Hi there. I am a new revert, and I have a question. Most of the local Muslim women near me are from countries like Egypt and are very conservative (long skirt, long sleeves, unplucked eyebrows, no hair showing at all, that sort of thing). I have recently begun to feel like they are judging me for not wanting to do as they do. For example, I wear jeans, shave my eyebrows and sometimes show a tiny bit of hair under my hijab. How should I convey that I do not want to be expected to do as they do?
Hi there! I totally understand what you mean! For some, you’re “too conservative” and to others you’re “not conservative enough” as a Muslim. As someone who wears makeup, does her eyebrows, and wears jeans, I can definitely feel the eyes of judgement on me from other Muslims. I mean a lot of us think about how non-Muslims see us, but even within our own community there is judgement, which unfortunately can push some people away from religion. My best advice is to remember that what they say or think of you doesn’t define you or your relationship with God. It doesn’t make you any less of a Muslim and in fact, it makes you a better one. While you’re on your journey and recognizing that you’re not perfect, they’re thinking that they’re above you but I promise you God isn’t looking highly on them for it. You do you, girl and keep it up! It’s the struggle on your journey that makes you a better Muslim! Please contact me directly if you’d just like someone to talk to about it! ☺️