how did you make it through high school? I don't understand like im trying everything and I've already burned out yet im only a sophomore. I'm too young to be feeling so tired where my eyes are constantly burning during school and the second im out of school, I sleep until 11pm. I can't keep doing this and the 2 years in front of me are even more important and I feel so worthless and I know I won't amount to anything in life despite all this effort I put into school
the most important thing is to not have the “this is the only way I can build worth and value in life” mentality. school is important, but school is also not really that important. you have to at least try to think of it that way, to know that the world is so expansive and allows for so much more than what a few years in high school could have to offer. surround yourself with people who make you feel utterly amazing, and perhaps an even more significant factor, surround yourself with things that you feel confirm your worth (which exists by default, solely in that you exist, and therefore you are valuable and whole). learn to detach yourself from the notion that your grades and academic performance are somehow intrinsically connected to what you are as a human. this does not mean don’t take you academics seriously, that would be awful advice–doing well in school, whether it really matters or not, does make one feel better about themselves. it’s nice to say “here, I did this, and it was all my own–I accomplished this.”
as far as strictly performance matters go, perhaps your time management is off, and thus you’re not getting to sleep at a decent time. perhaps your workload is too heavy. admitting this is not admitting defeat: in the first week of college, after years of thinking I’d go to med school, I dropped my entire schedule and said “fuck it, this isn’t making me happy”; you have to have to have to be aware of the difference between being intellectually capable, and emotionally capable. I was intellectually capable–I’ve always excelled, I generally do well with most everything I try. but I’m not always emotionally capable. forcing yourself to do things that consume time and are solely instrumentally valuable to you is fucking hard and literally deteriorates your well being. manage your time and schedule around what will keep you healthy, don’t let school manage you. further, try talking to your teachers and counselors. their job is, quite literally, to help you. I hated it, but I had to ask a professor for an extension because I was too clinically depressed to move. they were so kind and understanding that I literally cried for an hour, I had never felt so touched and cared for and god humans desperately need that in life. stop telling yourself you’re worthless, attack that mentality bit by bit and burn its remains. you can do this, you are so strong and so whole and you can you can you can.
I hate how humans are now a days. Have you ever had people just tell you, ‘you’re not going to make it..’ like seriously? what benefit does that even give you? To make yourself look better or what? This is making mad how humans of our own kind doubt us. I remember my senior year of high school a lot of people would tell me I was not going to graduate because I hate a very low GPA and I was failing classes. First of all, do you know my life? Do you know what I go through or do you even know me in general? I did not think so. I would wake up at 4 am every other day to go to swim practice. Go to school four about 8 hours, and go to work for another 8 hours every single day. I had to grow the fuck up and step up to the plate and you know what yes, I did downgrade to the 22 credit plan but you know what’s funny? I ended up walking the stage with 27.5 credits. Don’t allow people to get to you on anything if you know you can do it then go for it. You’re a strong individual and we deserve some respect for the things we all work for. Even if you stand alone with no one by your side always remember you’re not doing all this for their success or their future, you’re doing it for yours.
I can’t deny that I’ve been a people pleaser for a long time. Ever since I can remember I’ve always been more concerned about what other people wanted from me, whether it was my teachers, my friends or my parents. On surface level It may seem straightforward, but when I look closer I don’t event realize how many areas of my life it has affected. Everyone goes through a phase where they are concerned about what other people think and want to make others happy, but I never grew out of it. I tried my hardest on every homework, assignment and test to please my teachers. I did everything I was told, not wanting to let anyone down. Along the way I managed to take myself completely out of the equation, and I did not even notice.
Around high school was the first time I had to genuinely consider what I wanted. It began with college applications. What did I want to do with my future? I read college advice books saying to choose your major based on what you really love. I was more concerned with doing something useful that would get me a job. Not like I actually knew what I loved doing. The one thing I knew was I could not waste my time in college with a useless degree. When I switched majors to communications I only did it because I had some experience. I knew I liked writing and media, but I had no clue what I’d do with my degree. At least I would have some sort of direction. Now every time someone talks to me about college I get the dreaded question, what do you want to do after school? Is getting a job not enough these days? I don’t have every detail and desire planned out of my future and still have a lot to figure out.
The truth is I’ve never had everything figured out about my goals. My hopes. My desires. I’m too busy worrying about everyone else to consider what I want. Even in Spain I realized I was still doing stuck in people pleasing mode. I’ve been telling myself I need to write a post, I need to post pictures because that’s what others want me to do. I have to do what they want. Studying abroad was one of the few experiences I chose because I thought it would be a good learning opportunity for me. Yet somehow I’ve morphed it back into worrying about everyone else. I always create some sort of stress in my mind. I try to live up to the expectations I put on myself, not just others. That’s where the perfectionistic side comes in. It’s what pushes me to give my all in everything, no matter what. I keep telling myself these rules to follow while I’m here. I must use my time wisely. I can’t waste my semester. I have to appreciate and soak up every trip, moment and opportunity. I have to have an amazing study abroad experience. How can I turn something fun into a pressure filled chore? Who knows. Part of this pressure to live it up has led to me taking less time for myself. During our week of no classes for Holy Week, I realized I only took 1 day out of 10 days off for myself. The rest of the time I was doing something.
While abroad I’ve been pushing myself and neglecting my physical health in the process. Ever since I came to Spain I’ve been sick like never before. I have a pretty good immune system, but in Spain it feels like I’m always dealing with some sort of sickness. My remedy is usually taking lots of medicine and to basically just keep going. Now I see it won’t just magically go away if I keep ignoring my symptoms. Everything is part of a larger issue. I’m unable to take a step back, relax and ultimately give myself a break. I’m finally learning I really can’t do it all. I can’t keep going every moment I’m abroad. I can’t make everyone happy. I’m not perfect. How can I accomplish anything if I keep burning myself out?
Being run down and trying to do everything has made me realize how much I need to focus on putting myself first. Instead of worrying about everything else I can think about what I want to do. Not by forcing myself or saying I must do something. There’s a reason why I’ve never been able to pinpoint what I want: because I don’t give these thoughts the time of day. If I want any sort of satisfaction with my future I can’t get it by ignoring myself. I won’t change overnight, but there’s one fact I know for sure. I don’t want to keep going through life being a slave to other’s and my own expectations.
Meet Tracy L. He lost 11 lbs and got ripped with Body Beast. He entered his results into The Beachbody Challenge, and won the $500 Daily Prize for April 9th!
Tell us about your life before you started the program. How did you feel about yourself and your body?
When it came to my physique, I always referred to my days of high school wrestling. Cutting weight to make the 165lb class. 7% body fat. Buffed and ripped! Fast forward through 25 years of life, military, a lifetime of construction work and multiple sports and work injuries. I was not where I wanted to be. Even though my weight never got too out of control, I reached 192 lbs and about 22% body fat at my worst, I looked and felt terrible! Occasionally I would join a gym and lift weights for a couple months, but never committed to a good, healthy lifestyle. I guess you could say that I was on the traditional “see-food” diet.
What inspired you to change your life and begin your transformation journey?
In 2011 I met a beautiful girl and she liked me! One year later we got married! She had always been an athlete. Basketball, volleyball, softball, you name it! Later in life, as sports became less of a priority, she found Team Beachbody and fell in love with some of the programs. As she became more fit, I got less fit, as if she was working out for both of us. The reality was that I was holding her back by being a negative influence, holding onto the the fast and easy, greasy food plan. At least twice a week would say “I really need to get back into working out!”, while grasping the fat around my mid-section, in disgust! One weekend in late October, an infomercial for Body Beast came on TV. My wife had just finished a round of INSANITY in the other room and was heading for the kitchen. I said “I would do a program like that!” 15 minutes later she had ordered Body Beast! On November 5 she said to me, “We start Body Beast on Friday.” I said “This Friday?? Really?”
What is the greatest challenge you faced before beginning the program? How did the program and Beachbody® help you overcome that challenge?
The two biggest challenges that I had to overcome were terrible back pain and bad eating habits. By strengthening my core I’ve been able to become more flexible, my day to day level of pain has been dramatically reduced and I’ve overcome many limitations caused by back pain. The abs are nice too! The challenge of overcoming bad eating habits is a tough mental game. My biggest help here, in addition to my wife, is the Beachbody community of support groups. Without them, I would have given in to just about any temptation. That’s my new family! That’s a lot of my motivation, my own little cheerleading squad! Recipe ideas, nutrition help, motivation to push play, encouragement. It’s all right there from people going through the same struggles as me.
What in particular did you like about the program you chose?
I get to pump iron and have a plan! Everything is all laid out. The hard work of figuring out what works has been done. I just follow along and make sure that I am pushing harder every time. If I didn’t have Sagi right there telling me to push through just a few more reps and “Beast-up” I’m sure that I would not push myself as hard.
Describe the results you achieved with your Beachbody program. Which achievements are you proud of?
I gained muscle at every part of my body and lost 3 inches off my waist! I’m proud of the fact that I’m building new muscle at the age of 44 and I have six pack abs coming on pretty quickly!
How has your life changed since completing your Beachbody program? My lifestyle has become a healthy lifestyle. I put a lot more thought into the food that I’m putting in my body. I’m learning more about about a nutrition-based lifestyle every day. I see what I’m becoming, and I’m liking it!
How did participating in a Challenge Group help you reach your goals? How did your group support you and keep you accountable?
The Challenge Group that my wife encouraged me to become part of is awesome! My wife is my biggest hero in this journey. Without her and the support group, I would have failed. The group not only helped me to keep myself accountable, they were always there to answer questions and help with nutrition, or just to provide encouragement.
How did a Beachbody Supplement or Nutritional Product or Program (such as Shakeology® or Beachbody Ultimate Reset®) support your transformation? What are the greatest benefits you gained? Did you see benefits to your energy, sleep, mood/mental clarity, digestion/regularity?
I love the Base Shake and Fuel shot, in addition to Shakeology. The meal replacement, protein and creatine were key to helping me get through a workout and to recover from one.