how the hell is this not on tumblr already

How do you mourn the death of the living? Where do you place headstones of unfulfilled dreams; and is there anyone out there weeping for all the life diminished within a person? Are there graves for all the hope we have lost; candles lit and sermons said in memory of our happier selves; eulogies written for all the people living as they were already dead? Is there a heaven for those already in hell.
—  Eliot Knight

someone help me snapchat is sinking its filthy furry filter claws into me

I didn’t? (Peter Parker x Reader)

A/N: Based on the Tumblr post…you know the one. Couldn’t find a screenshot of it, so if somebody has it please add it on!

Summary (sort of): Peter Parker is bloody forgetful. Like damn.

Word Count: .5k (I might do a part two; I don’t really know how to work links though)

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the crossroads have seen too many girls
willing to sell their souls
for a beauty that already belonged to them.

a liminal space
where boundaries thin like wisps of smoke
in early dawn light.

but there is beauty in this too, soft pastel colours,
a quiet empty echo of laughter and then darkness,
encompassing and heavy, pressing into lungs
but still radiant somehow.

for now demons count souls
like dollar bills held close to devil red chests, smiles curling
because they think that they’ve won.

but one day those girls will see past black ringed promises
bartered at an intersection of road,
down to the skin that was already perfect
and that quiet empty echo of a soul that had been perfect too.

hell will see.
the four horsemen are nothing
compared to an army of girls ready to reclaim what is theirs.

l.s. | LIMINAL SPACE © 2017 

Alright alright alright

Seriously, who cares about what anyone decides to post?
If you want to talk about how cute isak and even are, do it. If you want to talk about sana being sad, do it. About yousef? About what the dandelion means? About mikael? Elias? Vilde and Magnus? Sara and the pepsimax squad? The donald trump doll? Jamilla? Hell, if you want to, you can even talk about the fucking level of black that isak’s black eye is on. Talking about something that doesn’t have to do with sana doesn’t mean we don’t care about her. We already KNOW it’s her fucking season. Chill out. Let people talk about what the fuck they want to talk about.

WHO CARES

Do you own fucking Tumblr now?

Damn. Just let a bitch live, man.

anonymous asked:

Hi! You're one of my favourite writers and I was hoping to get some advice on a bughead fic I recently started writing. I've received a lot of hits (verging on the 300 mark) but not a lot of kudos (I think about 3) and even a smaller number of comments (you can probably guess that number). I was wondering if maybe I should take that as a sign to stop writing it?

No, of course not! As long as you’re enjoying it and excited about it you should continue writing it. I know it’s easy to be all like ooh the hits don’t matter you should write for you, but that is true first and foremost.

With regards to feedback I know it is the absolute lifeblood for fic writers and how frustrating it can be when you feel like you’ve put a lot into something to only get a little back. With fanfic as with anything, its all about promotion because unfortunately it’s easy for things to get lost in the big wide web. Post on tumblr if you haven’t already, make sure to tag everything so people can find your fics. Reblog the hell out of your own content because you made that and you should be proud. I saw that recently @blueandgoldoffice started doing a Submission Sunday for people to submit any works to build up a database which I think is incredible and Jandy and Cami are super humans. Also @raptorlily is amazing for finding the underdogs of the fic world and exposing them so everyone can enjoy as much content as possible.

It can be a slow process, and frustrating to begin with, but giving up at the first sign of distress won’t help you and your presence grow, or give people time to find your fic when it could be just the thing you’re looking for. Obviously if your heart isn’t in it anymore don’t feel bad for starting over, you are in complete control here which is one of the best things about being a fic author, but I hope you push through in whatever way you choose and get the recognition you undoubtedly deserve ❤️

Why is there an Emoji Movie fandom on Tumblr??? I thought the whole of humanity agreed to despise this movie, but I suppose I was incorrect. All I wanted to do was read reviews about how much they hated the “MoViE,” but nooooo, I had to discover whatever the hell was going on in the Emoji Movie tag. I’ve already seen fanart and headcannons being made of that movie. I’m done with this Hellsite.

After school routine

Posting mainly of my future-self who is so overwhelmed that she’ll go straight to sleep and do nothing

1. Feed your cats

They are as hungry as you are but they are priority #1 because they are cute as hell and, when they are hungry, they are so damn annoying. So feed the lil’assholes first before they get the chance to break something. (for the record: I love my 2 cats v much and they are my world but they can annoy the shit out of me)

2. Eat something 

(CANDY/CHOCOLATE DOES NOT COUNT AS FOOD!! DON’T YOU DARE, YOU DUMBASS,  YOU’LL JUST GET MORE TIRED AND FALL ASLEEP!!) eat something like some fruit, toast, peanut butter, salad, pasta etc. Just anything that is real food, okay? Also drink something (coffee probably cause caffeine) BUT don’t forget water!! Also don’t be eating like 4 hours while watching Netflix!! You’re really not eating that long so while you eat, watch like 1 episode of something (BUT ONLY ONE) or watch studyblr blogs because they give u motivation

2. Wash your face

You’ll feel more motivated and freshh af

3. Get snacks for doing homework

I know you want to. Just pls get something healthy. A cup of coffee, apples, nuts or like protein bar or something

4. Homework and stuff 

You’ll have to do them eventually so now would be a good time, so after you’ll have time to read or something. DON’T PROCRASTINATE IT ONLY MAKES YOU SUFFER MORE!! This way you might even have natural light and won’t have to do them in the dark. Natural light is THE BEST motivation source (at least for me) cause here in the fun land of Finland, natural light is very very limited (and at winter, natural light isn’t a thing. It’s already dark as hell outside when you get home from school so yay. Also I’m getting off topic) Think about how good it’ll feel to finish you homework like at 8 o’clock and you’ll have time for other shit!! Be the goddamn nerd you want to be and think about how hard work pays off and shit

5. Take breaks!

But not too long ones, don’t go to Tumblr for 2 hours and pretend you’re looking for motivation. SET A TIMER AND FOLLOW IT! WHEN IT RINGS, IT MEANS IT’S TIME TO GET TO WORK AGAIN!! Also, don’t go to your bed and “just close your eyes for a few minutes”. You’ll wake up again after 3 hours grumpy, confused and panicking, it is not worth it. If you have to take a nap, SET A TIMER and after the timer goes off GET THE FUCK UP DO NOT STOP THE ALARM AND “SLEEP JUST 5 MORE MINUTES” IT DOES NOT WORK GODDAMNIT. 

6. Other stuff you need to do that day

Shower? Clean your room? Wash laundry? Work out? Now would be the time for that! (Actually if you work out, eat something first!). If you feeling it, you can make breakfast (like chia pudding or raw porridge) or lunch/snacks (like salad or quinoa+vegetables) for the next day  

8. EAT

Dinner time! COOK SOME FOOD! Pls don’t eat frozen pizzas everyday!! You won’t feel as good. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, just make sure you eat enough

7. Time For FUNN!

A.k.a Read! Watch some Netflix! Bake cookies! Or you know, it’s probs very late now, so GO TO SLEEP! Don’t stay up so late because you’re watching Netflix/reading, sleep is more important and sleep is amazing. SLEEP! GO TO BED EARLY! LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!

anonymous asked:

Wow the art for this blog sucks! You should get a better artist that actually tries :/

You sent anon hate to the wrong fucking blog, anon.

First of all, good job proving just how much of a pussy you are by hiding behind the anonymous option. Are you serious? Are you legit serious? If you’re going to call something on my blog shit, then grow some god damn balls and own up to it instead of existing to shit on other people anonymously. My friend works harder than any other person I’ve met on their art. Do you not know what progression is? Do you not know what time and effort is? Or do I have to fucking spoon feed it to you like the retard you are? Think I sound harsh? I’m no better than you throwing these insults? I don’t give a billion flying shits what I sound like right now. I wouldn’t give a shit if I lost a follower for this crap. You gave my friend a fucking panic attack, and you know what? It’s not stopping them for drawing for this blog.

Can you even draw a simple stick-figure, anon? Never mind that question. I don’t give a fuck.

You could go “Psh. Yeah, whatever. You don’t know me.” Guess fucking what, sweetheart? (: I WOULDN’T WANT TO KNOW YOUR PATHETIC DEGRADING ASS IN THE FIRST PLACE. IF YOU’RE SUCH HOT SHIT, THEN COME OFF OF ANON AND SEND ME SOME BULLCRAP THEN. I’M NOT AFRAID TO SPEAK MY DAMN MIND OUT OF FUCKING ANON, CLEARLY PROVEN THAT ALREADY, BUT YOU SURE AS HELL ARE. FUCKING. AFRAID. I DONE GONE FUCKING HOPE YOU READ THIS BECAUSE YOU DESERVE MY GOD DAMN RAGE. 

IF YOU CAN’T COME OFF THAT PATHETIC PUSSY SHIT CALLED “ANONYMOUS” TO TELL ME, OR MY FRIEND, THAT THEY SUCK, THEN GET YOUR FILTHY TOXIC ASS OFF MY BLOG. FUCK, GET OFF MY BLOG ANYWAY IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT BECAUSE, HONESTLY, THIS BLOG DOESN’T EXIST FOR YOUR SHALLOW PISS-WAGONED NIT PICKING ASSED ENTERTAINMENT. 

I MADE IT FOR FUN, TO EXPAND MY VOICE ACTING, AND PUT IT SOMEWHERE. I ALREADY KNOW HOW TUMBLR IS WITH THIS TYPE OF STUFF. IT’S OTHERS CHOICE IF THEY ENJOY IT OR NOT. YOU CAN SHIT ALL OVER ME. TELL ME I SUCK. TRY TO BREAK MY CONFIDENT AF SHELL. HONESTLY, GO AHEAD AND TRY IT.

BUT DON’T. 

FUCKING.

EVER

MESS WITH MY FRIENDS.

Discovering Me

I haven’t posted in a while. Things got too busy, but something has changed since the last post. I’ve learned a lot about myself, and the most important thing I’ve learned has to do with this month, Pride Month. 

Buckle up. This will be a long ride. But don’t worry. There will be a tl;dr at the bottom.

CW: Discussion of Erasure, Discourse, brief discussion of rape (#6 on lists), some foul language, let me know if I missed anything.

This past year, I learned that I am asexual. Not only am I asexual, but I’m questioning my romantic orientation. Maybe I’m heteroromantic, and maybe I’m biromantic. Questioning is what started my journey to discovering my asexuality, so I’m embracing this next step in my journey, to fight against my internalized behavior and view on certain subjects and break free to discovering me. But this post isn’t so much about that. That will be a different post, maybe tomorrow or maybe next year. Who knows. Discovering Me Part 2 is on the way.

This post is about my experience within my first year of embracing Asexuality. No one else, though part of my observations have included many people within the Asexual community. If you want to skip this paragraph, feel free, but this is a quick summary of the discovery process. Many moons ago (cheap way to get out of actually having the figure out the years) I met one of my closest friends on a website. We began discussing many subjects, and eventually landed on the subject of sexuality. It was at this point that I learned what Asexuality was. It was the first time I’d ever heard of it. Outside of biology, of course. I had so much to learn, and in learning, I discovered that we had a lot in common. It took me years to figure out that this was because I was, in fact, asexual. My whole life, I’ve been asexual, and never knew. 

Since coming out as Asexual, I’ve never felt better about myself. I’ve learned that there is nothing wrong with me, because there are others like me and I am valid. It’s okay to not feel sexual attraction and it’s okay to not want to engage in sexual activities. Even more so, sexuality is a spectrum and one can be fluid. It’s now my belief that sexual and romantic orientation can be static or fluid equally, and it depends on the individual.

Now, the reason for this post. It’s the end of Pride Month. My first Pride Month. I was so happy to be me, and I was so happy to be able to celebrate with the other Aces I’ve met through group pages on Tumblr and Facebook. There was a lot of positivity for each other in these groups. But what I found outside of them?

Quite frankly, a lot of the behavior has been disgraceful.

Now wait. I’m sure there are plenty of people already writing responses to say how I’m ‘making something out of nothing’ or ‘trying to play the victim.’ Hell, I’m sure there are people who already stopped reading to tell me how I’m not valid. But see, that’s the point of this post. 

Let me list a few things I’ve learned this month about Asexuality specifically. If I talked about everything, this would be the longest post ever, and no one is going to read it anyway so I might as well just cover the one thing. I may or may not agree with these things, we’ll get to that later. This is just a list of what I’ve observed. I will edit as necessary.

1. Asexuals are not oppressed. 

2. Asexuality isn’t a real sexuality.

3. Cisgender, Heteroromantic Asexuals do not belong in the LGBTQIA+ community.

4. Asexuals likely suffer from something (trauma, low libido, blahblahBLAHblahblah, what have you…)

5. Asexuals, by creating their own community, are threatening the LGBTQIA+ community. 

6. The use of the term “Corrective Rape” is inappropriate and an insult to lesbians for which the term was originally used.

These were the biggest ones. There were others, and if anyone is reading this, please feel free to continue this list if you like. Discussion is the point. Also, before we continue, yes, I know not all LGBTQIA+. We have a ton of supporters in the community, and we’re all aware and grateful for the support, just as you are of your supporters. But the others. Those who don’t support. They often have the loudest voices. I’m sure you know. 

Now, I’m not trying to overshadow anyone else’s problems. Trans and Bisexuals in the community are getting a lot of hate from the community as well. I recognize and understand that. Most of us in the Asexual community do. So let’s just start with one easy fact we can all agree on, yes?

For most of us, we feel we were born this way. Of course, other situations can play into our current orientations. But most of us believe that the way we are is the way we’ve always been, at least to some degree. That’s part of the joy of being ‘out,’ isn’t it? So I can’t blame a gay man for only liking men in that manner. Nor can I blame a trans woman for being a woman. No one can blame me for not feeling sexual attraction, or a demisexual for only feeling sexual attraction after creating a strong emotional bond. See, sexuality and romantic orientation are almost impossible to lump into groups. Everyone has a different experience, and that’s why spectrums exist. We need to respect that while someone is under an umbrella term, they may not identify entirely with the majority. One small change is all it takes to be viewed as an outsider. Or at least that’s what I have observed. All sexualities are valid. This does not include anything outside of sexual attraction, though. Do not be confused, and do not tell me pedophiles belong in the lgbtqia+ community. That is a different discussion. Moving on. Let’s talk about the list. 

1. Asexuals are not oppressed. Wrong. NOW WAIT! Before you start typing away, here’s why: Oppression comes in many shapes and sizes. No one is saying we are getting killed in the streets during daytime because we don’t feel sexual attraction. Literally no one, and I’ve been looking. We are not comparing ourselves to other members of the community. We are not systematically oppressed. Sure. But we are oppressed to some degree (This is not to say we are oppressed by outside hate groups). Oppression isn’t a race to the finish line. It’s not a ‘who has it worse’ game. Oppression sucks no matter how much you experience. Telling me that I have never been called an abomination just walking down the street, so that doesn’t make me a member of the community, is the most ridiculous fucking thing I’ve ever heard. “Did you get threatened today? I did. Out with you!” Hi. I have news for you. Perhaps we are not getting death threats from as many straight people as you. But guess what? If you’re about to type in the comments “If you’re not systemically oppressed, you don’t belong in the community,” Many people would say YOU’RE THE OPPRESSOR HI HELLO.

We want other people who AREN’T THE SAME AS US to say “Hi. You’re Asexual? That’s neat. I’m ____. Wanna be friends?” Instead of “Hi. You’re Asexual? Here’s why you’re not.” This, friends, is erasure. It takes many forms, but this one is pretty common. “Oh you just have a low libido/you haven’t met the right person yet/have you tried having sex/etc.” Basically, people are telling us our sexuality is not valid, and more of a ‘phase’ that can be ‘cured’ in some shape or form. Is erasure oppression? A little bit, I’d think. Doesn’t it sound familiar? I mostly think that because other groups have brought up their own erasure as a form of oppression in the past. So….? Let’s move forward.

I’m going to bring number 6 up as it’s own, so have patience. We’re gonna skip right over to the community here. We covered erasure. Let’s next talk about the definition of Oppression. Feel free to look it up on google. Here are some keywords/phrases: Burdened by troubles, adverse conditions, anxiety, etc. The exercise of authority or power in a burdensome, cruel, or unjust manner

Oh, Tumblr. How guilty you are. Not just you, of course, but let’s just jump right into the toxicity of many loud bloggers. Cisgender Heteromantic Asexuals often experience not only erasure but straight up bullying. Yes ladies and gents and those in between, cyber bullying. This is not my main blog. This is my ‘who cares what anyone else reads or says of mine’ blog. I have been told I don’t exist. I have been told I don’t belong. I have been told I don’t belong in the community. I have been told I must be a bad girlfriend, unable to provide. I have been told I will never find love, and will die alone. What was that definition again? The exercise of authority or power in a what manner? Get this! most often than not, I am not asked my romantic orientation. I am not given a chance to say “I currently identify as heterosexual, but I’m questioning if I may be bisexual.” That is an afterthought, after all the acid has been spewed. 

I have been told I just need a good lay to be normal. I have been the butt of jokes, because being Asexual is apparently funny. I have been coerced into sexual activities with their partners, even though I didn’t want to. I have been told that I can be ‘fixed’ if I just open up to a therapist (which, btw, for those who don’t know, I’ve been told multiple times that Asexuality was considered a mental illness until like 2013). I have been told, many times, that I should just ‘kill myself’. Not only by straight people. That’s right. Members of the community. All of these Ace Hate pages? Yes, hello, welcome to the party. You are the oppressors! 

I also want to point out that, again, everything is a spectrum. There are Cisgender HETEROROMANTIC Bisexuals. It happens. There are Cisgender Heteroromantic Homosexuals who may choose not to identify as bisexual, and that is their choice. So what makes me straight if I identify as a Cisgender Heteroromantic Asexual? That is not heteronormative.

2. Asexuality isn’t a real sexuality. Well, maybe you’re right. I don’t know. I’m not the authority on this, and you sure as hell aren’t either. I didn’t sign up for this. But let’s talk about sexuality. When we label our sexuality, we are effectively saying “this gets me going.” We’re saying I am sexually attracted to ____. So Asexuals are saying “I am sexually attracted to nothing.” Now, that’s a generalization because again, spectrum, but you get the idea. So maybe you’re right. Maybe it’s just a name for nothing. But where it gets tricky is when we talk about sex-positivity, sex-neutrality, and sex-repulsivity. These are a part of the spectrum of Asexuality, and I’m sure you’re all smart enough to figure out what it means. Basically, you either view sex positively and may like to participate, you don’t care either way, or sex is gross for whatever reason. Everyone perceives sex differently. That’s okay. I think by saying Asexual isn’t a real sexuality, people are erasing that some Asexuals do actually have sex. I don’t know. Could just be me. Either way, I consider Asexuality a real sexuality, because otherwise, I am nothing. I’m not straight. Just a bit of space dust on a rock. :) 

3. Cisgender, Heteroromantic Asexuals do not belong in the community. Why? If you read the last couple paragraphs for my explanation of number 1, as well as my response to number 2, this shouldn’t still be an argument. Let’s discuss what it means to be straight. You must be 3 things to be straight. 1) Cisgender. Check. I bring this up because, while it has been pointed out this is a transphobic statement (which is not my intention,) it is used in arguments literally all the time against asexuals, and therefore, it is only my observation that people are using this to reinforce being ‘straight’. Many people in the community are cisgendered, so watch out! You could be straight, too! Hold on, calm down, two more to go. 2) Heteroromantic. Check(ish?). Phew, some of you are safe! But, still, not all. See, as I stated above, being a certain orientation sexually is not always mirrored romantically. For instance, and this is a real person I know, I have a Heteroromantic friend who is quite Bisexual. There’s totally nothing wrong with that. In fact, it’s great. Because, again, spectrum. So look out! You’re not all safe yet! Here we go…..drumroll….3) Heterosexual. Ouch! Missed by one. How’d everyone else do? If you said yes to all 3, you’re straight! If not, guess what! You’re not! And that’s awesome. Everything is awesome. Be who you are proudly! But most of all, stop shitting on everyone else. Now, I understand some straight people are shitty. But some people in the community can be just as shitty. Please see my response to number 1. ;) Basically, if you ain’t straight, you’re in the community, friend! It’s based off of an early principle of the community - You are welcome if you fall outside of heteronormativity. 

4. Asexuality is likely a result of abuse, trauma, illness, etc… Okay so most of the time I hear this from straight people. I’m not surprised. It’s okay to not understand something. But know when to listen and have an open mind. At the end of the day, you need to stay in your lane. It’s cool. It’s a learning process.

Now, for community members who say this. Are you for real? Don’t you remember when people were saying that about you? Treating your orientations as a phase? Telling you it must be from all that abuse, or because mommy let you join choir instead of football, or daddy didn’t let you date? Don’t you remember when everyone thought it was a mental illness? They still say it! You’re still hearing it! Or have you forgotten so quickly? Why do you say this to us? And for those of us for which this statement is true, why in hell does this make us less valid? Whether it was the result of abuse, trauma, etc., or not, it’s not your job to tell us why we are the way we are. Instead of shaming us for the result, try welcoming us and treating us as friends. Again, we’re not getting killed in the streets. No, I don’t fear for my life because I say I’m Asexual. But our emotions are valid, and emotional trauma as well as physical trauma is tragic when happening to anyone. Just because asexuality =/= death (yet, since it’s still barely known who knows what could happen), doesn’t mean we don’t need a space. It’s a smaller space. We’re fine with that. 

5. Asexual communities are a threat to LGBTQIA+ communities. How? Somewhere I read that Asexuals currently make up less than 1% of the population. Maybe that number just came out of someone’s ass, but we’re definitely a minority. I know 2 people irl who identify on the Asexual spectrum. 2. In 25 years of living. Honestly, who knows how many of us are out there, because many people don’t even know what Asexuality is yet, as evidenced by the “you can’t reproduce by yourself” messages some Ace groups get. They’re quite funny. Anyway, yes. We have our own community. It is the Ace community. Are you Ace? You’re in the community. Welcome. Are you Trans? You’re in the Trans community. Are you Gay? You’re in the Gay community. See how this works? And, are you not straight? Welcome. You are in the LGBTQIA+ community. 

Nay-sayers have been telling us to create our own community since we’ve been vocal about our sexuality. “You don’t belong here. If you want a safe space, make your own.” We made our community a little more solid. “How dare you try to overshadow us and steal our resources!” Okay. You’re ridiculous. 

The fact of the matter is, you’re not going to be happy so long as we exist. It’s a lonely world out there, especially when you feel like you don’t belong. Or did you not experience that? Must be nice. Maybe you’ve forgotten. No one understands us completely except for other people like us. So of COURSE we have a community. Just like you do. It’s nice. It helps us feel valid. It’s a support system for when something else in our life falls to hell because, surprise, we’re not ‘normal’. But we’re so. small. We want to be part of something bigger so that we can feel accepted and bond over our shared experiences, instead of being reminded of how we’re different. Isn’t that what you wanted? Did you forget? 

One last note on this. I have seen a LOT of arguments about whether or not the A stands for Ally or Asexual, or both (I mean, the Q is Queer or Questioning, right?) but some people (in and out of our community) feel that straight allies receive less push back than asexuals in the community. Strange. Now, I haven’t seen this because I steer clear of most LGBTQIA+ events. Why? Well I would love to participate, but I’m afraid of being harassed by people who think I don’t belong. So I can show up as an Ally, but I can’t show up as an Asexual? What if I want to be an Ally? I want to help your fight. It’s awful what happens to you. I can’t be, because I’m Asexual? Because I’m not going to keep my Asexuality to myself. I’m proud of my Asexuality. So evidently, I can’t be both. Isn’t the community about several smaller communities coming together to fight for rights and visibility? If the Asexual community wants to join your fight and help the larger community, why is that so terrible?

6. Corrective Rape is a term that was created specifically for Lesbians is how this was first put to me. I nearly choked on air. Yes, Lesbians and female bisexuals (males as well? Let me know if this is the case-) are treated horribly by many societies. Yes, they are raped to teach them the ‘correct’ way to be. It’s disgusting. Everyone knows it’s disgusting, and as a woman who was assaulted in a very different situation, I can tell you firsthand it’s one of the worst things that can happen to a human being. 

I have a story that some of you may not want to read, so skip this if you feel you may get upset. It involves a woman who is Asexual, and a man who is not. The woman trusts this man. He is a father, or brother, or relative, or husband, or date, or stranger. This woman tells this man that she does not feel sexual attraction. Maybe she needed to tell someone. Maybe she needed to tell him so he didn’t create expectations. Maybe she’s just very open about herself and very proud of who she is. Then, this man laughs at her and tells her she’s silly. He tells her she just hasn’t had a good fuck. She becomes offended, and tries to explain her sexuality, but he continues to laugh at her and says he knows how to ‘fix’ her. Maybe he tries.

Get the picture? I won’t continue. We all know what happens next. What does that sound like, to you? Does it sound like a normal rape story? Sure. Except for one keyword. Fix. What about if the man suddenly became irrationally angry? Does that make it more convincing? That happens, too. Either way, in some way or another, it is done with the goal to ‘fix’ her. Or him. Or them. Whoever it may be in this story. Because there are a million different ways this story could go. So tell me. What does this sound like to you? Does it sound like rape with the purpose of correcting? 

Some people argue that the term was ‘coined’ (as was said to me) for Lesbians. But this term is describing an event. Look up the definition. Whether or not that is the case, this is the best way to describe this situation. And it happens. Like it or not, you can’t change that. No one can. And to look someone in the face and say that despite your experiences, you’re not valid? 

Like it or not, if someone is not Cisgender, Heteroromantic, and Heterosexual all at the same time, they are not straight. That is what straight is. You can’t change that definition to *gasp* exclude someone. It’s not your job. This community is about providing a safe space, for everyone to feel welcome and included because we don’t fit in with straight people. Yes, some groups experience more dangerous oppression than others, and they deserve all the resources they require. Yes, other groups needs to recognize when they do not need certain resources. But we all need to realize that oppression in any form is toxic. It is painful, and we could all use love and acceptance. This is working together to understand that we all hurt, but some of us are privileged in being able to have only emotional hurt, instead of physical and emotional hurt. That doesn’t make the hurt less valid. Ever. But it certainly means we have a space, and we need to stay in it. Everyone in the community should be of this mindset: “Come in, join us. You belong somewhere. You are valid. Here is your space. Please stay in your space.” This is working together to create a better community than we left. A better community than the one that rejected us all. 

Happy Pride Month, everyone. I’m PROUD to be a Cisgender, Heteroromanticish Asexual, and I am PROUD to be a part of the LGBTQIA+ community! 

TL;DR: 

You know what? I can’t condense that. It’s all too important. But I WILL leave a reminder: I am but one person speaking on my own about things I have observed in and out of the community. These are my thoughts as it stands, and of course are subject to change. I am open to discussion, and more than willing to learn more about other people’s experiences. 

Finally, most of this post WAS aimed at the minority. Most people in the community do not sit around and hate on Asexuals. I said it earlier and I will say it again and again. But hopefully this post was informative for somebody.

This was in my feed today as an advert. Anyone who knows more about tumblr algorithms and these ads on mobile, what do you think this could be? I clicked it and it’s some article about Netflix streaming… this confuses me so much because the image isn’t linked to the actual advert or article in any way and, well, my tumblr feed it mostly filled with Sherlock stuff. I’ve never stumbled across an ad that’s had anything to do with my actual tumblr preferences or interests before though, so why this now???

EDIT: I’ve now seen that others have already addressed this, but how weird is it??? Especially since it doesn’t even seem like it’s randomly generated in any way… if someone’s fucking with us again they sure are putting a HELL of a lot of time and effort into it.

Tagged some people who might know more about this..
@the-7-percent-solution
@holmessick
@holmesdaily
@addignisherlock
@shag-me-senseless-watson
@postcardsfromstrangeplaces
@sherlockology
@sherlock
@sher-lockian
@real-life-reichenbach
@thetwelfthpanda
@joolabee
@nemoholmes
@vitruvianwatson
@gayholmie

anonymous asked:

I kno u dont want a big discussion but i totally agree. YOI was super popular when it first started airing because i remember it being all over tumblr after the first week!!! I started watching for the ice-skating coz im a sucker for sports anime and was excited to see how they would animate the skating. It's just sad that it has a lot of controversy and stuff. I still love it and am very excited for the new film <3

Oh hell yeah I remember.When I saw the first gifs on my dash, I quickly watched the first episode before going to sleep and damn I’ve said it several times already but I cried at the opening already.
I love it too and can’t wait to see the movie either! Maybe all the negativity stuff will get better soon, I just want to enjoy yoi
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Alright so, since vagueing is “mean”

Let’s go guys

Look at this.

First of all @actualsystemhelp great formatting there. Not important though, but Tumblr looks like it’s angry already pff

Second of all, what the actual hell?

Here are the criteria for schizophrenia

Wow, it’s almost like hallucinations aren’t entirely required for a diagnosis. “At least one of these must be (1) [Delusions], (2) [Hallucinations], or (3) [Disorganized speech.”

You can have schizophrenia and not have hallucinations. Good job buddy

I’m not gonna argue tons about NPD buuuut, ya know, to cover the bases

“…as indicated by five (or more) of the following…”

Wow, looks to me like lack of empathy isn’t required for a diagnosis either. How bou dah…. 

The reason I’m not arguing about that one as much though is because, well, low/lack of empathy is not just extremely common but is pretty much an Expected Thing and is present in at least 75% of people with NPD I’m sure. But, you know. Not a required diagnostic criteria. Sorry.

Oh and y’know there’s this bit, here, that everyone tries telling y’all but you never listen

Trauma isn’t in the criteria for DID :/

So if you’re going to preach ~science~ and the DSM at least get your stuff right. Because seriously, who’s spreading misinfo now? Hm

That’s not to mention that “endo” doesn’t even mean “spiritually identify as” or “spiritual” at all so, again. nice job buddy

@ing again in case someone skims and misses it: @actualsystemhelp come on

😜💦 GABY’S ULTIMATE AO3 SIN PHAN FIC REC 😜💦

Since I consider myself a Professional Fanfic Reader™, I decided to make a list of my fave sins so you can go to hell with me :) I have marked with a (+) for the ones YOU MUST READ if you’re up for some EXTRA SINNING (aka much smut). None of these are WIPs because I’m gonna add them once they’ve ended lol.

#IPreferDan: He never planned on keeping the pill a secret from Phil because he never planned on Phil and him living together so comfortably for over 3 years. He’d banked on a year maybe a year and a half before they went their separate ways. He’d only banked on 2 months max before Phil found out what the pills were for. Dan couldn’t believe it was 2015 and Phil didn’t know yet.Or the one where Dan was born female and refuses to tell anyone.

Here By My Side, A New Colour To Paint The World: So one day, Phil walks in on Dan wearing a dress. And after a very confusing discussion, it comes out that Dan enjoys wearing girl’s clothing in private. Phil lets it be known that he’d be fine if Dan wore it around him and slowly, Dan starts opening up and letting Phil into his private world. But what Phil doesn’t expect is to start seeing Dan in a whole new way.

Pretty Odd (Things Have Changed For Me and That’s Okay): Baby!fic in which one day, Phil wakes up with a baby in his bedroom and finds out that apparently he and Dan are the only ones who don’t know where this baby came from, as everybody else claims that it’s Phil’s. What happens next is they then end up raising a baby together, with no less than a few existential crises from both of them along the way, as well as plenty of blunders and mishaps. Oh, and through it all, Phil starts falling for Dan but doesn’t dare tell him because he can’t risk losing his best friend.

+ Crawling back to you: Dan and Phil started having phone sex while Dan was at uni, and once they moved in together they just stopped. Now they’re both coming to the realisation they want more, but they can still only tell each other over the phone.

+ Distracting Phone Calls: Phil never should have answered his phone while live on air. Dan is making it really hard to hang up though.

All That You Are is All That I’ll Ever Need: Dan Howell is just ordinary, but his boyfriend Phil is Amazing(Phil from YouTube). Or, AU in which Dan isn’t a YouTuber.

I Dare You to Love Me: AU! Dan owns a popular flower shop and has more of a passion for flowers than he does for people. That is, until Phil stumbles into his shop - and consequently into his life as the two develop a fast friendship and Dan finds himself all but infatuated with him. But there’s a problem: Phil’s engaged and Dan is the florist for his wedding. And even more complications arise when Phil begins questioning everything he’s ever known about love - and himself - when he realizes that the path to true love isn’t always… straight.

+++++++++++The Wanting Comes In Waves: After moving to the tiny Welsh coastal village of Rhagfyr, Phil struggles to find a new way of living, what with his new school and the decision of his future still on the table. Dan is a riddle, wrapped in a mystery, inside an enigma, but perhaps there’s beauty inside destruction.

Our Threadbare Lies: Dan is eighteen years old and newly single. He’s ready to come out to his family but he thinks it would be a hell of a lot easier if he had a boyfriend to help him through it.

Just the Beat of My Own Heart: Dan and Phil are rivals in every sense of the word. The problem is that they’re already madly in love. Or, where Dan and Phil fall in love on tumblr, unaware that the person they’re talking to online is the person they hate in real life. A “You’ve Got Mail” AU.

But It Takes Someone To Come Around To Show You How: Dan is born mute into a world where once in everyone’s life your soulmate will say the specific words that are tattooed onto your body, and bring you together. These words will save your life in more ways than imaginable. Whilst Dan resigns himself to the fact he will never have a soulmate, fate has different ideas…

The Enemy of My Enemy Is Not My Friend and My Enemy Is Actually My Secret Lover: Vampires and werewolves have been enemies since the dawn of time, that’s common knowledge. But it doesn’t stop Phil, a werewolf, and Dan, a vampire, from falling for each other and becoming Romeo and Juliet of the supernatural world, though hopefully without the tragic ending.

Hearing You: Dan’s mute and him and Phil are doing the do.

Bet My Life (Against You): (slightly sexual drunk) Dan makes a bet that Phil will never like him/kiss him no matter what he does.

caught up in the wonderings of our minds: In which Dan comes to realise that he’s not straight and Phil guides him through some new experiences and in which Phil falls in love for the first time (aka 2009!phan with hopefully accurate timeline)

A Map of My Heart and Mind: Dan and Phil get drunk and wake up married in Vegas, the day after Dan’s 25th birthday. Dan thinks they could just get it annulled but Dan knows what marriage means to Phil, how important it is, and he wonders if they can just fake it for a year so it’s not a total waste and then divorce. Of course, a year is a long time to pretend to be married and things can always change..

but home is just a room (full of my safest sounds): the one where they break up in 2012 and stumble across each other three years later. Featuring Dan as a radio show host and BBC presenter, and Phil as a weatherman on the Isle of Man.

So Many Stars: After graduating with his law degree, Dan decides to move to Japan to teach English for a year. (aka, Dan and Phil are English teachers in Japan AU)

I Know You Better Than You Fake It SERIES: Phil is just a nerd who is too scared to walk past the cigarette-smoking goth boy on the street corner, or nerd!Phil and goth!Dan are true 90′s kids (featuring the musical stylings of Tool and The Smashing Pumpkins)

(WARNING: THIS WILL BREAK YOUR PHAN HEART) Phan™: Copyright © 2009 by Daniel Howell and Phillip Lester Phan™, Dan and Phil™, and all subsidiary titles are property of Dan Howell and Phil Lester. All rights reserved.

Status Quo: Lawyer! Dan/Weatherman!Phil AU

Dance Around Like Constellations: A badass punk!Phil who parties a lot and gets into trouble, but also has a soft spot for his best friend pastel!Dan who is really shy and a baby angel.

++++++++++ Brick By Brick: No one said having an unmated Alpha and an unmated Omega living under the same roof was going to be easy, but add in a mess of feelings and desire, and things go from bad to worse. When Phil Lester asked his best friend, Dan Howell, to move in with him, he thought he could ignore his feelings and refrain from submitting, but with an oblivious Dan scenting him every other day, he decides he has to put a stop to it. Jealousy and misunderstandings collide to throw their lives into chaos, forcing both men to reconsider their relationship. Will they ever get their happy ending, or will prevalent sexism force them apart?

the one with the flower crown: Phil likes tattoos and smoking and sneaking into pubs illegally, and Dan likes Phil. Amy’s just around because it’s fun.

ok i tried my best to not complain about snb vs here but i can’t i’m so angry!!! this series started so well honestly i had so much fun but when it started going for charioce/nina i already know something bad is gonna happen and the last ep just confirmed my worries. first of all i called it that they’ll try to make us feel bad for charioce but i don’t at all. so he’s an orphan and he’s now playing with orphan demon kids? aw? not really because they’re orphan because of him!!! and yeah they fully went charioce/nina in the last ep and i’m disgusted. when will nina stop being so blind jesus

honestly i haven’t seen such a bad writing in a while and this sucks because this series had a very good potential 

House Words Wednesdays: House Payne

Welcome to House Words Wednesdays! Each week, I’ll take a House without known canon/semi-canon words and present what I think could make sense as that House’s motto. You’re free to suggest more as well; take a look at this link to see what has already been suggested, and shoot me an ask through Tumblr if you have another House you’d like to see.

House Payne is a family of indeterminate noble rank in the Westerlands (though it’s listed as one of the primary Houses sworn to House Lannister in the AGOT Appendix). We unfortunately know extremely little of the family history of the Paynes; hell, we don’t even know how old the House is. Our only known members of the House are Ser Ilyn and, from a junior branch, young squire Podrick (though he began his squiring career with a now deceased Payne cousin, Cedric). Ser Ilyn was considered important enough by rank-conscious Lord Tywin to be named the captain of his guard, though when Ser Ilyn boasted about Tywin having the true rule of the realm over King Aerys II, the king took his tongue for good measure. To compensate Ser Ilyn for his lost service to the Lannisters, King Robert made a wedding present to Tywin of naming Ilyn the King’s Justice. Cousin Podrick, meanwhile, after having two knights for whom he played squire die on him, found himself the squire of first Tyrion Lannister and then Brienne of Tarth - neither technically a knight, but both far better to him than the actual knights he served.

We do, however, get an interesting hint to the family’s history. Before the wedding breakfast for Joffrey and Margaery, Sansa politely asks Podrick if purple, gold, and white are the colors of House Payne, which Podrick haltingly affirms, noting that the Payne arms are purple and white chequy with gold coins in all the checks. Tyrion then makes an off-handed remark that “there’s a tale behind those coins”, but goes no farther in revealing it. However, based on that limited information, I think I know what Tyrion was hinting: that the Paynes were the traditional tax collectors of House Lannister, and that like the Cleganes, the Paynes were raised to noble rank for good service in the name of House Lannister. From the medieval period in England, the Exchequer was responsible for collecting and managing, among other sources of income, tax revenue; its name comes from the checkerboard-like table on which medieval calculations were performed, with counters placed in the spaces (interestingly, the name of the country residence of the Prime Minister, Chequers, is also likely related to this origin; near where Chequers now stands was a manor owned by an officer of the Exchequer, who included that same checkerboard pattern in his arms). That, to me, sounds an awful lot like the purple and white checkerboard Podrick describes, complete with gold coins as counters. Given the Lannister obsession with wealth, I could see where Lannister kings or lords of the past would want to reward a Payne who did a particularly thorough job of his task, securing plenty of gold for his Lannister overlords. (Also, it’s now headcanon for me that the Payne seat is called Chequers. PLEASE GRRM.)

With that headcanon in mind, I decided to make the Payne words Ours Are Certain. It’s an old joke that in life, the only certain things are death and taxes, so it’s a funny idea to me to have the Payne words reflect both of these: the Paynes as historical tax collectors, and Ser Ilyn as the official bringer of death (heh, I wonder if the “Payne” name is also a joke on this account - death and taxes both being rather painful subjects). I think these words also work in-universe as a warning to the Houses of the Westerlands: the Lannisters were certain to send their Payne collectors to gather the taxes owed to Casterly Rock, and woe to any lord or knight who thought himself above paying the lion his due. Naturally as well, this motto reflects ironically on poor young Podrick, who is so shy and frightened, always tripping over his own words - precisely the opposite of the grim and certain tax collectors of his family history.

Tell me what you think of these Payne words. Next week’s House is a reacher family which takes a much lighter approach to its arms and attitude than grim Ilyn and his Payne forbears.

izzybutt  asked:

Oh my god. I never even considered the possibilities... Felix and Locus cat AU... interacting with the reds and blues. Wash scritching Locus behind the ears. Grif sneaking them food they shouldn't be eating. Caboose loving them like Lenny in Of Mice and Men. Tucker begrudgingly giving Felix belly rubs, like okay this little guy's not so bad- YOU FUCK DID YOU JUST BITE ME? MOTHERFUCKER GET BACK HERE. Lopez somehow realizing who they really are but nobody can understand him.

OMG but this!

This has possibilities

the only stumbling block is how to get them all together in the first place….. :plots:

(gdi Tumblr stop that)

it would have to be a verse where they weren’t already facing off against them, because Felix & Locus disappear & a few days later they find these strays? I think at least Grif would be suspicious as hell XD

but maybe they just stumble across these cats who really suck at catting apparently, and Wash has been feeding them, and thye’re desperate enough to go along with it because yeah, they figure out hunting, but there’s enough human brain to go blech at raw mouse until they get hungry enough

and ok, maybe it was All Felix’s Fault (as usual), but playing housecat is a damn sight better than huddling up for warmth and dodging feral dogs and Animal Control

Hmmmmmm………

Welp

Anatomy is hard

I tag @allysaurusmeow @liams-lame-comics @infamousrossii @doris-northrup and uh whoever the hell wants to do this.


(I hardly have any friends on tumblr aa ;o; and sorry if you don’t like being tagged you don’t have to do this)

(and sorry if you already did this but I forgot)

hey i just want to remind some of ya’ll, uh,

don’t fucking repost my art

i don’t care how old my art is, i don’t care what your excuse is, just don’t repost my art.
it even says on my artworks, in bright red words, that i don’t want my artwork reposted,

i’ve already had this happen multiple times on different social medias, especially on the batim amino. I even SAY on my posts that i don’t want my art reposted on both tumblr and my amino account.

Hell, i’ve had it traced, edited, claimed, etc. multiple times. i used to be so nervous and anxious about it now i just get angry whenever it happens.

its the reason why my watermarks are huge and noticeable now. Just,
don’t repost/trace/edit my artworks. period.