Noora: how did it go last night?
Will it be an honour killing? Ehehe

Sana: lol yea. It’s planned a bit later today. So thanks for everything

just kidding. Everything was sorted out

Noora: that’s good

Sana: what did you guys do?

Noora: I went home
The other tried to join a rulling*. Don’t know how that went.

Sana: cool

Noora: wanna hang out tonight?

Sana: I think I’ll take it easy

Noora: ok
Coffee and a walk tomorrow?


Sana: yeah. Maybe
We’ll chat

Noora: 😘

*= party on a russebuss

Watch Me Babygirl [pt.3]

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Summary: Jungkook is your brother’s annoying best friend. You can’t stand him but he just can’t resist teasing you. How far will he actually go?

Warnings: slight language


“Thanks for the ride Tae,” you said, giving his arm a squeeze before sliding out of the car.

You walked up your drive and unlocked the door, giving Taehyung a wave before you slipped inside. He always waited until you were in the house to drive away which never failed to make you smile. He was sweet, you had to admit.

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Imagine In The Heights but all the Spanish is replaced with the English equivalent

“Lets have a neighborhood party”
“Cool”

“So how do you say help me?”
“Heeeelp meeee”
“And how do you say promise me”
“Promise meeee”

“Heeeeeeeat, heeeeeeeat, heeeeeat, heeeeeeeat heeeeeat, heeeeeeeeeeeat, ay mama”
“Oh fuck it’s hot”

Cleric: “She’s a half-fiend!”
Demon: “Correct.”
Cleric: “You are literally in a room filled with corpses of people she murdered.”
Demon: “I mean, it’s their fault for not paying me what I was promised, but yep, that was me.”
Cleric: “She’s coated in blood.”
Demon: “Red is a good color on me.”
Cleric: “She’s a demon- she’s chaotic and a liar and how can you be so nonchalant?!”
Demon; “He’s right, you know. You shouldn’t trust me. I’m kind of an asshole.”
Cleric: “Why are you agreeing with me?!”
Demon: “It’s funny to watch you get frustrated because your party keeps flirting with me despite you being 100% correct about my evil nature.”
Cleric: “UGH.”

The cleric ended up calling her summoner to make her leave after the demon started hitting on his fiancée.

Eva: lol there’s rumours that Magnus loves you more than you love him, Vilde

Vilde: what?
Jealous people will always try to ruin you

Eva: but hello, why was I the only one who attended the party to Anniken in in 2sta? Night before the 1.

Vilde: was on date with Magnus ❤

Eva: cute

Noora: u telling me I was not out?

Eva: u out last night?

Noora: no. Just chilled at home with Eskild and Linn

Eva: Eskild, I miss him ❤ can we go out with him soon?

Chris: this Berlin trip never fucking ends

Sana: how cool. What happened

Eva: it was really awesome. You guys missed out.

Vilde: but it was really awesome to be out with the bus on Friday
Think we can be the coolest bus in 2018

Sana: of course we will

Eva: with Sana as boss

Noora: we are called Flawless since 99, sooooooo we are pretty cool right now to put it that way

6

You Can Transition Out of the Streets for $5,000

Killer Mike gave listeners a bit of real world advice on how they could invest their money into businesses instead of “cloudy jewelry” or bottle service at the club.

He explained that for as little as $5,000 you can invest into a snow cone business and build your wealth from there, as he made it clear that the street life sounds cool in songs, but it’s not great in real life.

Killer Mike is so woke he wants to teach us how to run with the jewels. This is a great advice for black yourh especially. You can start planning and invest money in your future instead of spending them for parties and useless  thing to impress others. And expirience which you can earn, will cost even more than money you spend/earn.

BEING A GENTLEMAN IS A CHOICE

Being a gentleman isn’t a pompous attitude or expensive clothes. Nor is it suave talk and standing tall. It’s the best mix of your character, treating others well, and presenting yourself as a man others want to follow. This is the essence of how to be a gentleman.


Chivalry isn’t dead

It may seem like it, so you’ll need to revive it.
This not only applies to the lady in your life, but other people you meet as well. Going out of your way to treat people well is important. Carrying yourself in an accommodating a “serving” way is rare, valuable, and will make you stand out.
Here’s what you can do: Open the door for people. Holding the door open for an old lady or a young man still makes you stand out as a gentleman. Go out of your way to be considerate of people.

Talk gooder

Being a gentleman is more than cleaning up the cursing, but sounding intelligent without coming off as arrogant. We each have our own unique style and personal vernacular. But improving and expanding your vocabulary will make you into a better communicator. The ability to paint elaborate pictures in your acquaintance’s minds is a sought after trait.
Find what you’re willing to die for
Don’t go through life living only for today or tomorrow. Find an aim bigger than money. Seek out a purpose, and run hard after it. I find that people that I respect as gentlemen have something to live for.

Improve your recognition of social cues

Whether or not you’re a social butterfly doesn’t mean you can’t improve. People that are extremely introverted sometimes need to take pause and read social cues. Am I stepping on anyones toes or making people feel left out? Do I move from one person/group to another so fast people think my substance is paper thin?
If you’re of the more chill temperament, it doesn’t mean you can’t grow. My name, Todd, in Middle English (spoken about 1,000 years ago) means “the watcher”, “watchful one”, or the “fox”. I actually consider myself by nature a more reserved person. But by observing other’s social cues, I’ve been able to pick up on how to interact with a wide array of people. Most people upon first meeting me would think I’m pretty extroverted, whereas I’m pretty introverted to the core.
People who are awkward or come off as rude have one core problem in my mind. And it’s not that they aren’t able to be cool people. It’s that they think of themselves and are absorbed in their own world so much they don’t listen and pay attention to people’s words and body language. Learning what people mean by more than what they say will help you go further in your friendships and professionally.


Be Quick to Forgive

A man who is slow to forgive is…well, less of a man. Be quick to show mercy. Give people grace for mistakes. Be understanding. Show compassion. Don’t have a heavy hand with your kids or other family members.

Say “No” more

People respect someone who knows what they want—and what they don’t. Saying “no” makes your “yes” mean so much more.
If you haven’t learned to say “No”, you might be living as a Yes Man. Who wants to be that guy? Especially when you are so overcommitting yourself you’re known as a flake. If you find yourself saying “yes” to overextending yourself, it’s time to summon the will to say “no”.

Saying “Yes” more

If you’re afraid of commitment, it’s time to take the dive and start giving more of yourself to people. Whether that’s saying “yes” to helping a friend move, just getting out more, spending more time with friends, or gaining different experiences, it might be time to step out into the wild a little more.

Say “Hello” more

We admire people who exude confidence and aren’t afraid to reach out and connect with people. Saying “hello” to a stranger you rub shoulders with on the train, in an office, or at the grocery store is a great way to increase your social skills—and meet new people.
Have you ever wanted to introduce yourself to a cute girl in the most random of places? If you’re not in the rhythm of shooting from the hip and building rapport with random strangers, it’s gonna be hard to summon that off-the-cuff confidence to get talkative with a hot stranger.
Practice saying “hello” and showing yourself friendly. You’ll be surprised by some of the cool people you’ll meet along the way.

Travel more and expand your experiences

Expanding your experiences and where you’ve been gives you great stories as you grow being a gentleman. Growing more cultured widens you’re understanding of the world–and others–and helps you to be less assuming or quick to judge.
And it’s always nice to tell people about that one time you jumped off a moving train in India.


Speak Well of Others

When learning how to be a gentleman, it’s less about “me” or “I”. It’s about others. Them. Carrying yourself in a way that esteems others will earn you esteem.
Want to stand out? Speak well of others in their presence, and away from them as well. People will take note. The man who can give specific and exacting praise is worthy of receiving it himself.
Talk about their interests, not yours

Again, learning how to be a gentleman is about others. Growing your listening skills is paramount to being regarded as a gentleman. But learning to ask great questions that draw a person out of their shell is important as well.

Tell stories with a point

Everyone loves a good story teller. And just because I suggest you guide conversation by asking people about them, rather than talking about you, doesn’t mean you should be a hard nut to crack.
People love good stories that share some adventure, and insight about who you are. Know what stories about yourself people are most interested in. When telling a story, remember that you’re not telling your life story. Share stories that have a point and an end.
Have you ever felt trapped in a conversation with someone telling a story that really wasn’t a story? They weren’t actually even talking with you, they were talking at you? That’s a person telling a story with no point or purpose. I’m guilty of this. And I sometimes wonder if we do it for our own catharsis–to process aloud with someone in the hopes of “feeling better”. It’s cool to do that with your therapist or close friend, but don’t use the random stranger at a party to have a cathartic moment. Be a gentleman!


Stand up straight

Now onto how to be a gentleman in how you carry yourself. No man wants to be regarded as a slouch. Standing up firm and strong isn’t just good for your health, but good for your confidence. There really is a physical/mental connection with posture. And people can see it. A person cowering or hunched is viewed as weak. A man who stands tall is regarded as having confidence.
Pay attention to your posture, and stand up straight.


Wash your clothes

Back in poor days of living in a dorm, I ran across an expert in the laundry room who had sage wisdom for me. He let me in on how to cut my laundry coin usage in half:
“You don’t need to wash your clothes, just put them in the dryer with a dryer sheet. I mean, when I take them out they smell just as clean as when I wash them as when I don’t.”
And I don’t remember who that charming young lad was. Nor do I remember anyone thinking he was the sharpest dressing gentleman out there either.
Gross. Wash your clothes. Clean stains–including the collar of your neck. And iron those shirts man! Be a gentleman!


Get a grown-up email address

Wildstallion1999@hotmail.com isn’t the way to present yourself when applying for a job. It’s also not the most savvy way to interact with new friends.  Being sharp and looking on your game sometimes takes putting away some childish things. Go ahead and keep your fave teenage email address, but for those people you’re aiming to be a gentleman around, keep it classy.


Make a man out of your online social imprint

A man’s online social profile reaches far and wide. When potential employers want to know more about you, do not doubt that it’s likely they’ll look you up on your favorite social network. Having a goofy profile picture with your family is great. But looking like a drunken sailor or a Jersey-licious club rat won’t score you extra points with the classy young lady you want to pursue, or those that you want to recognize you as being a gentleman.


Give your word and keep it

Being a gentleman requires your yes meaning yes, and your no being no. When you tell someone you’re going to do something–do it. Even when it costs you.
Improve your penmanship

I’m an absolute hypocrite on this point. My handwriting has not changed since 6th grade. Considering I barely handwrite anymore, considering all the tech we use, my scribbles are probably in severe decline. It is so bad more than once I’ve asked an assistant to handwrite a post-it note to the president of my organization so I wouldn’t have to hand him something illegible.
Thinking about it still makes me smirk today but probably isn’t the most gentlemanly practice.


Mind Your Manners

I’m not the most savvy when it comes to perfect etiquette. What side of your plate does the big fork go on? How do I tie a cummerbund? How do you impress really old rich people??
What I do try to pay attention to is being accommodating. If you’re with people you’re familiar with, be warm to the new persons and make them feel included. Are you around a new group of people? Don’t pull out your latest gag routine. Keep things simple until you’ve figured out the the personalized subculture of the group you are hanging with. Find out what’s important to them, what behavior is appropriate to the situation, and present yourself in the best light.
I hope it’d be needless to say, but belching in front of ladies you want to show respect rarely garners you some.
Using words like “Excuse me” and “Thank you” go a long way. Ask before taking. And instead of ordering someone to do something, ask them if they’ll do you a favor.
On a note that I’m sure any restaurant servers out there will appreciate, showing kindness to those in any service industry will distinguish you. But don’t do it to be distinguished. Show kindness and patience to those making your coffee, serving your food, installing your cable, or fixing your car.


Nix the my way or the highway attitude

People who are adamant and demanding they get their way almost always sound like alpha-douches. Or large babies. Instead of being pushy and consistently trying to get what you want, concede to what others want.
Nothing spoils chilling with a group of people more than the whiner who’s only going to be happy if the crowd does what they want. If that’s ever been you, take note. I guarantee people remember that moment you had to have your way.


Mind the details

It’s easy for any of us to be forgetful. And it’s easy to forgive ourselves when we are. When others are forgetful? We’re not so merciful. Show others you care by remembering not only the big things–but the little things. Doing this at your workplace as well will only help your touted reputation as knowing how to be a gentleman.


Give gifts

If you’re chief love language isn’t giving of gifts and connecting with people through acts of service, it will take repeated mental note-taking to give more effort in this area.
But few things shout “gentleman” more than a thoughtful note or gift to a lady love or friend. Whether it’s a special occasion or they need a pick-me-up. Don’t neglect to think about your bros too. If a buddy is down, make sure to be there to cheer them up. You can get them some gentleman gifts as well.


Being a Gentleman

This is only the beginning on our path to being a gentleman.
Improving yourself doesn’t happen overnight. As we’re already a couple of months into 2017, have you probably decided on any areas you want to focus and improve on this year?
It’s a great aim to look better, talk well, and dress sharper. But making yourself into a better man is more than just improving the physical details. It’s about cultivating your core. Find what you’re passionate about, and run after it. Find who you want to become, and chase it. Find out where in your character you’re deficient, and work on it. Let’s face our fears and grow into better men this year. Not everyone can be a hero, but everyone can be a gentleman. It’s a choice.

Rating of Boos from various Mario games

Super Mario Bros. 3 (Boo Diddlys)

Look at that boy!! He’s certainly up to something, and he’s ready for it! The dark background shows off just how pale he is!!!! (10/10)

Super Mario World (Boo Buddies)

Oh, there’s three here!! Already a great start! And look, they’re showing off how many different faces they can make!! You go, boo Buddies!! (10/10)

Super Mario 64

He may be pointy, but look at those amazing blue eyes! Don’t you just wanna stare into them for hours? Not as big of a smile as his predecessors, but that doesn’t matter!!! (10/10)

Super Mario Sunshine

Aaaaaa such a long tongue! And those teeth make the expression so adorable! They also like to take naps, so be sure not to wake them!!! (10/10)

Super Mario Galaxy

Here you can see they start getting bigger, which means more Boo to love!!! They’re so squishy-looking, I just wanna give ‘em a hug!!! (10/10)

Super Mario 3D World

YOU CAN SEE THROUGH THEM??? STUPENDOUS!!!! Look, they got their tongues out and they’re on the chase! (10/10)

Mario Party (4 and 5)

He’s got a cute little outfit on, oh no my heart can’t take this!!!! I wanna see him do some cool magic tricks, would hire as a birthday wizard!!! (10/10)

Wouldya look at that! This Boo’s gonna gobble up aaaaalll the ice cream!!! Bonus points for first playable Mario Party Boo!!!!! (10/10)

Paper Mario

Ooooo they got very pointy, yes they did! But lookit those eyebrows!! I’d trust them, I mean, look at how expressive they can be!!! (10/10)

But that’s not all!!! Let’s do King Boo to wrap things up!!!

Standard

So round and smooth and soft! And that crown is so sparkly, oh my goodness!! A very Good King!!!! (10/10)

Luigi’s Mansion

His tongue!!! It’s blue!!! And bright red eyes to match that jeweled crown??? Gorgeous!!!! (10/10)

Luigi’s Mansion: Dark Moon

Call me biased, but purple is my Favorite color, making this my Favorite King Boo. That ominous look! Those shadowy eyes!!! I love this!!! (10000/10)

I hope you enjoyed my rating, because simply put, all Boos are good.