how do you parent

How do you get over the fact that some of the shit your parents said to you when you were younger they probably shouldn’t have said. 

like they don’t think i remember but I do.

kaylacsu  asked:

I'm just wondering if anyone else has a parent who says they're fine with you being on the spectrum but at the same time you feel as though they aren't because you get told things like "if you find a nice boy you don't have to tell him and ruin it" or "don't talk about your opinions and push them onto other people" (meaning don't talk about you liking anyone of the same gender). Anyone else having this problem? Feeling like the parent doesn't actually accept you? And how do you deal with it?

“on the spectrum” is a term used to refer to the autistic spectrum (which i don’t think is what you’re talking about here). but yes! yes, mod jay is here to tell you that indeed, i’ve got that problem.

to be totally honest: i stopped dealing with it. to be fair, i’ve never had the greatest relationship with my father in the first place, but i reached a point where i decided i didn’t need him to accept me– accepting myself was enough.

❤️ mod jay

sky-child  asked:

Ello loves! I'm pretty sure I'm autistic, but I'm not sure how to tell my parents? Sorry if this is annoying but do you have any advice? 💜

i was in the same situation so i’ll tel lyou what i did and see if it helps!

before i told my mom and dad about me being autistic i did a loooot of research, about 2 years worth (so i suggest putting some time into it if you haven’t yet). i told my mom i had something i needed to tell her baout and that i wanted to send her some stuff over email, which i did

i sent her a lot of documents about autism and why autism is underdiagnosed in girls due to the way asd presents in girls, and sent her some things about stimming, autistic burnout, traits of autism in girls, etc and told her why i felt like these applied to me

she talked to me later after reading the email and we discussed how i acted when i was younger and how autism would explain a lot of the things i do/did

we then talked to my therapist about (i don’t see him anymore) and he agreed with the diagnosis as well

i then forwarded the message to my dad to let him know but we don’t talk much so i didn’t really sit down and talk to him about it

i don’t know if this will help but maybe you could try something along the lines of an email with information and resources about autism? i wish you the best of luck! maybe also look at some accounts of people talking to their family about autism and see what would be the best thing for you to do regarding your family

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Ravenclaw Headcanon

When someone in the class asks if anyone has a spare quill, the ravenclaws are always the ones with five or six, but don’t give them out, because what if they don’t give them back?

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gotta be careful about what you tell an alien who’s just found out he’s an alien

a doodle comic that got totally outta hand bc man reigen makes such a cool agent

MIB AU setup from this post  

  • parents: come here
  • me: okay
  • me thinking: oh my god they know everything I knew this would happen I should have deleted everything I knew it fuck I'm done for
  • parents: how do you send this e-mail?

Why are discussions/articles/posts about mental illness in Asian American communities always about how Asian cultures are inherently evil and ableist, and not about anything like, I don’t know, incredibly high levels of abuse/trauma including intergenerational trauma, poverty keeping people from getting meds, lack of therapists with the sensitivity to work with Asian patients, lack of Asian people in the psych field, model minority myth making anxiety/stress over success even worse, social workers who don’t understand how our families work and treat cases of abuse like they’re happening in white families, the stereotype that mental illness is something that only white people can have, model minority myth making it hard for Asians to open up about having emotions and needs, model minority myth being used by everyone to justify ignoring the needs of Asians, the sense of despair that comes with being diaspora and not having a home, the threat of discrimination or outright violence, etc. 

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1. Do you worry more about people judging your mind or body?
2. Does the power lay with the sword or the pen?
3. Describe a mouth without using any anatomical words (teeth, lips, tongue, etc.).
4. What have you accomplished this year?
5. Make a playlist of songs that remind you of one person, title it with their name.
6. What’s a broken heart?
7. Write a journal entry to someone who has come back into your life after hurting you.
8. Do you like the age you’re at?
9. Do last words hold a greatly significant meaning?
10. How does age affect/ limit you?
11. Do you think you’d better parent a girl or a boy?
12. What is the longest period of time you have had a crush on someone?
13. Do you believe in auras?
14. Is religion by nature repressive?
15. Do you need organized religion for spiritual enlightenment?
16. What’s the different between being religious and being spiritual?
17. Is there a special reason why your parents named you what they did?
18. Who demands the most perfection from you?
19. Would you rather be able to fly or teleport?
20. Is your heritage important to you?
21. What is one gift you would like that costs under ten dollars?
22. How many times a day do you lie?
23. Do you think someone’s piercings and hair color should affect their chances of being hired for a job?
24. What judgements do you make about people who have dyed hair and facial piercings?
25. Do you seek pain?
26. Describe your bed and sheets.
27. Are bigger houses better?
28. Make a playlist dedicated to a paternal figure in your life.
29. Do you think your horoscopes are accurate?
30. Talk about people in your life who you consider close but have the habit of sabotaging you.
31. Who is the most frustrating person in your life?
32. Do you pray?
33. Make a list of words that don’t sound appealing.
34. Describe a sound that bothers you? For example, the scratching of a chalkboard.
35. Do you consider your area to be affluent?
36. How has your home life affect your school life?
37. When’s the last time you were in nature?
38. Create a list of words to describe how you feel about the 2016 presidential election.
39. Write a haiku.
40. Will some people never be happy?
41. Is loneliness a mental state of mind or physical state of being?
42. What is one secret that you’re keeping for someone else?
43. What is one secret you are keeping for yourself?
44. Do you find keeping secrets to be easy?
45. Why is it hard to be honest?
46. Can you fall asleep in cars?
47. Is physical touch important to find comfort?
48. What did you do last Friday?
49. Is writing a cathartic process for you?
50. What is the last movie you cried watching?
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  • parents: Come here.
  • me: Okay.
  • me thinking: Oh, my God, they know everything. I knew that this would happen. I should have deleted everything. I knew it. Fuck, I'm done for.
  • parents: How do you send this e-mail?

it’s actually insane that my brother can talk to my parents so disrespectfully to the point where it repulse’s me, yet he doesn’t get in any type of trouble

but god forbid i open my mouth ever and i get in trouble just for talking because, Apparently, it’s mean

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