how can you be allowed



If you are upset, angry or uncomfortable with me over the clothes I choose to wear…

I am not the one who needs to change. But perhaps you need to reevaluate your feelings and why my personal style is contributing to your own dissatisfaction or discomfort.

Do not chastise me because I like to wear skirts and make up.
Do not rebuke my existence because I look damn good in a dress.
Do not reproach me with your concerns over my wardrobe because I do not get dressed for my day with you in mind.

You can berate me as much as you like, but I wont change.
There was a time when I had no choice but to conceal my true self to continue living alongside someone or multiple people. Thankfully, I am past that point in my life.

If you have yet to reach a point in life where you feel 100% free to be yourself, now is the time to figure out how you can change your life in a positive way that allows you such freedoms. For younger individuals, this is the hardest because all you can do is wait it out until you reach an age where your parents can no longer control you and society can’t stop you. I know what that is like, I have been there! Remember, I am only 22 years old! It wasn’t until about 3 years ago when I obtained such freedom for myself.

Never give up on yourself though.
Never forget the person you want to be when you finally get the chance to.
I sure didn’t.

-Elliott Alexzander

Hi. I hate seeing anyone cry (especially Hobi because it’s heartbreaking), but I think it is important as fans that we remember these people we see as perfection are in fact just actual, regular humans like me and you (just with a lot more social cred and talent).
They aren’t always happy.
They aren’t always sexy.
They aren’t always thug.
And they don’t always wear their true emotions. In fact, most of them wear a facade.
We, as fans, need to remember that no person is perfect, no matter how close you can get, and that these idols are allowed to have human emotions like the rest of us. They are allowed to feel anger, pain, loss, depression and anxiety.
They are allowed to be vulnerable too.
Because if you don’t love them when they show you their true colors, you just love the facade, not the person behind it.


Dear idols,
Please show us your true emotions so that we may empathise with you and love you on a whole new level.
You don’t have to be strong and perfect all the time.

- Your Loving Fans.

(Not my gif, all credit and rights reserved to the rightful owner)
The interesting question is, how do you put yourself in a position so that you can allow ‘what is’ to be. The enemy turns out to be the creation of mind. Because when you are just in the moment, doing what you are doing, there is no fear. The fear is when you stand back to think about it. The fear is not in the actions. The fear is in the thought about the actions.
—  Ram Dass

A-spec people are allowed to talk about how much they don’t like being a-spec

You’re allowed to talk about how it makes you feel empty

You’re allowed to talk about how it makes you feel less human

You’re allowed to talk about how scary it can be

You’re allowed to talk about how you don’t want to be a-spec sometimes

You’re not abandoning or disrespecting your identity by acknowledging these facts. You don’t always have to pretend that it’s fun and makes you feel happy to have a name for it

You’re allowed to not keep those feelings bottled up


despite being on stage countless times before, they still get nervous 

justlookingnottouching  asked:

hi emily, i have recently been re-sorted into slytherin (former ravenclaw) and i feel a little out of my depth in this house... do you have any advice for slytherin noobs on how to adapt to their new house? how do you make friends here? can i bring my dogs? is pink allowed in the dorms? do they have enough blankets?

Welcome to the dungeon! Have a mouldy chair.

My advice for a Ravenclaw transitioning to Slytherin, a Slytherclaw if you will, would be to keep hold of your Ravenclaw instincts to be discerning and resourceful. However you’re going to want to let go of a lottttttt of that logic, for reasons of AESTHETICS.

Dungeons, snakes, creepy dead things floating in jars, sneaky Snapey types skulking around in the dark - all part of the Slytherin brand. If you’re into it, great. If not - you’re going to want to keep schtum about a lot of the Sltyerhin weirdness and just accept that the aesthetic comes first.

  • To make friends, I would suggest bragging about some crazed ancient dark wizard to whom you are distantly related, or just invent some clever rhyme about how shit Harry Potter is.
  • You cannot bring dogs, dogs are too happy. ‘Happy’ is not the Slytherin aesthetic. Reptiles yes, or a cat, but only if said cat is particularly contemptuous.
  • NO. PINK.**
  • Yes they have blankets.

Hope this helps! To be explored further in the upcoming comics, dw xx

**Edit: A reminder that this is just an advice blog, and therefore subjective, but I just get the feeling pink and Slytherin don’t mix well (see - Dolores Umbridge)

I wish you knew how my heart physically
craves to talk to you.

Is it bad that I still miss you, is it bad that I still
haven’t deleted our messages . Is it bad that at
4 am when I lay alone in bed I like to reread our
conversations and remember all the good times.
Is it bad that I still care because no matter how
hard I try I can’t allow myself to hate you. Why
is it that hearing your name or seeing your face
physically pains me yet seeing you smile makes
me happy. I can’t explain how Knowing you’re
happy makes me happy but at the same time it
tears me apart because I know you don’t even
think about me anymore. I knew I always loved
you more but I didn’t think it’d have this kind of
effect on me. To be loved is something everyone
dreams of we had that kind of love but instead of
making me whole you destroyed me. I think it’s
finally time to let you go to never think of you
again, to never let the ink spill and write your
name. This is it.. goodbye.

—  Excerpt from a book I will never write #28
Jenseternity / instagram
I don’t know how you can be with someone who makes you feel like you are crawling… grovelling… scratching around in the dirt for scraps of love and affection.
How can you allow somebody to make you feel like that? Like you are constantly groping in the dark for something and almost grasping it, but never quite… It’s cruel; to treat a human being like that… to keep them on tenterhooks, constantly questioning what they’ve done wrong and desperately trying to win back the affection they’ve lost.
You deserve to be loved; unquestioningly and unconditionally.
You shouldn’t have to fight for love, it’s not a prize to be won. It’s not something you’re supposed to ‘earn’ – it should be given to you freely. You are a beautiful human being, and that alone is what entitles you to be loved. Don’t let somebody undermine your self-confidence to a point where you no longer believe you’re worthy of love unless you change or beg for it… If they were capable of loving you more than they loved themselves, they wouldn’t keep hurting you like this and they wouldn’t expect you to change…
You are the one who loves without question… without fault…
and you deserve someone who loves you exactly the same.
—  Ranata Suzuki  “And yet… you choose her anyway…”
Some Reasons ppl can and do ship Problematic™ ships

- bc fiction has problems and stories need problems

- bc the characters used to be healthy and the dynamic is still interesting whether they fix it or not

- bc it was never healthy but the dynamic is still interesting

- bc loving a character isnt the same as loving and protecting a real person (“if you love *insert character* how can u ship–” BECAUSE I’M ALLOWED TO WANT THAT STORY.)

- bc they frikkin look hot together when they fight

- bc the shipper wants to observe how the characters handle it bc that’s what literary exploration IS

- yes, sometimes bc coping

- there’s a good argument that all creative work is coping for the human experience, period, it’s what humans DO

- or bc not coping, but invested in the situation in general

     - professional curiosity

     - artistic/personal/relevant curiosity

     - or ya know just plain curiosity

- bc the world would literally be way worse off if humans could not imagine and envision any situation and work out all aspects of it in a fictional, simulation setting, bc ignorance is not bliss

- bc they can, watcha gonna do, and it’s not for you to judge if their reason is good enough for YOU and it’s super arrogant/presumptuous to assume otherwise

Here’s my reason for wanting Even to be the protagonist of season 4 :
- we need to see how parents deal with their child being mentally unwell. We’ve see how children react to their parents being unwell (Isak finds it hard to deal with and Magnus embraces it really well). I feel like it will help so many people out there to see the tables turned around, to see how parents can enhance your life if you just allow them to. We’ve not had the best parent-child relationship (Noora and her parents and Isak and his parents both have had their fair share of troubles) but Skam needs to show that parents are not villains, that there are kind loving parents out there who will do anything to keep their children safe (imagine if Even has two dads or two mums? Like how awesome would that be?).
- also do I even need to mention that we still don’t know barely anything about Even. That boy has so many layers to him (get it… okay I’ll shut up). I still have a million questions that I need answers to and having it from Evens point of view would make things so much sweeter.
-and just to add to the mix… more Evak. Need I say more?


↳The Flash Family + tumblr text posts 

[caption: seven different images of DC comic panels with a screencap of a Tumblr text post placed over them. For all but the 7th image, click on them for a more detailed caption. 

Image #7 is a panel featuring several Flash Family speedsters together, looking like they’re preparing for a fight. The text post over it reads: “I like the idea that there are no longer such things as casual groups of friends. No, you’re in a squad. Weaponize your friendships. Battle other squads for social dominance. Who wants to fucking fight.“]

Can you imagine how cute it would be if you were allowed to bring dogs as a pet to Hogwarts?

  •  Lil puppies runnin around and having the time of their life on the grounds
  • Passing dogs on your way to class and then turning around to follow you there
  • Professor McGonagall in the middle of a lesson when someone’s german shepherd just walks into the class and sits by his owner
  • There being a lil common room for all the dogs where the house elves feed them and make lil collars for them with their owners name just in case
  • Going to/from Hogwarts on the train and having your lil dog sitting by the window watching everything go past
  • Dogs playing with the giant squid in the black lake

veryniceandgood  asked:

17. things you said that i wish you hadnt ---- Lirry?? pleaseeeee??

Harry’s maybe abusing his privileges as a teacher to take Jules out of school without express permission from her dad, but she looks awful. She’s crying in the real way, not whining but proper tears, and the longer she sits around in the nurse’s office, the closer she slips to a proper fever.

He doesn’t know what Liam was thinking when he dropped her off this morning. She’s clearly miserable, and in no state to be around the other kids. If Harry had been there, if he’d just let Harry stay the night, he would have insisted Jules stay home.

But Liam doesn’t ever let him stay. It’s been nine months. Harry’s got a bloody key to his flat, and for some reason he can’t understand, he’s never allowed to stay.

“How are you feeling, love?” Harry asks as he draws her up into his arms and straddles her on his hip.

She sniffles, looks generally pitiful, and it’s real because she never fakes it. Not like Harry does, who’s known to give a pout or two when he’s not getting his way. Jules is only ever earnest, just like her dad, and it’s one of the better Payne Family Traits.

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If I Were the Ocean


Fandom: Moana

Category: Gen

Word Count: 2,352

Summary: In Moana, he sees another young girl. From a thousand years ago. He remebers nothing about her, not even her name, but the last time Maui remembers seeing that girl, the one Moana is a clear descendent of, was out in the water among a fleet of canoes. He only sees that girl in Moana for a brief few seconds, but these few seconds are enough to further confirm Maui’s suspicions

Out on the ocean, sailing the open seas, that’s where Moana’s meant to be. If anyone were to be credited as the one to start the tradition of wayfinding again, he wouldn’t want it to be anybody else but her.

Notes: and of course, only I would write an entire fanfiction based on my OWN tumblr post. The other day, when I was shamelessly watching through the Logo Te Pate sequence, the entire time, part of me was going “hey. guess what. Maui probably started planning his ‘if I were the ocean’ speech for her while they were doing this.”
and then, of course, it spiraled out of control from there. “How is she going to react?” “How am I ACTUALLY going to say this to her?” “WHAT am I going to say to her?”.

and don’t even get me STARTED on how much further I was dragged down when I started considering him arguing with Mini Maui about showing her something with the island tattoo. Or the fact that I had a LEGITAMATE conversation with someone yesterday about how this stupid argument would go down.

(See end of work for more quick notes)

For the first time since they set out, all is calm. The sun is just beginning to peak over the horizon, and all is quiet. Even the ocean itself seems to be producing fewer waves like it doesn’t want to ruin the calm atmosphere.

For the first time since they set out, maybe even for the first time in a thousand years, Maui is content.

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Baby Bump Tag

fandom: Stony (Steve x Tony), Avengers,

summary: Tony is very pregnant and the baby is very active lately

length: 1 336 words

warning: mpreg!Tony

a/n: this prompt! hope you like it! the beginning is based on a scene from Friends (love that show!)


Baby Bump Tag

“I love you so very much.”

Clint made a face, trying to mute out his surroundings. Just focus on the game.

“I will play with you all the time.”

Focus on the game, Barton. The Earth won’t save itself from aliens, you know.

“You will be papa’s beloved little person in the whole world.”

“God!” okay, he couldn’t last any longer. The annoying cooing was beyond creepy. He turned his face to glare at the couple on the couch. “How can you allow him to talk to your dick like that?!”

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