I know this is a day of mourning for you, so I'm not sure if this is inappropriate for me to ask this of you, if it is just say so, or ignore this, whatever you're comfortable with, then I won't bother you again. But I'm going to a thanksgiving dinner filled with many people ignorant of the true history. Are there any ways for me to inform the people there? Should I wear black in respect of the natives who lost their lives, and are still being oppressed?
Yes, this is okay to ask. Part of being an ally is educating yourself and your own people, so this is something I expect of true allies. How you go about doing that is up to you. You can bring it up in conversation, you can show them one of the many short videos that have been made about it.
Just make sure you actually know the facts to back up your information. Warning: this conversation will most likely lead to debate. Your facts show you know what you’re talking about. Those who are ignorant will go off the whitewashed history they learned in school. They’re not going to want to be told that they are actually ignorant on the subject. They may even dismiss this information as if it doesn’t matter. If you’ve been paying attention to native activists, you probably already know how these usually go.
There is no need to wear black, that tradition is not apart of native cultures. If you want to show respect then continue to listen and educate. Raise our voices up and support your local native communities.