how do people do any of this

anonymous asked:

How do you deal with problematic people? Like I spend a lot of time at the LGBTQ center at my college and there is one straight girl (literally the only straight girl) who is extremely problematic and a lot of people are really done with her but we aren't sure how to deal with it since any attempts to explain to her that she's being problematic ends with her attempting to pull the victim card.

I don’t know the situation well and I don’t know what exactly she’s doing, but if she is preventing the safe space you all created from feeling safe, I believe you have the authority to warn her she won’t be allowed to be a part if she can’t exercise a little empathy to all of your plights and points of view.

Sigiling Selfies: How to Anti-Taglock Pictures of Yourself

So @dontusemycauldron mentioned this to me at some point, and it took a few days for it to really sink in. They told me how some people put sigils on their photos to prevent people from using them as taglocks for things like cursing. And I went, “well holy shit, that is fucking clever,” and proceeded to do it with every single one of my selfies I’ve posted to Tumblr. Not because I’m concerned, but I like to put faith in preventative measures. 

I decided I was going to show you guys how to do it - at least with SAI, because that’s the program I tend to use for art things now (and I can’t find a good crack of Photoshop anymore). However, any art or digital media program that makes use of layers and transparencies can be used for this technique.

First off, you want your sigils. I made two personal ones, and I also made two for Tumblr use. However, I’m going to recommend that you create your own sigils with your own statements of intent, if you can.

“This photo is bound from being used as a taglock.” 

“This photo is not successfully used as a taglock for cursing.”

Ideally, you want digital sigils with transparent backgrounds, so you can avoid as much visual disturbance to your picture - you don’t want people to see or know there is anything over top of it, right?

Anyway, now on to the (SAI) tutorial!

Open your selfie and your sigils; you can switch between them along the bottom of the SAI window. Copy and paste the sigils onto your picture. I do this by clicking on the sigil’s canvas, hitting Ctrl+A and then Ctrl+C, then selecting the canvas with the selfie and hitting Ctrl+V. I can show the screen commands, however, for those that aren’t so tech savvy:

The “paste” option is also in the “edit” menu, as you can see. When you’ve done that, your selfie should look something like this:

Well, you know, you won’t look like me…but your sigils will have pasted in the top left corner of your picture. And they’re very obviously visible. BUT fortunately we’re not done with it yet. 

Arrange your sigils over top of the face part of the selfie, however you want. I didn’t specify before, but the icon that looks like the cross with the arrows on each end (highlighted in blue here) :

…that’s the move tool; click on that, then on each separate layer, and you can move the layer around as you wish.) You definitely wanna do this before you change any of the transparency of the sigils, while you can still see them. Ultimately it doesn’t matter how you arrange them, just as long as they are on your face. Mine look like this:

It almost makes a heart shape, lol. So, those familar with SAI know where to look to see the layers. Mine were on the left-hand side by default, I know that is something you can change, however. They look like this:

On the bottom you can see the separate layers - your picture, and the sigils each on their own layer. Above that, you can see the “mode” and “opacity” tools. Those are the ones we care about.

Experiment with the mode if you want - it isn’t required, but it can help. I like to put mine on “overlay,” because it adds to the visualization of the sigils seeping into the picture and blending in to it. You need to click on each separate sigil layer to apply the mode. That makes it look like this:

And with that we’re almost done! Finally, just change each of the sigil layer’s opacity to 1% by clicking on the opacity bar and dragging it almost all the way down. You want them to not be at zero because they still need to be on the pictures and not “off,” but if you put them at any higher than 1%, you can still see them, and you definitely do not want people being able to see the sigils. Once you’re done that the selfie look like this:

Can you even tell there are sigils over top of that? There are. Four sigils, now, actually, lol. And this is how the layers look over on the side in SAI:

As you can see, the mode has been set to overlay on both, and they are both at 1% opacity. From there, save your picture (file, save as), feeling free to specify in the title that one has been magic’d. Then, you can upload them without any worry!

Of course, this can be done with sigils for other purposes - I just made this post with the intention of preventing selfies being used as taglocks, because that’s what I did to mine today. However, you can easily apply any sort of glamours to your selfies, if you desire. 

I hope this helps anyone, or inspires anyone! Let me know if you have any more questions, or if I wasn’t so clear about things! This is my first time making a tutorial for any art program, I dunno if I did any good… But, yeah, just let me know if you have more questions or anything! :)

seriouslywhodidthis  asked:

In TV and movies you always hear about soldiers being discharged after their humvee runs over a mine -- often killing soldiers or costing them limbs. Any idea how often a military vehicle actually drives over an undetected mine?

Depends on if you’re asking “how often do people run over mines left over from previous wars” or “how often do people blow up from a hidden explosive.” The first question, I have no idea; I imagine it depends on the area (certain locations are more likely to have old minefields) and what kind of mine was used.

Nowadays our biggest concern in the Middle East isn’t landmines, it’s IEDs – improvised explosive devices. Homemade bombs, if you will. These can be anything from an empty soda can to a dead animal carcass, so it’s almost impossible to really prevent them. 

When we had IED training we honestly were told that literally anything could be an IED and we just have to be really vigilant and report anything that looks suspicious, which as I said could mean reporting litter on the side of the road that wasn’t there yesterday, or a dirt pile that looks larger than the rest. That sounds a little extreme until you realize that even local trash collectors are at high risk of being severely injured or killed due to IEDs.

How often a vehicle hits an IED depends on a lot of factors, namely the location, the enemy activity in the area, how close you are to enemy territory, how well built the IED was, how cleverly hidden the IED was, and whether it was put in a spot that a soldier would be likely to walk or drive over. Our routes are supposed to be monitored and scouted ahead of time for trouble, but any new route should be presumed trapped. We’ve actually developed specially armored vehicles who exist for the sole purpose of scouting out IEDs. 

USA Today says we’ve had 3,000 deaths due to IEDs and 33,000 wounded, which is significant when you consider that the US death toll’s currently around 7k and the wounded around 50k. So all things considered, I’d say it’s pretty likely.

-Kingsley

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anonymous asked:

I know you dont care but the blogs that talk about you are so childish and embarrassing. These are grown women. Old enough to be wives and mothers. And they sit behind their computers talking shit over opinions about a boyband. It's just sad.

i do want to be very careful to point out that their ages/marital status etc have nothing to do with them being shitty people online. ultimately people who behave in shitty ways towards other people will do that whether they’re 15, 30, 45, 60, or 85. 

because you’re right, grown adults in general should know better than to act like they’re still in high school. this isn’t mean girls. being regina george isn’t a good thing.

i appreciate your support and i thank you for it but i just want to make sure that none of us (even inadvertently) perpetuate any kind of ageist attitudes. there’s already such a huge stigma in fandom and in the media/in society towards women (particularly mothers) who continue to engage with fandoms beyond ~a certain ‘acceptable’ age~ and it really frustrates me because men are never held to the same standards, mocked or shamed for still liking certain bands, or shows, books (or comic books), or movies past ‘a certain age’.

some of the best people i’ve met in this fandom have children and/or are married and i feel privileged both to know them and to get to hear their opinions on fandom goings on (just like there are some incredibly bright teenagers in this fandom and some people in their 20s and 30s who have so many clever insights or thoughts to contribute).

anonymous asked:

How do you deal with people who say, "Morality is subjective. There is no such thing as right and wrong. As long as I get something out of it or it makes me feel good, that's all that really matters. Your belief that it's wrong to inflicting unnecessary violence onto animals is just your opinion. I don't feel a shred of remorse about it so it's okay."? These people Drive. Me. Up. The. Wall.

This is definitely one of the most frustrating arguments to deal with. Generally, the first thing to do in any ethical disagreement is to establish some common ethical ground, because no matter what they say, practically speaking no one thinks there is no such thing as right and wrong. Ask them how they feel about convicted paedophiles and child murderers, ask them how they feel about terrorists or the holocaust, and they’ll end up admitting they do think some things are wrong. People only ever seem to say morality is subjective in the context of trying to defend things they know to be wrong but like to continue taking part in, such as eating animals. 

If they absolutely refuse to acknowledge that there is any such thing as right or wrong, then there is no point in talking to them, and you should tell them that. Most of these “edgy” amoralists are looking for you to be shocked and get upset in an argument with them, so simply dismissing will them right away will deny them that. Besides, it’s the pragmatic thing to do; if someone doesn’t acknowledge basic morality then you can’t have a moral debate with them. 

anonymous asked:

So how is Samuel as Scorpius? Does he bring anything new to the character? Do any of the other actors reveal new sides to the characters?

Samuel is spectacular. He reminds me a lot of how Anthony was in the beginning, meaning that he exudes frenetic, geeky energy, not that he’s playing the role the same way. Although there are similarities, he’s much more like Anthony than James in that he’s super geeky and enthusiastic and cute. I do NOT think Samuel is better than Anthony (and I’m really not ready to hear people saying that), but he makes the role every bit as wonderful.

Scorpius absolutely knew who Albus was the moment he entered the car. He leapt to his feet before Albus even said hi, his face shining with excitement. It was beautiful. And his delight in Rose was very clear too. I really like the choices Samuel made regarding some of the lines, his inflection gave them a different meaning which clarified some things. I’m sorry, I can’t remember any specifics, but it was really interesting.

He in habits the character completely, and is always reacting and responding to what’s going on around him, what other characters are doing and saying. You can see his thoughts and emotions move across his face. Basically, you’re watching Scorpius on stage, not Samuel, and that’s what any audience wants.

He’s very good with Theo, meaning he makes their interactions look comfortable, easy and believable. They have great chemistry, like we saw in the video. And he’s extremely funny. He nails all the good lines and makes it look effortless. I’m very excited to see his Voldemort AR scenes. He has a much more fragile energy than Anthony or even James, so I think they might be more painful and I’m not going to enjoy watching him tortured later on, but I’m confident he’s going to be wonderful.

anonymous asked:

I don't want this to sound mean, I really do adore you and your blog, but why do you hate on reylo so much? I don't personally ship it myself, and see that as of tfa it would be a very unhealthy relationship. But enemies-to-lovers is a very common trope, and I've never really understood why people seem to think reylo would be worse than any of the other numerous similar ships. I see how Rey's unknown parentage could make things awkward if you're convinced they're related, but other than that?

I don’t mind the enemies to lovers trope. What I don’t like is the way Kylo tortured her - it’s been called mind rape by some - and people romanticize it. It’s like romanticizing Darth Vader and Leia - and I don’t mean the incest part, I mean the torture part. It’s unhealthy.

I Just Can't Let Ken's Controversy Go

Really, I don’t understand all this publicity towards Ken using bad words. If the members had an issue then they wouldn’t have had this be edited into the freaking video. Heck, I don’t think they’d even continue airing after he did that. If people wanted to bring them down so much, which I don’t understand why cuz that’s just being a bad person, then at least find a better story. Literally, I do not think any starlight cares enough to call Ken out like this. In those few articles I’ve read so far, they do not mention Starlights starting this.
This also hurts cuz this is supposed to be a time of celebration. Vixx just had their anniversary and how do they start their sixth year??? With this stupid controversy trying to bring them down. Ken shouldn’t have to apologise for being human. I really hope that all these articles go away. And I guess I am fanning the flames talking about this but I just needed to get this out.

knocking-on-peoples-non-doors  asked:

hey Pasi, would you have any advice to give to someone who's struggling to figure out whether they're cis or nb/what to do when they figure it out? thanks in advance

There’s another post fermenting in my drafts, a reply to someone else’s question that goes more into detail about how everything happened with me, but the long and short of it, if you want advice…

Try it out.

If there are people in your close environment you feel comfortable enough talking to about these things, ask them to switch pronouns. Post about your thoughts and feelings re: gender. Dip your toe into the NB community. You’ll find out soon enough if it’s for you or not.

Because, well, in the end it’s not really about what you are or aren’t, but about what feels best for you. Honestly, I still don’t know if I’m trans or cis, if I really have the “right” to call myself non-binary (and the imposter-syndrome re:transness is a whoooole other can o’ worms I’m not gonna go into here) but I do know that generally speaking, hearing myself referred to as they or them makes me feel comfy, and hearing she or her gives me a little twinge of unease. And that, for the moment, is enough for me.

I suppose what I mean to say is: there are no obligations. You don’t have to decide black-and-white what gender you are, and if you do decide there’s no set of rules or behaviours you have to follow. What it always comes down to, for me, is: try it out. If it works for you, stick with it; if it doesn’t, drop it and go back. There’s no shame or failure in either.

anonymous asked:

People are already jumping to to many conclusions. We literally know nothing and they can do anything. Bellamy doesn't have to get with anybody, we have no idea what they've been doing up there to survive. And they showed Clarke talking to bell for 2000 days with no answer but how do we know he hasn't been able to hear her even just once-but not able to respond. Everything is possible and some have already decided what is fact when it's not. Could be the delinquents on the mining ship too

Originally posted by cupcakeblake

Par for the course. The 100 fandom loves to leap to conclusions based on vague whispers and a second of screen teaser.

The whole shipper mentality is just not me. Not just hooking people up with any other people they ever see, but also thinking of hooking up as either automatic endgame or disaster for their ship. All people seem to want to focus on is how it all ships out and who is boning whom.

We should be looking at SPACESHIPS not romantic ships. 

And I really don’t understand why people think they know what is going to happen based off of one tease, when most of us have trouble figuring out what is going to happen after a whole season of development. 

I like to think back to that promo shot of Octavia coming out of the shroud and how people were sure it was O coming to betray Bellamy or make him think she was dead or whatever and it was really her working together with all of them to enact their plan.

imveryclueless  asked:

I need some advice. I recently came out to one of the teachers at my school and expressed my interest in coming out to everyone. She didn't see why I felt the need to label myself or to come out. She said that it kind of just seems like I want attention. I tried to explain it to her, but I don't know how to. Do yoi have any advice?

I think your teacher is rather ignorant on the subject then.

If you feel safe doing so explain to her that it’d be a huge weight off your chest, that you’d feel free to be more yourself, it’d correct people’s assumptions, it’d give other lgbt+ people someone to relate to, it’d bring you happiness.

Labels and coming out are a personal choice and your teacher should respect that. Even if you did want to come out for attention it’d still be your choice and she needs to understand that. 

I think one of the reasons why incestous/pedophilic relationships are popular here (shimadcest, Rick x Morty, Mabel x Dipper) is because you freaks don’t know how to have intimate non romantic/sexual relationships. They look into each other’s eyes they must want to fuck/kiss. They had an emotional moment, they gave to be in love.

Do any of you have friends? Close relatives? Do any of you know how not to sexualize people who mean a lot to another? Why is everything shipping? Get off the internet for a bit and go speak to another person. Be normal for once in your life.

anonymous asked:

If you could kill anyone, who would it be, why would you do it and how would you kill them?

“Hm…this question is only so hard because there’s so many. But I suppose if I had to, I’d go for Bertha Jorkins. Not for any idiotic reason like revenge or hatred – I’d do it because it’s easy. Of all the people I know, she’s easiest to target, and dispose of. She’s clueless, and careless, hardly pays any attention to her surroundings so long as someone attractive is in the vicinity. I’ve spent enough unfortunate hours with her to know. Following her, cornering her, that’d be the easy part. As for how? I’d likely strangle her, because there’d still be that small part of her that wants to talk…and talk…and talk…she just never ever knows when to shut up. So she’d have to learn.”

@joysofbertha

anonymous asked:

I just came across the new "ace flag" that those two Tumblrs are trying to propose in the asexual tag and that stuff really upsets me. It's like no matter how hard you try and avoid that stuff... It's just everywhere. And, I can't figure out any aphobes reasoning for being so hateful towards an entire group of people. Do these people forget that there are actual humans behind these screens? Like, we have feelings...

I really don’t understand what they’re trying to do at all, they’re not helping anyone by attempting to divide our community with new flags, they’re hurting people by putting their discourse in the ace tags. I think more and more that they’re just doing it because tumblr has shown its more acceptable to be an asshole toward aspec people.

anonymous asked:

Hey yo it's your bro (proof: you used to put pipe cleaners on your glasses as antennas, you big dork) and with a real question this time to boot! Are there any ethical concerns you have about scientific progress as it delves into genetics, such as abuse of CRISPR, or my very real concern about genetic manipulation possibly creating a world where we have a very literal ubermensch where only the poor have "undesirable" genetic mutations? Please explain your thoughts.

I mean I wrote an entire paper for my bioethics class about how we shouldn’t allow any research into germ line modification of the human genome because there’s literally no way that ends well (because of the reasons you outlined as well as the fact that once it is technically possible to do people will start doing it and what is defined as desirable will definitely be alone harmful lines) so yeah, there’s that

anonymous asked:

I think youre far too 'open minded' with your judgement sometimes. Not all women who say they have attraction to men are lesbians who are confusing a desire to be respected by men in a sexist society with actual attraction. Some of them if not most of them are really just bisexuals. This really open minded method of yours doesnt do any good. The safest best you can always advise is for these women to call themselves bisexual until theyre sure of who they are.

Continued: Like that anon that said we should just be more open about what lesbian means. No, fuck her. And i’m allowed to be angry at people like that that so flippantly appropriate our reality while completely noting that that’s what poli lez do. How come you didn’t comment on that? How come you didn’t tell them how absolutely fucked it is to act like all lesbian is is anyone who is mostly attracted to women. We are exclusively attracted to women, and I’m *tired* of people saying things like ‘oh but I’m mostly attracted to women so it’s the same thing’ or ‘lesbians just means a woman that primarily likes women’ so they can try to inch their way into our community. NO. STOP IT. Have some damn respect. This is exactly why we get into these situations of people thinking it’s okay to call themselves lesbians when they’re not, because we keep giving them an inch and they keep taking miles and miles and miles. Obviously someone who thinks that lesbians are just primarily into women but have some “minor” attraction to men is someone who thinks that way themselves, and i can’t believe you didn’t call out how that’s not a lesbian. It’s not our job to let everyone in. We have nothing of our own. And let’s not pretend like women who are attracted to men even just a little bit are like women who have no attraction to men. It’s not the same, our experiences arent the same, and we shouldnt have to share a community with them.
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I find it really interesting that you’re here telling me to be firmer and meaner just as others are giving me flack for being just that. Well, here’s what I think: You’re projecting, you’re quite wrong, and you’re being really rude. 

If you’ve read my responses to women struggling with their sexuality, I usually tell them to relax, not stress, and to focus on being into women without feeling to need to explain if they are lesbian or bisexual. Telling them that they must embrace the bisexual label until they are sure is not good for those women who truly are lesbians, as some of them undoubtedly are. I tell them it’s okay to say “I like women, and that’s all I know so far”. I don’t actually tell anyone what their sexuality is–I tell them it’s okay if they are gay. Me being defense and mean would do far more harm to those women and girls than that. And if you have always been clear-eyed and confident in your sexuality, than good for you. Plenty of others are not because we like in a homophobic society. 

I care just as much as you do about lesbian meaning a female exclusively attracted to other females. I gave the same definition in the exact post you’re referring to.  And twice in the past month I have spoken out very strongly against political lesbians (link 1/ link 2). But do you really think yelling at a teenager who is scared and unsure that she can’t be a lesbian, she has to tell everyone that she is bisexual, that she is appropriating me, is useful? Is good for lesbians? I’m telling them that they don’t have to panic. That they can love women and figure out the rest later. I’m telling them it’s going to be okay. But apparently you aren’t the only one with a critical reading failure who thinks that I tell everyone to be a lesbian–I got another anon recently who said the same thing. That doesn’t make it true.

I tell people what I believe to be the truth in my own way. You’re allowed to be angry. I’m allowed to be angry. Why didn’t I comment in the exact way that you wanted me to, why didn’t I do the exact thing that you would have done? Because I’m my own person. I take a lot of time to help other people here and in other places and I’m spread thin sometimes. If you aren’t happy with what I say than go say what you want to say yourself. You can reblog my posts if you want. But I’ve never once said that lesbians are attracted to men. You know what made ME angriest in that post? The anon actually suggested that rape and abuse can make women attracted to men! Why aren’t you angry about THAT piece of lesbophobia?

But guess what? I don’t belong to you and I do not take instructions from you. You don’t pay my paycheck. I’m just a woman with a blog trying to make things a little safer and a little nicer for other women around me. 

If you want to talk about giving an inch and taking a mile, or about how I apparently don’t respect myself, or about how I apparently am allowing people to infiltrate a community that I have no actual control over… why don’t you think about why you feel so entitled to my time, my labor, my emotions, my words? Why do you think I don’t have the self-respect to not immediately do what every anon says I should?

I am always, always happy to help people. I have women in my inbox with problems that I’ve been mulling over. I’m happy to give them whatever advice and comfort I can offer. 

Why don’t you make a blog and call this stuff out yourself? Why don’t you take anons that I get and give your own blistering response? Why do you think that I have to do it for you?

I’m so SICK of you fake-woke black people who are lighter than a paper-bag trying to tell other light-skinned poc about their identities! This especially is a thing when the person is non-black and very light-skinned. Thinking every racially ambiguous and light-skinned poc is “white,” especially in Latinx and Arab communities. They always say, “Don’t erase my blackness despite being mixed and looking Italian!” but do it to others they don’t like! And it’s usually light-skinned black people doing this to light-skinned people, never darker skinned folks. They then love insisting these people are “white” when they never culturally nor socially identified as white in the first place. Policing other light-skinned poc’s identity and assuming “white-passing” is the same as “white.” They are so damn-obtuse. They can say Kali Uchis looks “white” but then think Megan Markel and Amber Rose are visibly woc. I don’t see how someone like Kali or Kehlani look any different than many racially ambiguous, light-skinned woc. Just say you not into their music and move on. I can critique their problematic nature without exaggerating how “bigoted” and “gross” they are. 

announcement

I hate to do this when I have a starter call but I need to take a few day hiatus for self-care because I’m currently mega-stressed and anxious right now. I’ll still be online, but I will not be doing any responses or really paying much attention to my RP blog aside from talking to a couple of people I’m good friends with. Which is mostly what I use tumblr for anyways.

The fact is, the stress of moving, couple with the stress of having to go to the ER when I’m uninsured, on top of trying to get a job and having to deal with how shitty my life is (I hate saying this because it makes it seem like I want to be pitied when I reeeaaaaheeeheeeaaally do not) and then worry about roleplaying is just like

I’m both neglecting my mental health and actively making it worse. And being uninsured means it’s basically being neglected anyways.

I’m hoping to return back to roleplaying in a few days with a far clearer head and far less bad feels. Especially after I (hopefully) get some better sleep because I know being so sleep deprived is NOT helping my situation.

Hope to catch y’all on the flipside.

kareenvorbarra replied to your post:DO YOU HAVE ANY THOUGHTS ABOUT QUEEN SUSAN. PRE-…

you just made me want to read a fic about susan and aravis, something i have never thought to want in my whole life

IT’S CUTE RIGHT, they’re like, totally incompatible flavors of sporty apostate. Susan: swim team! incremental backsliding! Aravis: fencing and land polo! Converted out of spite (and then again out of genuine feeling, and still hurt people she liked while doing it)! Also I’m imagining Susan’s like, lovingly assembled troubadour culture at court, and how… Aravis walks in and gives an example of entry-level Calormen storytelling and it just ruins it. FOR EVERYONE. Aravis tries to be nice, she’s actively curious about the lays, there is no coming back. Susan: it’s fine, it’s fine. tell me the one about the little pianist again.

((You aren't entitled to the intimate details of people's lives.))

((I know tumblr’s big about visibility, but your average human being doesn’t want all and sundry to know their medical history, what they might be taking, any disorders or conditions they might be living with, how many people abused them and in what ways, or anything like that. You know what people ARE entitled to? PRIVACY.

And just because people don’t list things, also don’t assume things about them!

If you wouldn’t go to a random person on the street demanding their history, then, don’t do it online. If you do it in real life… you’re being nosy and rude. Stop that.))