how they used to be

  • me, two weeks ago, seeing hate in the ship tag: I'm a bad person and I should be ashamed, everyone rightfully hates me
  • me, now: fuck off losers

anonymous asked:

After watching R1, it quickly became my fav SW movie and I fell really deep into the SW fandom for the first time. But recently I've honestly kind of felt bad about myself because I loved the whole squad, including Jyn, and I absolutely love Jyn/Cassian, but the amount of vitriol surrounding both is unlike anything I've ever seen in any fandom. I know I shouldn't let antis get to me, and I don't want to give them the satisfaction. Do you have any advice on how to keep a positive head space?

First of all, nonny, I am so happy you love Rogue One so much! I know so many people have had it skyrocket to their favorite Star Wars movie and are finding themselves in fandom for the first time. It’s great to see and participate in all this Star Wars love. That is what fandom is all about.

Given that, I am so sorry that the antis are getting you down. People can be jerks, and antis feed off the way they upset people. I’ve come across this with many of my favorite characters and it’s really just same old, same old with these people. The structure of Tumblr makes it a little harder to get around them but here is my advice.

1) If you see antis when you go into the tag, go ahead and block them. I block freely and without reserve. People who don’t respect the tag or don’t try to keep their posts out of the search results are trying to rile you up and they don’t deserve the satisfaction.

2) Do not directly engage with a post. What I do and what I’ve seen others do is create a new post that mentions the claim and then debunks it. What you are interested in is not convincing the anti, who is out to destroy happiness, but to generate positive conversation with people who are casually reading things (and your friends). Keep the high ground at all times. Responding to the post directly only feeds the trolls. If by some bizarre unfortunate chance you get anon hate, delete it without publishing. Imagine the anti, refreshing your blog over and over waiting to see your outrage in vain.

3) If you have friends who are posting negative things about Jyn or Jyn/Cassian, ask them if they can use a tag so you can blacklist their posts. Friends don’t want to keep upsetting friends, after all. I use Tumblr Savior but XKit is also a good tool to filter out these posts.

4) Rewatch Rogue One! (Maybe stop right after they go through the shield gate so you don’t cry but up until that point it makes me purely happy.) Watch Jyn learn to trust again and find a home after being abandoned for so many years! Watch Cassian yell for her in concern and go back for her repeatedly, even when the mission does not require it! Watch them have no concept of personal space, even when they’re upset with each other! Watch the entire Rogue One team bond and become a found family! Watch the way Jyn and Cassian light up in the “welcome home” scene with bonus leaning! Watch the elevator scene! The good news is that canon is on our side.

5) Most importantly, focus on the joy in fandom :) There are so many more fans who love this movie and Jyn and Jyn/Cassian than people who hate her and the ship. There are many people who are not on Tumblr who love the whole team, including Jyn and this ship. You can follow positive blogs to stay inundated with positive fandom and I have to give a shout out to @therebelcaptainnetwork​ as a central location for happy Jyn/Cassian content.

(When in doubt, step away from Tumblr. Go for a walk, drink some tea, pet a fluffy animal. Fandom should be fun but it’s also important to take breaks when it’s not, as with anything.)

The antis are loud because they want attention but at the end of the day, these people are spending their time hating something instead of creating positive content about something they love. They are the equivalent of the bullies in the parking lot yelling mean things as you drive off with your friends to do something you love, and they should be treated as such - ignored in general and publicly, calmly, and factually refuted when they become a nuisance (like this weekend). In contrast, we get to spend our time being delighted and happy about these characters.

Above all,

anonymous asked:

Do you think they are having Carisi yell at Barba so much so that we'll KNOW we're not going to get Barisi ? Like , they've been teasing us with Barisi , but now we're definitely not getting it .

lol I don’t think either of those things is true.

(warning: keeping it real, and referring to canon, platonic Barisi)

Season 17 Barisi

I don’t think the writers ever actively teased us with canon romantic Barisi. They just saw the potential between two “opposites”, two very different characters with one major thing in common (the law), and they let that dynamic unfold. The initial banter, the jokes, the grudging respect, the eventual support and camaraderie. On paper, it made perfect sense, and Raul and Peter brought it to life beautifully.

I mean, even Raul himself said how much he enjoyed the Barba/Carisi scenes:

About the [Barba/Carisi] relationship, Esparza admits, “I don’t think [Barba’s] a very good mentor, but I loved the way the Carisi/Barba stuff played out. I didn’t respect him at first and then little by little I began to respect him.”

Esparza and Scanavino are both happy with the evolution of this relationship, says Esparza. “They started really writing for us and I remember we had a moment were we looked at each other we were like, ‘oh they’re giving us some really good stuff!’

So, to me, Season 17′s Barisi goodness was just clever writing. Making good use of two of the show’s best characters, letting two wonderful actors have fun, and exploring the Barba/Carisi dynamic in a humorous but also poignant way which enriched the entire season.

Season 18 Barisi

As for this season’s yelling, I don’t think it has anything to do with Barisi either. It has to do with Sonny personally. He’s not just yelling at Barba. He’s been yelling at witnesses and perps, too. In a recent interview, Peter said he feels that Carisi has been going through something dark:

There’s been nothing said explicitly this season, but I feel like off screen he may be dealing with some heavy stuff.

So I think that’s what the yelling is about. I don’t know if Peter knows something we don’t, or if this is his way of rationalizing all the Angry Cop scenes he has to act out. Still, it seems that Sonny is working through some personal issues, and his relationship with Barba is an unintended casualty. As is his sense of humor. Then again, the writers haven’t really cultivated any of the interpersonal relationships in S18, or even the feeling of a “squad”, so this isn’t surprising.

Also, let’s not forget (even though the writers clearly have) that Barba set up a job interview for Sonny, with a Brooklyn ADA, as a favor (btw you know how Strauss was on the show last week? A Brooklyn ADA? But he was a defense attorney, suddenly? lol). We never did find out how that job interview went. Maybe Sonny didn’t get the job? And he’s mad, lol? And he’s taking it out on Barba, because Barba made him believe he could do it? But he can’t?


I’d like to think Sonny’s professional frustrations are getting the better of him, and he’s lashing out at Barba because Barba has the job Sonny wants. Problem is, Sonny needs to shit or get off the pot. You don’t get to backseat drive a criminal trial. Sonny is welcome to offer suggestions, but he’s in no position to make demands. Barba is the ADA, Sonny is the cop. Barba makes the trial-related decisions, and he doesn’t owe anyone an explanation. If Sonny is frustrated, he needs to blame himself for deciding to stay with the NYPD.

Maybe that’s exactly what he’s been doing, and that’s why he’s angry. I truly hope that’s the season-ending conflict/culmination of Sonny’s anger issues. Otherwise, it’s all pointless. Which could very well be the case, of course. The writers seem to think that yelling = tension, and when an episode is otherwise dull (so, like, every week), they add some anger. Unfortunately, Sonny seems to be the popular choice for those outbursts, which is strange, since his previous characterization was far more mellow. 


Let Peter and Raul have fun acting together, please :D

samantha-girlscout  asked:

Ok so maybe I will survive, but all of these Chloe thoughts and discussions are breaking my heart. Like... she's gone through so much... And Adrien, too... T.T

They have gone through a lot. And the worst part is that they both have all the money, security, comfort, and privilege they could ever want, so there’s this dissonance in their hearts and minds because they’re so unhappy but society tells them they shouldn’t be.

Chloe refuses to let anyone hear her screaming for help because she will not be weak, oh no she won’t. Adrien uses his parody Twitter account and his Chat Noir persona to covertly display his unhappiness.

And yet…

When I think of all the things they went through before getting to where they are now, I can’t help but find it beautiful. That goes for the other characters as well. Everything they suffered, every decision and experience prepared them to be in the right place at the right time when that accidental email set everything in motion.

Walking around the same city, living and loving and hurting and growing, always brushing just past each other until they were ready to collide.

…but don’t mind me, I’m just a sap. :D

anonymous asked:

Is there a way to block a certain tumblr page? Cause I kinda wanna avoid a certain cuck berry. (not you. You are amazing darling!)

You can block people the normal way, by goin to their page and clicking that little person icon n then block. If you want to avoid seeing someone on your dash, however, the best (and really only option I’ve found so far) is to have/get x-kit and then blacklist the url.

(also thanks heh)

scoficld  asked:

coldatom + forever and always by parachute >:)

reed actually changed this to Emperor’s New Clothes by Panic! at the Disco for me bc i wasn’t getting anywhere good with this and they love me (and they gave me a list but i picked this from it)

God, Snart is so dramatic. Ray really should be annoyed with it. 

Really, does he have to make it an Event whenever he walks–no, struts–into a room? Everything with him has to be a big gesture: whether it’s saying anything in that ridiculous drawl of his (that Ray definitely does not find hot), smirking at inopportune moments, or peacocking and stealing wallets at every opportunity. 

Not that Ray doesn’t understand big gestures. It’s just that Ray usually goes overboard trying to make people happy, not with stealing their stuff. 

Anyway, his wallet has gone missing for the third time this week and it isn’t a huge deal because it’s not like credit cards or IDs are something they carry around; it’s just whatever cash is appropriate to whatever time period they’ve landed in. But it is annoying

“Snart,” Ray says, walking over to the thief, “can I have my wallet back?”

Snart just stares at him, with that obnoxious smirk playing across his lips (Ray definitely does not find this hot either). 

“Please?” Ray asks. 

“Finders keepers, Raymond,” Snart responds, lingering on Ray’s name, as usual.

Ray holds out his hand. “I don’t get why this is still fun for you, you keep doing it, and it’s getting old.”

“Maybe you should keep a better hold on your possessions. Then I wouldn’t have to teach you a lesson by stealing it. It’s almost embarrassingly easy at this point, Raymond.”

“He’s flirting with you, haircut,” Mick says, walking by, and Snart immediately whips the bouncy ball he’d been fiddling with at Mick’s head. 

It hits solidly on the side, and Mick doesn’t even flinch. 

Ray’s jaw drops. 

“You didn’t hear that,” Snart says, glaring. 

Ray starts talking, not sure what the words are going to be until they’re already out of his mouth. “Who taught you how to flirt? Because you’re flirting like a five year old, why couldn’t you just, I don’t know, use cheesy pickup lines like a normal person?”

Snart raises an eyebrow. “Am I a normal person?”

“No,” Ray admits, “you’re not. But, uh, I’d be okay. You know, with you flirting with me. More. Or, maybe, even dinner?”

So, really, Leonard’s penchant for drama works out in the end. Even if Mick had to step in to save him from himself. And if Ray does like Leonard’s big gestures a little too much, well, at least they have something in common. 

ahhh this was fun, thank you reeed

give me a song and a pairing and i’ll write you a ficlet! preferred ships are: coldatom, timehex, samaya, but i’ll write a variety of other queer ships (or goldenvibe) in the dctvu

hey guys, help me out:

do you think gansey had been to the barns pre-series?

part of me wants to say yes, because he and ronan were best friends, but part of me wants to say no? because, like, there’s a lot of dream things/Obvious Magic at the barns? a lot of stuff that can’t really be Explained? right?

answered! thank u guys!! <3

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