How To Come Out As A Brony
Don’t come out as a brony.
I understand the appeal of wanting to “come out” as a brony - you like a thing, and you know it’ll get your some strange looks, so you want to simply get it out there and established so you can get on with being a brony without people asking what you’re doing.
But really it just makes it look weirder than ever, and is more likely to generate flak because you’re making a big deal of it, as if it’s your destiny or something.
Sure, Brony can be a big part of someone’s life, the big appeal is the identity and liberation being part of a fandom brings, but ultimately, it’s not a religion or way of life.
So what do you do instead?
Just brony on. By that I mean, post what you want, reblog what you want, etc etc. If you see a cool pony picture, go ahead and post it. If you’re feeling self conscious about it, provide context - so add a comment saying “This art style is beautiful” or “This is sickeningly adorable!” to draw attention to the art itself, rather than the subject.
Tumblr is fairly easy, because people know about fandoms, but I wanted to do this on facebook, where the majority of my friends list were unfamiliar with fandoms and memes, and would be like “wtf man?”
To solve this I brought it in slowly, like, over the course of a year. I posted my favourite music that was very accessible to non-pony fans (so original, not remixes) and other visually impressive work, scenes from conventions showing a lot of people having a good time help a lot too.
I kept these posts infrequent, maybe one a week tops, and then built it up by posting artwork I liked and talking about other aspects of fandoms. Having some internet buddies on Facebook to provide comments helped a lot too, so people could see it wasn’t just me.
If people ask, keep the explanations simple. It’s one of the cartoons I like. It’s got a big internet following, and they make loads of amazing art and music. There’s a big community for shows like this.
Don’t try and explain the psychology and romantic aspects of the fandom - they probably won’t get it, unless you’re a master wordsmith.
It does take time to establish it, so you don’t get that instant “OK I’m a brony and everyone knows, it’s out of the way” but then the fact is that it’s just a cartoon you like, with a lot of fanwork that you like - Why is that something you need to establish or justify anyway? It’s just a thing. Enjoy it and in moderation, share the enjoyment.