the gap also has “girlfriend jeans” which made me perk up for about .2 seconds before i remembered how straight women use the word girlfriend. though i still don’t really understand what exactly that’s supposed to convey about the jeans
The censorship of Willow and Tara’s relationship in season 4 goes to show how sheltered Willow and girls of her time would have been to lesbian experiences or romance between women. This is still the case now for so many young lesbians including myself. (I accepted my sexuality around the same age as Willow. I had dated boys like Willow did. I had actually dated more boys than Willow did. You see where this is going?)
Saying Willow is bi rather than could have been (definitely not “should have been”) is a microaggression against lesbians. It is lesbophobic. Stop it.
Yes, there are issues with bierasure in it now (read: Buffy) but you can’t just point at a lesbian who went through compulsory heterosexuality in high school over 15 years ago and label her bisexual when she’s been out and proud for years.
I firmly believe the decision to not fully explain this on the show came from not wanting to turn their relationship into a gimmick. I believe it was done out of respect but also due to their limitations on what they could say. Willow herself says on countless occasions, however, that she is a lesbian and clearly has no interest in being with men ever again once she accepts her own orientation.
Respect this. Respect lesbians. Respect our experiences and our stories. Actively seeking to erase us is wrong.
My favorite theme in this new series is when female companions selflessly stand up for, or stand in solidarity with, one another. These four moments in particular are really powerful indications of how much these women care about each other, even though they never got to spend much time together. I think they are some of the most beautiful moments in the whole series.
I never get why people are all up on feminism’s balls just because of its name. Yes, feminism benefits everyone because it’s searching for equality, and yes, it’s name is also derived from femme, as in, woman. Those two facts are not mutually exclusive. Feminism isn’t only about helping women, just like how I am part of mankind, even though I am a female. It kind of sucks when vocabulary doesn’t specifically cater to your gender, doesn’t it?